FabSwingers.com forum: Hard to get to know?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You may have many friends or be an extrovert but are you hard to get to know?

I feel I am. I'm extremely open but also quite frosty and shit at small talk.

So how about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m an open book.

But it’s in braille.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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yes I am generally closed off and much prefer getting to know others than the other way round

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

You're not frosty or shit at small talk, I'd say you're actually shy, very open and a bit of an overthinker. You're not hard to get to know in the slightest.

I think I am. Far too private and I find it hard to trust people beyond my usual kind of superficial level. I find it a lot easier and tend to know far more about others than they know about me. And that's not something or a way I'm proud of being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m terrible at small talk in person, part of the reason I really struggle in groups and some social situations.

All of my meaningful friendships, even my marriage, began at distance. This has been a theme through my adulthood.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’d say yes I am.

I’m friendly and can do small talk, talk generally about various subjects, but I don’t open up easily on anything personal.

I choose what I share and when, if someone starts asking probing questions, I will change the subject. I don’t ask probing questions of others either, both should feel comfortable and just let the conversation naturally flow.

There are those I trust and they can ask me anything. However, they also know me well enough if I don’t want to talk about it, don’t probe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m easy to get to know…. And I open up easily which isn’t always a good thing

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’d say yes I am.

I’m friendly and can do small talk, talk generally about various subjects, but I don’t open up easily on anything personal.

There are those I trust and they can ask me anything. However, they also know me well enough if I don’t want to talk about it, don’t probe. "

Exactly this! Which is probably why we’re such good friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're not frosty or shit at small talk, I'd say you're actually shy, very open and a bit of an overthinker. You're not hard to get to know in the slightest.

Don't you go giving away all my secrets haha

It isnt good being an open person, I wish I was more closed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an open book. I'm far too open and honest. I am learning these days though not to be as I really can't fully trust anyone except my husband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m pretty open. Don’t know if I’m easy to talk to but I think people can get to know me quickly if they want. I prefer finding out about others, asking questions and stuff but don’t want to be too intense so try and balance it.

I’m sure you’re wonderful OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About time I saw you in the forums again ya douche

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Nope I'm not hard to get to know at all, happy to chat and overshare

Will you know anything that can be used against me... No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

meh. if thay want to know thay can ask

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"You may have many friends or be an extrovert but are you hard to get to know?

I feel I am. I'm extremely open but also quite frosty and shit at small talk.

So how about you? "

You did fine when you got in touch with me. Don’t overthink things. You will do fine.

I think I can talk to most people about most subjects even though I can be more nervous face to face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i'm an open book I'll chat away if you want to know just ask

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Interesting one!

I am quite comfortable being open about many things.

This can sometimes lead people to think I am confident and have everything totally sorted. Which is not true.

Sooo... I don't know?

Mrs TMN x

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

In person, I’m way too open & way too trusting! There’s no mystery whatsoever

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I’d say yes I am.

I’m friendly and can do small talk, talk generally about various subjects, but I don’t open up easily on anything personal.

There are those I trust and they can ask me anything. However, they also know me well enough if I don’t want to talk about it, don’t probe.

Exactly this! Which is probably why we’re such good friends

Aye it probably is, we are eerily similar, except you got all the height

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"You're not frosty or shit at small talk, I'd say you're actually shy, very open and a bit of an overthinker. You're not hard to get to know in the slightest.

Don't you go giving away all my secrets haha

It isnt good being an open person, I wish I was more closed. "

Nooo! You wouldn't be you then. Look, we all have our follies but at the end of the day you're a good 'un. Being open is you and that should never change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im very guarded on personal things as i choose not to get too close now with people bit of flirting is fine but im way past letting people truly know me now only 1 person will ever have that privilege everyone else just gets highlights

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

Na , I’m very easy to get a long with ..

I think anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it be nice for me to get to know some one first. Getting harder and harder on here now to actually have a conversation with some one

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I don't know, it's decades since anyone's bothered to try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One on one, I am an open book, there's very little I am loathed to share

I can chew the cud for hours tete a tete, however, put me in a group situation and watch me merge with the wallpaper

The anxiety I get from being in groups is off the scale

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Nope I'm not hard to get to know at all, happy to chat and overshare

Will you know anything that can be used against me... No."

