FabSwingers.com forum: Too pretty to be on Fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Okay, so I’ve been sipping on my coffee through the straw and this sort of comment has been lingering in my mind for a couple of hours .

This statement, I hundred percent don’t seem to understand…

What the heck does it even mean? I’ve had guys tell me “ but what are you doing here, you are too pretty to be on fab”

But I heard similar comments from guys who I also met in person, who said

“You somehow managed to look even better in person than in pics, which is such a surprise considering fab”

And a few more made other similar comments, which obviously is flattering (none wants to look worse I guess) but also makes me think.

Wait, is fab really that bad? Is there an app where only beautiful people are? (Apart from Instagram) what is the expectation?!!

Also, why is it surprising that someone pretty or handsome is on fab? Do people just think fab is too seedy? Is that potentially the reason why??

I met quite a few hot very attractive men from fab, and I didn’t act surprise saying

“Why someone so fit is on fab?”

Just strange!

Also , so many lovely people on fab forums!!! X like

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Get this often! Most of time I'd imagine it's just another chat up line! And some do see it as seedy I'm sure! But we all on here! And u are gourgeous x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

It's just bollocks that blokes say. Best ignore them x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's an attempt at a compliment I think. If you think about it deeply (which is definitely a huge waste of time on a sunny Sunday) they're really telling you they judge people's worth on how they look and they think using the internet to hook up is only for the people who aren't good looking. It's just another version of putting one group down to try and compliment another.

Or it's just one more cheesy chat up line and you should bat your eyelashes, giggle and say "ooo you are awful"

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I've had it plenty and it makes my eyes squinty with "huh?"

A) pretty is subjective and plenty of others will think I'm a minger

B) only average or below average faces are meant do sex or talk about sex or talk to people about non sex related stuff then?

C) rude.

D) oh right, so are you saying I should be in a happy monogamous relationship because of how I look? Is that how it works? Have I been cheated out of the life rules then? Am I a freak of nature that can't do life right?

E) still fucking rude.

F) ahhhhhh, eh? So.....come again? Please, expand on that statement and explain exactly what you mean with your compliment that's really not a fucking compliment. Go on.... I dare ya.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's intended as a compliment to you.

They think only ugly, fat, disgusting women come on sites like this because they can't get sex elsewhere.

Him: "You're too pretty to be on here!"

Me: "Oh wow thank you, please please fuck me!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't it burn your mouth sipping coffee through a straw MrsG?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"It's intended as a compliment to you.

They think only ugly, fat, disgusting women come on sites like this because they can't get sex elsewhere.

Him: "You're too pretty to be on here!"

Me: "Oh wow thank you, please please fuck me!""

Yet here these brains are, joining up to fuck the fat, disgusting uggers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I tend to not care about the online ones as I bet it’s just a way to get attention and I always say: bet you say it to every woman on here

But the ones in person, usually after sex, I know they are genuine, but still I think.

What’s fab got to do with it???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Like why can’t you just say

“You look beautiful”

End of the story

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Doesn't it burn your mouth sipping coffee through a straw MrsG?

Iced coffee x

I am refusing not to have caffeine in my body in the morning, even if I’m not supposed to cos I’m whitening my teeth this week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's just bollocks that blokes say. Best ignore them x"

I'm way to fantastically fabulous to be on Fab, but here I am....and but its like this guy said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely has a whiff of misogyny about it…too pretty and innocent to be a’fallen’ woman bollocks

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

You get told you are sexier, have bluer eyes, not too sure what the datum level is for blue eyes.

Make them hornier than anyone else.

Wish they could find a wife/partner who wanted to do this.

Prettier, don't look like someone who would do this.

And of course, a lady of my age...you look so much younger.

Think the nicest compliment is that they find me friendly and approachable.

Take it on the chin, it's nice, it's flattering but basically a line to get you upstairs..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Like why can’t you just say

“You look beautiful”

End of the story

I don't know why but there's always something in certain compliments that makes you go

Just say the compliment

"You look fabulous in that dress"

"Bloody hell you're gorgeous"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely has a whiff of misogyny about it…too pretty and innocent to be a’fallen’ woman bollocks "

Kinda yes to this!!! X I think you sort of got what I was sort of thinking.

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Well I'm on Instagram and I'm not beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely has a whiff of misogyny about it…too pretty and innocent to be a’fallen’ woman bollocks

Kinda yes to this!!! X I think you sort of got what I was sort of thinking. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You get told you are sexier, have bluer eyes, not too sure what the datum level is for blue eyes.

Make them hornier than anyone else.

Wish they could find a wife/partner who wanted to do this.

Prettier, don't look like someone who would do this.

And of course, a lady of my age...you look so much younger.

Think the nicest compliment is that they find me friendly and approachable.

Take it on the chin, it's nice, it's flattering but basically a line to get you upstairs..

Only that the ones that met me , know they are getting it anyway or got it anyway. So there’s no need to say it to get in my knickers. Lol

Also we are on fab, so does what it says on the tin right?

My point being, is there a mysoginistic thinking that pretty girls can’t be on a seedy website like fab?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Like why can’t you just say

“You look beautiful”

End of the story

I don't know why but there's always something in certain compliments that makes you go

Just say the compliment

"You look fabulous in that dress"

"Bloody hell you're gorgeous"

You're all gorgeous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is beautiful, inside and out, all the ladies on fab are and this thread

Cheesey chat up line OP, you are beautiful end of no need to state obvious x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I think there is an aspect to fab that you wouldn't expect to introduce someone to your social circle so I do think that some people choose differently than they would on a traditional dating site. So yes there are men here to whom any hole's the goal. But I don't believe they are the majority.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

The comment , I suspect is rooted in the fact that even quite average looking ladies can get an enormous amount of attraction on fab simply due to the ratio, and the fact that some guys seem to use it as their only means of meeting ladies.

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By *rincessPuddleDuck22Woman
over a year ago

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I get more confused when I'm told I'm too young for fab.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Like why can’t you just say

“You look beautiful”

End of the story

or my what lovely suitcases you have?

But seriously I don't think most people think too deeply about these things and in most cases the compliment probably comes from a well meaning place.

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

"What's a girl like you doing on here?"

Excuse me?

