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By *piced Dark Rum OP   Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

What’s your view on the term BBC?

For or against.

Is it degrading?

Is it promoting?

Comments please.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Against, degrading, seems to go against what most people are campaigning for these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More a porn thing to be honest porn popularse the term

You don’t really see the term BWC but it is what it is

The ancwer to your question will for guy to guy if they like being called that

For me I stay away from any off those terms till the person them selfs calls them selfs by a term

Then I know if they like it or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m against. In case anyone didn’t already know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Helps me shorten my Google search.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I’m against it and it annoys me when I get messages like “do you like BBC” . I like cock as simple as that, I don’t need you to announce the size or colour. I actually prefer men who are modest about their size or don’t go on about it full stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m against it and it annoys me when I get messages like “do you like BBC” . I like cock as simple as that, I don’t need you to announce the size or colour. I actually prefer men who are modest about their size or don’t go on about it full stop. "

Fair enough the respectable stance in my humble opinion.Think modesty is the best approach by far.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I think it's awful.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Against it. I don’t think anyone needs public labels. By all means label yourself if it helps you with your identity or sexuality but you are not obligated to share your labels with anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats your opinion on it OP?

I’m curious to hear your judgement.

Don’t think I can judge it fairly but would probably say I’m against it on balance if you made me choose.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I think that BBC is pretty awful, though not as bad as ITV is these days. Really the only decent stuff is on Netflix or Prime these days...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that BBC is pretty awful, though not as bad as ITV is these days. Really the only decent stuff is on Netflix or Prime these days..."

Fucker, beat me to it!!

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Doesn’t bother me.

Like men of all skin colour/ ethnicities and dick size isn’t relevant.

That being said I’ve met lots of men who refer to themselves as bbc so fine either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that BBC is pretty awful, though not as bad as ITV is these days. Really the only decent stuff is on Netflix or Prime these days..."

How dare you forget Disney +

Your in the pocket of Jeff aren’t you!!

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

It makes no difference to us but there seems to be a market for it ,so some guys go with it as it works to their advantage. I’m not going to be offended by something that a lot of black guys consider to be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a white woman, it's not up to me to tell black men how they should label themselves. I personally dislike it because using race to objectify people sexually is degrading. Men are so much more than the size or colour of their cocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a white woman, it's not up to me to tell black men how they should label themselves. I personally dislike it because using race to objectify people sexually is degrading. Men are so much more than the size or colour of their cocks. "

I'm not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it cause black skin is shinier and more attractive? If that's the case I get it, but I fear it stems from the taboo of the days when a white woman who slept with a black man was considered a slut.

Like Inconceivable said it isn't my place to tell black people how to feel. Even though it does grate on me a little. BBW does too.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Is it cause black skin is shinier and more attractive? If that's the case I get it, but I fear it stems from the taboo of the days when a white woman who slept with a black man was considered a slut.

Like Inconceivable said it isn't my place to tell black people how to feel. Even though it does grate on me a little. BBW does too."

Agreed. I don't like any reference that reduces a person into some sort of single disembodied part, such as BBC, BWC or BBW. I personally want to be admired for me (as a person), not just because I'm fat. I'd hope black guys would feel similarly about being more than their penis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see a reason for the label. If I get a message that says “do you like bbc?” I tend to delete without opening, the same as I would for messages that say “I’m a naughty plumber”. I don’t care what colour your cock is, what your occupation is or what accent you have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion isn't as relevant as I am not a black man

But as a black woman I hate any terms that involve fetisising, degrading or sexualising black men or women

Those include BBC, chocolate, caramel etc

However from what I see on here there is a market for black men who can get alot of attention from white people if they're willing to sell themselves as a work horse and advertise themselves as 'bbc' which is 100% their decision.

I don't entertain anyone who makes race a factor in theit attraction to me, especially those weirdos who think it's appropriate to message me saying they've never been with a black woman before, tell me they'd like to 'try' one and even ask if my pussy tastes like chocolate

It becomes even more weird to me when black men message me and use those terms to try and advertise themselves to me as a black woman as if they're something exotic and special even though we most likely originate from the same country

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

can't say I am a fan to be honest

seems unkind, people are people

not just their bits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent post.

Nowhere else would it be acceptable to mention race, colour or ethnicity

I saw a profile yesterday that mentioned “no coloured’s”

For GOD’s sake ????

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

It’s up to you how you label yourself, so a guy messaging me saying he’s a BBC, fine. But I’d never put on my profile ‘looking for a BBC’ as I don’t want to offend those who find it offensive.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

It is just an abbreviation to get to the point quicker, a term to signal like-minded. When sex is involved things can get a bit more polarizing, but like any edgy word, it has its place and time. You will probably hear dividing opinions, so ask yourself if it's for you or not, you'll be right either way. I am not for or against, it's all about the context in the right environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can’t be that offended or the girls asking for ‘BBC’ wouldn’t get ‘BBC’…

Unless guys will literally ignore offensive terminology just to get their dick wet… imagine that.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

It’s basically the fetishisation of black bodies and perpetuates well-documented racist troupes. You only need read through a recent thread on here that reduces black men to nothing more than a body part.

And to those that say, we’ll you don’t get BWC threads that’s because white men aren’t routinely fetishised or reduced to singular body parts.

Obviously there will be some black guys that hold their nose and get their dicks wet, but I would think most self-respecting gents will feel at least a little uncomfortable with the troupes underlying the term, in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My opinion isn't as relevant as I am not a black man

But as a black woman I hate any terms that involve fetisising, degrading or sexualising black men or women

Those include BBC, chocolate, caramel etc

However from what I see on here there is a market for black men who can get alot of attention from white people if they're willing to sell themselves as a work horse and advertise themselves as 'bbc' which is 100% their decision.

I don't entertain anyone who makes race a factor in theit attraction to me, especially those weirdos who think it's appropriate to message me saying they've never been with a black woman before, tell me they'd like to 'try' one and even ask if my pussy tastes like chocolate

It becomes even more weird to me when black men message me and use those terms to try and advertise themselves to me as a black woman as if they're something exotic and special even though we most likely originate from the same country "

Agree with all you said in my experience which us not universal I’ve seen quite a few men like that,good men that turn into some weird parody for mostly white women,Even heard one or two being called Slurs in the heat.Agree it is their decision though.

Will say although that I do personally prefer Black women a lot if the time though so you can judge me if you want to.However I would be sickened at the idea I was trying out some “exotic” species.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"My opinion isn't as relevant as I am not a black man

But as a black woman I hate any terms that involve fetisising, degrading or sexualising black men or women

Those include BBC, chocolate, caramel etc

However from what I see on here there is a market for black men who can get alot of attention from white people if they're willing to sell themselves as a work horse and advertise themselves as 'bbc' which is 100% their decision.

