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By *assing Fancies x OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

We are on the fence with this... we have had socials with people from fab and the subject of the forums being cilcky has arose a few times. Now for us no matter thread it is, everyone has a equal voice and chance to reply.

Yes there are people that interact with eachother much more than others on the threads but surely that's there choice. Maybe these people have personal relationships and longlasting friendships or maybe they just like interactions with certain people

To be honest we can see why some may think that as on certain threads we pretty much know the script before it happens but on the otherhand we all speak or flirt with who ever we want (us included)....

Now this isn't ment to be a bitchy thread... more of just wanting people's HONEST opinions on how you guys think the forums are.

For us we pretty much just float around and get involved if we see something we want to comment on but we completely understand how others may perceive things... what do you guys think?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Yes, yes they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don’t think they are.

It’s a bit like a pub. You get groups of people who know each other, and so they chat and banter more, but lots of people are inclusive on here, and the community changes all the time.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I’m a regular forum user, sometimes I take part for the shits and giggles, sometimes I fancy a perv, sometimes I like to get my tuppence worth in on a more serious topic and others I’m just plain nosey..it’s an escapism and for me lighthearted fun.

I enjoy it for the most part and have connected with some people I perhaps wouldn’t have in terms of location - my last few meets have been with forum users and one of which I’m beyond happy to have found not just sexually but in terms of friendship

I don’t see cliques maybe because I don’t consider myself cliquey I’m the same way with everyone regardless if they post often or are a newcomer to the forum - basically I’m too chilled to give a shit xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. Very much so I find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I don’t think they are.

It’s a bit like a pub. You get groups of people who know each other, and so they chat and banter more, but lots of people are inclusive on here, and the community changes all the time. "

I think it’s a fair analogy, sometimes there are the absolute regulars and they will sometimes dominate a thread in terms of amount of content etc. But many whom welcome new people too.

I think socials through forums can also appear that way as well.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

I've only been a forum user a few weeks and as far as forums go this is a pretty standard place, nothing overtly cliquey

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By *assing Fancies x OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest


"Yes, yes they are"
100% respect you opinion... would you care to elaborate on why and your perspective on things on the forums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno, I’m just here to twat around a bit and hopefully bring a giggle or two to serious discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are on the fence with this... we have had socials with people from fab and the subject of the forums being cilcky has arose a few times. Now for us no matter thread it is, everyone has a equal voice and chance to reply.

Yes there are people that interact with eachother much more than others on the threads but surely that's there choice. Maybe these people have personal relationships and longlasting friendships or maybe they just like interactions with certain people

To be honest we can see why some may think that as on certain threads we pretty much know the script before it happens but on the otherhand we all speak or flirt with who ever we want (us included)....

Now this isn't ment to be a bitchy thread... more of just wanting people's HONEST opinions on how you guys think the forums are.

For us we pretty much just float around and get involved if we see something we want to comment on but we completely understand how others may perceive things... what do you guys think? "

I have honestly found it really friendly, welcoming and inclusive.

Some of the posters are a bit cheerleader-ish with each other. I can see why people might find it mildly annoying, I suppose, but it’s to be expected. And it doesn’t bother me.

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

For me it's the better part of the site, better than the chat rooms

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

There's definitely threads where certain people will comment and those comments will get acknowledged & replied to & most other comments ignored, but I think that's more that people just know each other (virtually) so their names /comments stand out more

I feel like otherwise they are quite inclusive anyone can start a thread/comment etc & generally everyone plays nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it is. "

No it's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it is.

No it's not. "

Sorry - wrong thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are on the fence with this... we have had socials with people from fab and the subject of the forums being cilcky has arose a few times. Now for us no matter thread it is, everyone has a equal voice and chance to reply.

Yes there are people that interact with eachother much more than others on the threads but surely that's there choice. Maybe these people have personal relationships and longlasting friendships or maybe they just like interactions with certain people

To be honest we can see why some may think that as on certain threads we pretty much know the script before it happens but on the otherhand we all speak or flirt with who ever we want (us included)....

Now this isn't ment to be a bitchy thread... more of just wanting people's HONEST opinions on how you guys think the forums are.

For us we pretty much just float around and get involved if we see something we want to comment on but we completely understand how others may perceive things... what do you guys think?

I have honestly found it really friendly, welcoming and inclusive.

Some of the posters are a bit cheerleader-ish with each other. I can see why people might find it mildly annoying, I suppose, but it’s to be expected. And it doesn’t bother me."

Chearleader-ish. I like it.

Gimme a K

Gimme an E

Gimme a Y

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You know the rest.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No. I just make it my own forum and that's all that others have too.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

At times the forums appear cliquey, yes. It's kind of hard at times for such things not to be.

People get familiar with each other, friendships form, friendly dynamics and banter evolves. Sometimes these things take front and centre.

A clique intentionally excludes any and all of those outside of the clique. I've very rarely witnessed actual exclusion whenever the clique is referenced.

Diagreements and dislikes among people but never exclusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are on the fence with this... we have had socials with people from fab and the subject of the forums being cilcky has arose a few times. Now for us no matter thread it is, everyone has a equal voice and chance to reply.

Yes there are people that interact with eachother much more than others on the threads but surely that's there choice. Maybe these people have personal relationships and longlasting friendships or maybe they just like interactions with certain people

To be honest we can see why some may think that as on certain threads we pretty much know the script before it happens but on the otherhand we all speak or flirt with who ever we want (us included)....

Now this isn't ment to be a bitchy thread... more of just wanting people's HONEST opinions on how you guys think the forums are.

For us we pretty much just float around and get involved if we see something we want to comment on but we completely understand how others may perceive things... what do you guys think?