I find it off putting, however I find most things put me off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The comment , I suspect is rooted in the fact that even quite average looking ladies can get an enormous amount of attraction on fab simply due to the ratio, and the fact that some guys seem to use it as their only means of meeting ladies.

Maybe this, and wondering if In their mind they created this idea of:

Pretty girls would have more self esteem than meeting men from fab

So that’s where the surprise comes from cos they might perceive it as seedy and “desperate” maybe?

So so so wrong!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

To be honest I get this too. And to be honest I think they're right. However I love the forums so I'm here even if I am too good looking for this site.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

I'm amazed at how many guys think Flik is beautiful without ever seeing a face pic. When we get messages as the OP suggests our standard response is "so only ugly people can be swingers" which usually gets back peddaling responses.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think the art of genuinely complimenting a person has become muddled in the on line world. A lot of people seem to see compliments as a way of setting groups apart or against each other almost weaponising it, some seem to use it to publicly advertise their "nice person" status a genuine compliment on the net is a rare thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too get this a lot. I’m too good/attractive/nice for Fab.

I don’t take it seriously, as it’s just another thing guys say. It is slightly annoying though, as it’s my choice to be on here. I suppose a good retort would be ‘well, what are you doing on here then?’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get the comments on beauty. At all. Fab is full of beautiful people looking for lots of different things.

I don’t obviously get the ‘what’sa guy like you doing in a place like this comments’ but I do often get comments like ‘you’re a bit young to be on here?’ One person asked why I’m not going out meeting young girls in bars and clubs instead of being on here.

God love fab.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Erm...what does a quite average looking lady look like? By definition that's most of us

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I too get this a lot. I’m too good/attractive/nice for Fab.

So many answers could be thrown at this, all flattering but utterly useless due to they are probably repeated 100 times a day to you

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

Everybody is beautiful in their own way. It's just a case of perception.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Trying to get in your knickers innit

People ask why a stunning woman like me is single.

Maybe they think only unattractive like multiple partners and us beauties should be at home, chained to the kitchen sink, being all wifey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are in the same boat sister.... I am too pretty for everywhere

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"You get told you are sexier, have bluer eyes, not too sure what the datum level is for blue eyes.

Make them hornier than anyone else.

Wish they could find a wife/partner who wanted to do this.

Prettier, don't look like someone who would do this.

And of course, a lady of my age...you look so much younger.

Think the nicest compliment is that they find me friendly and approachable.

Take it on the chin, it's nice, it's flattering but basically a line to get you upstairs..

Only that the ones that met me , know they are getting it anyway or got it anyway. So there’s no need to say it to get in my knickers. Lol

Also we are on fab, so does what it says on the tin right?

My point being, is there a mysoginistic thinking that pretty girls can’t be on a seedy website like fab? "

Don't forget the fact that being on fab is taboo in vanilla world and many men as well as women don't want to be seen here purely because vanilla world assumes that just because you're on fab - you must not have any standards of your own and are fucking everything with a pulse.

Profile on fab = always available to service everyone who messages.

It is usually people who are more vanilla and don't know fab very well that tend to make these comments (in my experience anyway).

Missus

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Trying to get in your knickers innit

People ask why a stunning woman like me is single.

Maybe they think only unattractive like multiple partners and us beauties should be at home, chained to the kitchen sink, being all wifey."

It's like sexual preferences are tied in with how you look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s similar to saying “how are you single?” basically saying they think you can get a partner or sex whenever you want so shouldn’t need fab.

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By *dd_soxMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

"Okay, so I’ve been sipping on my coffee through the straw and this sort of comment has been lingering in my mind for a couple of hours .

This statement, I hundred percent don’t seem to understand…

What the heck does it even mean? I’ve had guys tell me “ but what are you doing here, you are too pretty to be on fab”

But I heard similar comments from guys who I also met in person, who said

“You somehow managed to look even better in person than in pics, which is such a surprise considering fab”

And a few more made other similar comments, which obviously is flattering (none wants to look worse I guess) but also makes me think.

Wait, is fab really that bad? Is there an app where only beautiful people are? (Apart from Instagram) what is the expectation?!!

Also, why is it surprising that someone pretty or handsome is on fab? Do people just think fab is too seedy? Is that potentially the reason why??

I met quite a few hot very attractive men from fab, and I didn’t act surprise saying

“Why someone so fit is on fab?”

Just strange!

Also , so many lovely people on fab forums!!! X like

Better something like that than: "You'll do"...

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Are all the men on here above average looking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poly people and other non monogamous people are all secretly dissatisfied or simply ugly. So what are the happy, pretty people doing here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're not saying you are better than everyone else. They're just asking why you can't just flick your hair on the street and have hoards of men chasing you home like dogs chasing a bitch in heat. In their simplistic view, they wonder why you would need to 'use' an app or other forms of attracting men?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Trying to get in your knickers innit

People ask why a stunning woman like me is single.

Maybe they think only unattractive like multiple partners and us beauties should be at home, chained to the kitchen sink, being all wifey.

It's like sexual preferences are tied in with how you look

People think we're either too ugly, too beautiful and even too average looking to be on here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s similar to saying “how are you single?” basically saying they think you can get a partner or sex whenever you want so shouldn’t need fab.

Absolutely. I used to get this on the dating sites too.

‘I’m single because I have standards’ is a concept that seems alien to them.

Not everything falls into your lap just because you’re attractive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Trying to get in your knickers innit

People ask why a stunning woman like me is single.

Maybe they think only unattractive like multiple partners and us beauties should be at home, chained to the kitchen sink, being all wifey.

It's like sexual preferences are tied in with how you look

People think we're either too ugly, too beautiful and even too average looking to be on here

A lot of people think that the women on fab are not "normal"

and certainly not "marriage material" whatever that means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

Lower your filters and see what Santa brings you

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Are all the men on here above average looking? "

I doubt it ..but an average looking lady will do a lot better than an average looking guy on here

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Are all the men on here above average looking? "

No, I'm a minger x

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

Your in good company, I've never had it either

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Trying to get in your knickers innit

People ask why a stunning woman like me is single.

Maybe they think only unattractive like multiple partners and us beauties should be at home, chained to the kitchen sink, being all wifey.