I don't entertain anyone who makes race a factor in theit attraction to me, especially those weirdos who think it's appropriate to message me saying they've never been with a black woman before, tell me they'd like to 'try' one and even ask if my pussy tastes like chocolate

It becomes even more weird to me when black men message me and use those terms to try and advertise themselves to me as a black woman as if they're something exotic and special even though we most likely originate from the same country

Agree with all you said in my experience which us not universal I’ve seen quite a few men like that,good men that turn into some weird parody for mostly white women,Even heard one or two being called Slurs in the heat.Agree it is their decision though.

Will say although that I do personally prefer Black women a lot if the time though so you can judge me if you want to.However I would be sickened at the idea I was trying out some “exotic” species."

Nothing wrong in having a preference that happens to revolve around skin colour. It’s a completely different thing when people reduce others to a single body part and it’s colour.

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By *unnyPairCouple
over a year ago

Seminole

Instant delete

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

It’s all about context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about context."

How?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about context."

Lol no its really not

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford


"My opinion isn't as relevant as I am not a black man

But as a black woman I hate any terms that involve fetisising, degrading or sexualising black men or women

Those include BBC, chocolate, caramel etc

However from what I see on here there is a market for black men who can get alot of attention from white people if they're willing to sell themselves as a work horse and advertise themselves as 'bbc' which is 100% their decision.

I don't entertain anyone who makes race a factor in theit attraction to me "

^^^

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"It’s all about context.

Lol no its really not"

I live with a social worker who is black. Her family are all black and mixed race. I accept their views on colour which rarely arises anyhow. But a sensitivity detectable in white people is not present in them.

Slav ery yes but colour generally or black men having big dicks no. Often brushed aside with good humour. But that’s in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about context.

Lol no its really not

I live with a social worker who is black. Her family are all black and mixed race. I accept their views on colour which rarely arises anyhow. But a sensitivity detectable in white people is not present in them.

Slav ery yes but colour generally or black men having big dicks no. Often brushed aside with good humour. But that’s in my experience."

You social worker mate and her family use the term BBC in reference to black mens genitalia?

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"It’s all about context.

Lol no its really not

I live with a social worker who is black. Her family are all black and mixed race. I accept their views on colour which rarely arises anyhow. But a sensitivity detectable in white people is not present in them.

Slav ery yes but colour generally or black men having big dicks no. Often brushed aside with good humour. But that’s in my experience.

You social worker mate and her family use the term BBC in reference to black mens genitalia?"

Mate? Wife. Privately it has been known but far more often we talk food and family issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about context.

Lol no its really not

I live with a social worker who is black. Her family are all black and mixed race. I accept their views on colour which rarely arises anyhow. But a sensitivity detectable in white people is not present in them.

Slav ery yes but colour generally or black men having big dicks no. Often brushed aside with good humour. But that’s in my experience.

You social worker mate and her family use the term BBC in reference to black mens genitalia?

Mate? Wife. Privately it has been known but far more often we talk food and family issues."

Lol you're the one who refered to her as someone you live with and not your wife

So she told you that the term BBC is OK to be used depending on the context?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

My views on it are well known here over the years…. I hate it!!

I think it’s degrading and demeaning, it’s actually quite a lazy perception, and I want no part of being some part of a stereotype of a bygone age that should have been gotten rid of years ago!!!

Is it going away…… nope!

It will never go away as long as some people try to use it as some sort of advantage over other people to get ahead, and the people who use it in their references of search do feel there is zero penalty in using it!!!

I always try and make people aware that you may be turning off as many of the people you are after as turning on! We aren’t some sort of monolith where one speaks for the entire community

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My views on it are well known here over the years…. I hate it!!

I think it’s degrading and demeaning, it’s actually quite a lazy perception, and I want no part of being some part of a stereotype of a bygone age that should have been gotten rid of years ago!!!

Is it going away…… nope!

It will never go away as long as some people try to use it as some sort of advantage over other people to get ahead, and the people who use it in their references of search do feel there is zero penalty in using it!!!

I always try and make people aware that you may be turning off as many of the people you are after as turning on! We aren’t some sort of monolith where one speaks for the entire community

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"It’s all about context.

Lol no its really not

I live with a social worker who is black. Her family are all black and mixed race. I accept their views on colour which rarely arises anyhow. But a sensitivity detectable in white people is not present in them.

Slav ery yes but colour generally or black men having big dicks no. Often brushed aside with good humour. But that’s in my experience.

You social worker mate and her family use the term BBC in reference to black mens genitalia?

Mate? Wife. Privately it has been known but far more often we talk food and family issues.

Lol you're the one who refered to her as someone you live with and not your wife

So she told you that the term BBC is OK to be used depending on the context?"

The inquisition!

Nope. Dick size has been discussed as in her previous black husband. I’d be lying to suggest small dick is the norm. But is seen as no big deal pardon the pun.

But importantly they are Jamaican. Kings and Queens of the West Indies as they see it.

Even our African family member tries to mimic their ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about context.

Lol no its really not

I live with a social worker who is black. Her family are all black and mixed race. I accept their views on colour which rarely arises anyhow. But a sensitivity detectable in white people is not present in them.

Slav ery yes but colour generally or black men having big dicks no. Often brushed aside with good humour. But that’s in my experience.

You social worker mate and her family use the term BBC in reference to black mens genitalia?

Mate? Wife. Privately it has been known but far more often we talk food and family issues.

Lol you're the one who refered to her as someone you live with and not your wife

So she told you that the term BBC is OK to be used depending on the context?

The inquisition!

Nope. Dick size has been discussed as in her previous black husband. I’d be lying to suggest small dick is the norm. But is seen as no big deal pardon the pun.

But importantly they are Jamaican. Kings and Queens of the West Indies as they see it.

Even our African family member tries to mimic their ways."

So basically nothing that you're saying is relevant this discussion around the term BBC ?

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"It’s all about context.

Lol no its really not

I live with a social worker who is black. Her family are all black and mixed race. I accept their views on colour which rarely arises anyhow. But a sensitivity detectable in white people is not present in them.

Slav ery yes but colour generally or black men having big dicks no. Often brushed aside with good humour. But that’s in my experience.

You social worker mate and her family use the term BBC in reference to black mens genitalia?

Mate? Wife. Privately it has been known but far more often we talk food and family issues.

Lol you're the one who refered to her as someone you live with and not your wife

So she told you that the term BBC is OK to be used depending on the context?