I have honestly found it really friendly, welcoming and inclusive.

Some of the posters are a bit cheerleader-ish with each other. I can see why people might find it mildly annoying, I suppose, but it’s to be expected. And it doesn’t bother me.

Chearleader-ish. I like it.

Gimme a K

Gimme an E

Gimme a Y

…

You know the rest."

Shaking my pom-poms at you …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it is. I’ve only been using the forums for a couple of months and haven’t noticed it.

There’s people that talk to each other more and have inside jokes but these are usually people that post more frequently.

I do find there are different types of forumites though and they usually gravitate towards each other. The wind ups, the fence sitters, the controversial ones, the jokers and a few more.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
over a year ago

York

If something in a thread takes my interest, I'll answer or comment

People can choose to respond or not, it's their right.

If they do... To quote Bricktop.. "goody gumdrops" if not, fair enough.

I don't think forums are intentionally cliquey..

It's just like life, everyone needs time to get used to and comfortable with each other.

B

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Yes, yes they are 100% respect you opinion... would you care to elaborate on why and your perspective on things on the forums? "

No elaboration, I just think they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is clicky, there's no getting away from

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

New members are constantly reminded of people who used to frequent this parish but have left for various reasons and the new arrivals just don't measure up. If it was really just a group of friends they would have their private conversations elsewhere and they wouldn't need the forums for the inside jokes and less than subtle lamppost pissing.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At times the forums appear cliquey, yes. It's kind of hard at times for such things not to be.

People get familiar with each other, friendships form, friendly dynamics and banter evolves. Sometimes these things take front and centre.

A clique intentionally excludes any and all of those outside of the clique. I've very rarely witnessed actual exclusion whenever the clique is referenced.

Diagreements and dislikes among people but never exclusion."

I agree with this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can be part of cliques and not even realize it, or we can pass judgement on cliques we're not part off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’m cliquey but if anyone has observed differently, please feel free to let me know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can be very clique to some and not to others. It's all about individual perception.

Often people who are on the forums have known each other for years so when someone new comes around and might have an argument with a regular forum user, their forum friends may come and attack him. Obviously that's wrong thing to do but I think people would act the same way in real life when defending their friends.

I do find that forums are more judgemental than clique per say.

You often have the same users shaming other people for their kinks and preferences time and time again. Whenever a new thread is started by someone who's new to the forums they jump on it and try to either derail it or shame their users for liking certain things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think they are, I’ve just discovered them and don’t feel excluded.

I find it fun seeing the connections between others that have been here longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just poste what’s on my mind unfiltered on the subject

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I like the forums as I feel it’s a good place to share problems, gain advice the lifestyle etc. I

Enjoy most of the posts and I like reading what the regular posters have to say.

I do keep chipping away, but feel it’s more a place to make an opinion, share something funny. I don’t think it’s a place to make friends as such. Going out to clubs is a way of getting to know people on more person level.

It’s like any other social media platform really, not everyone will respond, post reply as we’re all busy doing shit at different times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They can be very clique to some and not to others. It's all about individual perception.

Often people who are on the forums have known each other for years so when someone new comes around and might have an argument with a regular forum user, their forum friends may come and attack him. Obviously that's wrong thing to do but I think people would act the same way in real life when defending their friends.

I do find that forums are more judgemental than clique per say.

You often have the same users shaming other people for their kinks and preferences time and time again. Whenever a new thread is started by someone who's new to the forums they jump on it and try to either derail it or shame their users for liking certain things."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes yes they are and I think there are groups of people the only interact with each other but on the whole I think the forums are quite inclusive.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

New members are constantly reminded of people who used to frequent this parish but have left for various reasons and the new arrivals just don't measure up. If it was really just a group of friends they would have their private conversations elsewhere and they wouldn't need the forums for the inside jokes and less than subtle lamppost pissing.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist."

I partially do agree with this. The old members thing is one that I've never really thought of, but that is indeed true. "the good ol' days" comments are certainly very clique focused but only one aspect of the clique traits.

I still don't think there is a big overlording clique, the forum mafia as it were. But certainly aspects of cliqueness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

New members are constantly reminded of people who used to frequent this parish but have left for various reasons and the new arrivals just don't measure up. If it was really just a group of friends they would have their private conversations elsewhere and they wouldn't need the forums for the inside jokes and less than subtle lamppost pissing.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

New members are constantly reminded of people who used to frequent this parish but have left for various reasons and the new arrivals just don't measure up. If it was really just a group of friends they would have their private conversations elsewhere and they wouldn't need the forums for the inside jokes and less than subtle lamppost pissing.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist."

I would say that is a pretty fair analyses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like any other forum, those considered part of the clique will express friendships have developed and therefore are more likely to understand one another's ways and banter, so more likely to converse together over the forums.

Those that aren't considered part of the clique may suggest that yes there is a clique as there are forum users that are more likely to converse together, ignoring other users.

In their own ways, both are correct.

Forums will always feel this way to some.

Just keep posting and find your own tribe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's cliquey because I've felt included.

There's a nightly thread that says explicitly newbies are welcome here....not sure how much more inclusive that can be.

Sometimes people can get overlooked, but I don't think that's intentional, just maybe more that certain people are more entertaining, got better jokes and have more, subjectivity, interesting things to say..or something...

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"They can be very clique to some and not to others. It's all about individual perception.

Often people who are on the forums have known each other for years so when someone new comes around and might have an argument with a regular forum user, their forum friends may come and attack him. Obviously that's wrong thing to do but I think people would act the same way in real life when defending their friends.

I do find that forums are more judgemental than clique per say.

You often have the same users shaming other people for their kinks and preferences time and time again. Whenever a new thread is started by someone who's new to the forums they jump on it and try to either derail it or shame their users for liking certain things.