It's like sexual preferences are tied in with how you look

People think we're either too ugly, too beautiful and even too average looking to be on here

A lot of people think that the women on fab are not "normal"

and certainly not "marriage material" whatever that means

We're here just to serve a purpose, like a Dulce Gusto machine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least on fab you can chat see if there is a mutual attraction in a safe environment with no embarrassment .

I don’t judge guys on fab thinking they are only on fab because they can’t get a women .

By chatting to a guy you can quickly sense if they are a true gent or not .

Ive had wonderful experiences on fab meet some attractive guys with nice gentle personalities .

There are so many beautiful ladies and couples also on fab .

We all use fab for our own reasons and it should be respected .

Attraction is key ! But not everyone will find me attractive that’s ok !! I don’t find every man attractive and that’s ok .

I wouldn’t meet a man who instantly buts me in a category that would be a absolute turn off .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay, so I’ve been sipping on my coffee through the straw and this sort of comment has been lingering in my mind for a couple of hours .

This statement, I hundred percent don’t seem to understand…

What the heck does it even mean? I’ve had guys tell me “ but what are you doing here, you are too pretty to be on fab”

But I heard similar comments from guys who I also met in person, who said

“You somehow managed to look even better in person than in pics, which is such a surprise considering fab”

And a few more made other similar comments, which obviously is flattering (none wants to look worse I guess) but also makes me think.

Wait, is fab really that bad? Is there an app where only beautiful people are? (Apart from Instagram) what is the expectation?!!

Also, why is it surprising that someone pretty or handsome is on fab? Do people just think fab is too seedy? Is that potentially the reason why??

I met quite a few hot very attractive men from fab, and I didn’t act surprise saying

“Why someone so fit is on fab?”

Just strange!

Also , so many lovely people on fab forums!!! X like

So what if you're on fab ..if you love sex be anywhere you like , let them say all they want ..if you love sex ..be wherever you want to be

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Are all the men on here above average looking?

No, I'm a minger x"

It makes me laugh when men talk about the average looking women on here, as if all the men are well above average.

The average looking men expect us mingers to jump into bed with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

Looking down..."nope but give it time"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Trying to get in your knickers innit

People ask why a stunning woman like me is single.

Maybe they think only unattractive like multiple partners and us beauties should be at home, chained to the kitchen sink, being all wifey.

It's like sexual preferences are tied in with how you look

People think we're either too ugly, too beautiful and even too average looking to be on here

A lot of people think that the women on fab are not "normal"

and certainly not "marriage material" whatever that means

We're here just to serve a purpose, like a Dulce Gusto machine

tell us we're pretty and we dispense the goods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are all the men on here above average looking?

No, I'm a minger x

It makes me laugh when men talk about the average looking women on here, as if all the men are well above average.

The average looking men expect us mingers to jump into bed with them."

Yes, but don't get a big head about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically they are clueless!

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yep get this too, because it's what women want to be complimented on the most isn't it their looks?

For fab you're good looking, does that mean for any other standard you'd be ugly as hell? Are there different leagues men haven't told us about lol?

I think maybe it's because people don't stop and think how best to genuinely complement people. I think a personal comment is much more believable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's just bollocks that blokes say. Best ignore them x"

You won't get a more accurate comment than the first sentence here.

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By *icole 123Woman
over a year ago

Baildon,West Yorkshire

"Okay, so I’ve been sipping on my coffee through the straw and this sort of comment has been lingering in my mind for a couple of hours .

This statement, I hundred percent don’t seem to understand…

What the heck does it even mean? I’ve had guys tell me “ but what are you doing here,

you are too pretty to be on fab”

But I heard similar comments from guys who I also met in person, who said

“You somehow managed to look even better in person than in pics, which is such a surprise considering fab”

And a few more made other similar comments, which obviously is flattering (none wants to look worse I guess) but also makes me think.

Wait, is fab really that bad? Is there an app where only beautiful people are? (Apart from Instagram) what is the expectation?!!

Also, why is it surprising that someone pretty or handsome is on fab? Do people just think fab is too seedy? Is that potentially the reason why??

I met quite a few hot very attractive men from fab, and I didn’t act surprise saying

“Why someone so fit is on fab?”

Just strange!

Also , so many lovely people on fab forums!!! X like

I get this all the time too,apart from when I got trolled yesterday x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Are all the men on here above average looking?

No, I'm a minger x

It makes me laugh when men talk about the average looking women on here, as if all the men are well above average.

The average looking men expect us mingers to jump into bed with them.

Yes, but don't get a big head about it.

The fact I'm currently sat eating a hot cross bun, waiting for my son to wake up, with no woman laid beside me, confirms my average to minger status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s similar to saying “how are you single?” basically saying they think you can get a partner or sex whenever you want so shouldn’t need fab.

Absolutely. I used to get this on the dating sites too.

‘I’m single because I have standards’ is a concept that seems alien to them.

Not everything falls into your lap just because you’re attractive!"

Plus some people might actually want to be single in the same way some might actually want to be swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Kylie you Naive little grape

This is just classic “something to catch their attention”

Your giving it more thought than it’s worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Dude, the lengths you go to so you can be a meat sandwich is epic, I applauded thee

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They're not saying you are better than everyone else. They're just asking why you can't just flick your hair on the street and have hoards of men chasing you home like dogs chasing a bitch in heat. In their simplistic view, they wonder why you would need to 'use' an app or other forms of attracting men?"

So there’s some preconception that only certain people would need to use apps

I love how straight forward Fab is to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are all the men on here above average looking?

No, I'm a minger x

It makes me laugh when men talk about the average looking women on here, as if all the men are well above average.

The average looking men expect us mingers to jump into bed with them.

Yes, but don't get a big head about it.

The fact I'm currently sat eating a hot cross bun, waiting for my son to wake up, with no woman laid beside me, confirms my average to minger status

It’s not all down to looks though Fifey. Being attractive is no relationship guarantee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep get this too, because it's what women want to be complimented on the most isn't it their looks?

For fab you're good looking, does that mean for any other standard you'd be ugly as hell? Are there different leagues men haven't told us about lol?

I think maybe it's because people don't stop and think how best to genuinely complement people. I think a personal comment is much more believable.