The inquisition!

Nope. Dick size has been discussed as in her previous black husband. I’d be lying to suggest small dick is the norm. But is seen as no big deal pardon the pun.

But importantly they are Jamaican. Kings and Queens of the West Indies as they see it.

Even our African family member tries to mimic their ways.

So basically nothing that you're saying is relevant this discussion around the term BBC ?"

Oh pardon me. It’s an open thread. If you don’t like my comments then tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about context.

Lol no its really not

I live with a social worker who is black. Her family are all black and mixed race. I accept their views on colour which rarely arises anyhow. But a sensitivity detectable in white people is not present in them.

Slav ery yes but colour generally or black men having big dicks no. Often brushed aside with good humour. But that’s in my experience.

You social worker mate and her family use the term BBC in reference to black mens genitalia?

Mate? Wife. Privately it has been known but far more often we talk food and family issues.

Lol you're the one who refered to her as someone you live with and not your wife

So she told you that the term BBC is OK to be used depending on the context?

The inquisition!

Nope. Dick size has been discussed as in her previous black husband. I’d be lying to suggest small dick is the norm. But is seen as no big deal pardon the pun.

But importantly they are Jamaican. Kings and Queens of the West Indies as they see it.

Even our African family member tries to mimic their ways.

So basically nothing that you're saying is relevant this discussion around the term BBC ?

Oh pardon me. It’s an open thread. If you don’t like my comments then tough. "

It's a thread about the usage of the term BBC???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a odd one, as being relatively newish on her I see at least 90% of the time being used on middle aged white womens profile as their preference. I did and still find it strange it's used so much on here but don't see BWC hardly at all?

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

From what I read and see the overall majority of people and more importantly black people see it as derogatory. However there is a considerable level of exceptance within a sexual context whether it be on here or in porn or wider kink fetish lifestyles. Until all black people reject it (many embrace it btw! In fact one of the most famous black porn stars name is taken from the American s l a v e era “ Mandingo = Term used for black male s l a v e s who were used in blood sport fights against other s l a v e s at the bidding of their masters. Sport was arranged for spectator entertainment and betting by s l a v e owners.”.) then it’s not going away. Thousands of women and couples on here actively use the term as a preference and hundreds of black guys use the term as a selling point. Unfortunately until attitudes change it’s here to stay .

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

OK here my two penny worth on the subject . in my experience of pursuing women and clps and men's profiles here and pics .

The term BBC is very often used stateng their desire for one or that is there only preference .

if the gentleman in who is the

owner of such a weapon of

pleasure wish to describe himself

as BBC and does what it say on the

Tin. but I think big cock. Covers it. People can see whatever colour you are .but I've not seen SBC or EWC I've pathetic Weedy cocks advertise from clips seeking BBC .

but a nothing on this subject .

I've wonder is the same as the British broadcasting corporation .do we all have to subscrib to a licence. Fee even if we don't choose to use the service yourself . comments on a postcard to TV centre in London. Oh fuck has that oftened tV people . there all

these new terms for people

The BBC is know worldwide for its impartialty

So been an owner of big I'm told

white cock that I thinks pretty

normal sized myself has its the only

one I've got and I'm very happy with and previous users are too.

I'll close on the subject

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth


"My views on it are well known here over the years…. I hate it!!

I think it’s degrading and demeaning, it’s actually quite a lazy perception, and I want no part of being some part of a stereotype of a bygone age that should have been gotten rid of years ago!!!

Is it going away…… nope!

It will never go away as long as some people try to use it as some sort of advantage over other people to get ahead, and the people who use it in their references of search do feel there is zero penalty in using it!!!

I always try and make people aware that you may be turning off as many of the people you are after as turning on! We aren’t some sort of monolith where one speaks for the entire community

"

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By *piced Dark Rum OP   Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Great feedback

Thanks all

Personally I have never know this term outside of Fab or the swinging world.

It caused me so degree of conflict as it seems to be a norm here, I work in the field of Equality and Diversity so entering a world where it seemed to be rife was pretty strange.

However I note it seems to be a successful strategy for some.

Love the passion this thread has inspired.

I personally don’t like the term and hope that we can start a movement to educate.

I would prefer to be considered a person ready to play as opposed to a dick attached to a random black male body.

Happy Wednesday

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"I’m against it and it annoys me when I get messages like “do you like BBC” . I like cock as simple as that, I don’t need you to announce the size or colour. I actually prefer men who are modest about their size or don’t go on about it full stop. "

Hi

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I think the terminology is crude and crass.

If we choose a playmate for my wife it's because of the person not the colour of their skin or their endowment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to Essex

Lot of lady’s want this

It’s there choice

Crack on have fun

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

I imagine if your a well endowed black guy it works in your favour but otherwise its an unfair expectation which black guys maybe feel they have to meet so puts a lot of unfair pressure on those guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!"

What's BMFC?

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!

What's BMFC?"

Black Mans Fan Club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!

What's BMFC?

Black Mans Fan Club. "

Ah. Thanks.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

This thread is widely being used as a platform for virtue signalling when, in fact, there is really no big problem.

If a woman (huge numbers of them, evidently) prefer (and preference is the clue) black men with big cocks what is the problem with that apart from the fact that inevitably some white guys with small cocks will feel side-stepped?

It is fairly obvious to me that the term BBC is a slightly playful (because of the association with our national broadcaster) abbreviation. The site is full of abbreviations.

Nobody seems to complain about the use of BBW but, of course, quite by chance, neither B in that stands for black and the W doesn't stand for white so less opportunity for the virtuous to pick a fight over it.

BBC is not in any way offensive the way it is habitually used on this site. Surely it is a compliment, especially on here where, like it or not, size usually matters and skin tone preference is perfectly legitimate?

I've never ever seen BBC used here as a slur. Hands up who actually has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is widely being used as a platform for virtue signalling when, in fact, there is really no big problem.

If a woman (huge numbers of them, evidently) prefer (and preference is the clue) black men with big cocks what is the problem with that apart from the fact that inevitably some white guys with small cocks will feel side-stepped?

It is fairly obvious to me that the term BBC is a slightly playful (because of the association with our national broadcaster) abbreviation. The site is full of abbreviations.

Nobody seems to complain about the use of BBW but, of course, quite by chance, neither B in that stands for black and the W doesn't stand for white so less opportunity for the virtuous to pick a fight over it.

BBC is not in any way offensive the way it is habitually used on this site. Surely it is a compliment, especially on here where, like it or not, size usually matters and skin tone preference is perfectly legitimate?