Well said "

Another good point.

I actually think it's a combination of this, and what Realitybites said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it."

Your posts are awesome I do love reading them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are little cliques. A certain handful of people who will band together to bash someone or gang up to push their opinion / agenda. Some forums regulars who get on well. But take away what you will, just be yourself and you will find lovely like minded folk to chat to. Just remember it is healthy to be exposed to opinions that are different to yours. Echo chambers are bad places, so dont let the shouty minority turn the forums into that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

Your posts are awesome I do love reading them x"

You’ve really lifted my heart with that comment, Natalie. Thank so much, you beautiful human xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They can be very clique to some and not to others. It's all about individual perception.

Often people who are on the forums have known each other for years so when someone new comes around and might have an argument with a regular forum user, their forum friends may come and attack him. Obviously that's wrong thing to do but I think people would act the same way in real life when defending their friends.

I do find that forums are more judgemental than clique per say.

You often have the same users shaming other people for their kinks and preferences time and time again. Whenever a new thread is started by someone who's new to the forums they jump on it and try to either derail it or shame their users for liking certain things."

Bareback being a particular trigger here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They can be very clique to some and not to others. It's all about individual perception.

Often people who are on the forums have known each other for years so when someone new comes around and might have an argument with a regular forum user, their forum friends may come and attack him. Obviously that's wrong thing to do but I think people would act the same way in real life when defending their friends.

I do find that forums are more judgemental than clique per say.

You often have the same users shaming other people for their kinks and preferences time and time again. Whenever a new thread is started by someone who's new to the forums they jump on it and try to either derail it or shame their users for liking certain things."

Another fair analysis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it."

I've noticed you around.

I find you very attractive.

Would you go to bed with me?

*Name the song!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

Your posts are awesome I do love reading them x

You’ve really lifted my heart with that comment, Natalie. Thank so much, you beautiful human xx"

I am glad I could and your welcome and awww thank you so much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's cliquey because I've felt included.

There's a nightly thread that says explicitly newbies are welcome here....not sure how much more inclusive that can be.

Sometimes people can get overlooked, but I don't think that's intentional, just maybe more that certain people are more entertaining, got better jokes and have more, subjectivity, interesting things to say..or something..."

I think you are referring to the nocturnal thread and yes that is a specific thread that is aimed at inclusivity. I don't believe every thread should be inclusive because they don't have to be. I do find some threads You can almost predict who will be responded to and who won't. I don't necessarily see that problem as there are lots of inclusive threads.

The nocturnal thread is quite a good example of an inclusive thread but is also really hard work to keep up with at times so I don't believe it's practical for every thread to be inclusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time.

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By *assing Fancies x OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest


"Yes, yes they are 100% respect you opinion... would you care to elaborate on why and your perspective on things on the forums?

No elaboration, I just think they are."
oki doki no worries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

I've noticed you around.

I find you very attractive.

Would you go to bed with me?

*Name the song! "

Would You?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of arguments - my advice, ignore the spats and avoid the click bait, spread love +leg

Some days good people are just having a bad day and caught off guard

Others are caught up in the giddiness of attention but may be fighting their own demons

Love + peace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

I've noticed you around.

I find you very attractive.

Would you go to bed with me?

*Name the song! "

Superman - Black Lace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time."

I'm sorry you feel that way and I think even people who post really regularly get ignored a lot of the time because often on a thread a post doesn't need a reply, I can see why you would take it as being ignored but it's probably more a case of not feeling the need to comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time."

Aww hugs you feel that was well let’s make this the point 1% your not hopefully you had a good Saturday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say yes but it’s not as bad as it used to be.

I also think that the perception is a lot greater than it actually is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time."

Bet your inbox is overflowing with messages from people wanting to chat or meet though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am someone who posts quite a lot here, starts threads and joins in. There are still times here when I feel overlooked or excluded. But I don't think it's deliberate.

I spent some time just reading threads before I even commented. I still do now, just to gauge what the dynamics are like and how people interact. To get a sense of friendships and long-held feuds. Who likes to argue, kink shame or nitpick. I don't get the sense that many who first start a thread or comment actually do that. They start a thread making some daft statement or complaining and that's their intro. Then they get piled on and view it as a clique.

I think if you take the time to learn about a community and have a lot of 1:1 chats - you will feel included. Most of the time. I haven't actually met anyone in person so there are times I still feel out of it.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Define "clicky" OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's cliquey because I've felt included.

There's a nightly thread that says explicitly newbies are welcome here....not sure how much more inclusive that can be.

Sometimes people can get overlooked, but I don't think that's intentional, just maybe more that certain people are more entertaining, got better jokes and have more, subjectivity, interesting things to say..or something...

I think you are referring to the nocturnal thread and yes that is a specific thread that is aimed at inclusivity. I don't believe every thread should be inclusive because they don't have to be. I do find some threads You can almost predict who will be responded to and who won't. I don't necessarily see that problem as there are lots of inclusive threads.

The nocturnal thread is quite a good example of an inclusive thread but is also really hard work to keep up with at times so I don't believe it's practical for every thread to be inclusive. "

Yeah, exactly, responding to every comment would be hard work....just like replying to every message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s interesting. I probably haven’t been here long enough to take in most of it.

I've noticed you around.

I find you very attractive.

Would you go to bed with me?

*Name the song!

Would You? "

[Serious face]

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that the clubs are more clique than the forums lol

I never used to use the forums much (but since I started it’s very much this one I use) I have a knack of offending people unintentionally as what I say/type/write doesn’t come across well (happens on FB A LOT!) but I’ve had nice conversations with nice people on here..