I think some believe that women who are a 5 in the real world start getting tickets on themselves here. See that kind of comment a lot here.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Are all the men on here above average looking?

No, I'm a minger x

It makes me laugh when men talk about the average looking women on here, as if all the men are well above average.

The average looking men expect us mingers to jump into bed with them.

Yes, but don't get a big head about it.

The fact I'm currently sat eating a hot cross bun, waiting for my son to wake up, with no woman laid beside me, confirms my average to minger status

It’s not all down to looks though Fifey. Being attractive is no relationship guarantee."

I my book, I hope so

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Trying to get in your knickers innit

People ask why a stunning woman like me is single.

Maybe they think only unattractive like multiple partners and us beauties should be at home, chained to the kitchen sink, being all wifey.

It's like sexual preferences are tied in with how you look

People think we're either too ugly, too beautiful and even too average looking to be on here

A lot of people think that the women on fab are not "normal"

and certainly not "marriage material" whatever that means

We're here just to serve a purpose, like a Dulce Gusto machine

tell us we're pretty and we dispense the goods

And say thank you after

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Kylie you Naive little grape

This is just classic “something to catch their attention”

Your giving it more thought than it’s worth. "

I don’t really care about the online ones, but it made me think more when meeting and they already had me or have me so. I know they are genuinely surprise

Maybe they have met some who didn’t reflect the pics or whatever. But I’m more concerned on the fact that some people think that fab is seedy and pretty women can’t be on here (also coming from really handsome chaps like, I could say the same and be .. why the fuck are u on fab)

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I get told I'm too innocent looking to be on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are all the men on here above average looking?

No, I'm a minger x

It makes me laugh when men talk about the average looking women on here, as if all the men are well above average.

The average looking men expect us mingers to jump into bed with them.

Yes, but don't get a big head about it.

The fact I'm currently sat eating a hot cross bun, waiting for my son to wake up, with no woman laid beside me, confirms my average to minger status

It’s not all down to looks though Fifey. Being attractive is no relationship guarantee."

Absolutely right there, the shallow end of the gene pool is incredibly packed with attractive people, God has to even it out somehow

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

At the end of the day its a bit better than...

Fuck me your profile said you were 40, you been in a coma for a few years.

Is that the food being served, better get mine before you hoover it all up, you don't get an arse like that jogging.

Are they wrinkles or has someone been chopping wood on your face.

Think I'd rather have the oh you look better than your profile

Bull shit but less stinging.

Just get to meets, parties, clubs and holidays and fill your boots.

Restrictions lifting, bring on normality or something close to it.

Cap D'Agde in June, won't need any compliments to get my kit off, already off before I get into a bar...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s similar to saying “how are you single?” basically saying they think you can get a partner or sex whenever you want so shouldn’t need fab.

Absolutely. I used to get this on the dating sites too.

‘I’m single because I have standards’ is a concept that seems alien to them.

Not everything falls into your lap just because you’re attractive!

Plus some people might actually want to be single in the same way some might actually want to be swingers."

Totally.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Yep get this too, because it's what women want to be complimented on the most isn't it their looks?

For fab you're good looking, does that mean for any other standard you'd be ugly as hell? Are there different leagues men haven't told us about lol?

I think maybe it's because people don't stop and think how best to genuinely complement people. I think a personal comment is much more believable.

I think some believe that women who are a 5 in the real world start getting tickets on themselves here. See that kind of comment a lot here. "

Ah yes the power crazed women of Fab, who have gotten too big for their boots. Because they have preferences and aren't afraid to stick to them. So we get put down by telling us we're old and ugly. Sunshine it's a privilege to get older and ugly, is that the best you got? Is this high school?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

What you should say, next time someone says you're too pretty to be on here, is "Yes, I know, now fuck off Quasimodo"

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Yep get this too, because it's what women want to be complimented on the most isn't it their looks?

For fab you're good looking, does that mean for any other standard you'd be ugly as hell? Are there different leagues men haven't told us about lol?

I think maybe it's because people don't stop and think how best to genuinely complement people. I think a personal comment is much more believable.

I think some believe that women who are a 5 in the real world start getting tickets on themselves here. See that kind of comment a lot here. "

I don't find certain people attractive because of their mannerisms. Looks (terrible word really), are second.

So Kylie, as the op, is a lovely lady. Very attractive and down to earth. I wouldn't want to date her, because she's too young for me, and I'd feel uncomfortable. I'd go for a drink, but that's it. Does that sound stupid or contradictory?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"What you should say, next time someone says you're too pretty to be on here, is "Yes, I know, now fuck off Quasimodo"

Although, I think Disney's Quasi was cute.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Nobody has ever told us we're too attractive to be on fab.

They have said we don't look like swingers I think that's because we have a "respectable" vibe.

Some men deploy the "for your age" compliment qualifier.

The older I get the more sensitive my bull shit detector becomes. I'm pretty well aware of my good points physically and I'll believe and accept a compliment I know to be accurate. I know my personality fairly well and will accept compliments on that too

There's such a thing as flirting though and the complimentary banter that goes along with it that we'd all be very naïve to believe. I enjoy that, take it as a bit of fun and play along.

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Like why can’t you just say

“You look beautiful”

End of the story

I don't know why but there's always something in certain compliments that makes you go

Just say the compliment

"You look fabulous in that dress"

"Bloody hell you're gorgeous"

Yes! If someone said either of those two things I would smile, say thank you and want to chat further. Things like "you're too pretty to be here" is creepy

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Trying to get in your knickers innit

People ask why a stunning woman like me is single.

Maybe they think only unattractive like multiple partners and us beauties should be at home, chained to the kitchen sink, being all wifey.

It's like sexual preferences are tied in with how you look

People think we're either too ugly, too beautiful and even too average looking to be on here

A lot of people think that the women on fab are not "normal"

and certainly not "marriage material" whatever that means

We're here just to serve a purpose, like a Dulce Gusto machine

tell us we're pretty and we dispense the goods

And say thank you after

Ah yes, that's me,old and grateful

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Are all the men on here above average looking?

No, I'm a minger x

It makes me laugh when men talk about the average looking women on here, as if all the men are well above average.

The average looking men expect us mingers to jump into bed with them.