Apart from that one time in band camp….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is small talk really?

Nice weather mmmm lovely

Chat about Soaps

Describing your ingrowing toenail

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I'm very easy to get to know x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In everyday life I’m fairly open and friendly.

On Fab I’m cautious and guarded. I do most of the messaging, I’m like a bouncer, very tough to get past before you can get to us!

Viv

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"What is small talk really?

Nice weather mmmm lovely

Chat about Soaps

Describing your ingrowing toenail

You silver tongued devil you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is small talk really?

Nice weather mmmm lovely

Chat about Soaps

Describing your ingrowing toenail

I see you feel my pain. I listen to people talking about nothing and don't know how to join in.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I hate small talk, I personally find it dull and doesn't hold my attention.So I find it difficult to focus and tend of drift off so I can appear rude. I don't mean to but I'll end up thinking about a problem in work or something else that needs sorting.

But I will and do talk about anything and everything as long as I find it interesting. Openness I am that, I did the only tell a select few. That in the past gave others power to manipulate me, so I favour the if everyone knows about it nobody can use it against me.

And I'm painfully shy and awkward. It's who I am and I'm good with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is small talk really?

Nice weather mmmm lovely

Chat about Soaps

Describing your ingrowing toenail

You silver tongued devil you!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is small talk really?

Nice weather mmmm lovely

Chat about Soaps

Describing your ingrowing toenail

I see you feel my pain. I listen to people talking about nothing and don't know how to join in.

I do speed chatting at socials. 3 minutes then I move on when they stick a fork in their hand to stay awake.

People love a listener. Ask them about themselves.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I think I can be, some people get a pre conceived idea of what you will be like based on a selection of images on here - if you have a face pic and your not smiling from ear to ear they think you have resting bitch face, if you post graphic imagery your too forward, if you post regularly your an attention seeker etc etc - all of this is derived by images not actual conversations so I think some people are guilty of judging you before attempting to get to know you

This can be just as obvious in real life, can be anything from the way you dress, style your hair, they way you carry yourself, your confidence all of them can come under scrutiny too. I think we have lost the art of talking to humans face to face everything is teams calls with cameras off, txt, social media etc it’s quite sad really.

Underneath my exhibitionist side I’m a nice lass with a kind heart I just don’t give it to those who have made there mind up about me with little effort xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends

I am both easy and hard

Is in general things I am very easy to get to know

But letting people in I am very hard to get to know

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I don’t know that anyone ever really knows someone else, you might know facts about them, you might think you know a lot about how they may react in certain circumstances, or what opinion they will express on a certain matter, what they say they enjoy, or dislike, but never the root of the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I can be, some people get a pre conceived idea of what you will be like based on a selection of images on here - if you have a face pic and your not smiling from ear to ear they think you have resting bitch face, if you post graphic imagery your too forward, if you post regularly your an attention seeker etc etc - all of this is derived by images not actual conversations so I think some people are guilty of judging you before attempting to get to know you

Underneath my exhibitionist side I’m a nice lass with a kind heart I just don’t give it to those who have made there mind up about me with little effort xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a naturally very open person. Very chatty, social and good at small talk. But I am no longer easy to get to know because I am so wary now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a naturally very open person. Very chatty, social and good at small talk. But I am no longer easy to get to know because I am so wary now. "

You’re lovely.

Why so wary?

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I'll talk to you op, truth is I don't have enough time for loads of friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a naturally very open person. Very chatty, social and good at small talk. But I am no longer easy to get to know because I am so wary now.

You’re lovely.

Why so wary?"

Usual reasons people are wary I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a naturally very open person. Very chatty, social and good at small talk. But I am no longer easy to get to know because I am so wary now.

You’re lovely.

Why so wary?

Usual reasons people are wary I guess"

Bless you. I get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im very guarded on personal things as i choose not to get too close now with people bit of flirting is fine but im way past letting people truly know me now only 1 person will ever have that privilege everyone else just gets highlights "
but i am open about being guarded too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, if someone doesn’t like me then that’s all good.

People I converse with or meet and they actually get to know me think differently (most of the time)

So many look and judge what’s on the outside, creating a profile of someone before even learning what that person’s all about.

So those that want to get to know me then I’m fine with doing so.