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

New members are constantly reminded of people who used to frequent this parish but have left for various reasons and the new arrivals just don't measure up. If it was really just a group of friends they would have their private conversations elsewhere and they wouldn't need the forums for the inside jokes and less than subtle lamppost pissing.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist."

and its as plain to see as the nose on your face.

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

All I've really seen is people who are already friends making jokes with each other. I tend to avoid the contentious threads so can't say I've seen any ganging up. I'm here for amusement and giggles so gravitate to those who make me laugh. I can only imagine others do similar things.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are lots of arguments - my advice, ignore the spats and avoid the click bait, spread love +leg

Some days good people are just having a bad day and caught off guard

Others are caught up in the giddiness of attention but may be fighting their own demons

Love + peace "

Agreed. But when you that someone is behind the scenes spreading shit to others and others believing it it, it can be difficult.

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Accusers will accuse.

Deniers will deny.

Who gives a toss, it’s a niche Social Media platform with little or no relevance in the realities of life…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time.

Aww hugs you feel that was well let’s make this the point 1% your not hopefully you had a good Saturday "

I did, thanks. I don't take it personally. I still go on the forums and comment when I feel like it. Hope you had a good saturday too xx

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

In all walks of life, cliques do exist; it's an inevitable part of being human as we are naturally hard-wired to form small intimate groups with members of our tribe.

In the past, cliques formed from being close in physical terms; in the modern online lives we lead we form a connection with like-minded people.

Those who feel excluded from one clique will feel perfectly at home in another; it's a matter of investing sufficient time and skilful effort to make contact with your own online modern tribe.

Life has changed, but we as sociable cooperative human animals have not!

Work hard to form your own clique; you will then become the magnet, attracting people, rather than feeling you are being pushed away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to know what cliques there are and who people think are in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, it absolutely is, but the trick is to not really give a crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely does anyone comment on my posts, I don't post looking for replies.

I couldn't care to be honest, I just enjoy talking nonsense or sense sometimes.

Needy people look for inclusion, just my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time.

I'm sorry you feel that way and I think even people who post really regularly get ignored a lot of the time because often on a thread a post doesn't need a reply, I can see why you would take it as being ignored but it's probably more a case of not feeling the need to comment. "

Yes maybe. Not always the case but that I can't make them comment. Their decision x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's cliquey because I've felt included.

There's a nightly thread that says explicitly newbies are welcome here....not sure how much more inclusive that can be.

Sometimes people can get overlooked, but I don't think that's intentional, just maybe more that certain people are more entertaining, got better jokes and have more, subjectivity, interesting things to say..or something...

I think you are referring to the nocturnal thread and yes that is a specific thread that is aimed at inclusivity. I don't believe every thread should be inclusive because they don't have to be. I do find some threads You can almost predict who will be responded to and who won't. I don't necessarily see that problem as there are lots of inclusive threads.

The nocturnal thread is quite a good example of an inclusive thread but is also really hard work to keep up with at times so I don't believe it's practical for every thread to be inclusive.

Yeah, exactly, responding to every comment would be hard work....just like replying to every message! "

Definitely it's very time consuming. My fiance is one of the hosts and I often joke that on a Tuesday through to Thursday I become a nocturnal widow.

I will also add it can be very difficult to constantly come up with something interesting to say to every poster but I definitely think it's a thread that is valued within the forum community. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time.

Bet your inbox is overflowing with messages from people wanting to chat or meet though "

Maybe. Mainly from people wanting to meet right now or people who haven't read my profile so they don't correspond to what I'm looking for x

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By *usman 199Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Not clickey for me . Great people on here. I like to include everyone . . Great to see and here everyone's points of view.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

New members are constantly reminded of people who used to frequent this parish but have left for various reasons and the new arrivals just don't measure up. If it was really just a group of friends they would have their private conversations elsewhere and they wouldn't need the forums for the inside jokes and less than subtle lamppost pissing.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist."

I fully agree with this.

The problem can tend to be akin to being a Clique, from what I've seen in over 12 years on here and repeated trips into the Forum pages.

There have been, as well as current persons, who can on occasions get so wrapped up with each other and dominate a conversation to the exclusion of others who post comments, but get totally

ignored.

Over the years I've not posted on certain threads because I know there's no point in trying to fit in with a response as I'm not "one of the few who matter!"

There are others who regularly pop up, start their threads and occasionally lose track of the sheer volume of responses, but they do catch up in time.

But the Cliques do exist; all I have learnt is to recognise them and not involve myself. It makes life easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They definitely are. I'm ignored 99.9% of the time.

Aww hugs you feel that was well let’s make this the point 1% your not hopefully you had a good Saturday

I did, thanks. I don't take it personally. I still go on the forums and comment when I feel like it. Hope you had a good saturday too xx"

Your welcome and yes I have had and good good you had a good one x

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Very few people go to the pub on their own and spend their evening trying to catch the attention of groups of friends.

As others have already said there are people who know each other through socials or clubs and they tend to get caught up in their own conversations and others feel left out. I don't have an issue with that.

I do however have an issue with those that are guilty of bullying by exclusion or making snidey remarks at others expense.

As I've said before I've been on fab for 5 years and using the forums for 3 years and if it wasn't for the Irish forums I would have given up long ago.

I posted regularly in the lounge for 18 months without a single reply or acknowledgement but stuck at it out of determination to have a voice more than anything.

