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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mine field in your 40s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've given up, that's why I'm here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've given up, that's why I'm here"
never straight forward is it

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Pain in the hole unless you are on a shit ton of money and look like thor you are wasting your time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is! Sometimes I want someone and sometimes I just want a good old bloody shag hahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Davina McCall, she did three series of Streetmate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Davina McCall, she did three series of Streetmate."
not seen it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pain in the hole unless you are on a shit ton of money and look like thor you are wasting your time "

The thing is, I don't even see it as being down to something that shallow. For me its the juggling act of your time / commitments / personal development / work. Having someone's needs and emotions constantly fluctuating on top of that fine balance seems to be too much for me. They say communication is key but no matter how you dress it up, people just don't like to be told no (or lets compromise)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't be able to cope with it these days, it's changed too much!

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


"Pain in the hole unless you are on a shit ton of money and look like thor you are wasting your time

The thing is, I don't even see it as being down to something that shallow. For me its the juggling act of your time / commitments / personal development / work. Having someone's needs and emotions constantly fluctuating on top of that fine balance seems to be too much for me. They say communication is key but no matter how you dress it up, people just don't like to be told no (or lets compromise)! "
I've actually been asked on numerous occasions on first dates what do I earn and they have got a swift mind your own business from me

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By *oseidonsadventureCouple
over a year ago

london

Social dynamics have changed so much over the past few years. Gone are the days of going out and chatting someone up. I think life is just so stressful and relationships as a whole have changed. Social media and phones have a lot to answer as privacy and space is much harder.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social dynamics have changed so much over the past few years. Gone are the days of going out and chatting someone up. I think life is just so stressful and relationships as a whole have changed. Social media and phones have a lot to answer as privacy and space is much harder."
true everything is at a touch of a finger

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Dating these days just seems ridiculous.

Once upon a time, you talked face to face. You met people in various ways then you asked those people out on a date and they said yes or no. In some cases you did the whole "lonely hearts" thing but I recall people turning their nose up at that. Either way, you had to interact with other people to get anywhere.

These days it seems like people are incapable of meeting others unless some sort of app is involved. Seems like everyone is waiting for that elusive match up on whatever dating profile they have.

Society has also changed as well so thats not helping but damn, given what I'm seeing I couldn't be chewed with any of it personally. It would be easier to stay single rather than be judged by random internet strangers with unrealistically high standards.

No wonder birth rates are going down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I've actually been asked on numerous occasions on first dates what do I earn and they have got a swift mind your own business from me "

Wow, I'd be so annoyed that I wasted my time meeting them after they butchered the atmosphere like that.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


" I've actually been asked on numerous occasions on first dates what do I earn and they have got a swift mind your own business from me

Wow, I'd be so annoyed that I wasted my time meeting them after they butchered the atmosphere like that."
unfortunately that's the way things are nowadays money over everything else

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I've actually been asked on numerous occasions on first dates what do I earn and they have got a swift mind your own business from me

Wow, I'd be so annoyed that I wasted my time meeting them after they butchered the atmosphere like that.unfortunately that's the way things are nowadays money over everything else "
wouldn't say that's all is say ppl arnt as honest always something else going on

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't know, I can't get past the scammers, catfish and cryptocurrency hawkers on dating sites to find out (laughs out loud)

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


" I've actually been asked on numerous occasions on first dates what do I earn and they have got a swift mind your own business from me

Wow, I'd be so annoyed that I wasted my time meeting them after they butchered the atmosphere like that.unfortunately that's the way things are nowadays money over everything else wouldn't say that's all is say ppl arnt as honest always something else going on "
Honestly is in short supply these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like a shawty that’s got a job, a shawty that’s got a car, a shawty that can pay her own rent, I don't wanna dance if it is not in my heart most girls want a man with the bling bling I’ve got my own thing, got the ching ching

I just want real love, most girls want a man with the mean green I don't wanna dance if she can't be everything that I dream of

a woman that understands real love

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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago

Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove

Dating is great - but both people need to be on the same page and have the same agendas

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I remember stepping into online dating (which was new to me) after years of marriage. Its a pretty brutal and draining roller coaster. The only upside is I got to go out and date a few good women (sadly none of them just quite the one for me) and have a few interesting nights out with new people. But it turns out I just needed to be on Fab to find my one.

