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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not the sort you feed the ducks, although that used to be fun when my kid was young enough to enjoy that activity. They grow up quick so enjoy those moments while you can.

I'm talking the sort that starts to have an effect on mental health.

Please share your experiences if it's happened to you.

More importantly how do you make it stop so it doesn't effect mental health.

Why are these types of people so nasty and remain oblivious of their actions and refuse to accept the negative impact they have on people around them?

Is mental abuse more or less damaging than physical abuse?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Your gonna have to explain for the normal people that don’t keep up to date with the 1000s of new coded words for stuff you don’t like

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By *x_Anonymous_xX87Woman
over a year ago

grimsby

I think both parties need to take a look at the selves and grow up personally, yes it's not nice to string somome along and just drop the odd message to keep the other person hoping that your interested but on the other hand the person being strung along needs to get a better sense of worth and stop letting such minimum effort tactics hook them. If somone is genuinly interested they should make an effort to let that be known, if somone is not willing to make a proper effort then the other person should cut that shit short before it starts negatively impacting them

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I think both parties need to take a look at the selves and grow up personally, yes it's not nice to string somome along and just drop the odd message to keep the other person hoping that your interested but on the other hand the person being strung along needs to get a better sense of worth and stop letting such minimum effort tactics hook them. If somone is genuinly interested they should make an effort to let that be known, if somone is not willing to make a proper effort then the other person should cut that shit short before it starts negatively impacting them "

Top answer x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Of the half dozen or so threads about this, this one got the most responses.

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1221553

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think both parties need to take a look at the selves and grow up personally, yes it's not nice to string somome along and just drop the odd message to keep the other person hoping that your interested but on the other hand the person being strung along needs to get a better sense of worth and stop letting such minimum effort tactics hook them. If somone is genuinly interested they should make an effort to let that be known, if somone is not willing to make a proper effort then the other person should cut that shit short before it starts negatively impacting them "

I would agree with this, but unfortunately sometimes people target those who are vulnerable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on if it's deliberate or if the person just doesn't want to hurt the person's feelings and break it off.

I'd rather physical abuse than emotional. Bruises heal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of the half dozen or so threads about this, this one got the most responses.

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1221553"

We can discuss it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on if it's deliberate or if the person just doesn't want to hurt the person's feelings and break it off.

I'd rather physical abuse than emotional. Bruises heal."

It’s tricky though, because it’s all interlinked isn’t it.

The mental abuse took longer to heal then the physical abuse for sure, but physical abuse fucks you up emotionally too doesn’t it.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

If someone is breadcrumbing you and it's affecting your mental health then why not take control of the situation yourself and block them. You are allowing it to happen and get to you.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"If someone is breadcrumbing you and it's affecting your mental health then why not take control of the situation yourself and block them. You are allowing it to happen and get to you."

Its not always as obvious as some like to think, at least from within. Usually only becomes so after the fact.

Its often much easier to see certain behaviours from outside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t the abusee just allowed to grow a pair and walk away?

If you recognise that it’s abusive behaviour then get the fuck out.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I've learnt to just block them now, it's insulting that they think they can just pop into your life when theirs maybe isn't going so well and they want attention. My younger self used to be flattered, not anymore!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

It's quite prevalent on here, unfortunately.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Isn’t the abusee just allowed to grow a pair and walk away?

If you recognise that it’s abusive behaviour then get the fuck out. "

Easier said than done, if there's some sort of history or attachment.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"If someone is breadcrumbing you and it's affecting your mental health then why not take control of the situation yourself and block them. You are allowing it to happen and get to you.

Its not always as obvious as some like to think, at least from within. Usually only becomes so after the fact.

Its often much easier to see certain behaviours from outside. "

Yes totally agree with this, it really is clearer from the outside. It sounds like the OP knows it's happening now so hopefully he will take action and feel better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn’t the abusee just allowed to grow a pair and walk away?

If you recognise that it’s abusive behaviour then get the fuck out. "

I really don’t like the phrase ‘grow a pair’, it’s along the lines of man up.

It’s not that simple generally, as someone said above, it depends on if there is history/attachment/triggers…

It also impl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn’t the abusee just allowed to grow a pair and walk away?