I don't know enough about anyone here to determine how well they may know others but everything I have described is equally prevalent across all forums here.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling


"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

All I've really seen is people who are already friends making jokes with each other. I tend to avoid the contentious threads so can't say I've seen any ganging up. I'm here for amusement and giggles so gravitate to those who make me laugh. I can only imagine others do similar things.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset. "

100% agree with this

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Not clickey for me . Great people on here. I like to include everyone . . Great to see and here everyone's points of view. "

You are very inclusive on your threads

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

All I've really seen is people who are already friends making jokes with each other. I tend to avoid the contentious threads so can't say I've seen any ganging up. I'm here for amusement and giggles so gravitate to those who make me laugh. I can only imagine others do similar things.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People tend to gravitate to others who think the same as themselves, it's far healthier not to though.

To take in other peoples points of view wether you agree or not stops idiology setting in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

All I've really seen is people who are already friends making jokes with each other. I tend to avoid the contentious threads so can't say I've seen any ganging up. I'm here for amusement and giggles so gravitate to those who make me laugh. I can only imagine others do similar things.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset. "

You say that but there are groups off fab where that has happened.

I guess because they become friends and if one person in that group doesn't like someone the others in that group then avoid that person. I don't think it happens as often as some would suggest but it definitely happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They certainly can be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean I'm very inclusive I will argue with you if I disagree with your point whether you are my friend or not.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

I like the forums I think they connect people that may not be noticed otherwise. I feel there are lots of fun and interesting topics covered.

It comes across in a clique way as some people chat to others more than some but I only see inclusion really.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

All I've really seen is people who are already friends making jokes with each other. I tend to avoid the contentious threads so can't say I've seen any ganging up. I'm here for amusement and giggles so gravitate to those who make me laugh. I can only imagine others do similar things.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset.

You say that but there are groups off fab where that has happened.

I guess because they become friends and if one person in that group doesn't like someone the others in that group then avoid that person. I don't think it happens as often as some would suggest but it definitely happens. "

It definitely does. Which is why I always refuse to join any kind of group chat off of here. I did once and it was horrendous. Never again. Ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

All I've really seen is people who are already friends making jokes with each other. I tend to avoid the contentious threads so can't say I've seen any ganging up. I'm here for amusement and giggles so gravitate to those who make me laugh. I can only imagine others do similar things.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset.

You say that but there are groups off fab where that has happened.

I guess because they become friends and if one person in that group doesn't like someone the others in that group then avoid that person. I don't think it happens as often as some would suggest but it definitely happens. "

This was what I was going to say. In the opposite side of someone likes someone then other members in that group will also like them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

All I've really seen is people who are already friends making jokes with each other. I tend to avoid the contentious threads so can't say I've seen any ganging up. I'm here for amusement and giggles so gravitate to those who make me laugh. I can only imagine others do similar things.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset.

You say that but there are groups off fab where that has happened.

I guess because they become friends and if one person in that group doesn't like someone the others in that group then avoid that person. I don't think it happens as often as some would suggest but it definitely happens.

It definitely does. Which is why I always refuse to join any kind of group chat off of here. I did once and it was horrendous. Never again. Ever. "

I will add not all groups and probably most of them are not like that I just thought it was fair to say that we all know that this has happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not read the rest but, yes and it ebbs and flows.

People form friendship groups, some pair up, it can be cliquey.

Dont let it stop you though, been here a very long time, and its nice to see fresh faces x

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By *usman 199Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Not clickey for me . Great people on here. I like to include everyone . . Great to see and here everyone's points of view.

You are very inclusive on your threads "
Thank you my friend

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By *assing Fancies x OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Thank you to the 3 people that inboxed us correcting our grammar on the thread heading will you all please accept our deepest apologies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you to the 3 people that inboxed us correcting our grammar on the thread heading will you all please accept our deepest apologies "

That’ll be the grammar clique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you to the 3 people that inboxed us correcting our grammar on the thread heading will you all please accept our deepest apologies "

Oh i hate it when people do that and happens to me a fair bit as I don't proofread.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"Are the fab forums clicky?"

They are for me because I use a mouse all the time with my laptop.

If I am incredibly lucky I could be sipping Veuve Cliquot at the same time as seeing if I click with any of the cliques.

However, the big question is: How much cliquebait is there on these forums?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I mean I'm very inclusive I will argue with you if I disagree with your point whether you are my friend or not. "

I'm the same. There are those I like and will gravitate to, I'll interact with them more but not exclusively but they sure as shit are not above being challenged or argued with if I think/know they are wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"However, the big question is: How much cliquebait is there on these forums?"

Ask Tom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean I'm very inclusive I will argue with you if I disagree with your point whether you are my friend or not. "

Yes but you will disagree with them one day and defend them the next, you stick up for what you feel is right and I like that

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

All I've really seen is people who are already friends making jokes with each other. I tend to avoid the contentious threads so can't say I've seen any ganging up. I'm here for amusement and giggles so gravitate to those who make me laugh. I can only imagine others do similar things.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset.

You say that but there are groups off fab where that has happened.

I guess because they become friends and if one person in that group doesn't like someone the others in that group then avoid that person. I don't think it happens as often as some would suggest but it definitely happens.

It definitely does. Which is why I always refuse to join any kind of group chat off of here. I did once and it was horrendous. Never again. Ever. "

Seen it with my own eyes...the bitchiness was unreal

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I mean I'm very inclusive I will argue with you if I disagree with your point whether you are my friend or not. "

I’m totally the opposite

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"The idea of a clique amuses me. I picture a group sat round planning things - who to ignore, who's allowed to reach page one of hot photos, who to be nice to.

All I've really seen is people who are already friends making jokes with each other. I tend to avoid the contentious threads so can't say I've seen any ganging up. I'm here for amusement and giggles so gravitate to those who make me laugh. I can only imagine others do similar things.

