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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

In which areas of your life do you try to be an Upstander not a Bystander

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be an upstander when anyone is being bullied or attacked for any reason. I'm not saying I achieve it, but I try.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Bullying usually. I can’t abide it. I was like that at school, always stuck up for the bullied ones.

Otherwise probably not so much unless it’s to do with me and mine. I don’t get involved in other people’s business.

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I try to be an upstander when anyone is being bullied or attacked for any reason. I'm not saying I achieve it, but I try."

It's good to try to stand up to your beliefs and views

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv a family and friend hero complex i must save the day

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Bullying usually. I can’t abide it. I was like that at school, always stuck up for the bullied ones.

Otherwise probably not so much unless it’s to do with me and mine. I don’t get involved in other people’s business. "

I agree and also where I feel the most conflict, especially when my personal self could potentially be put in danger by my physical intervention. I think this is why I'm more gobby from a distance in those situations when someone clearly needs help

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Iv a family and friend hero complex i must save the day"

Is that a regular occurrence

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My values, yes I’m a swinger but I’m an old fashioned romantic at heart.

And morals and respect. Don’t tend to mix them entirely with the swinging side of me but I’ll keep those forever.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Issues of mental health. I hate to see people suffering with MH so will do what I can to help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of them. If they're important enough to keep them in your life, they're important enough to give them your all, no?

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"My values, yes I’m a swinger but I’m an old fashioned romantic at heart.

And morals and respect. Don’t tend to mix them entirely with the swinging side of me but I’ll keep those forever. "

Do you teach those around you or just personally uphold your values

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

Local politics, hate seeing local councillors trying to push their own agenda and ignoring the people who put them in that position so I'll challenge them every time.

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Issues of mental health. I hate to see people suffering with MH so will do what I can to help."

That is one of the most hardest ones to have.

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"All of them. If they're important enough to keep them in your life, they're important enough to give them your all, no? "

Yes but I don't have the emotional energy to help all of the things I'd love to uphold, yes I can educate people but it would be at the detriment to my life, so I consciously choose to limit mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My values, yes I’m a swinger but I’m an old fashioned romantic at heart.

And morals and respect. Don’t tend to mix them entirely with the swinging side of me but I’ll keep those forever.

Do you teach those around you or just personally uphold your values"

I pass those on, those seem lost in today’s society so yes I pass those on at any given opportunity.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Issues of mental health. I hate to see people suffering with MH so will do what I can to help.

That is one of the most hardest ones to have. "

Yup, its shitty. But I'm much better than I used to be, so I can help other now.

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Local politics, hate seeing local councillors trying to push their own agenda and ignoring the people who put them in that position so I'll challenge them every time."

Have you ever considered being a local Councillor

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"My values, yes I’m a swinger but I’m an old fashioned romantic at heart.

And morals and respect. Don’t tend to mix them entirely with the swinging side of me but I’ll keep those forever.

Do you teach those around you or just personally uphold your values

I pass those on, those seem lost in today’s society so yes I pass those on at any given opportunity."

There are many who need help

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Issues of mental health. I hate to see people suffering with MH so will do what I can to help.

That is one of the most hardest ones to have.

Yup, its shitty. But I'm much better than I used to be, so I can help other now."

That made me smile. I'm glad you are In a better place

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

I hate it when people moan about something but won’t lift a finger to do anything about it themselves, instead expecting others to run around for them when they’re perfectly capable. If I’m going to criticise, then I’m also happy to step up and do. I’m heavily involved with my trade’s union because of that.

I’m also, like others above, intolerant of bullying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got myself into trouble more than once knocking out abusive boyfriends, once this twat was slapping this poor lass repeatedly round the face in middle of shops nobody did anything but tut! Went up punched him and took her away from it.

I hate people who do that and if means I need to step in I will.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm always a Sit Downer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv a family and friend hero complex i must save the day

Is that a regular occurrence "
not as much as it used to be

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I'm always a Sit Downer "

A sparkly spinny sit downer

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’m actually bit crap since my kids have grown up and something that bothers me.

When they were younger I made a point of getting them involved in all kinds of things from environment , street work , missions abroad but as they got older It eased off and they took over.

Ive done a easier things like chair of governors and charities trustee and was a government advisor for techEd now very little but still do some mentoring and the odd guest lecture at a local uni

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I'm always a Sit Downer

A sparkly spinny sit downer "

Currently a blouse-y and jeans Sitter Downer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At work. The way some of the younger staff get talked to by management is horrendous and I’ll always stick up for them. It probably means I’ll never get a promotion though

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth


"Local politics, hate seeing local councillors trying to push their own agenda and ignoring the people who put them in that position so I'll challenge them every time.

Have you ever considered being a local Councillor "

I did consider it briefly and a few friends have tried to push me to do it too. I think you can fight your (and others) corner better from the outside looking in. I have a theory that once you're on the inside, so to speak, you have to tow the party line to an extent, which helps explain why some 'promises' aren't carried through. Mouthy gits like me can call any councillor from any party out on their broken promises without being told to pipe down.

I know I could stand as an independent but I'm happy enough on the outside looking in.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham


"In which areas of your life do you try to be an Upstander not a Bystander

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Against bullies. I hate them,

The fem Linda takes a back seat when I see people bullying anyone.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Work and anywhere else there's potential for it to affect me personally

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I was a Union rep for a few years so I hated how Workers can be exploited, bullied or just not know their basic employment rights. Unpaid overtime was drilled into one workplace during busy periods, but those extra hours weren’t given back.

Don’t know how many disciplinary interviews I sat in, in which some Manager or HR person would try and get a person sacked for a trivial matter, as well.

I firmly believe the majority of working people just want to do the best job they can. Sometimes they need a bit of help or encouragement but shouldn’t be thrown away especially if they’ve given a significant portion of their lives to an employer, who no longer values them.

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