FabSwingers.com forum: Pushing out of your comfort zones

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you do it, do you lean into fears?

Do you deliberately push them to see what comes up?

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Nope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often and usually not regretted it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So it differs for me

Certain things yes. Others no chance

I hate snakes. No rational reason. But wouldn’t get within feet of one.

Other things I do like to push myself. Almost test myself

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Hmmm.....work or personal?

For work, I challenge convention and get myself into bother, but protect my team with passion.

Personally, I'm on here. That can be nerve wracking for a plain looking guy like me x

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Nah, I run and hide like little babby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes all day every day.

I live way outside of my comfort zone and go after what I deserve not what I think I can get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no

My comfort zone can only be broken in the moment

other wise it’s hard locked but get me in that moment then you never know what could happen

I am easy to push in the moment

The lust takes over and just go with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I try to be as meticulous about my zones as possible. I'll only try things if I know the reward outweighs any risk. It can be boring, but it's safe, and safe is sustainable

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Often and usually not regretted it. "

Awesome!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes all day every day.

I live way outside of my comfort zone and go after what I deserve not what I think I can get"

That’s great, do you think it brings growth…?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Yes, in a huge way. Things will either work out or they won't. I'm really worried and concerned but just going with it.

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, in a huge way. Things will either work out or they won't. I'm really worried and concerned but just going with it.

Ruby"

That’s brave

. I hope it works out for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t do it enough in my honest opinion. For myself I think it is usually is a positive thing to break through…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexual boundaries? To a point yes but there are lines that will never be crossed. Professionally? Every single day as I strive to be the best at what I do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t do it enough in my honest opinion. For myself I think it is usually is a positive thing to break through… "

To what end do you think…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes all day every day.

I live way outside of my comfort zone and go after what I deserve not what I think I can get

That’s great, do you think it brings growth…?"

How can it not when you are constantly challenging yourself to do this that you aren’t comfortable with. The trick is to start and just keep going bigger

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes all day every day.

I live way outside of my comfort zone and go after what I deserve not what I think I can get

That’s great, do you think it brings growth…?

How can it not when you are constantly challenging yourself to do this that you aren’t comfortable with. The trick is to start and just keep going bigger"

Love it! I’m doing the same

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Yes always both at work and in my personal life

It's better to regret something you did do than something you didn't do

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

Totally, what else are we here for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes always both at work and in my personal life

It's better to regret something you did do than something you didn't do

My mum says that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes all day every day.

I live way outside of my comfort zone and go after what I deserve not what I think I can get

That’s great, do you think it brings growth…?

How can it not when you are constantly challenging yourself to do this that you aren’t comfortable with. The trick is to start and just keep going bigger

Love it! I’m doing the same

Think the biggest dream you can have and the only thing stopping you is you. It’s really that simple. Learning to get out of your own way is so powerful

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes deffo bit at time till I beat the fear! My biggest one was windows I would not even go in a room with no blinds or curtains when dark outside was really scared! Now I'm fine never pull the kitchen blind down only one I shut is my bedroom as I'm on ground floor x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes with some things, no with others.

Doing "dangerous" things such as doing a mountain bike drop or jump. riding a motorbike as fast as I can down a country road or track. I push it, I get a buzz from it.

Work not so much. I've never had that desire. Aslong as I get paid enough and enough free time I'm all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better to try and fail than fail to try

That’s what I was always told

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely yes! How can you move forward and develop yourself if you don't push yourself out of your comfort zone

If I hadn't of done that, I would never of done my degree or any subsequent learning.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I think if you don’t push your boundaries you don’t get to experience things in life.

Even those things you are fearful about, and I don’t mean full on dread, but something that gets your adrenaline going, if you don’t try it you’ll never know if you fear it or love it.

Obviously there are some fears you can’t do that with, as well just idiotic / dangerous, so it’s finding that right balance to take that step and knowing the risk involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if you don’t push your boundaries you don’t get to experience things in life.

Even those things you are fearful about, and I don’t mean full on dread, but something that gets your adrenaline going, if you don’t try it you’ll never know if you fear it or love it.

Obviously there are some fears you can’t do that with, as well just idiotic / dangerous, so it’s finding that right balance to take that step and knowing the risk involved. "

But those fears can be faced if the reason is strong enough

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London & North Wessex Downs

Planning, planning and more planning.....plus a few assessments and some goals en route.... and after that it's surprising what's achievable...

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Yes, in a huge way. Things will either work out or they won't. I'm really worried and concerned but just going with it.

Ruby

That’s brave

. I hope it works out for you. "

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t do it enough in my honest opinion. For myself I think it is usually is a positive thing to break through…

To what end do you think…"

Hmmm that’s hard to answer, I guess it gets to a point where it’s a definite “no” and you won’t cross that line you have set. But sometimes you go around that line and find out whether you like it or not…

Like any self discoveries, that notion you don’t know unless you try it - you might find something you love and something you don’t ? As I did last year, I went way beyond my comfort zone and it’s only been positive since

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

No, I'm exactly the opposite, I do everything I can to stay well within my comfort zone, the joys of having depression, anxiety, PTSD, mild OCD & agoraphobia!

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I am on here. that’s enough I think

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I think if you don’t push your boundaries you don’t get to experience things in life.

Even those things you are fearful about, and I don’t mean full on dread, but something that gets your adrenaline going, if you don’t try it you’ll never know if you fear it or love it.

Obviously there are some fears you can’t do that with, as well just idiotic / dangerous, so it’s finding that right balance to take that step and knowing the risk involved.

But those fears can be faced if the reason is strong enough"

Ok I do understand where you are coming from and to a point I agree. Two examples, I’m petrified of fire & water. I’m not going to push myself to get used to fire, unless it is an absolutely necessary to get out of somewhere or someone out of a fire. However, 2 years ago I did push myself in relation to water.

