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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not know or know something that will hurt you?

Is it better to ignore something or to know and be able to make your own choice and deal with it?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

As a wise man named Cypher once said, "Ignorance is bliss."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard call to make depending on the doom

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By *otmyrealname99Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I'd always rather know

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By *rincessPuddleDuck22Woman
over a year ago

.•°°

I'd rather know so i can make my decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wrote out “I’d rather not know than know and it hurt me”, but I’ve changed my mind. I’d rather know and it hurt me then I can move on/cut whatever I was doing if that makes sense.

I’d rather make my own choice and deal with it also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know. Therefore and I manage my reaction and plan for the fallout accordingly

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I'd rather know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is situation dependent but mostly I'd want to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a wise man named Cypher once said, "Ignorance is bliss.""

^^ This

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By *erverseintentionsMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Tell me ..let me make my own decisions .. or withhold it from me and don't hold me responsible for my actions when it's discovered . Lies are never good . Never .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you know will hurt you. What you don’t know will kill you.

Know.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"As a wise man named Cypher once said, "Ignorance is bliss."

^^ This "

An even wiser person said 'Innocence is bliss'

Although another then said 'Knowledge is power...the power to gain happiness'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tell me ..let me make my own decisions .. or withhold it from me and don't hold me responsible for my actions when it's discovered . Lies are never good . Never . "

What if it was withheld to protect you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What you know will hurt you. What you don’t know will kill you.

Know. "

Ooooo I like this

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Depends totally on the situation, is there potential to learn, grow or move on with the information?

My kids do not know their father sexually assaulted me, and neither will they as it stands at the moment. I can not see any benefit to them knowing why we split up.

There are many things I wish I didn't know, because they haven't given me any closure just a bigger can of worms to deal with. None of which can ever be resolved, just my own acceptance of the situation. And that is a complex situation someone else decided to put me in, giving a sense of lack of control.

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By *erverseintentionsMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Tell me ..let me make my own decisions .. or withhold it from me and don't hold me responsible for my actions when it's discovered . Lies are never good . Never .

What if it was withheld to protect you?"

.I want the power to shape and control my own destiny .to do that I'd need all the information . Witholding that information under the pretext of " protecting me " would never work for me ... I'd hate you for not informing me . Even if you'd cheated . Tell me . I'll make my own decision

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It depends why it was withheld from you…

Was it a lie….

Was it a misunderstanding…

Was it to protect you….

Was it because the person hiding it knows what the reaction of reveal would create….

Was it because the person withholding is being controlled…

There could be any number of reasons and solutions

Doesn’t this sort of thing often revolve around insecurity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather know.

I'm an adult. I don't need protection. Let me deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still torn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always said I’d rather know, but I had an ex call me 15+ years after our break up to confess he’d been unfaithful while we were together - that was definitely something I didn’t need to know after all that time!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Depends on the situation.

If not knowing is making me look ridiculous (e.g. the boyfriend I'm all over Facebook calling the best guy ever, my soulmate and the love of my life is fucking everything in a 20 mile radius) then I'd rather know and deal with it - if I find out further down the line I'll have to deal with the original pain and the humiliation of how ridiculous I've looked.

If it's something where not knowing doesn't have that humiliation element (e.g. great great aunty gert who I've not seen in years after a family falling-out has died and now I'll never be able to make my peace with her) then I'd rather not know.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

The truth will out

...eventually, regardless and the impact may be greater or worse, depending...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends why it was withheld from you…

Was it a lie….

Was it a misunderstanding…

Was it to protect you….

Was it because the person hiding it knows what the reaction of reveal would create….

Was it because the person withholding is being controlled…

There could be any number of reasons and solutions

Doesn’t this sort of thing often revolve around insecurity? "

Insecurities from which side?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was lied to for decades so the truth is always my preference now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been lied to for years, I want to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always want to know a secret kept is only pain delayed.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Always tell me and I can deal with it and move on

Lie to me and the outcome is going to be 100 times worse than it could ever be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As they say, "honesty is the best policy"......most of the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Knowledge is power.

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