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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

Do they work? And do people actually pay for them??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they work

Yes people pay to use them

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

I have paid for dating sites in the past and used free ones and there is no difference to the types of people you can meet.

The disingenuous are everywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

45 but really his 58

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"45 but really his 58 "
???

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"45 but really his 58 ???"

Still not joined any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

Dating apps are a mix of people some look for partners other just looking for notches on the bed post. But yes dating apps work you just have to out the people that aren’t what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself on Grindr.

It’s full of all the straight guys off here but without the girls getting in the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

POF - where the desperate meet the deceitful. IMHO

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience."

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached."

Seems everyone’s different. Bumble by far is the wurst for me because I can’t get over the fact an app handed control of the conversation over to women and all any of them say is “hi”

POF is bad. Plenty of single mums

Tinder is the best as it’s got the biggest user base

Badoo and Facebook dating are hit and miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience."

I’ve never tried bumble . Is it worth a gander ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

I’ve never tried bumble . Is it worth a gander ?"

I like it. The guys on there tend to be a bit nicer in my experience. Sensible conversations and not straight to dirty talk.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

I met scouse on a dating site, so yeah, they work.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

OkCupid is really good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend met her husband on one, married for 11 happy years

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Bumble is odd.

It gives the ladies the power to message first but 9 times out if 10 my matches never even message. Maybe it's just me

Tinder is by far the biggest user base so purely from a numbers game it will be your best bet.

This from a single, 40+ gent that lives in a low population density area. The odds are not in my favour at all.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

Agreed. It can be rather demoralising at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

Do you think so? That hasn’t been my experience, I’ve dated some nicer guys in my 40’s than I did when I was younger. Maybe I just don’t put up with wankers now I’m older?

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By *razy ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Alyson and I met on pof about two and a half years ago, we're now happily engaged and enjoying a very fruitful and liberating swinging relationship together!

So yup, they do work

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

Used them all at different times over the past 12 yrs, probably for about 2wks maximum at a time. found them all the same, and the same males on them.

Tinder, swipe right, match and don't reply.

Bumble, I've sent a message and no reply.

Pof, gave up on that one.

Given up on dating now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

Agreed. It can be rather demoralising at times "

God help me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

Do you think so? That hasn’t been my experience, I’ve dated some nicer guys in my 40’s than I did when I was younger. Maybe I just don’t put up with wankers now I’m older? "

Same for me, dating in my 40s has been much more successful!

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached.

Seems everyone’s different. Bumble by far is the wurst for me because I can’t get over the fact an app handed control of the conversation over to women and all any of them say is “hi”

POF is bad. Plenty of single mums

Tinder is the best as it’s got the biggest user base

Badoo and Facebook dating are hit and miss

Tinder may have the biggest user base, but it's the only one I've not had a date from.

It seems full of people either wanting marriage or a one off. Not quite what I'm after, which is probably why it fails for me.

Bumble works pretty well. The women don't feel so hassled and I've had a few meets on there.

Fab has been far the best. Made some lifelong friends, had plenty of experiences and feels more of a community.

I guess the location and what you are after massively changes your experience, so it's worth giving them all a shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

Haha spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do they work? And do people actually pay for them??"

Yes and yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached.

Seems everyone’s different. Bumble by far is the wurst for me because I can’t get over the fact an app handed control of the conversation over to women and all any of them say is “hi”

POF is bad. Plenty of single mums

And what's the issue with single mums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only get out what you put in, now I'm to sit in the corner of a charity shop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached."

Lol not round where I live - Bumble is full of the same chancers on Tinder, but they pretend they want to find true love.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached.

Seems everyone’s different. Bumble by far is the wurst for me because I can’t get over the fact an app handed control of the conversation over to women and all any of them say is “hi”

POF is bad. Plenty of single mums

And what's the issue with single mums? "

“Seems everyone’s different”

Nothing, they’re just not for me and the site seems to be full of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached.

Seems everyone’s different. Bumble by far is the wurst for me because I can’t get over the fact an app handed control of the conversation over to women and all any of them say is “hi”

POF is bad. Plenty of single mums

And what's the issue with single mums?