Mr

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

Ive been on a couple this last week with the same woman,first time in a few years.thought I’d be nervous and a bit rusty,but actually had a really good time. I just thought sod it and didn’t overthink things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is hard work - from what I remember anyway. Last time I tried online dating I got sick of seeing the same clichéd, vacuous crap on profiles. I don’t know how to do it really and I’m not at all sure I have what women want. Given up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating as a bi woman is awful

I stopped dating men just over 3 years ago after my ex split

But dating women is so tricky, alot of time you either get biphobia from lesbians or 'bi' girls who are either not bi but just experimenting or have no intention settling down with a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine field in your 40s "

Doesn't get better in your 50's

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Its easier now than in my early years, because of sites like these. There are loads of people on here who like dating. Am I looking for my one no. But enjoying different people's company and conversation yes

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Never do it not interested in dating not got the time or inclination x

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

I don't find it so bad at all so long as you keep an open mind about everyone you connect with, ever remembering that nobody comes with their CV, mental health records, or their experian credit report, so you don't actually find out about their distressed circumstances, bi polar condition, maxed out credit cards, and mortgage arrears etc until after you have seen the whites of her eyes, and in most cases, until after you have woken up next to her in the morning.

I see online dating as comparable with something like playing a bandit in a social club, the odds are that you are going to be on a loser everytime, but there's always the odd chance of hitting the jackpot, and you are going to get the odd dividend along the way. As they say about the lottery, "You have to be in it to win it." It's also a bit like waiting for a bus, it doesn't matter if you miss the first one as there will be another one along in a minute, and even if you jump on a particular bus, and you are not happy with the direction it's going in, you simply jump off that bus and get on, and get on another one until you get to where you want to be. If it's a free dating site, and not "Pay as U pull," why look a gift horse in the mouth? Happy days!

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Can't be bothered at the moment having to much fun in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine field in your 40s

Doesn't get better in your 50's "

Absolutely correct!

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

I'm getting back on the dating train. In order to enjoy something worthwhile there must be some difficulty in obtaining it. Why would you want it easy?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I wonder how some find it so easy falling in to relationship after relationship yet I can barely get a text back

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Dating these days just seems ridiculous.

Once upon a time, you talked face to face. You met people in various ways then you asked those people out on a date and they said yes or no. In some cases you did the whole "lonely hearts" thing but I recall people turning their nose up at that. Either way, you had to interact with other people to get anywhere.

These days it seems like people are incapable of meeting others unless some sort of app is involved. Seems like everyone is waiting for that elusive match up on whatever dating profile they have.

Society has also changed as well so thats not helping but damn, given what I'm seeing I couldn't be chewed with any of it personally. It would be easier to stay single rather than be judged by random internet strangers with unrealistically high standards.

No wonder birth rates are going down. "

I think you are right , with so much choice on the apps people are way more picky.

I’ve met some really nice people on dates but there’s always something that bugs me about them and I just think to myself carry on until someone perfect comes along, or just carry on dating them for a while but don’t have sex.

I also aware the older I get the less attractive I am as a potential partner but my own standards actually get nighter. So probably destined to be single

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Dating ultimately falls down to either settling for what you can get or working on yourself until your good enough to get what you want

It’s a battle between standards and self development

Most peoples standards are way above what they can get and they aren’t willing to put in the work for what they want

All of that encased with a healthy portion of luck. Getting lucky enough to meet the right people at the right time

It’s hard but I’ve come to realise I’m single because my standards are too high.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Never dated and watching my cousin go through it, I stand by that decision. What a crock of shit :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve actually found it a lot easier in my 40’s. I’m not as much of a people pleaser anymore, I won’t put up with nob heads now and I have no issue in clearly communicating my likes and dislikes.

When I was younger, I didn’t have the confidence to speak up like I do now.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"I’ve actually found it a lot easier in my 40’s. I’m not as much of a people pleaser anymore, I won’t put up with nob heads now and I have no issue in clearly communicating my likes and dislikes.

When I was younger, I didn’t have the confidence to speak up like I do now. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been on a couple this last week with the same woman,first time in a few years.thought I’d be nervous and a bit rusty,but actually had a really good time. I just thought sod it and didn’t overthink things "

This is fantastic! Chuffed for you

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By *lknhungMan
over a year ago

Luton


"I don't know, I can't get past the scammers, catfish and cryptocurrency hawkers on dating sites to find out (laughs out loud)"

Don’t forget the escorts that message you constantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it has its challenges at any age, but perhaps people are more hesitant the older they get. As someone has already mentioned, I can be tricky finding someone who wants similar things at the same time as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating ?...it's for some people but it certainly ain't for others, the people who it's for don't mind it one bit , they actually love it but for the people it's not for they're just tired of being put up on a shelf to be knocked down by some faceless stranger on the internet or if a real date takes place is judged by what type of clothes they wear , what type of restaurant they want to eat in etc etc , dating is NOT for everyone , the biggest danger anyone can do in dating is settle for the other person and that is totally a waste of time for both , better off to be single than to settle because if you settle you are only fooling yourself , everyone is different and you gotta keep going until you find that gem , don't worry about the stones and when you find that gem never let that person go because simply put each let eachother be themselves , it's so important , never let anyone change the person you are ..to answer the OP's question..dating is a minefield , in my opinion anyone that has dated will know this , it's for some but certainly isn't for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do enjoy going on dates, even the ones that don't work out.