I've never ever seen BBC used here as a slur. Hands up who actually has."

I have seen it used as a slur. I've seen black men described in terms that fetish them and are degrading and it makes me ashamed to read them. And on this thread you have several black people saying yes it's a problem. I don't care if you think I'm virtue signalling. I say the same things on every race thread and I don't need any more offers of dick to be honest. Whatever colour (I'm not fussed, it's the man it's attached to that counts).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is widely being used as a platform for virtue signalling when, in fact, there is really no big problem.

If a woman (huge numbers of them, evidently) prefer (and preference is the clue) black men with big cocks what is the problem with that apart from the fact that inevitably some white guys with small cocks will feel side-stepped?

It is fairly obvious to me that the term BBC is a slightly playful (because of the association with our national broadcaster) abbreviation. The site is full of abbreviations.

Nobody seems to complain about the use of BBW but, of course, quite by chance, neither B in that stands for black and the W doesn't stand for white so less opportunity for the virtuous to pick a fight over it.

BBC is not in any way offensive the way it is habitually used on this site. Surely it is a compliment, especially on here where, like it or not, size usually matters and skin tone preference is perfectly legitimate?

I've never ever seen BBC used here as a slur. Hands up who actually has."

A good summery. I would hope it's never a slur and just a definition of a statement of fact.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"This thread is widely being used as a platform for virtue signalling when, in fact, there is really no big problem.

If a woman (huge numbers of them, evidently) prefer (and preference is the clue) black men with big cocks what is the problem with that apart from the fact that inevitably some white guys with small cocks will feel side-stepped?

It is fairly obvious to me that the term BBC is a slightly playful (because of the association with our national broadcaster) abbreviation. The site is full of abbreviations.

Nobody seems to complain about the use of BBW but, of course, quite by chance, neither B in that stands for black and the W doesn't stand for white so less opportunity for the virtuous to pick a fight over it.

BBC is not in any way offensive the way it is habitually used on this site. Surely it is a compliment, especially on here where, like it or not, size usually matters and skin tone preference is perfectly legitimate?

I've never ever seen BBC used here as a slur. Hands up who actually has."

Why do white folks like you feel qualified to tell black folks like me, whether or not we should be offended by something that is obviously racialised?

Genuine question.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!

What's BMFC?

Black Mans Fan Club. "

Another white dude tell us black folks (and those who agree) to shut up and stop being offended.

What you mention BMFC is different thing entirely - one is describing the man and a particular quality that some find attractive (his skin colour), along with the rest of his qualities (hopefully), whilst the other is reducing a black man to his cock and the colour of it.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth


"This thread is widely being used as a platform for virtue signalling when, in fact, there is really no big problem.

If a woman (huge numbers of them, evidently) prefer (and preference is the clue) black men with big cocks what is the problem with that apart from the fact that inevitably some white guys with small cocks will feel side-stepped?

It is fairly obvious to me that the term BBC is a slightly playful (because of the association with our national broadcaster) abbreviation. The site is full of abbreviations.

Nobody seems to complain about the use of BBW but, of course, quite by chance, neither B in that stands for black and the W doesn't stand for white so less opportunity for the virtuous to pick a fight over it.

BBC is not in any way offensive the way it is habitually used on this site. Surely it is a compliment, especially on here where, like it or not, size usually matters and skin tone preference is perfectly legitimate?

I've never ever seen BBC used here as a slur. Hands up who actually has.

Why do white folks like you feel qualified to tell black folks like me, whether or not we should be offended by something that is obviously racialised?

Genuine question. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is widely being used as a platform for virtue signalling when, in fact, there is really no big problem.

If a woman (huge numbers of them, evidently) prefer (and preference is the clue) black men with big cocks what is the problem with that apart from the fact that inevitably some white guys with small cocks will feel side-stepped?

It is fairly obvious to me that the term BBC is a slightly playful (because of the association with our national broadcaster) abbreviation. The site is full of abbreviations.

Nobody seems to complain about the use of BBW but, of course, quite by chance, neither B in that stands for black and the W doesn't stand for white so less opportunity for the virtuous to pick a fight over it.

BBC is not in any way offensive the way it is habitually used on this site. Surely it is a compliment, especially on here where, like it or not, size usually matters and skin tone preference is perfectly legitimate?

I've never ever seen BBC used here as a slur. Hands up who actually has.

Why do white folks like you feel qualified to tell black folks like me, whether or not we should be offended by something that is obviously racialised?

Genuine question. "

It's a very good point,I don't think that was the intention but you're right to ask. For all I don't think it's offensive it's me to say really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv no opinion as it doesnt effect me in any walk of life only time i see it is here or porn

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!

What's BMFC?

Black Mans Fan Club.

Another white dude tell us black folks (and those who agree) to shut up and stop being offended.

What you mention BMFC is different thing entirely - one is describing the man and a particular quality that some find attractive (his skin colour), along with the rest of his qualities (hopefully), whilst the other is reducing a black man to his cock and the colour of it.

"

Less of the dude. It’s patronising.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!

What's BMFC?

Black Mans Fan Club.

Another white dude tell us black folks (and those who agree) to shut up and stop being offended.

What you mention BMFC is different thing entirely - one is describing the man and a particular quality that some find attractive (his skin colour), along with the rest of his qualities (hopefully), whilst the other is reducing a black man to his cock and the colour of it.

"

Plus it’s an open thread where I haven’t seen white guys don’t speak.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!

What's BMFC?

Black Mans Fan Club.

Another white dude tell us black folks (and those who agree) to shut up and stop being offended.

What you mention BMFC is different thing entirely - one is describing the man and a particular quality that some find attractive (his skin colour), along with the rest of his qualities (hopefully), whilst the other is reducing a black man to his cock and the colour of it.

Less of the dude. It’s patronising."

Sorry masser; sorry.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Personally I find it insulting and would never use the term x

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth


"Personally I find it insulting and would never use the term x"

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!

What's BMFC?

Black Mans Fan Club.

Another white dude tell us black folks (and those who agree) to shut up and stop being offended.

What you mention BMFC is different thing entirely - one is describing the man and a particular quality that some find attractive (his skin colour), along with the rest of his qualities (hopefully), whilst the other is reducing a black man to his cock and the colour of it.

Less of the dude. It’s patronising.

Sorry masser; sorry."

No need for that.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"It is just an abbreviation to get to the point quicker, a term to signal like-minded. When sex is involved things can get a bit more polarizing, but like any edgy word, it has its place and time. You will probably hear dividing opinions, so ask yourself if it's for you or not, you'll be right either way. I am not for or against, it's all about the context in the right environment.