Yes, but don't get a big head about it.

The fact I'm currently sat eating a hot cross bun, waiting for my son to wake up, with no woman laid beside me, confirms my average to minger status

It’s not all down to looks though Fifey. Being attractive is no relationship guarantee.

Absolutely right there, the shallow end of the gene pool is incredibly packed with attractive people, God has to even it out somehow"

He didn't need to give me double helpings though. Bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get told this all the time.

I’ve just learnt to live with it now.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Nobody has ever told us we're too attractive to be on fab.

They have said we don't look like swingers I think that's because we have a "respectable" vibe.

Some men deploy the "for your age" compliment qualifier.

There's such a thing as flirting though and the complimentary banter that goes along with it that we'd all be very naïve to believe. I enjoy that, take it as a bit of fun and play along.

I've been told many times I don't look like, or I'm too innocent looking, to be as filthy as I am. I don't even consider anything I do to be filthy lol

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"What you should say, next time someone says you're too pretty to be on here, is "Yes, I know, now fuck off Quasimodo"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like why can’t you just say

“You look beautiful”

End of the story

I don't know why but there's always something in certain compliments that makes you go

Just say the compliment

"You look fabulous in that dress"

"Bloody hell you're gorgeous"

Yes! If someone said either of those two things I would smile, say thank you and want to chat further. Things like "you're too pretty to be here" is creepy"

You look fabulous in that dress"

"Bloody hell you're gorgeous

Nope inbox is still empty!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Are all the men on here above average looking?

No, I'm a minger x

It makes me laugh when men talk about the average looking women on here, as if all the men are well above average.

The average looking men expect us mingers to jump into bed with them.

Yes, but don't get a big head about it.

The fact I'm currently sat eating a hot cross bun, waiting for my son to wake up, with no woman laid beside me, confirms my average to minger status

It’s not all down to looks though Fifey. Being attractive is no relationship guarantee.

Absolutely right there, the shallow end of the gene pool is incredibly packed with attractive people, God has to even it out somehow"

Is it!?

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Nobody has ever told us we're too attractive to be on fab.

They have said we don't look like swingers I think that's because we have a "respectable" vibe.

Some men deploy the "for your age" compliment qualifier.

There's such a thing as flirting though and the complimentary banter that goes along with it that we'd all be very naïve to believe. I enjoy that, take it as a bit of fun and play along.

Do we take a compliment in a more positive if it's from someone we like than someone we don't like or are indeffernt too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Why would you need to be cutting because they're men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that tailor-made compliments are the best. As opposed to generic ones. They just come across as being more genuine.

And at the end of the day, I am not treated like some kind of supermodel goddess in real life (if only!

), so I’m not naive enough to think that I’m one on here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Like why can’t you just say

“You look beautiful”

End of the story

I don't know why but there's always something in certain compliments that makes you go

Just say the compliment

"You look fabulous in that dress"

"Bloody hell you're gorgeous"

Yes! If someone said either of those two things I would smile, say thank you and want to chat further. Things like "you're too pretty to be here" is creepy"

Exactly like . It feels like a comment that feels nice to begin with but then u start deconstruct it and you think “wait what?”

A bit like when I’ve had some women say “you are prettier than me and I was born a woman”

Errr thanks? Tho slightly offensive…

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

How does one define "quite average looking"? What does "pretty" look like?

Mr KC thinks I'm the prettiest woman in the world (he's not long since finished whispering it in my ear) but I don't think I conform to the stereotypical "pretty" and I don't think many other people think I'm pretty.

I really don't care if I am "defined" as "quite average", "pretty" or "hit all the branches of the ugly tree", because I know the man who cares about me adores me.

I just don't understand how everyone is categorised into these appearance-based groups. It's like we're cattle or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Why would you need to be cutting because they're men?"

Because it’s a line she wouldn’t appreciate receiving.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Like why can’t you just say

“You look beautiful”

End of the story

I don't know why but there's always something in certain compliments that makes you go

Just say the compliment

"You look fabulous in that dress"

"Bloody hell you're gorgeous"

Yes! If someone said either of those two things I would smile, say thank you and want to chat further. Things like "you're too pretty to be here" is creepy

Exactly like . It feels like a comment that feels nice to begin with but then u start deconstruct it and you think “wait what?”

A bit like when I’ve had some women say “you are prettier than me and I was born a woman”

Errr thanks? Tho slightly offensive…

.....wait.....what?

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu! "

The result would be a draw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say, "I know but I have a kink for shagging ugly people."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Nobody has ever told us we're too attractive to be on fab.

They have said we don't look like swingers I think that's because we have a "respectable" vibe.

Some men deploy the "for your age" compliment qualifier.

There's such a thing as flirting though and the complimentary banter that goes along with it that we'd all be very naïve to believe. I enjoy that, take it as a bit of fun and play along.

I've been told many times I don't look like, or I'm too innocent looking, to be as filthy as I am. I don't even consider anything I do to be filthy lol "

I think (while I'm sitting here in my dressing gown when we really should be doing stuff) that this thread is inadvertently proving just how much people are judged by their looks and how people assume that the less attractive they perceive you to be the less entitled you are to certain things including respect.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I'll be honest here. Since my wife had a MLC and left, fir an affair, it made me feel particularly unattractive. It messes with your head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just say, "I know but I have a kink for shagging ugly people." "

Love it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How does one define "quite average looking"? What does "pretty" look like?

I really don't care if I am "defined" as "quite average", "pretty" or "hit all the branches of the ugly tree", because I know the man who cares about me adores me.

I just don't understand how everyone is categorised into these appearance-based groups. It's like we're cattle or something

I mean obviously you are attractive in your own way and your man obviously has to find you the most beautiful woman in the world

I guess there’s an objectively standard version of pretty and handsome

Maybe dictated by what we see around, but also our eyes are trained to perceive things that are objectively beautiful .

Whether it’s a dog or a statue, or a landscape.

Usually it’s good proportion and balance that makes something pleasant to the eyes, making it objectively beautiful

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Guys will say anything!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll be honest here. Since my wife had a MLC and left, fir an affair, it made me feel particularly unattractive. It messes with your head

Don’t let it. Chances are it had nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Guys will say anything!"