I just like the chance to get to chat to a new person and find out about their life. I'd never question someone about their income though, I like to get a bit deeper than that on a first date

I swipe on people who look interesting/have a decent profile that reads well, rather than just initial attraction (especially cause not everyone is photogenic) and have met some really great people.

I do think people talk less these days though compared to 6-7 years ago when I was last on dating apps. It seems some people just want to gather as many matches as they can, but if there's no conversation within a day or two or if it fizzles out after a few days I just unmatch and continue my search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I've actually been asked on numerous occasions on first dates what do I earn and they have got a swift mind your own business from me

Wow, I'd be so annoyed that I wasted my time meeting them after they butchered the atmosphere like that.unfortunately that's the way things are nowadays money over everything else "

I'm self sufficient working hard with a full time and part time job and I'd never dream of asking a fella about their finances (I wouldn't like that question put to me) and I'd be offended if a guy presumed I had that mindset. Me? I'm more interested in the guy...

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Mine field in your 40s "

But do you rise to the challenge, or are we all just throwing in the towel?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been single well over a year and think I’ve thrown the towel in now

Canna be arsed

I’ll stick to my cats instead. Perhaps get a couple more and be a crazy cat lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine field in your 40s

But do you rise to the challenge, or are we all just throwing in the towel?! "

Challenge accepted

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's only hard if you make it hard x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's only hard if you make it hard x"
you always make it hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine field in your 40s

But do you rise to the challenge, or are we all just throwing in the towel?! "

Towel thrown, white flag raised, drawbridge pulled up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So do we need match making or what?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I’ve been single well over a year and think I’ve thrown the towel in now

Canna be arsed

I’ll stick to my cats instead. Perhaps get a couple more and be a crazy cat lady "

I'd highly recommend it.

There's too much choice, and too many avoidants out there.

People enjoy the fun but at the beginning, then 3/4 months in they move into the next one and repeat.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"Dating these days just seems ridiculous.

Once upon a time, you talked face to face. You met people in various ways then you asked those people out on a date and they said yes or no. In some cases you did the whole "lonely hearts" thing but I recall people turning their nose up at that. Either way, you had to interact with other people to get anywhere.

These days it seems like people are incapable of meeting others unless some sort of app is involved. Seems like everyone is waiting for that elusive match up on whatever dating profile they have.

Society has also changed as well so thats not helping but damn, given what I'm seeing I couldn't be chewed with any of it personally. It would be easier to stay single rather than be judged by random internet strangers with unrealistically high standards.

No wonder birth rates are going down. "

Its almost impossible to get a date face to face now. Pandemic aside, everyone is glued to their phones and even a simple hello can get people backing up as they aren't used to real spontaneous conversations.

I've worked with guys who had a massive hit rate on dating apps but then get nowhere as they can't converse organically and all the banter they can type melts away in real conversation.

I've done the online dating thing on and off, but I live 10 miles from Heathrow so I have all but given up on it.

I have made friends with a couple of local grey squirrels who hang around mine though, so it's not all bad.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

A million questions and trying not to be tripped up by the wrong answer is a challenge. That's after overcoming the massive hurdle on being their "type".

I do like a challenge though.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I still try now and then but it's definitely a lot harder to find the right person these days, I never use to struggle but maybe I'm just more picky now than I was before

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

After a 25 year marriage which ended 3 years ago since we where both 18 when we met each other iv never actually been on a date not sone my first blind date meet with my ex 28 years ago

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

I've browsed dating apps & FB groups & I don't get anything different to what I get on Fab- guys getting very sexual within a handful of messages & not wanting to know anything about me.

If I'm on Fab, that's what I expect but dating sites, I expect different...that's if I can find a bloke in my age range who seems to take dating more seriously who doesn't look like a homeless or a psycho!! Why do male divorcees of my age look like they've given up on themselves completely??

I've decided that dating in my 40s is a bit like looking for the least damaged thing in a charity shop that doesn't smell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I wouldn’t know I’ve never tried dating

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?"

Four weeks chatting then.......ghost. Fucking demoralising x

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By *uteness69Woman
over a year ago

Walthamstow


"Mine field in your 40s "

I'm 48 and widowed.