This is a forum with many posters, so a lot of people probably feel ignored a lot of the time. I do wonder if that makes them blame a clique for that as they're upset. "

Quite right! I'll be circulating the notes from today's meeting first thing tomorrow morning. To be honest, I shouldn't be replying to your post.... and sadly, you won't be reaching number one this week but do try again next week

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By *assing Fancies x OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest


"Thank you to the 3 people that inboxed us correcting our grammar on the thread heading will you all please accept our deepest apologies

That’ll be the grammar clique "
hope they have brought the cuffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean I'm very inclusive I will argue with you if I disagree with your point whether you are my friend or not.

Yes but you will disagree with them one day and defend them the next, you stick up for what you feel is right and I like that "

Thank you and yes I guess that is true because I just post what I feel and I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea but I'm exactly the same if you meet me at a social or anywhere else. It means a lot that even notice that actually so thank you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People tend to gravitate to others who think the same as themselves, it's far healthier not to though.

To take in other peoples points of view wether you agree or not stops idiology setting in."

Yes I suspect we all do. We come here for a break from real life so gravitating to those who feel easy to chat to is natural.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Allow me to introduce myself - I'm part of the Fatty Clique.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Allow me to introduce myself - I'm part of the Fatty Clique. "

And the blue undie clique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"However, the big question is: How much cliquebait is there on these forums?

Ask Tom"

Ooh harsh!

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Allow me to introduce myself - I'm part of the Fatty Clique. "

Reporting for fatty clique duty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People tend to gravitate to others who think the same as themselves, it's far healthier not to though.

To take in other peoples points of view wether you agree or not stops idiology setting in.

Yes I suspect we all do. We come here for a break from real life so gravitating to those who feel easy to chat to is natural. "

Exactly, it's human nature.

We're all guilty of it

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By *assing Fancies x OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest


"Allow me to introduce myself - I'm part of the Fatty Clique. "
you better be clicking them heels like Dorothy on the dance floor in Manchester CG

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean I'm very inclusive I will argue with you if I disagree with your point whether you are my friend or not.

Yes but you will disagree with them one day and defend them the next, you stick up for what you feel is right and I like that

Thank you and yes I guess that is true because I just post what I feel and I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea but I'm exactly the same if you meet me at a social or anywhere else. It means a lot that even notice that actually so thank you. X"

I notice more than I am given credit for and read between the lines. My perceptions are usually right.

I am the same, what you see is what you get whether online or in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are quite easygoing with the forums. Some of the conversations seem really clicky and we don't get the concept of the discussion or what they are talking about sometimes. If we read something and feel like commenting then we comment. We have noticed that there are plenty enough who get in touch with us via messages without checking our profile from the forums yet they usually don't appear in the forum in question. We're happy to live and let live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Allow me to introduce myself - I'm part of the Fatty Clique.

Reporting for fatty clique duty! "

Specky baldy clique here

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Allow me to introduce myself - I'm part of the Fatty Clique.

Reporting for fatty clique duty!

Specky baldy clique here "

I can join you on the speccy, but not the baldy clique.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't give a shit all entitled to put things out there

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Allow me to introduce myself - I'm part of the Fatty Clique.

Reporting for fatty clique duty! "

Line them up sergeant major

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Allow me to introduce myself - I'm part of the Fatty Clique.

Reporting for fatty clique duty!

Specky baldy clique here

I can join you on the speccy, but not the baldy clique. "

You can if you shave your head

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Allow me to introduce myself - I'm part of the Fatty Clique. you better be clicking them heels like Dorothy on the dance floor in Manchester CG "

Oh, this fat guy has moves.

Don't forget to say hello.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling


"Allow me to introduce myself - I'm part of the Fatty Clique. you better be clicking them heels like Dorothy on the dance floor in Manchester CG

Oh, this fat guy has moves.

Don't forget to say hello. "

Did you bring some cake I feel we need cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People tend to gravitate to others who think the same as themselves, it's far healthier not to though.

To take in other peoples points of view wether you agree or not stops idiology setting in.

Yes I suspect we all do. We come here for a break from real life so gravitating to those who feel easy to chat to is natural.

Exactly, it's human nature.

We're all guilty of it"

I'm not going to feel guilty about it though. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong by chatting to people whom I feel comfortable with. I do my utmost to respond when people direct comments to me or reply on a thread I've started. That's all I think I should need to do.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Allow me to introduce myself - I'm part of the Fatty Clique. you better be clicking them heels like Dorothy on the dance floor in Manchester CG

Oh, this fat guy has moves.

Don't forget to say hello.

Did you bring some cake I feel we need cake "

I believe they'll be plenty on offer.

And cake.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"People tend to gravitate to others who think the same as themselves, it's far healthier not to though.

To take in other peoples points of view wether you agree or not stops idiology setting in.

Yes I suspect we all do. We come here for a break from real life so gravitating to those who feel easy to chat to is natural.

Exactly, it's human nature.

We're all guilty of it

I'm not going to feel guilty about it though. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong by chatting to people whom I feel comfortable with. I do my utmost to respond when people direct comments to me or reply on a thread I've started. That's all I think I should need to do. "

If I go into work, I say hello to those I don't know or chat to. And the ones I know, I might have a longer conversation with.

Same as on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much so. No doubt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People tend to gravitate to others who think the same as themselves, it's far healthier not to though.

To take in other peoples points of view wether you agree or not stops idiology setting in.

Yes I suspect we all do. We come here for a break from real life so gravitating to those who feel easy to chat to is natural.

Exactly, it's human nature.

We're all guilty of it

I'm not going to feel guilty about it though. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong by chatting to people whom I feel comfortable with. I do my utmost to respond when people direct comments to me or reply on a thread I've started. That's all I think I should need to do. "

To be guilty of something isn't necessary a bad thing, I'm guilty of breathing but I get what your saying

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes they are. Very much so.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I mainly talk random bollocks on the forum. I suppose there are cliques as there is in everyday life, but not unwelcome in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody spoke to me for about a year in the lounge. Any threads I started died immediately. I plugged away and eventually made friends. I wonder if anyone thinks I'm part of a clique now? I'm not.