Wibble

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Nobody has ever told us we're too attractive to be on fab.

They have said we don't look like swingers I think that's because we have a "respectable" vibe.

Some men deploy the "for your age" compliment qualifier.

There's such a thing as flirting though and the complimentary banter that goes along with it that we'd all be very naïve to believe. I enjoy that, take it as a bit of fun and play along.

Do we take a compliment in a more positive if it's from someone we like than someone we don't like or are indeffernt too?"

Personally no. I take genuine compliments from anybody. I'm old enough and ugly enough to know when they're genuine and when they're bull shit. I also understand the "rules of the game" and while I don't believe the film flam that comes with the mating dance that is fab I know the steps

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I'll be honest here. Since my wife had a MLC and left, fir an affair, it made me feel particularly unattractive. It messes with your head

Don’t let it. Chances are it had nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

The result would be a draw.

Get off the fence, Davie. You’ve splinters in your arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God, after reading this very insightful thread, it makes going back to my messages even more depressing

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

How does one define "quite average looking"? What does "pretty" look like?

I really don't care if I am "defined" as "quite average", "pretty" or "hit all the branches of the ugly tree", because I know the man who cares about me adores me.

I just don't understand how everyone is categorised into these appearance-based groups. It's like we're cattle or something

I mean obviously you are attractive in your own way and your man obviously has to find you the most beautiful woman in the world

I guess there’s an objectively standard version of pretty and handsome

Maybe dictated by what we see around, but also our eyes are trained to perceive things that are objectively beautiful .

Whether it’s a dog or a statue, or a landscape.

Usually it’s good proportion and balance that makes something pleasant to the eyes, making it objectively beautiful "

I don't think there's an objective measure of attractiveness, is there? If there is, can someone share the metrics with me? I'd like to see where I am on this attractiveness continuum.

Most women I know think Brad Pitt and George Clooney are gorgeous but I don't. Does that mean that the objective metric is broken, or is it me that's broken?!

I'm attractive in my own way.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nobody has ever told us we're too attractive to be on fab.

They have said we don't look like swingers I think that's because we have a "respectable" vibe.

Some men deploy the "for your age" compliment qualifier.

There's such a thing as flirting though and the complimentary banter that goes along with it that we'd all be very naïve to believe. I enjoy that, take it as a bit of fun and play along.

Do we take a compliment in a more positive if it's from someone we like than someone we don't like or are indeffernt too?"

Of course if it’s somebody that we like it’s more well perceived

And the men who say it, I can tell in their face it’s genuine, but it could just be “you are genuinely beautiful”

*thanks hair flick*

But the surprise cos we met through fab and according to them, pretty throws me off

Like a sexually liberated person can’t be pretty at the same time cos maybe in their world, I should be on the proper serious dating ones or not be promiscuous and just have a bf (which I had a few long terms and didn’t work out)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this, guys telling me over the years that I'm too nice to be on here and how they can't understand that I'm still single at my age. I wonder that sometimes too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys will say anything!"

They will, but a woman's intuition as highly skilled as it is will always be able to tell the difference between genuine compliments and the chancer x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How does one define "quite average looking"? What does "pretty" look like?

I really don't care if I am "defined" as "quite average", "pretty" or "hit all the branches of the ugly tree", because I know the man who cares about me adores me.

I just don't understand how everyone is categorised into these appearance-based groups. It's like we're cattle or something

I mean obviously you are attractive in your own way and your man obviously has to find you the most beautiful woman in the world

I guess there’s an objectively standard version of pretty and handsome

Maybe dictated by what we see around, but also our eyes are trained to perceive things that are objectively beautiful .

Whether it’s a dog or a statue, or a landscape.

Usually it’s good proportion and balance that makes something pleasant to the eyes, making it objectively beautiful

I don't think there's an objective measure of attractiveness, is there? If there is, can someone share the metrics with me? I'd like to see where I am on this attractiveness continuum.

Most women I know think Brad Pitt and George Clooney are gorgeous but I don't. Does that mean that the objective metric is broken, or is it me that's broken?!

I'm attractive in my own way.....

Well as I said, it’s proportion in the face and harmony.

Obviously somebody might find a bent or big nose attractive because it’s quirky, but in GENERAL, a proportionate nose to the face looks pleasant and attractive to most. Cos our vision is made that way.

There’s studies about art and beauty and all, that talks about these things on how the eye is trained to find beauty in proportion x

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Its better than being on the 'you're too ugly to be on this site' end on things, like most of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is just another of the many ways guys try and put us on pedestals in order to get our knickers off and in the process talk ill of the others on here.

Personally I hate the pedestal bollocks with a passion.

Fab royalty, hotpic hottie, one of the beautiful ones, sought after, one of the unobtainable ones, the list goes on and on.

I don't want to hear it, treat me like the normal 40 something woman that I am and you'll get a much better response.

It's all utter bollocks and it actually pisses me off and I'll block people for that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Guys will say anything!

They will, but a woman's intuition as highly skilled as it is will always be able to tell the difference between genuine compliments and the chancer x"

Totally x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

How does one define "quite average looking"? What does "pretty" look like?

I really don't care if I am "defined" as "quite average", "pretty" or "hit all the branches of the ugly tree", because I know the man who cares about me adores me.

I just don't understand how everyone is categorised into these appearance-based groups. It's like we're cattle or something

I mean obviously you are attractive in your own way and your man obviously has to find you the most beautiful woman in the world

I guess there’s an objectively standard version of pretty and handsome

Maybe dictated by what we see around, but also our eyes are trained to perceive things that are objectively beautiful .

Whether it’s a dog or a statue, or a landscape.

Usually it’s good proportion and balance that makes something pleasant to the eyes, making it objectively beautiful

I don't think there's an objective measure of attractiveness, is there? If there is, can someone share the metrics with me? I'd like to see where I am on this attractiveness continuum.

Most women I know think Brad Pitt and George Clooney are gorgeous but I don't. Does that mean that the objective metric is broken, or is it me that's broken?!

I'm attractive in my own way.....

Well as I said, it’s proportion in the face and harmony.

