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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Ok ladies us single guys get plenty criticism, some justified and some not. So here is your chance to say how you would do things if you were a single guy knowing what you know!

So say ‘how YOU would go about getting attention on fab if the shoe was on the other foot’ . Let’s focus of what you ‘ would do’ rather than the ‘ would nots’ please !! (we’ve heard all them now )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should be interesting.

I predict 0 guys will take any advice/ideas on board.

Long live the dick pic.

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By *rReyMan
over a year ago

Fleet

Waiting to see what kind of reaction this gets. Popcorn ready

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Should be interesting.

I predict 0 guys will take any advice/ideas on board.

Long live the dick pic.

"

True. But to be honest if you need advice from women it kind of defeats the purpose of what most women want from a man.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

What on earth do you mean, gents?! Are your blank and bland profiles, one line messages with "wanna fuck" and an unkempt cock pic over the dirty toilet not getting you any meets

I'm always busy out at the local Apple Green service station getting my fill

Mrs

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'd take pics that tease the imagination and are interesting to look at.But if I wanted to post a dick pic or a naked pic or two I would it's my profile and no matter what I do it won't suit everyone anyhow. I'd write a bio about what I'm looking for and telling a bit about myself. I'd tick what I'm looking for and have age preferences set.I would think of my profile as my shop window and try and catch people's eye rather than have a run of the mill profile.

I'd post on the forums and say what I think rather than what others want to hear.

I wouldn't put up a fake front to impress others I'd just be myself .

When sending messages I wouldn't send them when I'm horny especially to someone new.I would read profiles and only send them to people who I think we have something in common.I would be willing to chat and just to get to know someone than to expect them to want to have sex with me from the start.

I'd have no expectations and would try and not take it to heart when people don't reply. And I would enjoy my time on here if it became disheartening I'd take a break for a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always wondered if women put high heels on the wrong foot would they walk like pingu?

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

That all depends on whether I were attractive or not tbf

I can have the best profile with amazing pics, but if my face didn't appeal then then its a non starter straight into the friend zone.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Pulls up a chair popcorn at hand

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Quite simply just be yourselves.

If that means your opening message is crude or just a dick pic with ‘Hi’ then that is who you are and we aren’t compatible. These messages always amaze me though, as you wouldn’t greet anyone like that in a bar.

Don’t try to be something you are not, as it just doesn’t work face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly dont get the difference its as easy or as hard as you choose it to be man or woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting question op.

For me I found words can seduce. I don't mean just using big words but the way they are used and written together with intelligent conversation and good humour. A little quirkiness too can be attractive. Not for everyone but it's good for me.

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By *uge89Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Says the woman with the tits out in her pic

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Says the woman with the tits out in her pic "

Oh boy oh boy oh boy

Saddle up!

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

Oooo it’s going to get heated soon

If someone says the wrong thing kaboom

Fabwar

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Personally I don’t like these threads and wouldn’t say what I liked to hear. All it does it tell men what to say. I don’t want people saying what they think I want to hear. I want them to be themselves. What’s the point in pretending you’re something you’re not and using other people’s words? I’d rather people just be themselves then it’s easier to know if you’re compatible.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Quite simply just be yourselves.

If that means your opening message is crude or just a dick pic with ‘Hi’ then that is who you are and we aren’t compatible. These messages always amaze me though, as you wouldn’t greet anyone like that in a bar.

Don’t try to be something you are not, as it just doesn’t work face to face. "

Ah didn’t see this. Yeah pretty much this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I don’t like these threads and wouldn’t say what I liked to hear. All it does it tell men what to say. I don’t want people saying what they think I want to hear. I want them to be themselves. What’s the point in pretending you’re something you’re not and using other people’s words? I’d rather people just be themselves then it’s easier to know if you’re compatible. "
sense

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Personally I don’t like these threads and wouldn’t say what I liked to hear. All it does it tell men what to say. I don’t want people saying what they think I want to hear. I want them to be themselves. What’s the point in pretending you’re something you’re not and using other people’s words? I’d rather people just be themselves then it’s easier to know if you’re compatible. "

You could have just moved on by !?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Personally I don’t like these threads and wouldn’t say what I liked to hear. All it does it tell men what to say. I don’t want people saying what they think I want to hear. I want them to be themselves. What’s the point in pretending you’re something you’re not and using other people’s words? I’d rather people just be themselves then it’s easier to know if you’re compatible.

You could have just moved on by !? "

Nope. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite simply just be yourselves.

If that means your opening message is crude or just a dick pic with ‘Hi’ then that is who you are and we aren’t compatible. These messages always amaze me though, as you wouldn’t greet anyone like that in a bar.

Don’t try to be something you are not, as it just doesn’t work face to face.

Ah didn’t see this. Yeah pretty much this! "

This. Just be natural. That's what I mean about the way words are used. It's hard to change a natural style and keep it up

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’d send a pic with the words “do you want this? RSVP if you do”

And then wait. And wait.

But hey, do what you want. Sex is not guaranteed on here. So have fun with it, keep it lighthearted and do your own thing.

