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Random winks cringe or ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it ok to randomly wink someone or it has bad as sending a random friend request )which I would never do )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it’s not like sending a friends request but most don’t check them

I know I don’t the way I see it is if they can’t pluck up and just send a good first message they aren’t for me

Not here to play footcy underneath the table

You know the they winked I winked send a message game

Just send the message in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

winks and unsolicated friends request mass deleted daily .... both mean nothing and will get no one anywhere

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Doesn't bother me a wink then a message but just a wink I'm like umm okay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it ok to randomly wink someone or it has bad as sending a random friend request )which I would never do ) "

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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago

Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove

Creepy to wink but not be messaging.

A wink is a hi to someone you already chat too

A random wink is just weird

A random friend request is a downright nooooooo

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

The winks button is used in so many different ways.

We will wink people to show there’s interest and if they wink back, we’ll send a message.

It’s just to show there’s interest. Same for someone winking us.

We don’t really get people who wink us, we wink back and then nothing…that feels like there’s no point at all

More often we’ll send a message first but sometimes when busy a cheeky wink is a good starter…

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow your heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind a “wink” and also send them. If someone winks and they wink back then for me that’s when I send a message.

I use it as a way to look at someone’s profile I may have missed otherwise. I feel it also saves people typing messages that just get deleted.

Friend requests a definite no without talking and asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people clearly read too much into a wink haha. It's not the end of the world

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By *outhman15Man
over a year ago

southampton

I would be happy to get a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use the winking system to show that we are interested in someone, we wink if they wink back then we message.

The mr

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By *unfriends1976Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

We use a wink the same way, just a way of showing interest

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over a year ago

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes


"The winks button is used in so many different ways.

We will wink people to show there’s interest and if they wink back, we’ll send a message.

It’s just to show there’s interest. Same for someone winking us.

We don’t really get people who wink us, we wink back and then nothing…that feels like there’s no point at all

More often we’ll send a message first but sometimes when busy a cheeky wink is a good starter…

K"

This is what I do as well. I send a wink and if the other person winks back, I'll message them

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"The winks button is used in so many different ways.

We will wink people to show there’s interest and if they wink back, we’ll send a message.

It’s just to show there’s interest. Same for someone winking us.

We don’t really get people who wink us, we wink back and then nothing…that feels like there’s no point at all

More often we’ll send a message first but sometimes when busy a cheeky wink is a good starter…

K

This is what I do as well. I send a wink and if the other person winks back, I'll message them"

Same, it’s a very easy way to gauge interest for us

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

i use a winknto show interest in someonenthat maybe doesnt have a lot ofninfo on their profile, they can read mine qnd if they wink or message, all good.

i also use it for someone i may have messaged before, especially if the message went unread, the issue i have is its hard to tell if a person isnt interested, or if tbey have mass deleted, as happens so often.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I think people clearly read too much into a wink haha. It's not the end of the world "

I instantly delete them. Then I block and report the account. Then I delete my own account. Then I become a nun and live in a monastery for the rest of my life. It’s a real pain….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuckin’ winkers. Damn them to eternal hell. Anyone that dares to wink me will swiftly feel my wrath. I shall start a forum thread to vent my outrage at such despicable behaviour. How dare anybody wish to show their interest in such a simple way.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Winks are fine and harmless. It’s like an initial smile at someone you fancy in a pub. Random friend requests I totally ignore

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"I think people clearly read too much into a wink haha. It's not the end of the world

I instantly delete them. Then I block and report the account. Then I delete my own account. Then I become a nun and live in a monastery for the rest of my life. It’s a real pain…."

You'd be a busy nun in a monastery with all those monks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Creepy to wink but not be messaging.

A wink is a hi to someone you already chat too

A random wink is just weird

A random friend request is a downright nooooooo "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm OK having winks, it's a lot less effort, testing the water, than a finely crafted message.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I like a wink. If I like the look, I'll wink back and go from there.

Can see it might be a bit more annoying if you're a woman or couple with literally thousands to sift through...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t find them cringe, I just ignore them

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Think people get their knickers in a twist for no reason over winks, it's a form of contact, expressing interest. There's so much you can't even tell from messaging so what's the difference how contact is first made? It's a start.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I never even look at winks, I forget they are even there.

Friend requests from people who I've never spoken to just get no response I don't even bother to delete them.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Winks never hurt anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’re not cringe and we’re not offended by them but you won’t get a response from us with a wink. If you like the look of someone it’s always best to send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am happy to message someone who winks at me, but I rarely wink at them since I know my winks will get lost in the masses that they undoubtedly recieved

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Is it ok to randomly wink someone or it has bad as sending a random friend request )which I would never do ) "

Better a wink than just 'Hi' or an unwanted Friend Request

Completely harmless imho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind them being used or me using them, I find the threads about them are much more useful though. The way some people over react and have ludicrous notions of laziness etc are clearly ones to avoid spending any time on. It's a simple wink ffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind a wink, although I rarely check them.

I rarely wink anyone else, but i did it for the first time over two years ago, and we still see each other all the time

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By *utlongjohnMan
over a year ago

close

I could do with a wink now ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no objection to winks but rarely look at them.

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

I don't mind winks, however they can be missed

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Yeah defo wink to show interest, what's the point of sending a decent message and not even getting a reply back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually went off and checked my winks, and found something very interesting

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