I do think the pub analogy works for me. If I piped up in a place nobody knew me I might expect to be treated with politeness, but not necessarily included.

As for off-fab chat groups... I can imagine that might be cliquey by its very definition. Do people hanker after being part of those? Do we blame the forums for them / that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People tend to gravitate to others who think the same as themselves, it's far healthier not to though.

To take in other peoples points of view wether you agree or not stops idiology setting in.

Yes I suspect we all do. We come here for a break from real life so gravitating to those who feel easy to chat to is natural.

Exactly, it's human nature.

We're all guilty of it

I'm not going to feel guilty about it though. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong by chatting to people whom I feel comfortable with. I do my utmost to respond when people direct comments to me or reply on a thread I've started. That's all I think I should need to do.

To be guilty of something isn't necessary a bad thing, I'm guilty of breathing but I get what your saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say just like most other Internet forums. Yes there are certainly cliques, and those who’ll take offence or wilfully misinterpret and take offence on behalf of others but there’s also some wonderful people who are extremely friendly. And no I won’t make the mistake of naming those in either camp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mainly talk random bollocks on the forum. I suppose there are cliques as there is in everyday life, but not unwelcome in the slightest."

I am currently in a race. Think we are in the random bollocks clique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is *the clique* getting back together?!?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is *the clique* getting back together?!?!?! "

The good old days.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I mainly talk random bollocks on the forum. I suppose there are cliques as there is in everyday life, but not unwelcome in the slightest.

I am currently in a race. Think we are in the random bollocks clique "

I've got my ferret down my keks. If that's not niche Geraldine, I don't know what is x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

Very much like School.......

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Yeah they are a bit clicky for use lol but it's Fab! You can't take a sex site too serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think they are any worse than they were years ago.

My first year on here, 5 or so years ago was very cliquey. I was one of them so I'm just as guilty as anyone.

Now I just pop in and out when I feel like it and don't feel the need to be in one. I don't envy those who are either and to be fair, most of them include the newbies and occasional poster.

Yes, you'll get the regulars who swallow up a thread with their own conversations, constantly copying and pasting but it's been like that for years.

PNG x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

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Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?"

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito


"I used to say no when the word clique was used but over time I've changed my mind and they very do exist.

It's very simple to say it's like groups of friends from the pub but unfortunately that's not a good analogy.

There is lots of talk about inclusivity by people who are anything but.

New members are constantly reminded of people who used to frequent this parish but have left for various reasons and the new arrivals just don't measure up. If it was really just a group of friends they would have their private conversations elsewhere and they wouldn't need the forums for the inside jokes and less than subtle lamppost pissing.

In saying all that I will agree that everything I've just said is an over simplification and generalisation and it doesn't apply across the board but cliques definitely do exist."

I think this sums things up nicely. Having been a user of various forums since I was 16 and I can tell you there are definitely cliques on here. It is part of being in a forum world. There’s always handful of people who give mixed messages like spouting about inclusivity when their behaviour reflects something very different.

It would be nice if there wasn’t such school ground behaviours but then what would we have to talk about if we all agreed with one another?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?"

Love you Gran

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?"

Very fair point

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?"

I you Granny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?"

Have I told you I love you today?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Yeah they are a bit clicky for use lol but it's Fab! You can't take a sex site too serious "

Shhh, don't say sex site

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

Have I told you I love you today? "

There's a new clique in town

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

Have I told you I love you today? "

Not today no. So I have uncliqued you for 36 hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

Have I told you I love you today?

There's a new clique in town "

The Granny Clique!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

Have I told you I love you today?

Not today no. So I have uncliqued you for 36 hours. "

Sigh*

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

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They can't blow smoke in private, that's not good for their image

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there is, especially in the Scottish forum. There are certain ones who have been on here a long time who stick to their group. Glad to say I'm not part of it, I wouldn't want to be x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

Have I told you I love you today?

Not today no. So I have uncliqued you for 36 hours.

Sigh*"

Don’t worry. I’ll have you for 36 hours

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Clicky? No, in fact I've never known to make any sort of noise.

Cliquey? Oh good lord, yes.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"People tend to gravitate to others who think the same as themselves, it's far healthier not to though.

To take in other peoples points of view wether you agree or not stops idiology setting in.

Yes I suspect we all do. We come here for a break from real life so gravitating to those who feel easy to chat to is natural.

Exactly, it's human nature.

We're all guilty of it

I'm not going to feel guilty about it though. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong by chatting to people whom I feel comfortable with. I do my utmost to respond when people direct comments to me or reply on a thread I've started. That's all I think I should need to do. "

I totally agree with this. Well gravitate towards people of like minds, it's human nature.

People often get offended on here because the OP has "ignored" them.

That doesn't make it cliquey.

When I first joined the forum about 18mths ago, I felt completely invisible (other than Jim & Ash's Nocturnal threads). I didn't sulk, scream "clique!" and cry about it, I carried on gradually joining in & getting to know people. Just like being the new girl at work, it takes time to settle in.

I found people I liked chatting to & I've now met many of them. I have brilliant friends on here, people who are not for me & people I avoid like the plague. Just like real life. You get out what you put in. No one owes you anything on here, other than courtesy. If you feel bullied, or attacked - report it to admin. Otherwise, and I mean this with love, stop whining & look to yourself.

(Not aimed at the OP - I don't know you yet! Xxx)

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

Have I told you I love you today?