“Seems everyone’s different”

Nothing, they’re just not for me and the site seems to be full of them "

I know you don't want to meet women with children, it just read as though there's a problem with them. I am one, as you know. POF is bloody awful, don't think I've ever encountered so many guys with rough paper rounds in my life.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached.

Seems everyone’s different. Bumble by far is the wurst for me because I can’t get over the fact an app handed control of the conversation over to women and all any of them say is “hi”

POF is bad. Plenty of single mums

And what's the issue with single mums?

“Seems everyone’s different”

Nothing, they’re just not for me and the site seems to be full of them

Don’t take it that way, it’s just a preference and I’m sure many single mums have zero interest in me either. It’s all preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend met her husband on one, married for 11 happy years "

Married and happy? That's as rare as a flying panda....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached.

Seems everyone’s different. Bumble by far is the wurst for me because I can’t get over the fact an app handed control of the conversation over to women and all any of them say is “hi”

POF is bad. Plenty of single mums

And what's the issue with single mums?

“Seems everyone’s different”

Nothing, they’re just not for me and the site seems to be full of them

Don’t take it that way, it’s just a preference and I’m sure many single mums have zero interest in me either. It’s all preferences

Oh I am not taking it any way. No worries.

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

Badoo is where all the international women look to learn English

Tinder is where you go for Instagram likes

Pof is where you launch your web cam career

Hinge don’t know only been on it a month but it looks ok ish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating websites are full of people that say they like you, want to date you etc etc but all they actually want is sex.

At least here they are generally honest about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating websites are full of people that say they like you, want to date you etc etc but all they actually want is sex.

At least here they are generally honest about that. "

Err and coffee too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which is the best one to find a rich husband?

When I was younger I wanted to make my own money and be independent. Little did I realise how knackered I'd be.

So, rich husband?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which is the best one to find a rich husband?

When I was younger I wanted to make my own money and be independent. Little did I realise how knackered I'd be.

So, rich husband? "

Yeah, me too!! PS if he's really old, do I have to have sex with him??

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

"Dating websites are full of people that say they like you, want to date you etc etc but all they actually want is sex.

At least here they are generally honest about that. "

True for the most part, Feeld is a good one too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which is the best one to find a rich husband?

When I was younger I wanted to make my own money and be independent. Little did I realise how knackered I'd be.

So, rich husband?

Yeah, me too!! PS if he's really old, do I have to have sex with him??

I'll join in on this aswell please.

I'm good having sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which is the best one to find a rich husband?

When I was younger I wanted to make my own money and be independent. Little did I realise how knackered I'd be.

So, rich husband?

Yeah, me too!! PS if he's really old, do I have to have sex with him??

I'll join in on this aswell please.

I'm good having sex with them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached.

Seems everyone’s different. Bumble by far is the wurst for me because I can’t get over the fact an app handed control of the conversation over to women and all any of them say is “hi”

POF is bad. Plenty of single mums

And what's the issue with single mums? "

I thought that ! I’m one myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating websites are full of people that say they like you, want to date you etc etc but all they actually want is sex.

At least here they are generally honest about that. "

Hmmm true . So what do ppl do if they want to meet someone for a relationship ??

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

Agreed. It can be rather demoralising at times

God help me

I'm sure you will be fine. There's plenty of single guys out there, just find one that isn't d*unk/broke/damaged/lives with his parents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

Agreed. It can be rather demoralising at times

God help me

I'm sure you will be fine. There's plenty of single guys out there, just find one that isn't d*unk/broke/damaged/lives with his parents"

Hmmmm harder than it sounds tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure if they work but people pay for them. I've found most people on dating sites are on here, so may aswell just stay here and meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating websites are full of people that say they like you, want to date you etc etc but all they actually want is sex.

At least here they are generally honest about that.

Hmmm true . So what do ppl do if they want to meet someone for a relationship ??"

Erm don't.

Stay single, it's much easier.

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

Thanks for the advice. It seems a minefield out there.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

Agreed. It can be rather demoralising at times

God help me

I'm sure you will be fine. There's plenty of single guys out there, just find one that isn't d*unk/broke/damaged/lives with his parents

Hmmmm harder than it sounds tbh "

Yep. 2+ years of online dating and it's a real eye opener!