There’s studies about art and beauty and all, that talks about these things on how the eye is trained to find beauty in proportion x "

Honestly then, I must be broken. I don't find the majority of "mainstream" attractive men to be attractive. All the discussions on here about famous men, actors, footballers etc, I look them up and most often, I say "no thanks".

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its better than being on the 'you're too ugly to be on this site' end on things, like most of us

Ha don’t get me wrong I’m not complaining, it was more the thought process of

Why do you think that an attractive woman can’t be promiscuous at the same time and enjoy it!

Also could say the same thing back as the guys were genuinely hot. Like the kind of handsome that would make me Have a film in my head if I saw them on the tube

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder...

Has a women ever said it to a man?

And how would that man react?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I wonder...

Has a women ever said it to a man?

And how would that man react?"

I regularly tell Mr KC that he's the most gorgeous guy in the world. Because he is. To me.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I wonder...

Has a women ever said it to a man?

And how would that man react?"

Probably. I await that day (voiceover man says.....it never happened)

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

The result would be a draw.

Get off the fence, Davie. You’ve splinters in your arse

Okay, okay I will toss for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How does one define "quite average looking"? What does "pretty" look like?

I really don't care if I am "defined" as "quite average", "pretty" or "hit all the branches of the ugly tree", because I know the man who cares about me adores me.

I just don't understand how everyone is categorised into these appearance-based groups. It's like we're cattle or something

I mean obviously you are attractive in your own way and your man obviously has to find you the most beautiful woman in the world

I guess there’s an objectively standard version of pretty and handsome

Maybe dictated by what we see around, but also our eyes are trained to perceive things that are objectively beautiful .

Whether it’s a dog or a statue, or a landscape.

Usually it’s good proportion and balance that makes something pleasant to the eyes, making it objectively beautiful

I don't think there's an objective measure of attractiveness, is there? If there is, can someone share the metrics with me? I'd like to see where I am on this attractiveness continuum.

Most women I know think Brad Pitt and George Clooney are gorgeous but I don't. Does that mean that the objective metric is broken, or is it me that's broken?!

I'm attractive in my own way.....

Well as I said, it’s proportion in the face and harmony.

There’s studies about art and beauty and all, that talks about these things on how the eye is trained to find beauty in proportion x

Attractiveness isn’t the same as objective beauty. You might not find something beautiful to be attractive that you want to sleep with them. But you might recognise that as a standard, they are handsome or pretty.

I don’t find like Harrison Ford attractive (too old and even when he was younger, he doesn’t give me sexual vibes), do I think he’s conventionally handsome? Yeah of course he is.

That’s all.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

The result would be a draw.

Get off the fence, Davie. You’ve splinters in your arse

Okay, okay I will toss for it.

.....a coin davie, a coin man! Put it away!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Guys will say anything!

They will, but a woman's intuition as highly skilled as it is will always be able to tell the difference between genuine compliments and the chancer x"

Very true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder...

Has a women ever said it to a man?

And how would that man react?

I regularly tell Mr KC that he's the most gorgeous guy in the world. Because he is. To me. "

I was referring to in a message on fab.

Although I get what your saying, it's lovely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wonder...

Has a women ever said it to a man?

And how would that man react?"

Yes, I tell guys are hot/handsome all the times

only if I mean it x

I love how they react

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A large number of users perhaps think that Fab is a place where it is easy to have their carnal desires satisfied and as such "everyone on Fab is easy". This would be consistent with the amount of abuse folks get when they say no and the number that claim that we're all here for the same thing. We think that maybe they associate less attractive with easy and that everyone is here because they are too ugly to find sex elsewhere when this is not the case for the true swingers. An interesting topic.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

The result would be a draw.

Get off the fence, Davie. You’ve splinters in your arse

Okay, okay I will toss for it.

.....a coin davie, a coin man! Put it away!"

. I will just fish one out of my pocket.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder...

Has a women ever said it to a man?

And how would that man react?"

I’ve told men I think they’re attractive. But not that they’re too attractive to be on here!

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By *S2004Man
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

No one has ever said it to me. Not even fab straight guys at 2am on a Friday night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

The result would be a draw.

Get off the fence, Davie. You’ve splinters in your arse

Okay, okay I will toss for it.

.....a coin davie, a coin man! Put it away!

. I will just fish one out of my pocket.

I took one out for you. But what have I told you about carrying a banana in there?! They’ll mess up your suit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt say you're too pretty to be on fab - no-one is. Dont over-analyse it, just enjoy it as the compliment it was likely intended to be.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

The result would be a draw.

Get off the fence, Davie. You’ve splinters in your arse

Okay, okay I will toss for it.

.....a coin davie, a coin man! Put it away!

. I will just fish one out of my pocket.

I took one out for you. But what have I told you about carrying a banana in there?! They’ll mess up your suit

He was rubbing it into his thong

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

There is a huge gap between thinking someone "needs" to be on here for sex or acknowledging someone "wants" to be on here for sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A large number of users perhaps think that Fab is a place where it is easy to have their carnal desires satisfied and as such "everyone on Fab is easy". This would be consistent with the amount of abuse folks get when they say no and the number that claim that we're all here for the same thing. We think that maybe they associate less attractive with easy and that everyone is here because they are too ugly to find sex elsewhere when this is not the case for the true swingers. An interesting topic."

Very interesting take. Which I find totally crazy

I think fab is great for being straight forward and honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is a huge gap between thinking someone "needs" to be on here for sex or acknowledging someone "wants" to be on here for sex. "

TOTALLY!! X

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

There are many, many people on here who are drop dead beautiful. People who make those comments clearly haven’t met many people in person from Fab…

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I'm going to be blunt. Age old shit. As a woman, if you're not conventionally pretty you'll be more desperate for sex and more grateful for any interest from men, you can't make it IRL or on dating apps so fab is your place of last resort cos you can flash your bits and entice a man. So women who use fab are by default uglier than the general population, or desperate, or only good for a fuck.

Massive generalisation with many caveats, obviously. I do believe that's at the root of it, though. Why would any normal woman want to be on fab? Don't we all want to find our true love and have a fairytale wedding and raise beautiful children?

I get "you look so innocent!" What, did you expect me to rock up for a cuppa with my arse hanging out?

Mrs TMN x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Are all the men on here above average looking?

