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"I have no doubt I will be slated by some for this thread but so be it. I love a good banter and really enjoy the interaction with lots of people on here and in some ways it has opened my eyes a little bit and mostly for the better. However some threads do bother me a little as to how hurtful or damaging can be to someone's confidence. Threads like rate the person above etc. How does the person who is rated really low or not a 'hot' etc is meant to feel? I am not talking from experience as I don't participate in those but just wondering. Btw way, I don't mean people fabing pics and such like which is all a bit of fun and generally people are kind to others. Only threads which seem to directly be putting people in some sort of order. Perhaps I am missing the point and as I don't mean to cause offence to anyone, I apologise in advance. "Was just thinking this mate after the other thread! I guess if you volunteer for a reaction by posting yourself, then it's kind of self inflicted. However... A no suffices, no need for snidey additional comments. We can't appeal to everyone that's a given, but there's no need for negativity | |||
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"I have no doubt I will be slated by some for this thread but so be it. I love a good banter and really enjoy the interaction with lots of people on here and in some ways it has opened my eyes a little bit and mostly for the better. However some threads do bother me a little as to how hurtful or damaging can be to someone's confidence. Threads like rate the person above etc. How does the person who is rated really low or not a 'hot' etc is meant to feel? I am not talking from experience as I don't participate in those but just wondering. Btw way, I don't mean people fabing pics and such like which is all a bit of fun and generally people are kind to others. Only threads which seem to directly be putting people in some sort of order. Perhaps I am missing the point and as I don't mean to cause offence to anyone, I apologise in advance. "Do you know what, this did cross my mind earlier. It must have been crappy to be deemed not hot. Or ignored. That’s why I avoid it until someone I’m attracted to pops up. Most threads are pretty inclusive though, and not many people on here would go out of their way to make someone feel bad. | |||
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"That's why I don't participate really in the "who's the most (insert your own word) type threads, they are just LPP and SB at its finest x" What's LLP and SB? | |||
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"I don't do any scoring ones but I have done the Fab and hot or not ones. I always say hot to the women and I try to say not in a polite way to the guys." You’re lovely, but have sort of inadvertently proven (in your loveliness) why we shouldn’t take compliments given out here too seriously | |||
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"I don't do any scoring ones but I have done the Fab and hot or not ones. I always say hot to the women and I try to say not in a polite way to the guys. You’re lovely, but have sort of inadvertently proven (in your loveliness) why we shouldn’t take compliments given out here too seriously "Especially on the forums...its just flirty fun  x | |||
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"I don't do any scoring ones but I have done the Fab and hot or not ones. I always say hot to the women and I try to say not in a polite way to the guys." Davie, I'm hurt | |||
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"I don't do any scoring ones but I have done the Fab and hot or not ones. I always say hot to the women and I try to say not in a polite way to the guys. You’re lovely, but have sort of inadvertently proven (in your loveliness) why we shouldn’t take compliments given out here too seriously
Especially on the forums...its just flirty fun x"Two Hots on the one post. Oooooft.  | |||
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"I don't take part in those as I don't need some internet stranger telling me what I already know!" Sexy and I know it? | |||
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"I don't do any scoring ones but I have done the Fab and hot or not ones. I always say hot to the women and I try to say not in a polite way to the guys. Davie, I'm hurt "Firey you're my man crush. | |||
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"Perhaps I am missing the point and as I don't mean to cause offence to anyone, I apologise in advance. "The only point you could be said to be missing is that it's entirely voluntary to participate in those threads. If one cannot take any potentially upsetting info, then doing post | |||
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"I don't do any scoring ones but I have done the Fab and hot or not ones. I always say hot to the women and I try to say not in a polite way to the guys. Davie, I'm hurt
Firey you're my man crush. "^Doh, Fifey. | |||
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"I don't take part in those as I don't need some internet stranger telling me what I already know! Sexy and I know it? "Is the correct/incorrect (delete as appropriate) answer | |||
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"I don't do any scoring ones but I have done the Fab and hot or not ones. I always say hot to the women and I try to say not in a polite way to the guys. Davie, I'm hurt
Firey you're my man crush.
^Doh, Fifey. "I'm filling up here man! | |||
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"I don't do any scoring ones but I have done the Fab and hot or not ones. I always say hot to the women and I try to say not in a polite way to the guys. Davie, I'm hurt
Firey you're my man crush.
^Doh, Fifey.
I'm filling up here man!"Get a room you 2 lol x | |||
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"I don't do any scoring ones but I have done the Fab and hot or not ones. I always say hot to the women and I try to say not in a polite way to the guys. Davie, I'm hurt
Firey you're my man crush.
^Doh, Fifey.
I'm filling up here man!