I have more conversations and fun on here than I do on Bumble.

Mad eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t understand the ghosting mentality. It’s cowardly and fucking rude.

If something isn’t working for you, simply be honest and communicate that to the other person.

Ghosting shows such a lack of intelligence and personal integrity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?

Four weeks chatting then.......ghost. Fucking demoralising x"

Mate of mine dated someone for 10 months and then he ghosted her. Literally didn’t text or call her again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been single 3 years, and dated one person in that time. So, I'd say it's gone really well for me

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?

Four weeks chatting then.......ghost. Fucking demoralising x

Mate of mine dated someone for 10 months and then he ghosted her. Literally didn’t text or call her again "

Why? I don't get it. Single life for seven years. It's like platting snot using a dating site x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I've been single 3 years, and dated one person in that time. So, I'd say it's gone really well for me "

And you're gorgeous. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t have a bad experience with the online dating, but it certainly was tinged with disappointment along the way!

It’s hard to find someone who’s got their emotional shit sorted, and who is honest. It’s horrid when you think it’s all going swimmingly, then they do or say something weird and you’re like, ‘fuck, another one bites the dust’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?

Four weeks chatting then.......ghost. Fucking demoralising x

Mate of mine dated someone for 10 months and then he ghosted her. Literally didn’t text or call her again

Why? I don't get it. Single life for seven years. It's like platting snot using a dating site x"

It’s rubbish mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pain in the hole unless you are on a shit ton of money and look like thor you are wasting your time

The thing is, I don't even see it as being down to something that shallow. For me its the juggling act of your time / commitments / personal development / work. Having someone's needs and emotions constantly fluctuating on top of that fine balance seems to be too much for me. They say communication is key but no matter how you dress it up, people just don't like to be told no (or lets compromise)! "

Brilliantly put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?

Four weeks chatting then.......ghost. Fucking demoralising x

Mate of mine dated someone for 10 months and then he ghosted her. Literally didn’t text or call her again

Why? I don't get it. Single life for seven years. It's like platting snot using a dating site x"

It's taking the easy way out. They've found someone who's a better bet. They're married. Etc. Their issue. Their problem.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I didn’t have a bad experience with the online dating, but it certainly was tinged with disappointment along the way!

It’s hard to find someone who’s got their emotional shit sorted, and who is honest. It’s horrid when you think it’s all going swimmingly, then they do or say something weird and you’re like, ‘fuck, another one bites the dust’. "

I've been so honest with every lady. Maybe I should be a narcissistic wanker instead x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?

Four weeks chatting then.......ghost. Fucking demoralising x

Mate of mine dated someone for 10 months and then he ghosted her. Literally didn’t text or call her again

Why? I don't get it. Single life for seven years. It's like platting snot using a dating site x

It’s rubbish mate "

So true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?

Four weeks chatting then.......ghost. Fucking demoralising x

Mate of mine dated someone for 10 months and then he ghosted her. Literally didn’t text or call her again "

I bollocked my best friend when she rocked up in a cab to meet a guy, didn’t like what he was wearing, and asked the taxi to about turn!

She felt guilty and never did it again

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?

Four weeks chatting then.......ghost. Fucking demoralising x

Mate of mine dated someone for 10 months and then he ghosted her. Literally didn’t text or call her again

Why? I don't get it. Single life for seven years. It's like platting snot using a dating site x

It's taking the easy way out. They've found someone who's a better bet. They're married. Etc. Their issue. Their problem. "

Oh yes, the one's who are actually married, not even separated. Minefield x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?

Four weeks chatting then.......ghost. Fucking demoralising x

Mate of mine dated someone for 10 months and then he ghosted her. Literally didn’t text or call her again

Why? I don't get it. Single life for seven years. It's like platting snot using a dating site x

It's taking the easy way out. They've found someone who's a better bet. They're married. Etc. Their issue. Their problem.

Oh yes, the one's who are actually married, not even separated. Minefield x"

Happened to me once or twice. Obviously they started talking to someone else etc. they always try to crawl back a few weeks later . I just don’t reply to them when they do

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Sligo

Its easier to be unhappy single than unhappy married. Nobody gets hurt that way.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?

Four weeks chatting then.......ghost. Fucking demoralising x

Mate of mine dated someone for 10 months and then he ghosted her. Literally didn’t text or call her again

I bollocked my best friend when she rocked up in a cab to meet a guy, didn’t like what he was wearing, and asked the taxi to about turn!