If you recognise that it’s abusive behaviour then get the fuck out. "

Depends on the level of abuse and dangerous it might be to leave. It's no always so black and white.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I found myself mental abuse stays forever! Bruises heal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on if it's deliberate or if the person just doesn't want to hurt the person's feelings and break it off.

I'd rather physical abuse than emotional. Bruises heal.

It’s tricky though, because it’s all interlinked isn’t it.

The mental abuse took longer to heal then the physical abuse for sure, but physical abuse fucks you up emotionally too doesn’t it. "

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Seven years.......still not really 'over' it

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"Isn’t the abusee just allowed to grow a pair and walk away?

If you recognise that it’s abusive behaviour then get the fuck out.

I really don’t like the phrase ‘grow a pair’, it’s along the lines of man up.

It’s not that simple generally, as someone said above, it depends on if there is history/attachment/triggers…

It also impl"

I didn't know Breadcrumbing was a thing. I very often use emojis at the end of a message to indicate it's light-hearted or flirticious. I will pay more attention to this in future.

I totally agree with you about "growing a pair" and "man up". They are utterly discussing phrases. Another is "real men do...". I've known people, men and women, who use them for the sole purpose of demeaning the fella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn’t the abusee just allowed to grow a pair and walk away?

If you recognise that it’s abusive behaviour then get the fuck out. "

This is a horrible thing to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought breadcrumbing was something that happened in the early stages of dating/meeting someone new. Inconsistent and non committing to a meet.

I guess it can happen during a long term relationship too...

Unfortunately I don't know the answer. Only you can decide, OP, when enough enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on."

Thanks for that I didn't have a clue lol

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Isn’t the abusee just allowed to grow a pair and walk away?

If you recognise that it’s abusive behaviour then get the fuck out.

This is a horrible thing to say.

"

Once again Outsider... nail. Head.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand


"I've learnt to just block them now, it's insulting that they think they can just pop into your life when theirs maybe isn't going so well and they want attention. My younger self used to be flattered, not anymore!"

I second that approach life is too short to overthink why and why not… Right people don’t make you second guess things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said this before but it bears repeating.

If a thought pops into my head or a song comes on the radio and it puts me in mind of someone... If I act on that thought and send a "just thinking of you" text. That could be considered "breadcrumbing". The term annoys me. 99% of people's behaviour is not nefarious, there's no malice aforethought. People are just people acting on instincts.

Or you could use Ockham's razor, "the simplest option is usually the correct one". Which is more likely, I'm being kept hanging, being led on in a series of messages over the course of months or years, with planned, calculating, malicious and measured contact or somebody just thought of me so said hi?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It’s happens a lot on here.

People with a ‘I can’t have you/I don’t want you fully, but I’ll make sure no one else can have you too’ attitude.

It’s fine saying the person being affected should grow some but there’s often a lot of history between the two and the the perpetrator will start off as treating the victim as the most important person in the world and then drop them or make excuses then come back and spin the plate now and again.

People who prey on the vulnerable are the lowest form of people in my opinion.

K

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Unless I’m missing the meaning then bread crumbing happens loads on here. I’ve had it done to me so Kent times I can’t count. I think, if it’s just “leading on”.

As another user said, I just notice it and block.

Weird though how some situations people call this bread crumbing, and in other situations you get replies like “they can change their mind if they want you aren’t entitled to meet just because you chatted”

Although I dunno if I’m fully understanding the difference

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I've said this before but it bears repeating.

If a thought pops into my head or a song comes on the radio and it puts me in mind of someone... If I act on that thought and send a "just thinking of you" text. That could be considered "breadcrumbing". The term annoys me. 99% of people's behaviour is not nefarious, there's no malice aforethought. People are just people acting on instincts.

Or you could use Ockham's razor, "the simplest option is usually the correct one". Which is more likely, I'm being kept hanging, being led on in a series of messages over the course of months or years, with planned, calculating, malicious and measured contact or somebody just thought of me so said hi?"

I think there is a line between the just thinking of you and actual breadcrumbing.