Get a room you 2 lol x"There's room for 3. | |||
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"The people who initiate those threads are (often) expecting to rank highly. It’s just an exercise in narcissism and attention seeking. Participate for the attention and you risk the slight embarrassment of not being fawned over. Frankly it’s just a bit sad. " We want nothing to do with any thread that is x,y or z about other posters in the thread. Fab this, rate that etc etc. It's the same with posts talking about spesific fab members. Those types of posts bring nothing to the site for the wider base of users and as far as we are concerned, more often than not, it's an exercise in popularity. But such is the way fab works. It's dominated by single guys so certain female members are going to be ground zero for attention and certain people also adore attention. It's the same with hot photos. It's nearly always the same names at the top si.ply because so many men are consistently drooling over those same fab members. Not a bad thing per se, its just what's gonna happen when the majority of the user base is men. It ain't for us though. If a post is engaging, that's what draws our attention rather than rating someone's body parts. Easier to just ignore them as they're not going to go away. | |||
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"I don't do any scoring ones but I have done the Fab and hot or not ones. I always say hot to the women and I try to say not in a polite way to the guys. Davie, I'm hurt
Firey you're my man crush.
^Doh, Fifey.
I'm filling up here man!
Get a room you 2 lol x
There's room for 3. "  x | |||
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"You don't need to be on the forum long to figure out what kind of threads are for you and which to avoid. I have no desire for a random bloke to tell me I'm a 6 or whatever he ranks me as. And other threads where I will be skipped or not receive a mention etc. But it's easy to just pass them by. We are all adults, just bypass what's not your cup of tea and leave it to others. " Your definitely not a 6 more like a 20 out off 10 your wonderful in ever way x | |||
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"You don't need to be on the forum long to figure out what kind of threads are for you and which to avoid. I have no desire for a random bloke to tell me I'm a 6 or whatever he ranks me as. And other threads where I will be skipped or not receive a mention etc. But it's easy to just pass them by. We are all adults, just bypass what's not your cup of tea and leave it to others. " Definitely surpass a 6 | |||
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"You don't need to be on the forum long to figure out what kind of threads are for you and which to avoid. I have no desire for a random bloke to tell me I'm a 6 or whatever he ranks me as. And other threads where I will be skipped or not receive a mention etc. But it's easy to just pass them by. We are all adults, just bypass what's not your cup of tea and leave it to others. " Oi turn that 6 upside down you | |||
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"For me it comes down to a lack of self awareness on here, people can seem like they almost tailor themselves to a thread topic - on one there the outspoken flirtatious type on the other they want to be perceived as the nicest person out who thinks everyone is wonderful…! There’s a distinct air of please like me that irks me. Just do you and park this ridiculous accusatory mentality that comes with a dislike to others behaviour there’s 30 odd thousand people on here we will never all have the same opinion - if someone doesn’t find you hot someone else will, if someone isn’t keen on what you post someone else will love it - there’s zero need to be nasty/judgemental to someone and there’s a bunch of that goes on here and in the real world, unfortunately. We’re all adults and should know from a thread topic if that’s going to trigger us by getting involved - I’m here for the lighthearted flirts and banter if I’m skipped over or someone doesn’t think I’m this or that it really has no bearing on me it’s just preference and preference is in fact allowed however much some people try to squash it! Chin up OP don’t take the opinions of what are essential strangers to heart xx" This. | |||
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"For me it comes down to a lack of self awareness on here, people can seem like they almost tailor themselves to a thread topic - on one there the outspoken flirtatious type on the other they want to be perceived as the nicest person out who thinks everyone is wonderful…! There’s a distinct air of please like me that irks me. Just do you and park this ridiculous accusatory mentality that comes with a dislike to others behaviour there’s 30 odd thousand people on here we will never all have the same opinion - if someone doesn’t find you hot someone else will, if someone isn’t keen on what you post someone else will love it - there’s zero need to be nasty/judgemental to someone and there’s a bunch of that goes on here and in the real world, unfortunately. We’re all adults and should know from a thread topic if that’s going to trigger us by getting involved - I’m here for the lighthearted flirts and banter if I’m skipped over or someone doesn’t think I’m this or that it really has no bearing on me it’s just preference and preference is in fact allowed however much some people try to squash it! Chin up OP don’t take the opinions of what are essential strangers to heart xx" Wise as always Plus HOT | |||
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"For me it comes down to a lack of self awareness on here, people can seem like they almost tailor themselves to a thread topic - on one there the outspoken flirtatious type on the other they want to be perceived as the nicest person out who thinks everyone is wonderful…! There’s a distinct air of please like me that irks me. Just do you and park this ridiculous accusatory mentality that comes with a dislike to others behaviour there’s 30 odd thousand people on here we will never all have the same opinion - if someone doesn’t find you hot someone else will, if someone isn’t keen on what you post someone else will love it - there’s zero need to be nasty/judgemental to someone and there’s a bunch of that goes on here and in the real world, unfortunately. We’re all adults and should know from a thread topic if that’s going to trigger us by getting involved - I’m here for the lighthearted flirts and banter if I’m skipped over or someone doesn’t think I’m this or that it really has no bearing on me it’s just preference and preference is in fact allowed however much some people try to squash it! Chin up OP don’t take the opinions of what are essential strangers to heart xx" I don't really worry or take this sort of stuff seriously and certainly don't participate in those threads either way. I just found one or two ranking ones a bit in bad taste. Especially when people are a little brutal to othets in their responces sometimes (not the banter ones). Just an observation and my opinion but I am sure othets will think differently. | |||