She felt guilty and never did it again "

Could have at least had a drink x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a fan of modern dating hence why I’m on here. After walking away from a long marriage, I had no idea what I was walking into and was rather naive. I find people are far more honest on here then they are on dating apps in terms of what they’re looking for.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I go into each conversation with such low expectations because ..the last few guys ghosted me. So why bother really?

Four weeks chatting then.......ghost. Fucking demoralising x

Mate of mine dated someone for 10 months and then he ghosted her. Literally didn’t text or call her again

Why? I don't get it. Single life for seven years. It's like platting snot using a dating site x

It's taking the easy way out. They've found someone who's a better bet. They're married. Etc. Their issue. Their problem.

Oh yes, the one's who are actually married, not even separated. Minefield x

Happened to me once or twice. Obviously they started talking to someone else etc. they always try to crawl back a few weeks later . I just don’t reply to them when they do "

The paradox. I would only talk to one lady at once. When that inevitably finished, if someone had messaged in between, I would then text them and say I could chat now. I'd then get a kicking fir not 'hedging' my bets. Can't win x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

If I could take all the bits I like from different people I’d get the perfect date. No individual person ticks all my boxes.

I’ve been on Pof and end up getting messages from people from Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I could take all the bits I like from different people I’d get the perfect date. No individual person ticks all my boxes.

I’ve been on Pof and end up getting messages from people from Fab. "

This is SO true. I’ve often thought: I’d take J’s height, C’s huge willy, P’s accent, D’s sense of humour …

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"If I could take all the bits I like from different people I’d get the perfect date. No individual person ticks all my boxes.

I’ve been on Pof and end up getting messages from people from Fab.

This is SO true. I’ve often thought: I’d take J’s height, C’s huge willy, P’s accent, D’s sense of humour …"

My willy? Result x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything is hard work.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"It's only hard if you make it hard x"

This. I don't go on many dates, and not really looking for anything serious right now, so maybe I'm just not doing the difficult bit, but a coffee, drink or occasional dinner (or game of darts, my new fave!), without expectation that I've found true love, is really nice. Sometimes there's a spark and a second/third date and sometimes it's a hasty retreat, but getting to know people should be fun.

Haven't had the same experience as some guys above about questions about money etc, which is obviously awful and can see why that would make anyone cynical and jaded. But keep going, OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I So agree with you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I could take all the bits I like from different people I’d get the perfect date. No individual person ticks all my boxes.

I’ve been on Pof and end up getting messages from people from Fab.

This is SO true. I’ve often thought: I’d take J’s height, C’s huge willy, P’s accent, D’s sense of humour …

My willy? Result x"

Cheeky! x

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

To be honest, being ignored and rejected isn't hugely laborious.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"To be honest, being ignored and rejected isn't hugely laborious. "

Who wants rejection. Fucking depressing

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

For something that should be very you like me I like you let’s date it seems to be a lot harder than needs be. I would date if I meet someone genuinely interested in dating but I haven’t yet found someone willing to put in the same effort as me. Had it for a while but distance ended it

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"For something that should be very you like me I like you let’s date it seems to be a lot harder than needs be. I would date if I meet someone genuinely interested in dating but I haven’t yet found someone willing to put in the same effort as me. Had it for a while but distance ended it "

How did you bowling go? Did you find a buddy?

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon


"For something that should be very you like me I like you let’s date it seems to be a lot harder than needs be. I would date if I meet someone genuinely interested in dating but I haven’t yet found someone willing to put in the same effort as me. Had it for a while but distance ended it

How did you bowling go? Did you find a buddy?"

Nope no takers so I stayed home and had a conversation with myself as to what I’d have said to her if she hadn’t blocked me lol

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"For something that should be very you like me I like you let’s date it seems to be a lot harder than needs be. I would date if I meet someone genuinely interested in dating but I haven’t yet found someone willing to put in the same effort as me. Had it for a while but distance ended it

How did you bowling go? Did you find a buddy?

Nope no takers so I stayed home and had a conversation with myself as to what I’d have said to her if she hadn’t blocked me lol"

Ah.....sorry to hear that son

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The online dating game seems to be just that a game. I played the game for a year and had 3 semi sensible relationships doing it (definitely no one nighters or serial dating). In general as has been already stated some folk have got massively unrealistic expectations - almost all are carrying heavy emotional scar tissue (myself included). If you think about it - it's not setup to succeed!! How would they generate revenue if every person found their new partner straight away and left the site?

When I gave up on "dating" and concentrated on things I actually wanted to do for myself I met "HER" and she is the best thing that's ever happened to me. To top it off she is as much of a deviant as I am so proper HAPPY DAYS

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon


"For something that should be very you like me I like you let’s date it seems to be a lot harder than needs be. I would date if I meet someone genuinely interested in dating but I haven’t yet found someone willing to put in the same effort as me. Had it for a while but distance ended it

How did you bowling go? Did you find a buddy?