"

Oh that makes it alright then. Note to self to post out for a BBDS who is a BCSW !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is widely being used as a platform for virtue signalling when, in fact, there is really no big problem.

If a woman (huge numbers of them, evidently) prefer (and preference is the clue) black men with big cocks what is the problem with that apart from the fact that inevitably some white guys with small cocks will feel side-stepped?

It is fairly obvious to me that the term BBC is a slightly playful (because of the association with our national broadcaster) abbreviation. The site is full of abbreviations.

Nobody seems to complain about the use of BBW but, of course, quite by chance, neither B in that stands for black and the W doesn't stand for white so less opportunity for the virtuous to pick a fight over it.

BBC is not in any way offensive the way it is habitually used on this site. Surely it is a compliment, especially on here where, like it or not, size usually matters and skin tone preference is perfectly legitimate?

I've never ever seen BBC used here as a slur. Hands up who actually has.

Why do white folks like you feel qualified to tell black folks like me, whether or not we should be offended by something that is obviously racialised?

Genuine question. "

Fair question to ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is just an abbreviation to get to the point quicker, a term to signal like-minded. When sex is involved things can get a bit more polarizing, but like any edgy word, it has its place and time. You will probably hear dividing opinions, so ask yourself if it's for you or not, you'll be right either way. I am not for or against, it's all about the context in the right environment.

Oh that makes it alright then. Note to self to post out for a BBDS who is a BCSW !!! "

A what who is a what now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well saying bbc is that racist comment

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Absolutely detest the term and tend to tell people not to refer to me by it when they land in my inbox using it.

I’m not a walking penis and that’s the last thing I would use as a selling point towards any potential suitor on this site.

Although I’ve accepted that because other black men use it that it’ll never go away.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Absolutely detest the term and tend to tell people not to refer to me by it when they land in my inbox using it.

I’m not a walking penis and that’s the last thing I would use as a selling point towards any potential suitor on this site.

Although I’ve accepted that because other black men use it that it’ll never go away. "

Can I ask you and some of the other gentleman on this thread. What do you say to a man who lands in your inbox asking if I want a BBC? I tried the other night to say it's not a term I was comfortable with, but was made to feel like a right wally for saying so. Any advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is widely being used as a platform for virtue signalling when, in fact, there is really no big problem.

If a woman (huge numbers of them, evidently) prefer (and preference is the clue) black men with big cocks what is the problem with that apart from the fact that inevitably some white guys with small cocks will feel side-stepped?

It is fairly obvious to me that the term BBC is a slightly playful (because of the association with our national broadcaster) abbreviation. The site is full of abbreviations.

Nobody seems to complain about the use of BBW but, of course, quite by chance, neither B in that stands for black and the W doesn't stand for white so less opportunity for the virtuous to pick a fight over it.

BBC is not in any way offensive the way it is habitually used on this site. Surely it is a compliment, especially on here where, like it or not, size usually matters and skin tone preference is perfectly legitimate?

I've never ever seen BBC used here as a slur. Hands up who actually has."

It's not virtue signalling it's a conversation based on people's appointments

Sorry but as a white man its not your place to say what black people should or shouldn't find offensive

And there is actually someone on this very thread who has commented on how much they dislike the term BBW so yes people do actually have a problem with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!

What's BMFC?

Black Mans Fan Club.

Another white dude tell us black folks (and those who agree) to shut up and stop being offended.

What you mention BMFC is different thing entirely - one is describing the man and a particular quality that some find attractive (his skin colour), along with the rest of his qualities (hopefully), whilst the other is reducing a black man to his cock and the colour of it.

Plus it’s an open thread where I haven’t seen white guys don’t speak."

Once again you've said something irrelevant and your response is "it's an open thread" no its not, it's literally about the use of the term BBC why do you as a white man find it necessary to keep trying to derail the conversation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely detest the term and tend to tell people not to refer to me by it when they land in my inbox using it.

I’m not a walking penis and that’s the last thing I would use as a selling point towards any potential suitor on this site.

Although I’ve accepted that because other black men use it that it’ll never go away.

Can I ask you and some of the other gentleman on this thread. What do you say to a man who lands in your inbox asking if I want a BBC? I tried the other night to say it's not a term I was comfortable with, but was made to feel like a right wally for saying so. Any advice? "

I'd like to know as well. And a few black guys have messaged in an apologetic way - as in "is it ok if I message". That's so shit that anyone feels they have to say that. Like WTF?

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton


"It is just an abbreviation to get to the point quicker, a term to signal like-minded. When sex is involved things can get a bit more polarizing, but like any edgy word, it has its place and time. You will probably hear dividing opinions, so ask yourself if it's for you or not, you'll be right either way. I am not for or against, it's all about the context in the right environment.

Oh that makes it alright then. Note to self to post out for a BBDS who is a BCSW !!! "

If nobody understands what you are saying you are on your own mate.

This is pretty simple to understand and if you don't well it is not for you.

You wouldn't wear lingerie in an office for a variety of reasons, the formality is wrong timing and place. As with terms like BBC, MILF, TV, BBW, Pawg you would not use them in an office or shopping centre setting, but if you are into the same kink or fetish, hence community why not? Certain kinks or fetishes are not for everyone, whether you are white, black, or purple. Simple logic. The same holds true for swinging not for everyone.

In the same way, for women receiving an unsolicited email like let's fuck, it is the way the email is framed that matters, not the word itself.

You wouldn't approach a woman and be sexually explicit, there is a time and place. When you get to the time and place you would know after connecting with the person. So all this BBC, CNN is out of context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely detest the term and tend to tell people not to refer to me by it when they land in my inbox using it.

I’m not a walking penis and that’s the last thing I would use as a selling point towards any potential suitor on this site.

Although I’ve accepted that because other black men use it that it’ll never go away.

Can I ask you and some of the other gentleman on this thread. What do you say to a man who lands in your inbox asking if I want a BBC? I tried the other night to say it's not a term I was comfortable with, but was made to feel like a right wally for saying so. Any advice? "

Block and keep it moving

I get it all the time and it makes me cringe, especially as a black woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is widely being used as a platform for virtue signalling when, in fact, there is really no big problem.

If a woman (huge numbers of them, evidently) prefer (and preference is the clue) black men with big cocks what is the problem with that apart from the fact that inevitably some white guys with small cocks will feel side-stepped?

It is fairly obvious to me that the term BBC is a slightly playful (because of the association with our national broadcaster) abbreviation. The site is full of abbreviations.