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"For me there are two flavours of these threads. The obvious ones (rate my cock, who has the best boobs. Fab who you want to fuck). Enter at your own risk. There are also other threads that I can see people entering with optimism and yet may feel excluded. The "ask in private" ones. In theory we can all ask questions to everyone. In practice we know who gets the bulk of the questions. Now, I'm old hat enough to know how these work. But I can sense some aren't quite as jaded and Mya not see past the veneer of the thread and get stung. That must suck. " There are many times I’ve asked questions in private and they’ve been read and not answered on the thread. In my mind they are only looking to answer certain questions from certain people | |||
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"For me it comes down to a lack of self awareness on here, people can seem like they almost tailor themselves to a thread topic - on one there the outspoken flirtatious type on the other they want to be perceived as the nicest person out who thinks everyone is wonderful…! There’s a distinct air of please like me that irks me. Just do you and park this ridiculous accusatory mentality that comes with a dislike to others behaviour there’s 30 odd thousand people on here we will never all have the same opinion - if someone doesn’t find you hot someone else will, if someone isn’t keen on what you post someone else will love it - there’s zero need to be nasty/judgemental to someone and there’s a bunch of that goes on here and in the real world, unfortunately. We’re all adults and should know from a thread topic if that’s going to trigger us by getting involved - I’m here for the lighthearted flirts and banter if I’m skipped over or someone doesn’t think I’m this or that it really has no bearing on me it’s just preference and preference is in fact allowed however much some people try to squash it! Chin up OP don’t take the opinions of what are essential strangers to heart xx I don't really worry or take this sort of stuff seriously and certainly don't participate in those threads either way. I just found one or two ranking ones a bit in bad taste. Especially when people are a little brutal to othets in their responces sometimes (not the banter ones). Just an observation and my opinion but I am sure othets will think differently. "Exactly. For me it's just a bit of fun and when things start getting personal or weird I log out and carry on with real life. Ultimately, it's mostly strangers on the Internet. Nothing to get to bothered over | |||
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"You don't need to be on the forum long to figure out what kind of threads are for you and which to avoid. I have no desire for a random bloke to tell me I'm a 6 or whatever he ranks me as. And other threads where I will be skipped or not receive a mention etc. But it's easy to just pass them by. We are all adults, just bypass what's not your cup of tea and leave it to others. Your definitely not a 6 more like a 20 out off 10 your wonderful in ever way x" Get away with you!  | |||
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"For me there are two flavours of these threads. The obvious ones (rate my cock, who has the best boobs. Fab who you want to fuck). Enter at your own risk. There are also other threads that I can see people entering with optimism and yet may feel excluded. The "ask in private" ones. In theory we can all ask questions to everyone. In practice we know who gets the bulk of the questions. Now, I'm old hat enough to know how these work. But I can sense some aren't quite as jaded and Mya not see past the veneer of the thread and get stung. That must suck. " I've warned a few people off them privately - if they're already feeling a bit insecure on here, they're not great threads. | |||
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"You don't need to be on the forum long to figure out what kind of threads are for you and which to avoid. I have no desire for a random bloke to tell me I'm a 6 or whatever he ranks me as. And other threads where I will be skipped or not receive a mention etc. But it's easy to just pass them by. We are all adults, just bypass what's not your cup of tea and leave it to others. Definitely surpass a 6 "I wasn't looking for a rating! But thank you | |||
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"You don't need to be on the forum long to figure out what kind of threads are for you and which to avoid. I have no desire for a random bloke to tell me I'm a 6 or whatever he ranks me as. And other threads where I will be skipped or not receive a mention etc. But it's easy to just pass them by. We are all adults, just bypass what's not your cup of tea and leave it to others. Oi turn that 6 upside down you "Haha as if | |||
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"No different to the hotlist threads or the offt threads or the "send a secret message to the OP regarding someone you fancy" thread. How do you feel if you get no offt?- like shit How do you feel if you are on no one's hotlist?- like shit Why do we do it? Because we want to be wanted...it's just human nature, and when ever we see a thread like that we think to ourselves "maybe this time someone will finally acknowledge me/ say something nice about me/ want me" ...let's face it, if you are not forum famous or attractive, you will never be good enough for most people on fab. " Well said! | |||
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"I find, if all else fails, the term, fuck em all, works wonders "Figuratively speaking | |||
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"You don't need to be on the forum long to figure out what kind of threads are for you and which to avoid. I have no desire for a random bloke to tell me I'm a 6 or whatever he ranks me as. And other threads where I will be skipped or not receive a mention etc. But it's easy to just pass them by. We are all adults, just bypass what's not your cup of tea and leave it to others. Your definitely not a 6 more like a 20 out off 10 your wonderful in ever way x Get away with you! "Your welcome anytime x | |||
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