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By *az080378 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

Such a complicated thing.

All my life I have deluded myself into thinking that there was just one person I would fall in love with and when that happened I would just be with them.

Fairytale romance!!

But now I've realised that you can fall in love with someone and still need other emotional/physical connections with other people and that's ok!!

I have finally evolved and that's made me so much happier.

Not much of a topic of discussion I guess but, this site is full of the only people I knew would understand xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand love is complicated while I do think there is a the one out there for me as far as I’m concerned she may not even speak my language.

Agree that you can love someone and still want things from others,You don’t have to be compatible in every way to love someone.

Happy for you OP xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me there will only be only one love i wont allow myself to do it with anyone else i gave my soul away

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Personally I think that love is overrated. It's just a biological and chemical response that ultimately makes you feel absolute shite, while the nice part is fleeting.

Perhaps I'm just cynical. What am I saying, ice course im cynical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love can be and mean meny things in my eyes, having emotional connection with one person is a type of love and a physical connection with someone else could also be a type of love I'd say more of a passionate love,

people can love more then one person for different or even the same reasons at the same time.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito


"For me there will only be only one love i wont allow myself to do it with anyone else i gave my soul away "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sane here. I no longer see love as this all consuming possessive limited thing and feel much happier for it. Even if I am ‘single’

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

A stranger in an open car

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation. "

Hear hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t wait to be in love again. I’m happiest in a monogamous DDlg relationship. And I can’t wait to delete fab and leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation. "

Calm down Jane Austen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation. "

Really I disagree with that, there is always that special someone out there for each person and if you don't like falling in love then you could end up having a lonely life ?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Heartbreak x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation.

Really I disagree with that, there is always that special someone out there for each person and if you don't like falling in love then you could end up having a lonely life ? "

I'm good, I'm getting ALL the dogs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t wait to be in love again. I’m happiest in a monogamous DDlg relationship. And I can’t wait to delete fab and leave "

Without sounding cheesy lol, you are still waiting on falling in love ? You are stunning how haven't you already x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation.

Really I disagree with that, there is always that special someone out there for each person and if you don't like falling in love then you could end up having a lonely life ?

I'm good, I'm getting ALL the dogs. "

Sounds like you have be hurt in the past ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t wait to be in love again. I’m happiest in a monogamous DDlg relationship. And I can’t wait to delete fab and leave

Without sounding cheesy lol, you are still waiting on falling in love ? You are stunning how haven't you already x"

Point....proven.

That's lust not love.

I win, thank you very much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a cat instead of a human. You'll get used to being seen as a midly irritating food machine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation.

Really I disagree with that, there is always that special someone out there for each person and if you don't like falling in love then you could end up having a lonely life ?

I'm good, I'm getting ALL the dogs. "

Yes, yes you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love a cat instead of a human. You'll get used to being seen as a midly irritating food machine. "

For a cat I think the correct terminology is sub to their every whim

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation. "

I can prove you wrong.

Taking my wife, lust and any infatuation out of the equation, I can say hand on heart that i fell in love with my old dog the second I clapped eyes on her in the rescue kennels and loved her with all my heart till the day she died (and I don't mind admitting it hurts she's gone all these years later).

Not exactly the same type of love I may have for my wife but it was still love.

I hope one day you find something or someone that changes your mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me there will only be only one love i wont allow myself to do it with anyone else i gave my soul away

"
dont be sad destiny will reward me one day it is inevitable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation.

I can prove you wrong.

Taking my wife, lust and any infatuation out of the equation, I can say hand on heart that i fell in love with my old dog the second I clapped eyes on her in the rescue kennels and loved her with all my heart till the day she died (and I don't mind admitting it hurts she's gone all these years later).

Not exactly the same type of love I may have for my wife but it was still love.

I hope one day you find something or someone that changes your mind.

"

Love for animals is different.

Completely different altogether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True love is being prepared to give everything you've got without expecting ownership in return and being appreciated for doing so in equal measures

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think people over complicate it.