Nobody seems to complain about the use of BBW but, of course, quite by chance, neither B in that stands for black and the W doesn't stand for white so less opportunity for the virtuous to pick a fight over it.

BBC is not in any way offensive the way it is habitually used on this site. Surely it is a compliment, especially on here where, like it or not, size usually matters and skin tone preference is perfectly legitimate?

I've never ever seen BBC used here as a slur. Hands up who actually has.

It's not virtue signalling it's a conversation based on people's appointments

Sorry but as a white man its not your place to say what black people should or shouldn't find offensive

And there is actually someone on this very thread who has commented on how much they dislike the term BBW so yes people do actually have a problem with it "

I don't like BBW much. Cringeworthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is just an abbreviation to get to the point quicker, a term to signal like-minded. When sex is involved things can get a bit more polarizing, but like any edgy word, it has its place and time. You will probably hear dividing opinions, so ask yourself if it's for you or not, you'll be right either way. I am not for or against, it's all about the context in the right environment.

Oh that makes it alright then. Note to self to post out for a BBDS who is a BCSW !!!

If nobody understands what you are saying you are on your own mate.

This is pretty simple to understand and if you don't well it is not for you.

You wouldn't wear lingerie in an office for a variety of reasons, the formality is wrong timing and place. As with terms like BBC, MILF, TV, BBW, Pawg you would not use them in an office or shopping centre setting, but if you are into the same kink or fetish, hence community why not? Certain kinks or fetishes are not for everyone, whether you are white, black, or purple. Simple logic. The same holds true for swinging not for everyone.

In the same way, for women receiving an unsolicited email like let's fuck, it is the way the email is framed that matters, not the word itself.

You wouldn't approach a woman and be sexually explicit, there is a time and place. When you get to the time and place you would know after connecting with the person. So all this BBC, CNN is out of context."
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That fact that you refered to it as a fetish/kink says it all...

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Absolutely detest the term and tend to tell people not to refer to me by it when they land in my inbox using it.

I’m not a walking penis and that’s the last thing I would use as a selling point towards any potential suitor on this site.

Although I’ve accepted that because other black men use it that it’ll never go away.

Can I ask you and some of the other gentleman on this thread. What do you say to a man who lands in your inbox asking if I want a BBC? I tried the other night to say it's not a term I was comfortable with, but was made to feel like a right wally for saying so. Any advice?

Block and keep it moving

I get it all the time and it makes me cringe, especially as a black woman"

I have done in the past. But I read on a thread that men felt some women were blocking due to skin colour and felt a crappy. I didn't want anyone to think that was the case. Plus kind of wanted to say I don't men to play to the stereotype. But maybe you're right it's not something I can do anything about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A black couple I know (male / female) say they find it a racist term, and really struggle with it based upon their viewpoint and interpretation of its roots for some people. Another pet hate of theirs is around someone who is of differing parental heritage (e.g. white mother black father) and self labels in a way to discard an element of that, whilst promote their attraction in the eyes of another.

It’s interesting isn’t it as a subject. But personally I just stay away from any labels overall and all the abbreviations etc.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton


"

That fact that you refered to it as a fetish/kink says it all..."

Are you saying kink/fetish is bad, I refer it to kink and fetish due to a post above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is just an abbreviation to get to the point quicker, a term to signal like-minded. When sex is involved things can get a bit more polarizing, but like any edgy word, it has its place and time. You will probably hear dividing opinions, so ask yourself if it's for you or not, you'll be right either way. I am not for or against, it's all about the context in the right environment.

Oh that makes it alright then. Note to self to post out for a BBDS who is a BCSW !!!

If nobody understands what you are saying you are on your own mate.

This is pretty simple to understand and if you don't well it is not for you.

You wouldn't wear lingerie in an office for a variety of reasons, the formality is wrong timing and place. As with terms like BBC, MILF, TV, BBW, Pawg you would not use them in an office or shopping centre setting, but if you are into the same kink or fetish, hence community why not? Certain kinks or fetishes are not for everyone, whether you are white, black, or purple. Simple logic. The same holds true for swinging not for everyone.

In the same way, for women receiving an unsolicited email like let's fuck, it is the way the email is framed that matters, not the word itself.

You wouldn't approach a woman and be sexually explicit, there is a time and place. When you get to the time and place you would know after connecting with the person. So all this BBC, CNN is out of context."

You're the one not making any sense. It's not about context. It's not just an abbreviation and the people you're talking about have said loud and clear how they feel. If someone messages me about fucking me because I'm a MILF or. BBW - they will getting short shrift too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That fact that you refered to it as a fetish/kink says it all...

Are you saying kink/fetish is bad, I refer it to kink and fetish due to a post above."

No, I, like the other black men who have commented are saying that black men/people are not a kink or a fetish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely detest the term and tend to tell people not to refer to me by it when they land in my inbox using it.

I’m not a walking penis and that’s the last thing I would use as a selling point towards any potential suitor on this site.

Although I’ve accepted that because other black men use it that it’ll never go away.

Can I ask you and some of the other gentleman on this thread. What do you say to a man who lands in your inbox asking if I want a BBC? I tried the other night to say it's not a term I was comfortable with, but was made to feel like a right wally for saying so. Any advice?

Block and keep it moving

I get it all the time and it makes me cringe, especially as a black woman

I have done in the past. But I read on a thread that men felt some women were blocking due to skin colour and felt a crappy. I didn't want anyone to think that was the case. Plus kind of wanted to say I don't men to play to the stereotype. But maybe you're right it's not something I can do anything about "

I'm afraid that even if we said we are saying no and it's not to do with skin colour, some guys wouldn't believe us.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"It is just an abbreviation to get to the point quicker, a term to signal like-minded. When sex is involved things can get a bit more polarizing, but like any edgy word, it has its place and time. You will probably hear dividing opinions, so ask yourself if it's for you or not, you'll be right either way. I am not for or against, it's all about the context in the right environment.

Oh that makes it alright then. Note to self to post out for a BBDS who is a BCSW !!!

If nobody understands what you are saying you are on your own mate.

This is pretty simple to understand and if you don't well it is not for you.

You wouldn't wear lingerie in an office for a variety of reasons, the formality is wrong timing and place. As with terms like BBC, MILF, TV, BBW, Pawg you would not use them in an office or shopping centre setting, but if you are into the same kink or fetish, hence community why not? Certain kinks or fetishes are not for everyone, whether you are white, black, or purple. Simple logic. The same holds true for swinging not for everyone.

In the same way, for women receiving an unsolicited email like let's fuck, it is the way the email is framed that matters, not the word itself.