The least attractive thing on here is desperation. The next unattractive thing on here is whining (in my opinion) so just chill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Less is more

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I'd take pics that tease the imagination and are interesting to look at.But if I wanted to post a dick pic or a naked pic or two I would it's my profile and no matter what I do it won't suit everyone anyhow. I'd write a bio about what I'm looking for and telling a bit about myself. I'd tick what I'm looking for and have age preferences set.I would think of my profile as my shop window and try and catch people's eye rather than have a run of the mill profile.

I'd post on the forums and say what I think rather than what others want to hear.

I wouldn't put up a fake front to impress others I'd just be myself .

When sending messages I wouldn't send them when I'm horny especially to someone new.I would read profiles and only send them to people who I think we have something in common.I would be willing to chat and just to get to know someone than to expect them to want to have sex with me from the start.

I'd have no expectations and would try and not take it to heart when people don't reply. And I would enjoy my time on here if it became disheartening I'd take a break for a bit."

CLOSE THREAD

Mrs TMN x

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Less is more "

How much less though ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Less is more

How much less though ? "

You have to show less to get people wanting to see more

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Less is more

How much less though ?

You have to show less to get people wanting to see more "

Ah yes I see you use that strategy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Less is more

How much less though ?

You have to show less to get people wanting to see more

Ah yes I see you use that strategy "

Not always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd take pics that tease the imagination and are interesting to look at.But if I wanted to post a dick pic or a naked pic or two I would it's my profile and no matter what I do it won't suit everyone anyhow. I'd write a bio about what I'm looking for and telling a bit about myself. I'd tick what I'm looking for and have age preferences set.I would think of my profile as my shop window and try and catch people's eye rather than have a run of the mill profile.

I'd post on the forums and say what I think rather than what others want to hear.

I wouldn't put up a fake front to impress others I'd just be myself .

When sending messages I wouldn't send them when I'm horny especially to someone new.I would read profiles and only send them to people who I think we have something in common.I would be willing to chat and just to get to know someone than to expect them to want to have sex with me from the start.

I'd have no expectations and would try and not take it to heart when people don't reply. And I would enjoy my time on here if it became disheartening I'd take a break for a bit."

All sound advice..of which no notice will probably be taken

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Less is more

How much less though ?

You have to show less to get people wanting to see more

Ah yes I see you use that strategy

Not always "

A naughty friends photo gallery then ?

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...


" These messages always amaze me though, as you wouldn’t greet anyone like that in a bar.

"

This! My two pennies worth.

Guys? Would you walk into a crowded bar, naked, tap every lady in the place on the back with your manhood saying "shall we?"

Probably not, so why send the same message to 100 profiles (and I get the shotgun approach) with a piccy of you manhood and expect to be drowning in sexy times?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


" These messages always amaze me though, as you wouldn’t greet anyone like that in a bar.

This! My two pennies worth.

Guys? Would you walk into a crowded bar, naked, tap every lady in the place on the back with your manhood saying "shall we?"

Probably not, so why send the same message to 100 profiles (and I get the shotgun approach) with a piccy of you manhood and expect to be drowning in sexy times?"

Kinda agree but it’s not a like for like comparison

Ladies, would you walk into a bar just wearing lingerie or with your boobs out and a dildo up your arse? No? Then why does your profile look like that ?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


" These messages always amaze me though, as you wouldn’t greet anyone like that in a bar.

This! My two pennies worth.

Guys? Would you walk into a crowded bar, naked, tap every lady in the place on the back with your manhood saying "shall we?"

Probably not, so why send the same message to 100 profiles (and I get the shotgun approach) with a piccy of you manhood and expect to be drowning in sexy times?

Kinda agree but it’s not a like for like comparison

Ladies, would you walk into a bar just wearing lingerie or with your boobs out and a dildo up your arse? No? Then why does your profile look like that ? "

It’s not about individual’s profiles, it refers specifically to opening message and a dick pic

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


" These messages always amaze me though, as you wouldn’t greet anyone like that in a bar.

This! My two pennies worth.

Guys? Would you walk into a crowded bar, naked, tap every lady in the place on the back with your manhood saying "shall we?"

Probably not, so why send the same message to 100 profiles (and I get the shotgun approach) with a piccy of you manhood and expect to be drowning in sexy times?

Kinda agree but it’s not a like for like comparison

Ladies, would you walk into a bar just wearing lingerie or with your boobs out and a dildo up your arse? No? Then why does your profile look like that ?

It’s not about individual’s profiles, it refers specifically to opening message and a dick pic "

Any chance you could respond to the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've thought about this a few times and there's a few things I would do if I was a single guy on here....

1. Remember my profile is a shop window, it's worth decorating it with great quality pictures and interesting content.

2. I'd head along to club nights, socials and events to get to know people in real life. I'd politely ask these people if they could verify me so I can prove that I'm genuine.

3. I'd read people's profiles to figure out if I might be what they're looking for. If not, I would not bother them in the hope I could change their mind.

4. If I like somebody's profile but I'm not sure if I'm their type, I'd give their pictures a "fab". If they fab mine in return or wink me, I'd then reach out and message them.