But I’ll never judge anyone, that’s not my place to do so.

But I’ll decide if me and that person are on the same level and can continue to converse or anything else after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find I'm hard to get to know my walls are pretty high as most only end up sh*ting on you anyway

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I find I'm hard to get to know my walls are pretty high as most only end up sh*ting on you anyway "
shit in you from height

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find I'm hard to get to know my walls are pretty high as most only end up sh*ting on you anyway shit in you from height "
no because I don't give anyone the chance to I'm just a passing ship & if I did bump into you it would mean absolutely jack shit

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

I am fairly reserved, what I like about the fora is you can find like minded people by reading what they post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am fairly reserved, what I like about the fora is you can find like minded people by reading what they post

I love when people call it the fora

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

"I am fairly reserved, what I like about the fora is you can find like minded people by reading what they post

I love when people call it the fora

Anything to bring a little more happiness to the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am fairly reserved, what I like about the fora is you can find like minded people by reading what they post

I love when people call it the fora

Anything to bring a little more happiness to the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty ambivalent towards people so yeah I would say so

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I am fairly reserved, what I like about the fora is you can find like minded people by reading what they post

I love when people call it the fora

Anything to bring a little more happiness to the world

Seconding the love for fora, long may it reign.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m impossible for new people to get to know. I have zero interest in knowing anyone new or them knowing me. Walls as high as the clouds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am fairly reserved, what I like about the fora is you can find like minded people by reading what they post

I love when people call it the fora

Anything to bring a little more happiness to the world

Seconding the love for fora, long may it reign.

Stand aside please - the fora herd are coming through.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I’m impossible for new people to get to know. I have zero interest in knowing anyone new or them knowing me. Walls as high as the clouds. "
you come across like that too

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

So here we go - my profile sums me up in terms of swinging background and interests. Not everything is on there but most items are.

In terms of socially what I am in to. I am open to my first move of football, which most people know. I am a geek as well so known to love marvel and video games and what not

So I am straight (I have to say this because had recently few people assume I am bi, or not straight enough pmsl). I am not an alpha male for sure.

I can be hard to read at times, so people may misread me or my intentions. Sometimes I can be to open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m impossible for new people to get to know. I have zero interest in knowing anyone new or them knowing me. Walls as high as the clouds. you come across like that too

Don’t think that’s necessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m easy to get to know…. And I open up easily which isn’t always a good thing

Me too however I am also rubbish at small talk

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I’m impossible for new people to get to know. I have zero interest in knowing anyone new or them knowing me. Walls as high as the clouds. you come across like that too

Don’t think that’s necessary "
you said it and I agreed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m impossible for new people to get to know. I have zero interest in knowing anyone new or them knowing me. Walls as high as the clouds. you come across like that too

Don’t think that’s necessary you said it and I agreed?

Firstly, you don’t know me so not sure how you could agree. Secondly, it came across as arsey on your part and I don’t think it was necessary.

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By *oozleMan
over a year ago

high wycombe

I’m more of a thinker, so I struggle with small talk somewhat.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I’m impossible for new people to get to know. I have zero interest in knowing anyone new or them knowing me. Walls as high as the clouds. you come across like that too

Don’t think that’s necessary you said it and I agreed?

Firstly, you don’t know me so not sure how you could agree. Secondly, it came across as arsey on your part and I don’t think it was necessary. "
OK you're right everything else is wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty easy to a point.. Then I'm like a slab of concrete... There's stuff i don't even tell to myself

Soz to my friends and regular fellow chatters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m impossible for new people to get to know. I have zero interest in knowing anyone new or them knowing me. Walls as high as the clouds. you come across like that too

Don’t think that’s necessary you said it and I agreed?

Firstly, you don’t know me so not sure how you could agree. Secondly, it came across as arsey on your part and I don’t think it was necessary. OK you're right everything else is wrong

About myself? Erm, yeah haha I think I know me better than anyone else. Not sure how you’d know more about my personal feelings than me but crack on haha

Enjoy your day babes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm pretty easy to a point.. Then I'm like a slab of concrete... There's stuff i don't even tell to myself

Soz to my friends and regular fellow chatters "

Same

My close friends know everything but due to a scary stalking situation, I don’t allow anyone new in

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I'll talk to you op, truth is I don't have enough time for loads of friends "
or even 2

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yep, ask anyone who messages me! It’s like trying to open a box with a rusty hinge. Hard work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep, ask anyone who messages me! It’s like trying to open a box with a rusty hinge. Hard work! "

Offt I'd like to oil your box.. Wait wrong thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You may have many friends or be an extrovert but are you hard to get to know?