You wouldn't approach a woman and be sexually explicit, there is a time and place. When you get to the time and place you would know after connecting with the person. So all this BBC, CNN is out of context..

That fact that you refered to it as a fetish/kink says it all..."

Exactly

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton


"It is just an abbreviation to get to the point quicker, a term to signal like-minded. When sex is involved things can get a bit more polarizing, but like any edgy word, it has its place and time. You will probably hear dividing opinions, so ask yourself if it's for you or not, you'll be right either way. I am not for or against, it's all about the context in the right environment.

Oh that makes it alright then. Note to self to post out for a BBDS who is a BCSW !!!

If nobody understands what you are saying you are on your own mate.

This is pretty simple to understand and if you don't well it is not for you.

You wouldn't wear lingerie in an office for a variety of reasons, the formality is wrong timing and place. As with terms like BBC, MILF, TV, BBW, Pawg you would not use them in an office or shopping centre setting, but if you are into the same kink or fetish, hence community why not? Certain kinks or fetishes are not for everyone, whether you are white, black, or purple. Simple logic. The same holds true for swinging not for everyone.

In the same way, for women receiving an unsolicited email like let's fuck, it is the way the email is framed that matters, not the word itself.

You wouldn't approach a woman and be sexually explicit, there is a time and place. When you get to the time and place you would know after connecting with the person. So all this BBC, CNN is out of context.

You're the one not making any sense. It's not about context. It's not just an abbreviation and the people you're talking about have said loud and clear how they feel. If someone messages me about fucking me because I'm a MILF or. BBW - they will getting short shrift too. "

This doesn't mean that other women are not attracted to the playful tone of MILF or BBW. If you don't like it, that's OK, not every personality is going to be appealing to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is just an abbreviation to get to the point quicker, a term to signal like-minded. When sex is involved things can get a bit more polarizing, but like any edgy word, it has its place and time. You will probably hear dividing opinions, so ask yourself if it's for you or not, you'll be right either way. I am not for or against, it's all about the context in the right environment.

Oh that makes it alright then. Note to self to post out for a BBDS who is a BCSW !!!

If nobody understands what you are saying you are on your own mate.

This is pretty simple to understand and if you don't well it is not for you.

You wouldn't wear lingerie in an office for a variety of reasons, the formality is wrong timing and place. As with terms like BBC, MILF, TV, BBW, Pawg you would not use them in an office or shopping centre setting, but if you are into the same kink or fetish, hence community why not? Certain kinks or fetishes are not for everyone, whether you are white, black, or purple. Simple logic. The same holds true for swinging not for everyone.

In the same way, for women receiving an unsolicited email like let's fuck, it is the way the email is framed that matters, not the word itself.

You wouldn't approach a woman and be sexually explicit, there is a time and place. When you get to the time and place you would know after connecting with the person. So all this BBC, CNN is out of context.

You're the one not making any sense. It's not about context. It's not just an abbreviation and the people you're talking about have said loud and clear how they feel. If someone messages me about fucking me because I'm a MILF or. BBW - they will getting short shrift too.

This doesn't mean that other women are not attracted to the playful tone of MILF or BBW. If you don't like it, that's OK, not every personality is going to be appealing to you."

Ok. I like the playful tone of cockwomble

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!

What's BMFC?

Black Mans Fan Club.

Another white dude tell us black folks (and those who agree) to shut up and stop being offended.

What you mention BMFC is different thing entirely - one is describing the man and a particular quality that some find attractive (his skin colour), along with the rest of his qualities (hopefully), whilst the other is reducing a black man to his cock and the colour of it.

Plus it’s an open thread where I haven’t seen white guys don’t speak.

Once again you've said something irrelevant and your response is "it's an open thread" no its not, it's literally about the use of the term BBC why do you as a white man find it necessary to keep trying to derail the conversation?"

I find your response tricky and incomprehensible. I haven’t tried to derail any conversation. You might as well say that about any thread as people add to the conversation.

I can see we could not agree on anything so I’ll pass you by on any other topic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about BMFC ? It’s a way of life for some women. Unfortunately when it comes to sex many things are blunt as it were. We’re not all someone’s type or tread on toes. In fact I find it a tricky lifestyle at times and too easy to offend and get hurt too.

My two successes on here were with black women. My preference but I don’t stress it. Both ladies though only did white guys. Their choice. I certainly didn’t feel like a piece of meat!

What's BMFC?

Black Mans Fan Club.

Another white dude tell us black folks (and those who agree) to shut up and stop being offended.

What you mention BMFC is different thing entirely - one is describing the man and a particular quality that some find attractive (his skin colour), along with the rest of his qualities (hopefully), whilst the other is reducing a black man to his cock and the colour of it.

Plus it’s an open thread where I haven’t seen white guys don’t speak.

Once again you've said something irrelevant and your response is "it's an open thread" no its not, it's literally about the use of the term BBC why do you as a white man find it necessary to keep trying to derail the conversation?

I find your response tricky and incomprehensible. I haven’t tried to derail any conversation. You might as well say that about any thread as people add to the conversation.

I can see we could not agree on anything so I’ll pass you by on any other topic."

No I wouldn't say that on any thread as people usually don't struggle to say on topic.

I'm not the only person who has said things you're saying is irrelevant to the current topic so I think you'll find I'm not the issue here.

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley


"I’m against it and it annoys me when I get messages like “do you like BBC” . I like cock as simple as that, I don’t need you to announce the size or colour. I actually prefer men who are modest about their size or don’t go on about it full stop. "

Do you like a lovely average cock attached a a larger than life kinda guy with a heart of gold and jokes to make your bladder weak

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"I’m against it and it annoys me when I get messages like “do you like BBC” . I like cock as simple as that, I don’t need you to announce the size or colour. I actually prefer men who are modest about their size or don’t go on about it full stop.

Do you like a lovely average cock attached a a larger than life kinda guy with a heart of gold and jokes to make your bladder weak

"

As long as you leave out the “average cock” I don’t need to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great feedback

Thanks all

Personally I have never know this term outside of Fab or the swinging world.

It caused me so degree of conflict as it seems to be a norm here, I work in the field of Equality and Diversity so entering a world where it seemed to be rife was pretty strange.

However I note it seems to be a successful strategy for some.

Love the passion this thread has inspired.

I personally don’t like the term and hope that we can start a movement to educate.

I would prefer to be considered a person ready to play as opposed to a dick attached to a random black male body.

Happy Wednesday "

Interesting thoughts OP and I thank you for your input into this discussion.Happy Wednesday and the rest of the week too

Curious as to how you would see it from an equality and diversity standpoint?

Also interesting to know where your personal dislike stems from.