And it's one that is hard to figure out sometimes which side the actions land on. That's where those who are being manipulative and controlling thrive... because that's where the vulnerable ones of us struggle.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Also sometimes so that happens in one side is a lot more keen than the other and doesnt pick up on the signals. They kind of do it to themselves sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as I see it it's a deletion

Got fed up of hearing nothing for weeks then a random message pop up. No get gone,

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"As soon as I see it it's a deletion

Got fed up of hearing nothing for weeks then a random message pop up. No get gone, "

With you there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As soon as I see it it's a deletion

Got fed up of hearing nothing for weeks then a random message pop up. No get gone,

With you there x"

Yup, just don't put up with anyone's shit now

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"Isn’t the abusee just allowed to grow a pair and walk away?

If you recognise that it’s abusive behaviour then get the fuck out. "

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The "abusee" (sic) is also allowed to grow potted plants and make a sandwich. Thank goodness this isn't a thread about depression or bipolar because 'growing a pair' is far from helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As soon as I see it it's a deletion

Got fed up of hearing nothing for weeks then a random message pop up. No get gone,

With you there x

Yup, just don't put up with anyone's shit now "

I still wonder how you know the difference between "someone's shit" and someone who has a busy life and means well. Especially if it's a fab person. I'm asking out of curiosity and wanting to learn. So please don't think I'm being accusatory.

Is it a certain set of behaviours? A certain type of messaging?

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By *izzmasterzeroMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Why is everyone saying abuse? Since when was leading someone on classed as abuse? It's a bit of a shitty thing to do but I wouldn't go as far to call it abouse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for the responses guys and gals

Just to point out the situation I am referring to is not related to anyone on this site but I can imagine it happens on here too. It would never bother me if someone I was sharing messages with and never met or maybe met on a couple of occasions did this. You block and move on.

This is related to real life, real people and real feelings involved at some point in a relationship but then one side decides to turn nasty.

As for the ones that have made comments such as 'Man up' etc. There is more to a situation then meets the eye and I hope you never find yourself going through something like this. I never thought I would.

I deal with it by being stronger and better than I was before. Some days the situation rears its ugly head and you find sharing opinions helps.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Been reading through the thread a bit, and can’t help feeling that there seems to be, on the part of some, a degree of conflict between what is a deliberate and calculated act to mess with anothers head and the, quite normal, within the circle of people I know, practice of just getting in touch, infrequently and randomly, to just say, ‘High, how’s it hanging’.

There appears to be a trend towards ‘having’ to always read something ulterior into peoples actions.

Before anyone jumps on me I am aware people base their conclusions on experience but I just find it rather sad.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Why is everyone saying abuse? Since when was leading someone on classed as abuse? It's a bit of a shitty thing to do but I wouldn't go as far to call it abouse."

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Why is everyone saying abuse? Since when was leading someone on classed as abuse? It's a bit of a shitty thing to do but I wouldn't go as far to call it abouse."

Because we live in a victim society

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d never do such a thing.

Anyway, which of you sexy things want a little bit of snuggles and cuddles?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d never do such a thing.

Anyway, which of you sexy things want a little bit of snuggles and cuddles? "

Did anyone take you up on the offer ? It's a Pass for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As soon as I see it it's a deletion

Got fed up of hearing nothing for weeks then a random message pop up. No get gone,

With you there x

Yup, just don't put up with anyone's shit now

I still wonder how you know the difference between "someone's shit" and someone who has a busy life and means well. Especially if it's a fab person. I'm asking out of curiosity and wanting to learn. So please don't think I'm being accusatory.

Is it a certain set of behaviours? A certain type of messaging?"

I get that people have busy lives but I don't really buy that line either, especially when they are logging in and out, if someone wants to make the effort they will regardless of how busy they are!

Usually indicators for me are when they've logged into Fab and multiple times and no message. Suddenly message when you have a new veri. Or they message saying they're bored.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"As soon as I see it it's a deletion

Got fed up of hearing nothing for weeks then a random message pop up. No get gone,

With you there x

Yup, just don't put up with anyone's shit now

I still wonder how you know the difference between "someone's shit" and someone who has a busy life and means well. Especially if it's a fab person. I'm asking out of curiosity and wanting to learn. So please don't think I'm being accusatory.

Is it a certain set of behaviours? A certain type of messaging?