I feel I am. I'm extremely open but also quite frosty and shit at small talk.

So how about you? "

Same god awful at small talk and moving a conversation forward,Sort of luck into it half the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im hard to get to know as i only answer the qustion i was asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep, ask anyone who messages me! It’s like trying to open a box with a rusty hinge. Hard work!

Offt I'd like to oil your box.. Wait wrong thread

WD40 anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im hard to get to know as i only answer the qustion i was asked

I thought that I was the only one to do that! I struggle between being polite (so answering them) and the fear of leading someone on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well considering I've been told I look angry and sound ruthless, I feel like that may play a factor

Though I do like to think of myself as funny and cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well considering I've been told I look angry and sound ruthless, I feel like that may play a factor

Though I do like to think of myself as funny and cool

Isn’t everyone from Liverpool funny and cool? I thought it was a given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well considering I've been told I look angry and sound ruthless, I feel like that may play a factor

Though I do like to think of myself as funny and cool

Isn’t everyone from Liverpool funny and cool? I thought it was a given

I'm Slavic, so a fake scouser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well considering I've been told I look angry and sound ruthless, I feel like that may play a factor

Though I do like to think of myself as funny and cool

Isn’t everyone from Liverpool funny and cool? I thought it was a given

I'm Slavic, so a fake scouser

Ah, but you live here so it must be rubbing off on you

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By *arrisonMan
over a year ago

Woolacombe

"You may have many friends or be an extrovert but are you hard to get to know?

I feel I am. I'm extremely open but also quite frosty and shit at small talk.

So how about you? "

I'm beginning to think that I am. I'd always thought that I'm what I term a 'supercommunicator' (for better or worse...) but my experience of a relationship recently ending has perhaps taken that from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here or in general?

The latter I’m easy to get to know as in I will give people the time of day, easy to chat to and am good at listening as well.

I wouldn’t say I’m a closed book but I generally think a lot of personal stuff is on a need to know basis and a lot of people just don’t need to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well considering I've been told I look angry and sound ruthless, I feel like that may play a factor

Though I do like to think of myself as funny and cool

Isn’t everyone from Liverpool funny and cool? I thought it was a given

I'm Slavic, so a fake scouser

Ah, but you live here so it must be rubbing off on you

I just wish the accent would rub off too so I can understand my colleges more often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my wife are really bad for oversharing. People know our whole life stories after meeting us once or twice. It’s probably annoying but it’s who we are

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I think I'm easy going.

I like to chat and get to know people.

I've even been known to flirt and be a bit cheeky now and again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well considering I've been told I look angry and sound ruthless, I feel like that may play a factor

Though I do like to think of myself as funny and cool

Isn’t everyone from Liverpool funny and cool? I thought it was a given

I'm Slavic, so a fake scouser

Ah, but you live here so it must be rubbing off on you

I just wish the accent would rub off too so I can understand my colleges more often

Understanding scousers can take years, I believe there’s a course you can take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well considering I've been told I look angry and sound ruthless, I feel like that may play a factor

Though I do like to think of myself as funny and cool

Isn’t everyone from Liverpool funny and cool? I thought it was a given

I'm Slavic, so a fake scouser

Ah, but you live here so it must be rubbing off on you

I just wish the accent would rub off too so I can understand my colleges more often

Understanding scousers can take years, I believe there’s a course you can take

You made me actually Google that

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Well considering I've been told I look angry and sound ruthless, I feel like that may play a factor

Though I do like to think of myself as funny and cool

Isn’t everyone from Liverpool funny and cool? I thought it was a given

I'm Slavic, so a fake scouser

Ah, but you live here so it must be rubbing off on you

I just wish the accent would rub off too so I can understand my colleges more often

Understanding scousers can take years, I believe there’s a course you can take

If I am in Cupids and 2 scousers are talking I am like wtf I struggle to understand anything. I just nod and smile

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over a year ago

"Well considering I've been told I look angry and sound ruthless, I feel like that may play a factor

Though I do like to think of myself as funny and cool

Isn’t everyone from Liverpool funny and cool? I thought it was a given

I'm Slavic, so a fake scouser

Ah, but you live here so it must be rubbing off on you

I just wish the accent would rub off too so I can understand my colleges more often

Understanding scousers can take years, I believe there’s a course you can take

You made me actually Google that

Haha I’m surprised there isn’t one to be honest

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

As an autistic, pretty much all my small-talk is scripted.