Mine comes from the way I’ve seen in my personal experience how women who use the term treat black men like I said have heard slurs thrown about and one or two situations where it clearly crossed a line once a very violent line.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I’m against it and it annoys me when I get messages like “do you like BBC” . I like cock as simple as that, I don’t need you to announce the size or colour. I actually prefer men who are modest about their size or don’t go on about it full stop. "

You should get on with me then, as my hands are my speciality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it objectifies, and it definitely reinforces the stereotype of black men as fundamentally sexually aggressive.

But in the flipside, it can be be fun to play with exaggerated roles , even if they do feel a bit clunky and not particularly nuanced. My love of men in builders boots verges on the Village People level of subtle masculinity for example

Maybe that sort of racial play is mitigated by how much the other domains of your personality are acknowledged / engaged with?

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By *nigmatic x DivinityCouple
over a year ago

Up town top ranking


"What’s your view on the term BBC?

For or against.

Is it degrading?

Is it promoting?

Comments please."

I don't like it!

Cock is cock right?

Regardless of colour, girth, length.

However each to their own,

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Absolutely detest the term and tend to tell people not to refer to me by it when they land in my inbox using it.

I’m not a walking penis and that’s the last thing I would use as a selling point towards any potential suitor on this site.

Although I’ve accepted that because other black men use it that it’ll never go away.

Can I ask you and some of the other gentleman on this thread. What do you say to a man who lands in your inbox asking if I want a BBC? I tried the other night to say it's not a term I was comfortable with, but was made to feel like a right wally for saying so. Any advice? "

I politely tell them thank you for the post, but you obviously have not actually read my profile… and then it goes in the bin…

It’s one of those things about making a good first impression…..

Language is a funny thing… there is a obvious difference between saying for example you are more attracted to black guys, than saying you are attracted to “n word” … the intention may be the same but you would never use the latter!

The argument I hear from some black guys is that they are reclaiming the term… nope not me! For me it’s all integrity!!!!

It’s a bit like asking if you would rather be known as:

a) A black guy who happens to be nice!

b) A nice guy who happens to be black!

It might not sound like there is a difference… but one of those puts the onus on the thing I can control (the nice) rather than the thing I can’t (the black)

Don’t get me wrong… being black is has and always will be part of the thing that make me me, with the experiences in life that has come up and how I have dealt with them….. but it isn’t the one thing that defines me!!! And that in essence is that the term actually does!!!

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"What’s your view on the term BBC?

For or against.

Is it degrading?

Is it promoting?

Comments please."

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It's a snappy, porn inspired acronym, I guess it accurately describes a cock that's big and black!

What I hate is when it's used to describe people, it seems to have been adopted as such eg "looking to meet BBC", which objectifies black men and inevitably perpetuates stereotypical thinking that's been going on for centuries, leeching into real life and how black people are viewed generally.

If you're white and looking for encounters with black males who are well endowed why can't you just say so? Equally if you're a black man who describes yourself as such, why reduce yourself to a "cock" (pardon the pun), aren't you much more than that?!

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

Unless guys will literally ignore offensive terminology just to get their dick wet… imagine that."

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The nails been hit on the head!

Imagine the outrage if a black man who describes himself as "BBC" here was referred to as such in the workplace?!

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

If it’s not offensive or insulting- where’s the problem?

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If it’s not offensive or insulting- where’s the problem? "

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I don't think that's the universal view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had any acronym or term that categorises a fetish.

People are people, race, age, size, gender should not come into it.

And nobody has the right to tell others that they shouldn't feel offended by anything because we all have different experiences/backgrounds and family dynamics, customs and cultures that shape our views and ways of thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s your view on the term BBC?

For or against.

Is it degrading?

Is it promoting?

Comments please."

I'm not really a telly guy so not really into all those type of channels.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London


"What’s your view on the term BBC?

For or against.

Is it degrading?

Is it promoting?

Comments please.

................................

It's a snappy, porn inspired acronym, I guess it accurately describes a cock that's big and black!

What I hate is when it's used to describe people, it seems to have been adopted as such eg "looking to meet BBC", which objectifies black men and inevitably perpetuates stereotypical thinking that's been going on for centuries, leeching into real life and how black people are viewed generally.

If you're white and looking for encounters with black males who are well endowed why can't you just say so? Equally if you're a black man who describes yourself as such, why reduce yourself to a "cock" (pardon the pun), aren't you much more than that?!"

You’ve totally hit the nail on the head right here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it’s not offensive or insulting- where’s the problem? "

Have you read the thread?

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

It seems that the majority on this thread including the black guys that have commented don’t like it.I think it would have been interesting if a black guy who has the term BBC in his username or profile and commented on this thread as to why he uses it.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I don't like it. I think it's another derogatory term. Just my view

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London


"Absolutely detest the term and tend to tell people not to refer to me by it when they land in my inbox using it.

I’m not a walking penis and that’s the last thing I would use as a selling point towards any potential suitor on this site.

Although I’ve accepted that because other black men use it that it’ll never go away.

Can I ask you and some of the other gentleman on this thread. What do you say to a man who lands in your inbox asking if I want a BBC? I tried the other night to say it's not a term I was comfortable with, but was made to feel like a right wally for saying so. Any advice? "

I’d politely inform him that he should think a little more highly of himself than just to reduce himself to one part of his appendage. Inform him that it is not a term you feel comfortable with and ask what else he has to offer or bring to the table. That would be my viewpoint

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"If it’s not offensive or insulting- where’s the problem?

Have you read the thread?"

Some of it, it then became so tedious.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If it’s not offensive or insulting- where’s the problem?

Have you read the thread?

Some of it, it then became so tedious. "

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Your erudite contributions have hardly set the forum interchange on fire!

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"If it’s not offensive or insulting- where’s the problem?

Have you read the thread?

Some of it, it then became so tedious.

.................................

Your erudite contributions have hardly set the forum interchange on fire!"

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever I read BBC I keep thinking why are they looking for the TV company? Then I remember what site I'm on

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I haven't read the thread.

Personally, I'm not a fan of BBC, BWC or BBW.

If others choose to reduce themselves to a physical trait and ir their skin colour and they are happy to do so, fine, but I wouldn't be interested in such a person.

I see such terms as somewhat dehumanising. I'm attracted to individuals and personality, not specific body parts.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Excellent post.

Nowhere else would it be acceptable to mention race, colour or ethnicity

I saw a profile yesterday that mentioned “no coloured’s”

For GOD’s sake ????"

Did the 1920s ring up and ask for their profile back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate bbc , its cos of bbc we have to have a tv licence

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