To me it’s a verb , you love someone , evidenced by what you do for them, words without actions mean nothing. It’s sacrificial, selfless , to point it even hurts you but that’s ok it’s worth it.

The warm fuzzy feeling people get Is just extreme like.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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Love is so powerful. You realise how much so when it’s gone.

Losing my husband I felt it physically. Pain in my chest, aching, longing for him to still be here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left my ex 10 years ago convinced that after I gave myself time to heal I would find love again. But here I am 10 years later and it hasn't happened, although I've promised myself I'd never just settle again,been there done that. I'd rather be single than with the wrong person. However I'd love to fall in love again as long as it was reciprocated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you ready, are you ready for love?

Yes I am! (Oh, erm, actually, maybe not)

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

A battlefield.

As much as I'm happy for people who find it, these days I do that kinda smile your granny would do if you bought home an old wild pigeon and it had mange and a limp. Like ewwww, I appreciate the sentiment and that ya wanna help it, but get it the fuck away from me. I worry for them coz there's gonna be pain, there's gonna be heartache (unless of course they have a perfect relationship and die together)

I've seen and been through too much pain to ever consider it again. No chance.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation. "

Spot on. They just like them a lot, for some people that’s just not too smelly or whiney and alright at sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation.

Spot on. They just like them a lot, for some people that’s just not too smelly or whiney and alright at sex "

That's what I look for

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I'd like to experience again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation. "
if it were that simple id have not last my sanity when it was gone my cock has never controlled me

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation.

I can prove you wrong.

Taking my wife, lust and any infatuation out of the equation, I can say hand on heart that i fell in love with my old dog the second I clapped eyes on her in the rescue kennels and loved her with all my heart till the day she died (and I don't mind admitting it hurts she's gone all these years later).

Not exactly the same type of love I may have for my wife but it was still love.

I hope one day you find something or someone that changes your mind.

Love for animals is different.

Completely different altogether. "

Which us what I said but love is love regardless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is a big scary animal.

https://youtu.be/rhCMd6TbwBk

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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

Sleeping in the wet patch

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito


"For me there will only be only one love i wont allow myself to do it with anyone else i gave my soul away

dont be sad destiny will reward me one day it is inevitable"

Ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It creeps on you, even when you’re adamant you will guard your heart, and never let anyone in again…and then you realise that life wouldn’t be the same without them. It’s about knowing you could get hurt, but taking the chance anyway.

It’s not just lust, it’s talking about things you have in common, appreciating each other for the little things. If all that keeps you going back is sex, then yes, it’s lust. It’s not even about someone “completing” you, the other half of you, etc, as you’re complete without them, you’re still your own person, it’s that you want them, not need them, and when you both accept each other for who you are as individuals, then you’re kind of on the right track…

It’s not about ownership, it’s not about changing them, it’s about respecting each other’s viewpoint, and working through any challenges together…anything worth having doesn’t come easy (that old cliché)

That’s how I see love anyway.

Oh, and if they like a bacon sandwich, made like you do, then that helps too…

(Btw, these are my views only, he has his own and I can’t speak for him, nor would I want to)

Viv xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never having to say sorry because when you know, you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It creeps on you, even when you’re adamant you will guard your heart, and never let anyone in again…and then you realise that life wouldn’t be the same without them. It’s about knowing you could get hurt, but taking the chance anyway.

It’s not just lust, it’s talking about things you have in common, appreciating each other for the little things. If all that keeps you going back is sex, then yes, it’s lust. It’s not even about someone “completing” you, the other half of you, etc, as you’re complete without them, you’re still your own person, it’s that you want them, not need them, and when you both accept each other for who you are as individuals, then you’re kind of on the right track…

It’s not about ownership, it’s not about changing them, it’s about respecting each other’s viewpoint, and working through any challenges together…anything worth having doesn’t come easy (that old cliché)

That’s how I see love anyway.