Get me on a “special interest” and I’m away.

Most of my closest friends are, it turns out, autistic too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well considering I've been told I look angry and sound ruthless, I feel like that may play a factor

Though I do like to think of myself as funny and cool

Isn’t everyone from Liverpool funny and cool? I thought it was a given

I'm Slavic, so a fake scouser

Ah, but you live here so it must be rubbing off on you

I just wish the accent would rub off too so I can understand my colleges more often

Understanding scousers can take years, I believe there’s a course you can take

If I am in Cupids and 2 scousers are talking I am like wtf I struggle to understand anything. I just nod and smile "

Probably for the best

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over a year ago

"As an autistic, pretty much all my small-talk is scripted.

Get me on a “special interest” and I’m away.

Most of my closest friends are, it turns out, autistic too.

Now I need to know what your special interest is?

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

"As an autistic, pretty much all my small-talk is scripted.

Get me on a “special interest” and I’m away.

Most of my closest friends are, it turns out, autistic too.

Now I need to know what your special interest is? "

Pretty much anything mechanical. Particularly if it’s old and oily, is broken and needs fixing.

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over a year ago

"As an autistic, pretty much all my small-talk is scripted.

Get me on a “special interest” and I’m away.

Most of my closest friends are, it turns out, autistic too.

Now I need to know what your special interest is?

Pretty much anything mechanical. Particularly if it’s old and oily, is broken and needs fixing.

One of the ladies above needs some oil for her rusty box

That’s cool though, I wish I had something to be passionate about. I break a lot of stuff but definitely can’t fix it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should of said that I'm an incredibly sociable friendly and chatty person and will talk to anyone and make a real effort, but I am careful what I say to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I'm a very private person but I'm open with people who are open with me x

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By *histlerMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I’m quite a quiet guy in general. But if I’m comfortable with the company then I’m open. People sometimes perceive that as frostiness… but I’m a nice guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I should of said that I'm an incredibly sociable friendly and chatty person and will talk to anyone and make a real effort, but I am careful what I say to people."

I think i got your inside leg measurement at Manchester

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I should of said that I'm an incredibly sociable friendly and chatty person and will talk to anyone and make a real effort, but I am careful what I say to people."

You are, and I enjoyed our chats x

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By *aughty masonMan
over a year ago

nowhere

"You may have many friends or be an extrovert but are you hard to get to know?

I feel I am. I'm extremely open but also quite frosty and shit at small talk.

So how about you? "

That’s definitely me!!!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Nope I'm not hard to get to know at all, happy to chat and overshare

Will you know anything that can be used against me... No.

Apart from that one time in band camp…."

Oiiiiiii what happens in band camp. Stays in band camp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an introverted extrovert so I guess I am hard to get to know

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I can chat to almost anyone

Just struggle with people that respond back with 1- 2 word answers

Lose interest in 5,4,3, _ 0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m an introvert (ISTJ), hate small talk and very regimented and methodical. I think I’m pretty hard to know, but still waters run deep as the saying goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I should of said that I'm an incredibly sociable friendly and chatty person and will talk to anyone and make a real effort, but I am careful what I say to people.

I think i got your inside leg measurement at Manchester

Probably

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over a year ago

"I should of said that I'm an incredibly sociable friendly and chatty person and will talk to anyone and make a real effort, but I am careful what I say to people.