It was the first time I’ve ventured into the sea in 34 years after nearly drowning as a 17 year old. The only reason I did it was my son wanted a photo of a turtle in the wild. I had a brilliant guide who I was very upfront with about my fears, before we even got anywhere near the water. If it wasn’t for him talking me through, keeping me calm and dealing with a panic mid swim, I wouldn’t have gone in at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Love these answers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, I'm exactly the opposite, I do everything I can to stay well within my comfort zone, the joys of having depression, anxiety, PTSD, mild OCD & agoraphobia!

You’re doing what works for you. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate already.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I think the older I get the more I push myself out of my comfort zone.

I was doing karaoke in a pub the other week, dressing as a woman at the weekend.

Oh and I quite like an audience when I’m spanking C in dungeons

I don’t crave to be centre of attention but I don’t mind putting myself out there…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had to come out more times than editions of Readers Digest. Eventually you just think fuck it. After that everything just got easier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think the older I get the more I push myself out of my comfort zone.

I was doing karaoke in a pub the other week, dressing as a woman at the weekend.

Oh and I quite like an audience when I’m spanking C in dungeons

I don’t crave to be centre of attention but I don’t mind putting myself out there…

Do you think getting older has some bearing on you pushing more?

I had an audience being spanked last time I was at a dungeon

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve had to come out more times than editions of Readers Digest. Eventually you just think fuck it. After that everything just got easier. "

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"I think the older I get the more I push myself out of my comfort zone.

I was doing karaoke in a pub the other week, dressing as a woman at the weekend.

Oh and I quite like an audience when I’m spanking C in dungeons

I don’t crave to be centre of attention but I don’t mind putting myself out there…

Do you think getting older has some bearing on you pushing more?

I had an audience being spanked last time I was at a dungeon

For me, certainly this is true. I'm a lot more open to experimentation than I was when I was younger. I'm also aware that at some point, my body isn't going to quite look like this any more, so I'm making hay while the sun shines

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Part of my recovery from OCD has involved a lot of exposing myself to situations that make me uncomfortable and cause me distress and just sitting with that feeling until it diminishes.

It has carried over into many areas of my life, I'm not scared to be uncomfortable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes as much as I can. But if something feels too much and unbearable I have no shame in taking a step back. You've got to look after yourself too.

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By *az080378Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

I wish I could get out of my comfort zone but I'm stuck in it!! Part of me just wants to throw caution to the wind and do all the things I want to do but I hold myself back which is so frustrating

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes as much as I can. But if something feels too much and unbearable I have no shame in taking a step back. You've got to look after yourself too. "

Well that’s wisdom too, and you’re absolutely right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wish I could get out of my comfort zone but I'm stuck in it!! Part of me just wants to throw caution to the wind and do all the things I want to do but I hold myself back which is so frustrating

Could you find a really small step to take, if you want to and it’s frustrating you?

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By *az080378Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

"I wish I could get out of my comfort zone but I'm stuck in it!! Part of me just wants to throw caution to the wind and do all the things I want to do but I hold myself back which is so frustrating

Could you find a really small step to take, if you want to and it’s frustrating you? "

In my head it's go big or go home,do everything all at once or not at all, I guess I need to rethink!!!!

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

I am starting to after years of not. It's interesting to say the least

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By *risxbrisxMan
over a year ago

Bristol

The last few years I've been trying too a lot more, turns out I can surprise myself sometimes and 99% of the time it has been a net positive to my life.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

How would you ever grow if you didn't? I certainly wouldn't want to live a completely stagnant life, there are far too many experiences to be had and wonderful things to see.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I deliberately push my comfort zone if I’m feeling stale, onset depression.

It creates a fresh energy, the mind doesn’t like confusion so goes into, “I need to learn something to get out of this confusion”.

Might be as simple as driving a different way to work, see what free swimming in cold weather is like.

Just know if you walk down the same path, don’t be surprised if you arrive at the same place. In that place you haven’t nothing to complain about what life isn’t teaching you, or opportunities missed.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"I think the older I get the more I push myself out of my comfort zone.

I was doing karaoke in a pub the other week, dressing as a woman at the weekend.

Oh and I quite like an audience when I’m spanking C in dungeons

I don’t crave to be centre of attention but I don’t mind putting myself out there…

Do you think getting older has some bearing on you pushing more?

I had an audience being spanked last time I was at a dungeon

I think it’s a combination of things…age, knowing we don’t have years and years of this. Barriers are being broken down together and just thinking f**k it, you only have one life!

It’s very addictive once you get that taste of excitement!

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I wish I could get out of my comfort zone but I'm stuck in it!! Part of me just wants to throw caution to the wind and do all the things I want to do but I hold myself back which is so frustrating

Could you find a really small step to take, if you want to and it’s frustrating you?

In my head it's go big or go home,do everything all at once or not at all, I guess I need to rethink!!!!"

Yeah, you’ll tie yourself in knots trying to tackle it that way…..which isn’t much use unless you’re into shibari.

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By *az080378Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

"I wish I could get out of my comfort zone but I'm stuck in it!! Part of me just wants to throw caution to the wind and do all the things I want to do but I hold myself back which is so frustrating

Could you find a really small step to take, if you want to and it’s frustrating you?

In my head it's go big or go home,do everything all at once or not at all, I guess I need to rethink!!!!

Yeah, you’ll tie yourself in knots trying to tackle it that way…..which isn’t much use unless you’re into shibari.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't have many sexual boundaries..but you know, nobody cuts my hair

So those i do have are pretty deep and meaningful and related to things that would make me panic /totally lose control (in a bad way), and would likely stop all play

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