Oh, and if they like a bacon sandwich, made like you do, then that helps too…

(Btw, these are my views only, he has his own and I can’t speak for him, nor would I want to)

Viv xx "

Oh I love this!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It creeps on you, even when you’re adamant you will guard your heart, and never let anyone in again…and then you realise that life wouldn’t be the same without them. It’s about knowing you could get hurt, but taking the chance anyway.

It’s not just lust, it’s talking about things you have in common, appreciating each other for the little things. If all that keeps you going back is sex, then yes, it’s lust. It’s not even about someone “completing” you, the other half of you, etc, as you’re complete without them, you’re still your own person, it’s that you want them, not need them, and when you both accept each other for who you are as individuals, then you’re kind of on the right track…

It’s not about ownership, it’s not about changing them, it’s about respecting each other’s viewpoint, and working through any challenges together…anything worth having doesn’t come easy (that old cliché)

That’s how I see love anyway.

Oh, and if they like a bacon sandwich, made like you do, then that helps too…

(Btw, these are my views only, he has his own and I can’t speak for him, nor would I want to)

Viv xx "

Beautifully put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It creeps on you, even when you’re adamant you will guard your heart, and never let anyone in again…and then you realise that life wouldn’t be the same without them. It’s about knowing you could get hurt, but taking the chance anyway.

It’s not just lust, it’s talking about things you have in common, appreciating each other for the little things. If all that keeps you going back is sex, then yes, it’s lust. It’s not even about someone “completing” you, the other half of you, etc, as you’re complete without them, you’re still your own person, it’s that you want them, not need them, and when you both accept each other for who you are as individuals, then you’re kind of on the right track…

It’s not about ownership, it’s not about changing them, it’s about respecting each other’s viewpoint, and working through any challenges together…anything worth having doesn’t come easy (that old cliché)

That’s how I see love anyway.

Oh, and if they like a bacon sandwich, made like you do, then that helps too…

(Btw, these are my views only, he has his own and I can’t speak for him, nor would I want to)

Viv xx

Oh I love this!!! "

It’s how he makes me feel…but if anyone tells him I’ll deny it! Haha. I don’t own him, nor would I ever want my expressing my feelings about him, to be seen as a claim on him. He’s his own person, and we suit us xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It creeps on you, even when you’re adamant you will guard your heart, and never let anyone in again…and then you realise that life wouldn’t be the same without them. It’s about knowing you could get hurt, but taking the chance anyway.

It’s not just lust, it’s talking about things you have in common, appreciating each other for the little things. If all that keeps you going back is sex, then yes, it’s lust. It’s not even about someone “completing” you, the other half of you, etc, as you’re complete without them, you’re still your own person, it’s that you want them, not need them, and when you both accept each other for who you are as individuals, then you’re kind of on the right track…

It’s not about ownership, it’s not about changing them, it’s about respecting each other’s viewpoint, and working through any challenges together…anything worth having doesn’t come easy (that old cliché)

That’s how I see love anyway.

Oh, and if they like a bacon sandwich, made like you do, then that helps too…

(Btw, these are my views only, he has his own and I can’t speak for him, nor would I want to)

Viv xx

Beautifully put "

Thank you…I’ll go back to watching some sort of violent film now, probably scratch my bum cheek a bit and be extremely rude about feelings… xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is what was lost and I'm not giving it anyone else, my heart is now protected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heartbreak x"

I can relate x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'd still like to know what it feels like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sleeping in the wet patch "

Haha

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By *herubchubWoman
over a year ago

Nr the sea

A hiding to nothing if the person you love doesn’t share the same value to your relationship as you did!

Not sure I’ll ever be able to love again so wholeheartedly, it just hurts too much when it breaks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd still like to know what it feels like "

Hope you find it x

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I left my ex 10 years ago convinced that after I gave myself time to heal I would find love again. But here I am 10 years later and it hasn't happened, although I've promised myself I'd never just settle again,been there done that. I'd rather be single than with the wrong person. However I'd love to fall in love again as long as it was reciprocated. "

This too - though I doubt it will happen in my case.