5. I'd be respectful of the fact that women get a lot of mail and I'd be patient if it takes a while to read my message. I'd also understand if it gets deleted, as ladies get bombarded if they add a new picture or status and end up bulk-deleting. I'd make a note that I've already sent them a message/wink and pop them on my hotlist so I can still enjoy and fab their pictures without harassing them.

If all that fails, I'll just send them a picture of my massive cock

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


" These messages always amaze me though, as you wouldn’t greet anyone like that in a bar.

This! My two pennies worth.

Guys? Would you walk into a crowded bar, naked, tap every lady in the place on the back with your manhood saying "shall we?"

Probably not, so why send the same message to 100 profiles (and I get the shotgun approach) with a piccy of you manhood and expect to be drowning in sexy times?

Kinda agree but it’s not a like for like comparison

Ladies, would you walk into a bar just wearing lingerie or with your boobs out and a dildo up your arse? No? Then why does your profile look like that ?

It’s not about individual’s profiles, it refers specifically to opening message and a dick pic

Any chance you could respond to the OP "

I already have !

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I've thought about this a few times and there's a few things I would do if I was a single guy on here....

1. Remember my profile is a shop window, it's worth decorating it with great quality pictures and interesting content.

2. I'd head along to club nights, socials and events to get to know people in real life. I'd politely ask these people if they could verify me so I can prove that I'm genuine.

3. I'd read people's profiles to figure out if I might be what they're looking for. If not, I would not bother them in the hope I could change their mind.

4. If I like somebody's profile but I'm not sure if I'm their type, I'd give their pictures a "fab". If they fab mine in return or wink me, I'd then reach out and message them.

5. I'd be respectful of the fact that women get a lot of mail and I'd be patient if it takes a while to read my message. I'd also understand if it gets deleted, as ladies get bombarded if they add a new picture or status and end up bulk-deleting. I'd make a note that I've already sent them a message/wink and pop them on my hotlist so I can still enjoy and fab their pictures without harassing them.

If all that fails, I'll just send them a picture of my massive cock "

Great response x

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

I'd read their profile, drop a polight, non grahpic message. I'd offer things there looking for. Eg, if they are offering a gangbang on Thursday at 2pm in a hotel. I'd offer my services. Not ask for a 1 on one, at mine at 3pm on the Thursday. Then not bombard them with 100's messages asking why they have not repleid within 3 mins of my message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok ladies us single guys get plenty criticism, some justified and some not. So here is your chance to say how you would do things if you were a single guy knowing what you know!

So say ‘how YOU would go about getting attention on fab if the shoe was on the other foot’ . Let’s focus of what you ‘ would do’ rather than the ‘ would nots’ please !! (we’ve heard all them now ) "

TBF single gents generally only get criticism when they complain about how hard it is to be a single guy…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That all depends on whether I were attractive or not tbf

I can have the best profile with amazing pics, but if my face didn't appeal then then its a non starter straight into the friend zone."

Didn't appeal to anyone? Attractive is quite subjective surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take 10 years off my age, start moisturising and just get on with being the real me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagining I am a single bloke here (Fred)

* Sort out a decent profile that says a bit about me and includes a few pics that show my best bits (not just my dick)

* I'd search the forum for profile tips & check out a few profiles of popular guys

* Find local socials that I could attend. Attend.

* Be friendly, nice and chatty on the forum. To everyone. Join in games and challenges.

* See Fab as an opportunity to meet new people. Not just people to fuck.

* Message people I like with whom I've interacted on the forum

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By *exymarvelMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Just be yourself, the personality will show if you click, be polite and respectful, and dont be a divvy if you get rejected or ignored. We are all different and we all want different things

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"I'd take pics that tease the imagination and are interesting to look at.But if I wanted to post a dick pic or a naked pic or two I would it's my profile and no matter what I do it won't suit everyone anyhow. I'd write a bio about what I'm looking for and telling a bit about myself. I'd tick what I'm looking for and have age preferences set.I would think of my profile as my shop window and try and catch people's eye rather than have a run of the mill profile.

I'd post on the forums and say what I think rather than what others want to hear.

I wouldn't put up a fake front to impress others I'd just be myself .

When sending messages I wouldn't send them when I'm horny especially to someone new.I would read profiles and only send them to people who I think we have something in common.I would be willing to chat and just to get to know someone than to expect them to want to have sex with me from the start.

I'd have no expectations and would try and not take it to heart when people don't reply. And I would enjoy my time on here if it became disheartening I'd take a break for a bit."

Perfect answer.

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By *uitednbooted2 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Imagining I am a single bloke here (Fred)

* Sort out a decent profile that says a bit about me and includes a few pics that show my best bits (not just my dick)

* I'd search the forum for profile tips & check out a few profiles of popular guys

* Find local socials that I could attend. Attend.

* Be friendly, nice and chatty on the forum. To everyone. Join in games and challenges.

* See Fab as an opportunity to meet new people. Not just people to fuck.

* Message people I like with whom I've interacted on the forum "

Good advice. Thanks for contributing x

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