You are, and I enjoyed our chats x"

Thank you

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

Think i an easy to get along with.You can ask me anything and if i can answer i would. You cant be a good natter before jumping into bed.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'll chat to anyone about anything though no-one gets to know 'what makes me tick' so in that respect I guess I am a closed book x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll chat to anyone about anything though no-one gets to know 'what makes me tick' so in that respect I guess I am a closed book x"

I can kind of confirm that, I've spoken to you numerous times over the last 3 years and still feel I haven't got past the 1st chapter

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over a year ago

"I'll chat to anyone about anything though no-one gets to know 'what makes me tick' so in that respect I guess I am a closed book x"

I’m similar. Easy to get to know on a superficial level, but the deep stuff not so much.

An oversharer is the opposite of me!

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By *cottieboy123Man
over a year ago

Perth

"I'll chat to anyone about anything though no-one gets to know 'what makes me tick' so in that respect I guess I am a closed book x

I’m similar. Easy to get to know on a superficial level, but the deep stuff not so much.

An oversharer is the opposite of me!"

The eternal conundrum with fab.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Absolutely horrendous at small talk. I often think, why are these people telling me this, during small talk.

One to one I'm alright getting to know someone, but general chit chat, terrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m like a closed book and rarely give much away about myself. For the longest time I have learnt to build in silence but that has bled into all aspects of my life

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'll chat to anyone about anything though no-one gets to know 'what makes me tick' so in that respect I guess I am a closed book x

I’m similar. Easy to get to know on a superficial level, but the deep stuff not so much.

An oversharer is the opposite of me!"

Me too x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'll chat to anyone about anything though no-one gets to know 'what makes me tick' so in that respect I guess I am a closed book x

I can kind of confirm that, I've spoken to you numerous times over the last 3 years and still feel I haven't got past the 1st chapter

No way its been 3 years

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over a year ago

"I'll chat to anyone about anything though no-one gets to know 'what makes me tick' so in that respect I guess I am a closed book x

I can kind of confirm that, I've spoken to you numerous times over the last 3 years and still feel I haven't got past the 1st chapter

No way its been 3 years

It has, I've got a cake photo you sent me as proof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You may have many friends or be an extrovert but are you hard to get to know?

I feel I am. I'm extremely open but also quite frosty and shit at small talk.

So how about you? "
apparently I am very offish, intimidating and give an heir of being agitated. Dunno why, I am a lovely person ,I just dislike most people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm easy going.

I like to chat and get to know people.

I've even been known to flirt and be a bit cheeky now and again.

You're definitely a flirt

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I am great at small talk and can hold a conversation with anyone. Most of my acquaintances would think they know me fairly well and that I'm a relatively open book.

In real life I rarely open up about the deeper stuff though. I'm much more emotionally open online than I am in real life - very few people really get to know me.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I'm quite shy and reserved when I first meet anyone, but that does change over a period of time, a few hours, days or weeks.

Sometimes I don't let anyone in as I like to keep my deepest thoughts and dreams to myself.

I've found through experience that sharing to much isn't always a good thing.

I like it on here as I can say what I want, without being rude, and express some of my thoughts and dreams.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I think I'm easy going.

I like to chat and get to know people.

I've even been known to flirt and be a bit cheeky now and again.

You're definitely a flirt

Fuck yeah. If you've got it, flaunt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an interesting question that I've often given thought to. If you don't open up, share a little of yourself - it's likely others won't open up or share a little of themselves. And I really like those connections with others. They're meaningful and powerful. And I've found over time that if I do share a little (for example I shared that I suffer from panic attacks) that other people reach out and feel enabled to talk about it.

The trouble is that some are malicious with their intentions - they want to use that information about you for their own gain. It's reaching a balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's an interesting question that I've often given thought to. If you don't open up, share a little of yourself - it's likely others won't open up or share a little of themselves. And I really like those connections with others. They're meaningful and powerful. And I've found over time that if I do share a little (for example I shared that I suffer from panic attacks) that other people reach out and feel enabled to talk about it.

The trouble is that some are malicious with their intentions - they want to use that information about you for their own gain. It's reaching a balance. "

This is the issue that I have.

One you’ve been in a dangerous situation with someone, you do everything that you can to protect yourself in future.

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over a year ago

The trouble is that some are malicious with their intentions - they want to use that information about you for their own gain. It's reaching a balance.

This is the issue that I have.

One you’ve been in a dangerous situation with someone, you do everything that you can to protect yourself in future."