I adore my kids and my dog - they love me back (especially the dog). I don’t think I’m the kind of person that men really fall in love with. I’m ‘too nice’ in relationships and I’m a ‘what you see is what you get’ kind of woman. In my experience men fall for women who are complicated and not terribly nice - ie the ‘make them work for it’ type. I’m the polar opposite of that. I’ll do pretty much anything for someone I really like.

I’ve pretty much accepted that I’ll never have a real

‘Relationship’ again. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Such a complicated thing.

All my life I have deluded myself into thinking that there was just one person I would fall in love with and when that happened I would just be with them.

Fairytale romance!!

But now I've realised that you can fall in love with someone and still need other emotional/physical connections with other people and that's ok!!

I have finally evolved and that's made me so much happier.

Not much of a topic of discussion I guess but, this site is full of the only people I knew would understand xxx

"

Love is love but so is pure animalistic sex .. sometimes you get it in love other times not .. sometimes the person who you love and loves you does not give you the ' loving " you truly desire ... sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

palms are sweaty, knees weak, arms are heavy..

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"Personally I think "falling in love" is a load of shit.

It's lust, infatuation. "

I don't think it's shit but I do agree that initially in relationships lust is the main feeling. Everything is new and exciting, love grows as the relationship does.

I don't believe in love at first sight, that's a load of bubbly bollocks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to me means literally doing anything you can to help or protect those that you care about the most. I have a small group of people I feel like that towards. I can also 'love' how I feel towards somebody but not be 'in-love' with them

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Being in love is my favourite thing, I hope to feel that again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I left my ex 10 years ago convinced that after I gave myself time to heal I would find love again. But here I am 10 years later and it hasn't happened, although I've promised myself I'd never just settle again,been there done that. I'd rather be single than with the wrong person. However I'd love to fall in love again as long as it was reciprocated.

This too - though I doubt it will happen in my case.

I adore my kids and my dog - they love me back (especially the dog). I don’t think I’m the kind of person that men really fall in love with. I’m ‘too nice’ in relationships and I’m a ‘what you see is what you get’ kind of woman. In my experience men fall for women who are complicated and not terribly nice - ie the ‘make them work for it’ type. I’m the polar opposite of that. I’ll do pretty much anything for someone I really like.

I’ve pretty much accepted that I’ll never have a real

‘Relationship’ again. X"

I totally relate to everything you've said, I've come to the conclusion that if someone doesn't want me warts an all then they are not good enough for me, and I'm better off saving myself the heartbreak and walking away.x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Love is many forms. I know the love I had for my daughter, I will never experience with another living soul x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Personally I think that love is overrated. It's just a biological and chemical response that ultimately makes you feel absolute shite, while the nice part is fleeting.

Perhaps I'm just cynical. What am I saying, ice course im cynical "

Agreed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Growth is learning that that bullshit about not being able to live more than one person is a monogamous myth that is only applied to romantic relationships (conveniently). But Love is beautiful. And It’s freeing. And we all have it in our lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Growth is learning that that bullshit about not being able to live more than one person is a monogamous myth that is only applied to romantic relationships (conveniently). But Love is beautiful. And It’s freeing. And we all have it in our lives. "

Love *

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I'd still like to know what it feels like

Hope you find it x "

It'll have to find me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never believed in romantic love until I found it a couple of years ago. I didn't think falling in love was possible until I did. I hope to find it again.