Nope no takers so I stayed home and had a conversation with myself as to what I’d have said to her if she hadn’t blocked me lol

Ah.....sorry to hear that son "

She isn’t the first and won’t be the last so after a brief amount of disappointment I try not to give it a second thought. Not worth the head space for people with no sense of decency

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"For something that should be very you like me I like you let’s date it seems to be a lot harder than needs be. I would date if I meet someone genuinely interested in dating but I haven’t yet found someone willing to put in the same effort as me. Had it for a while but distance ended it

How did you bowling go? Did you find a buddy?

Nope no takers so I stayed home and had a conversation with myself as to what I’d have said to her if she hadn’t blocked me lol

Ah.....sorry to hear that son

She isn’t the first and won’t be the last so after a brief amount of disappointment I try not to give it a second thought. Not worth the head space for people with no sense of decency "

Good lad. Get back on the horse!

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon


"The online dating game seems to be just that a game. I played the game for a year and had 3 semi sensible relationships doing it (definitely no one nighters or serial dating). In general as has been already stated some folk have got massively unrealistic expectations - almost all are carrying heavy emotional scar tissue (myself included). If you think about it - it's not setup to succeed!! How would they generate revenue if every person found their new partner straight away and left the site?

When I gave up on "dating" and concentrated on things I actually wanted to do for myself I met "HER" and she is the best thing that's ever happened to me. To top it off she is as much of a deviant as I am so proper HAPPY DAYS "

Glad you found a good ending

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I prefer what fab has to offer tbh.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I prefer what fab has to offer tbh."

You have lots to offer x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Glad you found a good ending "

That's the thing, neither of us are sitting there thinking that we've found our happy ending

We are content with a happy beginning

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Mine field in your 40s "

Absolutely, even just trying to set up a coffee meet is hard work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a great experience if you can relax yourself into it

People pile so much pressure on themselves and others, often enter dating with cynicism, trepidation and 'looking for things'

Expectations are often so particular that dates rarely meet them

We tend to look for what we don't like as opposed to what we do, the smallest faux pas can be a trigger

I don't think I've ever really dated, I've just enjoyed hanging round with people and getting to know them

3 of them have turned into long term relationships

I'm also friends with a couple who didn't make it that far

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath


"I think it's a great experience if you can relax yourself into it

People pile so much pressure on themselves and others, often enter dating with cynicism, trepidation and 'looking for things'

Expectations are often so particular that dates rarely meet them

We tend to look for what we don't like as opposed to what we do, the smallest faux pas can be a trigger

I don't think I've ever really dated, I've just enjoyed hanging round with people and getting to know them

3 of them have turned into long term relationships

I'm also friends with a couple who didn't make it that far"

Yeah I'm with you on that, if you can't be friends, fuck n forget.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Dating is not the issue, people are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much hard work

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I usually skip the dating. And I’m still single, so don’t listen to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dating is not the issue, people are."

Um...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine field in your 40s "

Not much easier in my 50s....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so good at dating that people feel inferior and don’t want to date me.

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington


"It is! Sometimes I want someone and sometimes I just want a good old bloody shag hahah"
not a lot of hope getting either unless you give others a clue as to what area you live in,, near you ,, on the coast,, a galaxy far far away just dont seem to be able to be found on a google map search,,

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"It is! Sometimes I want someone and sometimes I just want a good old bloody shag hahah not a lot of hope getting either unless you give others a clue as to what area you live in,, near you ,, on the coast,, a galaxy far far away just dont seem to be able to be found on a google map search,, "

I know where Washington is x

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Single 8years not one date. I gave up years ago

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Single 8years not one date. I gave up years ago"

A crying shame x

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"Mine field in your 40s "

Impossible in your 50's

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Mine field in your 40s

Impossible in your 50's "

.....err.....hope not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's only hard if you make it hard x"

Sorry don't agree , the other person can ..has ..made it nigh impossible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please tell me there is hope as I am about to hit my 50's and have recently become single. Not looking at the moment but sometime in the future.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Please tell me there is hope as I am about to hit my 50's and have recently become single. Not looking at the moment but sometime in the future. "

I'm hoping....don't fancy sitting on my own for the rest of my days x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please tell me there is hope as I am about to hit my 50's and have recently become single. Not looking at the moment but sometime in the future.

I'm hoping....don't fancy sitting on my own for the rest of my days x"

This is why we need a match making thread !!!