I know. I've been hurt several times because I am an open person. But being a closed off book is not who I am. It's completely opposite to my ethos in life. And I've been able to be myself for only a few years really since my LTR ended. So far I have licked my wounds and bounced back. I was just struck by how many people talked about being guarded and wondered if people always recognise that closed off means you miss out on good stuff too.

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over a year ago

The trouble is that some are malicious with their intentions - they want to use that information about you for their own gain. It's reaching a balance.

This is the issue that I have.

One you’ve been in a dangerous situation with someone, you do everything that you can to protect yourself in future.

Oh you definitely miss out. I was previously a really open person, would talk to anyone about anything and was really out there. Then I was stalked by an obsessive maniac and my whole life changed.

Now I’m a very closed book. It’s sad because that’s not who I am but it will be many many years until I trust people that I don’t already know again.

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over a year ago

The trouble is that some are malicious with their intentions - they want to use that information about you for their own gain. It's reaching a balance.

This is the issue that I have.

One you’ve been in a dangerous situation with someone, you do everything that you can to protect yourself in future.

Oh you definitely miss out. I was previously a really open person, would talk to anyone about anything and was really out there. Then I was stalked by an obsessive maniac and my whole life changed.

Now I’m a very closed book. It’s sad because that’s not who I am but it will be many many years until I trust people that I don’t already know again."

Oh my! Totally understandable why you'd feel that way.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I feel i'm quite chatty & easy to get to know but, need a similar personality to the other person in order to really gel.

I kinda like random small talk.

I'm not the life & soul of the party or an extrovert in public though.

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over a year ago

The trouble is that some are malicious with their intentions - they want to use that information about you for their own gain. It's reaching a balance.

This is the issue that I have.

One you’ve been in a dangerous situation with someone, you do everything that you can to protect yourself in future.

Oh you definitely miss out. I was previously a really open person, would talk to anyone about anything and was really out there. Then I was stalked by an obsessive maniac and my whole life changed.

Now I’m a very closed book. It’s sad because that’s not who I am but it will be many many years until I trust people that I don’t already know again.

Oh my! Totally understandable why you'd feel that way.

Thank you

It’s really shit but such is life and I’m lucky to have the most amazing friends around me

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm fairly guarded and superficial when it comes to online interactions.

In real life, I'm fairly easy to get to know if I'm spending time regularly with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fairly guarded and superficial when it comes to online interactions.

In real life, I'm fairly easy to get to know if I'm spending time regularly with someone "

How does someone penetrate your walls? To get to know you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t even know myself. How can anyone else know me?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I'm fairly guarded and superficial when it comes to online interactions.

In real life, I'm fairly easy to get to know if I'm spending time regularly with someone

How does someone penetrate your walls? To get to know you? "

By spending time with me I guess

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

I'm open after a point but hard to read and can appear standoffish but in truth, it's a facade. Barely anyone stays to see past it though.

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over a year ago

I'm terrible at starting conversation topics but once it starts, I'm generally good at holding it and asking questions to keep it going.

My main worry is asking too many questions which might annoy them or try to tell them my own experiences which makes it sound like I'm talking about myself too much

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over a year ago

"I'm fairly guarded and superficial when it comes to online interactions.

In real life, I'm fairly easy to get to know if I'm spending time regularly with someone

How does someone penetrate your walls? To get to know you?

By spending time with me I guess "

Lucky you- I’ve looked at flights and I’ll be with you around lunchtime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You may have many friends or be an extrovert but are you hard to get to know?

I feel I am. I'm extremely open but also quite frosty and shit at small talk.

So how about you? "

Suppose people don't want drama in their lives , maybe it's an age thing , as you mature you don't take as much crap like you do in your 20's.

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over a year ago

The trouble is that some are malicious with their intentions - they want to use that information about you for their own gain. It's reaching a balance.

This is the issue that I have.

One you’ve been in a dangerous situation with someone, you do everything that you can to protect yourself in future.

Oh you definitely miss out. I was previously a really open person, would talk to anyone about anything and was really out there. Then I was stalked by an obsessive maniac and my whole life changed.

Now I’m a very closed book. It’s sad because that’s not who I am but it will be many many years until I trust people that I don’t already know again.

Oh my! Totally understandable why you'd feel that way.

Thank you

It’s really shit but such is life and I’m lucky to have the most amazing friends around me

I'm glad you do x

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