No, I'm a minger x

It makes me laugh when men talk about the average looking women on here, as if all the men are well above average.

The average looking men expect us mingers to jump into bed with them.

Yes, but don't get a big head about it.

The fact I'm currently sat eating a hot cross bun, waiting for my son to wake up, with no woman laid beside me, confirms my average to minger status

It’s not all down to looks though Fifey. Being attractive is no relationship guarantee.

Absolutely right there, the shallow end of the gene pool is incredibly packed with attractive people, God has to even it out somehow

Is it!?

No, the shallow end has all the poor people who can't afford make up.

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

I was at a private party several years ago and played with a couple of women and several men.At the end of the night I was approached by a guy who said that he couldn't understand how a "minger" like me could have so much success.He seemed genuinely baffled!

Mike

PS I have never been good looking but that doesn't seem to bother some people.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

The result would be a draw.

Get off the fence, Davie. You’ve splinters in your arse

Okay, okay I will toss for it.

.....a coin davie, a coin man! Put it away!

. I will just fish one out of my pocket.

I took one out for you. But what have I told you about carrying a banana in there?! They’ll mess up your suit

Oh I noticed and you had a good feel of the plums as well.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"There is a huge gap between thinking someone "needs" to be on here for sex or acknowledging someone "wants" to be on here for sex. "

I've explained this to people.

Even at my age, with my fat body and arthritis I don't need to be here. I like the diversity of this site and the ease in which I can use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys will say anything!"

If I said you had a beautiful body would you hold it against me

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I was at a private party several years ago and played with a couple of women and several men.At the end of the night I was approached by a guy who said that he couldn't understand how a "minger" like me could have so much success.He seemed genuinely baffled!

Mike

PS I have never been good looking but that doesn't seem to bother some people."

Why would anybody feel the need to say that?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"There is a huge gap between thinking someone "needs" to be on here for sex or acknowledging someone "wants" to be on here for sex.

I've explained this to people.

Even at my age, with my fat body and arthritis I don't need to be here. I like the diversity of this site and the ease in which I can use it.

Nanny, you look great! Fuck the haters! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Answer: they need to drive traffic to their OnlyFans account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

The result would be a draw.

Get off the fence, Davie. You’ve splinters in your arse

Okay, okay I will toss off for it!! "

FIFY!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mike

PS I have never been good looking but that doesn't seem to bother some people."

You should actually take that as a massive compliment. He was jealous that women find you attractive so was trying to take you down a peg.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Mike

PS I have never been good looking but that doesn't seem to bother some people.

You should actually take that as a massive compliment. He was jealous that women find you attractive so was trying to take you down a peg.

That's a form of negging isn't it?

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Mike

PS I have never been good looking but that doesn't seem to bother some people.

You should actually take that as a massive compliment. He was jealous that women find you attractive so was trying to take you down a peg.

I believe he was more jealous of the fact that I had played with several guys!

Mike

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

I'm too pretty for Fab!

Wait, no, hold on...... I'm too pretty for prison, that was it....

However well intentioned, it often sounds like smoke being blown, just to get a response or result.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anybody ever been told they’re too ugly to be on here?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

The result would be a draw.

Get off the fence, Davie. You’ve splinters in your arse

Okay, okay I will toss off for it!!

FIFY!"

Did you call Bertie?

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

The result would be a draw.

Get off the fence, Davie. You’ve splinters in your arse

Okay, okay I will toss off for it!!

FIFY!"

I might need a hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone ever told a guy they're too good looking to be here? I suspect not, so why are women being told they're too pretty etc? It's very sexist. And what I also find verra interesting is all the compliments. The vast majority of which are blowing smoke. Do all women love being told they're beautiful and gorgeous and what not by total strangers here? I don't need it, I hate it.

I met someone recently and we had a great first date, chatted daily. Had the second meet set up. He sent me a clothed photo of himself when I asked and I complimented him. He was a good looking guy! He ghosted me. So what's going on there??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody ever been told they’re too ugly to be on here?"

When I turned them down

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Anybody ever been told they’re too ugly to be on here?

When I turned them down

FFS! he's a wanker x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody ever been told they’re too ugly to be on here?

When I turned them down

FFS! he's a wanker x"

Multiple men...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever told a guy they're too good looking to be here? I suspect not, so why are women being told they're too pretty etc? It's very sexist. And what I also find verra interesting is all the compliments. The vast majority of which are blowing smoke. Do all women love being told they're beautiful and gorgeous and what not by total strangers here? I don't need it, I hate it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had anyone say I'm too pretty to be on here. Feeling very left out that men aren't using that particular line on me so I can shoot them down. Damn.

You’re too attractive to be on here.

Bring it on, if you think you’re hard enough!!

I need to pretend you're a man so I can be suitably cutting - this is tough!!

Ooooo fight fight fight. Can I be the referee?

Not if you're going to vote for Dieu!

The result would be a draw.

Get off the fence, Davie. You’ve splinters in your arse

Okay, okay I will toss off for it!!

FIFY!

I might need a hand.

You will cope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably nothing to do with your compliment. Maybe he was secretly in a relationship. Or just a dick. Or other things going on in his life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably nothing to do with your compliment. Maybe he was secretly in a relationship. Or just a dick. Or other things going on in his life. "

Let's go with "just a dick"

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Anybody ever been told they’re too ugly to be on here?

When I turned them down

FFS! he's a wanker x

Multiple men..."

Then Fifey's statement would read:

FFS! They are wankers. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody ever been told they’re too ugly to be on here?

When I turned them down

FFS! he's a wanker x

Multiple men...

Then Fifey's statement would read:

FFS! They are wankers. X"

Oui!

TM (if anyone is wondering that stands for Typo Man

)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably nothing to do with your compliment. Maybe he was secretly in a relationship. Or just a dick. Or other things going on in his life.

Let's go with "just a dick"

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Anybody ever been told they’re too ugly to be on here?

When I turned them down

FFS! he's a wanker x

Multiple men...

Then Fifey's statement would read:

FFS! They are wankers. X"

Correct that man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably nothing to do with your compliment. Maybe he was secretly in a relationship. Or just a dick. Or other things going on in his life.

Let's go with "just a dick"

Pity. He was lovely looking. Ah well.

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