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

I've never been a fan of dating however, I've been single 7 years & now I'm bored

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Please tell me there is hope as I am about to hit my 50's and have recently become single. Not looking at the moment but sometime in the future.

I'm hoping....don't fancy sitting on my own for the rest of my days x

This is why we need a match making thread !!!"

Everyone is so far away X

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I've never been a fan of dating however, I've been single 7 years & now I'm bored "

You're a lovely looking woman. Go date. Make em jealous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please tell me there is hope as I am about to hit my 50's and have recently become single. Not looking at the moment but sometime in the future.

I'm hoping....don't fancy sitting on my own for the rest of my days x

This is why we need a match making thread !!!

Everyone is so far away X"

You never know . Want to try ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So it doesn’t get easier?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm on reserve not keen sitting on the fence enjoying my me time.so if the mystical powers shine I'd take baby steps

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Please tell me there is hope as I am about to hit my 50's and have recently become single. Not looking at the moment but sometime in the future.

I'm hoping....don't fancy sitting on my own for the rest of my days x

This is why we need a match making thread !!!

Everyone is so far away X

You never know . Want to try ?"

x

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By *hisisntpofMan
over a year ago

bristol

Me

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe


"To be honest, being ignored and rejected isn't hugely laborious.

Who wants rejection. Fucking depressing "

Well, true. Still, at least it doesn't involve a lot of work on your part and leaves you free time for other things.

Yes, I'm trying to find the positive.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"To be honest, being ignored and rejected isn't hugely laborious.

Who wants rejection. Fucking depressing

Well, true. Still, at least it doesn't involve a lot of work on your part and leaves you free time for other things.

Yes, I'm trying to find the positive. "

See what you're trying to do there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I could take all the bits I like from different people I’d get the perfect date. No individual person ticks all my boxes.

I’ve been on Pof and end up getting messages from people from Fab. "

Lol the most woman answer possible to a thread like this

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

I'm 40+, single and have a stupid busy job.

I'm bang average in everyway.

Getting a match is hard, a date silly hard, a second or third date?

It does and doesn't bother me that I get virtually no swipes at all. Are all the women out there looking for Ryan Reynolds or something? Are they being unrealistic or am I expecting too much

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By *ustauseerTV/TS
over a year ago

Sedgemoor


"I've given up, that's why I'm here"

Dating is honestly just an attempt to find the least used car in the garage and pray it doesn’t conk out before the MOT runs out

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

I was dating someone recently after a long time out of the scene. Not that I was a serial dater to begin with!

You get out as much as the effort you put into it. Rather like this place.

Anyway she decided we take a break… polite way of ending things. So back to fab life for a while…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pain in the hole unless you are on a shit ton of money and look like thor you are wasting your time "

Some women value intelligence too. They are not shallow and fickle as those who covet bulk - whether in the wallet or muscles. Maybe change the game and the results will be different?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I've given up, that's why I'm here

Dating is honestly just an attempt to find the least used car in the garage and pray it doesn’t conk out before the MOT runs out"

My tyres are bald. MOT recently received for five years. Body requires filler. Seating ample. Open to offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pain in the hole unless you are on a shit ton of money and look like thor you are wasting your time

Some women value intelligence too. They are not shallow and fickle as those who covet bulk - whether in the wallet or muscles. Maybe change the game and the results will be different? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've given up, that's why I'm here

Dating is honestly just an attempt to find the least used car in the garage and pray it doesn’t conk out before the MOT runs out"

I dunno, I'll take the well battered, well used, past its best model if it drives how I like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

"

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

"

.....ah, used one once.....dumped it pretty quick when I saw everyone else doing it too x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu."

Or up a mountain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu.

Or up a mountain "

Don't forget the ubiquitous me with a cat / dog / horse pic.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu.

Or up a mountain

Don't forget the ubiquitous me with a cat / dog / horse pic."

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu.

Or up a mountain

Don't forget the ubiquitous me with a cat / dog / horse pic."

And the local club/restaurant ladies toilet mirror selfie #yolo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu."

Not this lazy bitch

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu.

Not this lazy bitch "

Silverknowes Prom for you x

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By *ustauseerTV/TS
over a year ago

Sedgemoor

Still, I’m open to the idea of a handsome man, or two inviting me to a gathering

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"I've never been a fan of dating however, I've been single 7 years & now I'm bored

You're a lovely looking woman. Go date. Make em jealous x"

Aww thank you x

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu.

Or up a mountain

Don't forget the ubiquitous me with a cat / dog / horse pic."

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I think life is hard, dating is just part of the whole living nightmare

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu.