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

Great I just started at 40+.......I've got no chance then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating websites are full of people that say they like you, want to date you etc etc but all they actually want is sex.

At least here they are generally honest about that.

Hmmm true . So what do ppl do if they want to meet someone for a relationship ??

Erm don't.

Stay single, it's much easier."

True

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By *adshaggersCouple
over a year ago

aldershot

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached."

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By *az080378Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

"Dating websites are full of people that say they like you, want to date you etc etc but all they actually want is sex.

At least here they are generally honest about that.

Hmmm true . So what do ppl do if they want to meet someone for a relationship ??

Erm don't.

Stay single, it's much easier."

Totally agree with this!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was reading something the other day in a book which suggested the matching questionnaires/algorithms on these sites are worthless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great I just started at 40+.......I've got no chance then

I’m over a year in mate . It’s a nightmare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

Agreed. It can be rather demoralising at times

God help me

I'm sure you will be fine. There's plenty of single guys out there, just find one that isn't d*unk/broke/damaged/lives with his parents

Hmmmm harder than it sounds tbh

Yep. 2+ years of online dating and it's a real eye opener!"

It's utter crap. I give up.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

Agreed. It can be rather demoralising at times

God help me

I'm sure you will be fine. There's plenty of single guys out there, just find one that isn't d*unk/broke/damaged/lives with his parents

Hmmmm harder than it sounds tbh

Yep. 2+ years of online dating and it's a real eye opener!

It's utter crap. I give up. "

I'm not giving in, there's someone out there who's life I can make decidedly average

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

No and yes I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached.

Seems everyone’s different. Bumble by far is the wurst for me because I can’t get over the fact an app handed control of the conversation over to women and all any of them say is “hi”

POF is bad. Plenty of single mums

And what's the issue with single mums?

I thought that ! I’m one myself "

Ditto! Although they no longer live at home.

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

When i was single i used one free one and have to say i wish i'd known about fab then... The only difference is the blokes i might have met off fab would have brought me a drink before wanting a shag. The dating site they mostly suggested coming round for coffee - nobody offered to wash the mugs after...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached.

Seems everyone’s different. Bumble by far is the wurst for me because I can’t get over the fact an app handed control of the conversation over to women and all any of them say is “hi”

POF is bad. Plenty of single mums

And what's the issue with single mums?

I thought that ! I’m one myself

Ditto! Although they no longer live at home. "

Thicc meant nothing by it, he explained above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good luck- dating over 40 is like looking for the least damaged item that doesn't smell in a charity shop

Agreed. It can be rather demoralising at times

God help me

I'm sure you will be fine. There's plenty of single guys out there, just find one that isn't d*unk/broke/damaged/lives with his parents

Hmmmm harder than it sounds tbh

Yep. 2+ years of online dating and it's a real eye opener!

It's utter crap. I give up.

I'm not giving in, there's someone out there who's life I can make decidedly average"

Promises, promises!

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Badoo is where all the international women look to learn English

Tinder is where you go for Instagram likes

Pof is where you launch your web cam career

Hinge don’t know only been on it a month but it looks ok ish"

*hastily looking up Hinge*

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By *went OP Man
over a year ago

blackpool

"When i was single i used one free one and have to say i wish i'd known about fab then... The only difference is the blokes i might have met off fab would have brought me a drink before wanting a shag. The dating site they mostly suggested coming round for coffee - nobody offered to wash the mugs after..."
Dating is dating and not just for sex.

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough

"I like bumble and have had some really lovely dates from there in the past. POF is full of bellends and tinder is just guys looking for a quick duck, in my experience.

PoF and Badoo are council estate.

Tinder is a new build with no parking or garage. Thrown up in a month and the plaster is already cracking.

Bumble is the suburbs, older houses, better built, more expensive. Detached."

lozz so true!!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

In my experience, they're all full of liars. All terrible. Match is expensive, but exactly the same with the same 100 profiles randomly rotated.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Which is the best one to find a rich husband?

When I was younger I wanted to make my own money and be independent. Little did I realise how knackered I'd be.

So, rich husband?

Yeah, me too!! PS if he's really old, do I have to have sex with him??

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"DollAR" is the site full of rich men (and women).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating is dating. Is this a government campaign?

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