But I also think that you can have emotional and sexual connections with more than one person. So who knows where that leads.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

It’s incredible, exhausting, overwhelming, awe consuming, honest, raw…it lays you bare to another to there passions, desires, scrutiny, ideals. Its vulnerability in the highest form and comfort at its finest like a childhood blanket you don’t want to let it go, sometimes you cling to it, you carry it with you everywhere you go and it gives you the warm and fuzzy feelings you adore other times you feel it slip from your fingers and it faids away. - love it’s like a grief and beauty in one, pain and elation, happiness and sadness, euphoria and deep heartache..it’s addiction..love is indeed a drug!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s incredible, exhausting, overwhelming, awe consuming, honest, raw…it lays you bare to another to there passions, desires, scrutiny, ideals. Its vulnerability in the highest form and comfort at its finest like a childhood blanket you don’t want to let it go, sometimes you cling to it, you carry it with you everywhere you go and it gives you the warm and fuzzy feelings you adore other times you feel it slip from your fingers and it faids away. - love it’s like a grief and beauty in one, pain and elation, happiness and sadness, euphoria and deep heartache..it’s addiction..love is indeed a drug! "

Yessss!!!

Can’t even add anything to this.

Nailed it xx

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Personally I think love and friendship and sex is a spectrum rather than fixed boxes that society wants to keep us in. What was so refreshing early on with Mrs Misfit is we could talk about it, about other people and how we felt about them. No having to pretend other people hadn't left their mark, no pretending we don't find others attractive and recognising that some people in our lives (past and present) fall/fell in the in-between areas, like meaningful loving friendships that are sexual. It was nice to be with someone who also recognised there is different types of love and different types of friendship and they are OK. But as well as recognising all there's areas of the spectrum she's help me to recognise the top of the spectrum and where I had in past relationships confused what I felt for the top not realising I could have something more. That there is a case of nearly there but not quite there with ex's. It's kind of a case of taste the difference. I needed to meet her to see how much more I could have and what an awesome relationship and woman was possible. She is my soul mate, simple my best everything. And because of that it helps me to recognise all the other shades of love and relationships I've had and that they are all OK, valid and different. Ironically seeing the many shade has made my outlook on relationships poly but seeing how awesome things can be and being lucky enough to meet my one makes me relationship wise monogamous. I totally accept love is complicated but luckily for me it's simple. She is mine, I am hers and we were ment to be. I honestly believe that. I think it's something that sadly not everyone gets to find in this life. But we shouldn't be scared as a society to recognise the many shades love or be scared of its messiness sometimes. Those sides are there to be enjoyed and can be better enjoyed when you can call them as they are rather than be confused or have fit them in a box that doesn't fit.

Mr

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over a year ago


"Personally I think love and friendship and sex is a spectrum rather than fixed boxes that society wants to keep us in. What was so refreshing early on with Mrs Misfit is we could talk about it, about other people and how we felt about them. No having to pretend other people hadn't left their mark, no pretending we don't find others attractive and recognising that some people in our lives (past and present) fall/fell in the in-between areas, like meaningful loving friendships that are sexual. It was nice to be with someone who also recognised there is different types of love and different types of friendship and they are OK. But as well as recognising all there's areas of the spectrum she's help me to recognise the top of the spectrum and where I had in past relationships confused what I felt for the top not realising I could have something more. That there is a case of nearly there but not quite there with ex's. It's kind of a case of taste the difference. I needed to meet her to see how much more I could have and what an awesome relationship and woman was possible. She is my soul mate, simple my best everything. And because of that it helps me to recognise all the other shades of love and relationships I've had and that they are all OK, valid and different. Ironically seeing the many shade has made my outlook on relationships poly but seeing how awesome things can be and being lucky enough to meet my one makes me relationship wise monogamous. I totally accept love is complicated but luckily for me it's simple. She is mine, I am hers and we were ment to be. I honestly believe that. I think it's something that sadly not everyone gets to find in this life. But we shouldn't be scared as a society to recognise the many shades love or be scared of its messiness sometimes. Those sides are there to be enjoyed and can be better enjoyed when you can call them as they are rather than be confused or have fit them in a box that doesn't fit.

Mr"

This was lovely to read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some deeply intellectual people in here - Mr Misfit well said sir I doff my cap

Dancer36 as always eloquent

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Harder to find, second time around, as you get older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Travelling 70 miles to deliver milk to a friend in need of a coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A battlefield.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me love is what you do, not what you say... And I do believe you can love different people

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