Or up a mountain

Don't forget the ubiquitous me with a cat / dog / horse pic.

"

Or, the trump card, pictures with their ex covered over in marker pen x

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"If I could take all the bits I like from different people I’d get the perfect date. No individual person ticks all my boxes.

I’ve been on Pof and end up getting messages from people from Fab. "

This!!! It's all well & good having sexual freedom & less judgment to see a few people before looking seriously, but in a way, we screw ourselves over because we're highly unlikely to find all of our desired attributes in one person...then if we do, we don't match enough of the other person's criteria!!

It's a total headfuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu.

Or up a mountain

Don't forget the ubiquitous me with a cat / dog / horse pic.

Or, the trump card, pictures with their ex covered over in marker pen x"

I never saw that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up and came back to fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BRB. Just going to Google the word "dating"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was dating someone recently after a long time out of the scene. Not that I was a serial dater to begin with!

You get out as much as the effort you put into it. Rather like this place.

Anyway she decided we take a break… polite way of ending things. So back to fab life for a while… "

They have the power to do that ok , l don't really agree with you on the you get what you put in part , l have went on ...l don't anymore..dates and to say they were a complete waste of time would be an understatement ..l knew within 10 seconds or less that it wasn't gonna go further...the eyes tell it all

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu.

Or up a mountain

Don't forget the ubiquitous me with a cat / dog / horse pic.

Or, the trump card, pictures with their ex covered over in marker pen x

I never saw that!! "

Ha! Just finishing Match. Six wasted months. Two dates. Photos with ex inked or cut out quite common. Prefer fab.

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By *DFriendly FolkCouple
over a year ago

Redditch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The car analogies are taking me right back to reading online dating profiles.

Thought. I. Had. Blocked. It. Out.

The yoga poses on the beach did it for me. Plus I had no idea EVERY WOMAN EVER had been to Machu Pichu.

Or up a mountain

Don't forget the ubiquitous me with a cat / dog / horse pic.

Or, the trump card, pictures with their ex covered over in marker pen x

I never saw that!!

Ha! Just finishing Match. Six wasted months. Two dates. Photos with ex inked or cut out quite common. Prefer fab."

Yeah the tinders of this world are not for me.

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By *DFriendly FolkCouple
over a year ago

Redditch

I don't think today's youth know how to date no discos, few night clubs. Mass pub closures over the last ten years. Covid restrictions put a nail in the coffin. Swip left or right and meet on a street corner seems the in thing these days. Single mums have been around for eternity but today's youth seem to have made it a legal trade for family life.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I don't think today's youth know how to date no discos, few night clubs. Mass pub closures over the last ten years. Covid restrictions put a nail in the coffin. Swip left or right and meet on a street corner seems the in thing these days. Single mums have been around for eternity but today's youth seem to have made it a legal trade for family life. "

Saturday night nightclub....virtually non existent these days

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Dating is no more difficult that shagging. It’s the meeting someone I’d do either with that’s the difficult bit. The degree of attraction would need to be the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a date!?

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"What's a date!? "

Next Friday at mid-day.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"What's a date!? "

Vague recollection of one some time ago. Pleasant experience. Wouldn't mind doing it again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's a date!?

Next Friday at mid-day. "

I wish! No I wish I had a date for this Saturday

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Thank someone’s God that I married an absolute keeper who’s into this lifestyle.

I simply could not be arsed to go through the whole dating thing ever again.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"What's a date!?

Next Friday at mid-day.

I wish! No I wish I had a date for this Saturday "

I just realised how that must have came across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's a date!?

Next Friday at mid-day.

I wish! No I wish I had a date for this Saturday

I just realised how that must have came across. "

Lol I actually didn't even notice the meaning. You're ok, you're forgiven x

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

Yep..

I've given up even thinking about it.

Online is great because you can reach out further afield but it has attracts so many dishonest people.

At times its heartbreaking

Once you get through the rubbish there are some genuine people.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"What's a date!?

Next Friday at mid-day.

I wish! No I wish I had a date for this Saturday

I just realised how that must have came across.

Lol I actually didn't even notice the meaning. You're ok, you're forgiven x "

Phew. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's a date!?

Next Friday at mid-day.

I wish! No I wish I had a date for this Saturday

I just realised how that must have came across.

Lol I actually didn't even notice the meaning. You're ok, you're forgiven x

Phew. X "

All good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up dating years ago

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By *cottieboy123Man
over a year ago

Perth


"What's a date!?

Next Friday at mid-day.

I wish! No I wish I had a date for this Saturday "

Can always squeeze a Glasgow social into the schedule. . . .

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

It's not all that bad....sometimes it pays off

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