Not today no. So I have uncliqued you for 36 hours.

Sigh*"

Don't try wearing other hats to re join the clique as that will result in uncliquings of longer durations and hat confiscation.

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

Yes it is.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Honestly I couldn't give a shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

Have I told you I love you today?

Not today no. So I have uncliqued you for 36 hours.

Sigh*

Don’t worry. I’ll have you for 36 hours "

Hurrah!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

Have I told you I love you today?

Not today no. So I have uncliqued you for 36 hours.

Sigh*

Don’t worry. I’ll have you for 36 hours

Hurrah!"

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Yes there is, especially in the Scottish forum. There are certain ones who have been on here a long time who stick to their group. Glad to say I'm not part of it, I wouldn't want to be x"

Oh, I agree, the Scottish forum has a bit of a reputation, so I moved to the main. Much friendlier place to spout bollocks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probably are but is it going to change? Probably (definitely) not. Find your tribe. They’re out there somewhere.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

Have I told you I love you today?

Not today no. So I have uncliqued you for 36 hours.

Sigh*

Don’t worry. I’ll have you for 36 hours "

Nora! Don't pamper the accolytes

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

Have I told you I love you today?

Not today no. So I have uncliqued you for 36 hours.

Sigh*

Don’t worry. I’ll have you for 36 hours

Hurrah!"

Hussy!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Honestly I couldn't give a shit. "

To be totally honest I couldn’t either. I come on here for a laugh, try and do some fun threads. Sometimes get involved in serious threads, manage to piss off most people on those . I don’t tend to think about it all too much really.

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By *usman 199Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Honestly I couldn't give a shit.

To be totally honest I couldn’t either. I come on here for a laugh, try and do some fun threads. Sometimes get involved in serious threads, manage to piss off most people on those . I don’t tend to think about it all too much really. "

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Honestly I couldn't give a shit.

To be totally honest I couldn’t either. I come on here for a laugh, try and do some fun threads. Sometimes get involved in serious threads, manage to piss off most people on those . I don’t tend to think about it all too much really. "

You have great shower photos. That certainly doesn't piss me off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they are, no it’s not a problem.

Anywhere where there’s more than 10 people will form cliques. ANYWHERE. Work, school playgrounds, football stands, Internet forums, the gym, you’re neighbours, it’s natural human instinct to form groups with those you feel some affinity with and for.

Being in a clique is not a negative thing.

Using the protection of that clique to ostracise or criticise others is a negative thing.

The former happens a lot, the latter, occasionally but rarely in the grand scheme.

Long live our little bubbles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I do feel some conversations in the forum could be taken to private message instead of clogging up the thread that only allows around 175 posts.

Where's the fun in declaring undying love if it's not done in front of everyone who couldn't give a flying fig ?

Have I told you I love you today?

Not today no. So I have uncliqued you for 36 hours.

Sigh*

Don’t worry. I’ll have you for 36 hours

Hurrah!

Hussy!"

Ffs, take it to PM guys

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By *usman 199Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Honestly I couldn't give a shit.

To be totally honest I couldn’t either. I come on here for a laugh, try and do some fun threads. Sometimes get involved in serious threads, manage to piss off most people on those . I don’t tend to think about it all too much really. "
Same here Nora just fun it is a break from work and daily life. Good people on here . Some great serious and fun topics to join in

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Thank you to the 3 people that inboxed us correcting our grammar on the thread heading will you all please accept our deepest apologies "

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It's perfectly fine; no harm done.

However.... I've ordered you a Grammar Dictionary. Online. It's clique n' collect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you to the 3 people that inboxed us correcting our grammar on the thread heading will you all please accept our deepest apologies

•

It's perfectly fine; no harm done.

However.... I've ordered you a Grammar Dictionary. Online. It's clique n' collect."

Clique and correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People tend to gravitate to others who think the same as themselves, it's far healthier not to though.

To take in other peoples points of view wether you agree or not stops idiology setting in.

Yes I suspect we all do. We come here for a break from real life so gravitating to those who feel easy to chat to is natural.

Exactly, it's human nature.

We're all guilty of it

I'm not going to feel guilty about it though. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong by chatting to people whom I feel comfortable with. I do my utmost to respond when people direct comments to me or reply on a thread I've started. That's all I think I should need to do.

I totally agree with this. Well gravitate towards people of like minds, it's human nature.

People often get offended on here because the OP has "ignored" them.

That doesn't make it cliquey.

When I first joined the forum about 18mths ago, I felt completely invisible (other than Jim & Ash's Nocturnal threads). I didn't sulk, scream "clique!" and cry about it, I carried on gradually joining in & getting to know people. Just like being the new girl at work, it takes time to settle in.

I found people I liked chatting to & I've now met many of them. I have brilliant friends on here, people who are not for me & people I avoid like the plague. Just like real life. You get out what you put in. No one owes you anything on here, other than courtesy. If you feel bullied, or attacked - report it to admin. Otherwise, and I mean this with love, stop whining & look to yourself.

(Not aimed at the OP - I don't know you yet! Xxx) "

Ditto. We’ve all been newbies at some point.

I got stuck in and I’ve made some amazing friends. I won’t apologise for talking to them on threads. Doesn’t mean I’ll exclude others.

People get far too invested in how others are on the forums. Just concentrate on yourself and don’t worry.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"Thank you to the 3 people that inboxed us correcting our grammar on the thread heading will you all please accept our deepest apologies

•

It's perfectly fine; no harm done.

However.... I've ordered you a Grammar Dictionary. Online. It's clique n' collect.

Clique and correct"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do we have a verdict yet?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Do we have a verdict yet?"

Unfortunately not. Those in it say no, those not in it say yes.

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