I get that people have busy lives but I don't really buy that line either, especially when they are logging in and out, if someone wants to make the effort they will regardless of how busy they are!

Usually indicators for me are when they've logged into Fab and multiple times and no message. Suddenly message when you have a new veri. Or they message saying they're bored.

"

Nods in agreement x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leading someone on has always been a thing. It's something most of us get wise to. I think it only really happens because you allow it because you want more or because you're vulnerable.

I don't let it affect me because I don't get over-invested with someone until I'm sure about their intentions. I view every encounter as a just a fun experience nothing more. I Don't trust anyone that claims it's more than that until I think it is.

Time to take responsibility guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for the responses guys and gals

Just to point out the situation I am referring to is not related to anyone on this site but I can imagine it happens on here too. It would never bother me if someone I was sharing messages with and never met or maybe met on a couple of occasions did this. You block and move on.

This is related to real life, real people and real feelings involved at some point in a relationship but then one side decides to turn nasty. ?"

Well that doesn't sound like breadcrumbing... that sounds like someone changing their mind about a relationship. To me that's different. And a bad choice in partners.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?


"As soon as I see it it's a deletion

Got fed up of hearing nothing for weeks then a random message pop up. No get gone,

With you there x

Yup, just don't put up with anyone's shit now

I still wonder how you know the difference between "someone's shit" and someone who has a busy life and means well. Especially if it's a fab person. I'm asking out of curiosity and wanting to learn. So please don't think I'm being accusatory.

Is it a certain set of behaviours? A certain type of messaging?

I get that people have busy lives but I don't really buy that line either, especially when they are logging in and out, if someone wants to make the effort they will regardless of how busy they are!

Usually indicators for me are when they've logged into Fab and multiple times and no message. Suddenly message when you have a new veri. Or they message saying they're bored.

"

Now I'd just interpret this as someone having their fingers in lots of metaphorical pies rather than breadcrumbing. You're (the royal you, not you specifically) not their top choice, but they want to keep you on the back burner. It's not that they're not interested or being deliberately manipulative, it's just that there are other people ahead of you in their queue that they're prioritising. They'd still be kicked to the kerb by me...this might be swinging, but I'm not going to be anybodys plan B.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I've said this before but it bears repeating.

If a thought pops into my head or a song comes on the radio and it puts me in mind of someone... If I act on that thought and send a "just thinking of you" text. That could be considered "breadcrumbing". The term annoys me. 99% of people's behaviour is not nefarious, there's no malice aforethought. People are just people acting on instincts.

Or you could use Ockham's razor, "the simplest option is usually the correct one". Which is more likely, I'm being kept hanging, being led on in a series of messages over the course of months or years, with planned, calculating, malicious and measured contact or somebody just thought of me so said hi?"

I think I’m with you on this. I can go ages without messaging people. Then I’ll just think of them and send them a message. I hope they don’t think I’m doing this thing! Something like that wouldn’t even cross my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a difference between staying in touch with someone and letting them think there's the potential for something more, especially something romantic. It's not always easy to spot if it's subtle either. And, of course, the other person may be unsure themself. Just need good communication to avoid misunderstandings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn’t the abusee just allowed to grow a pair and walk away?

If you recognise that it’s abusive behaviour then get the fuck out. "

Does this apply to any kind of abuse, I wonder? If someone is subject to domestic violence over years - should they just "grow a pair"? I think before you say anything else on the topic of abuse, you would benefit from doing some reading. So you don't unwittingly say something so horrible again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never used the word breadcrumbing, but it's about intention for me. What's their motivation? Some people it's clearly to keep you dangling.

Having very clear boundaries about what's acceptable to you and what you will/won't put up with are the ways to combat those with bad intentions.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I've never used the word breadcrumbing, but it's about intention for me. What's their motivation? Some people it's clearly to keep you dangling.

Having very clear boundaries about what's acceptable to you and what you will/won't put up with are the ways to combat those with bad intentions. "

Definitely this. And mine are very clear and very straight forward from the start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never used the word breadcrumbing, but it's about intention for me. What's their motivation? Some people it's clearly to keep you dangling.

Having very clear boundaries about what's acceptable to you and what you will/won't put up with are the ways to combat those with bad intentions.

Definitely this. And mine are very clear and very straight forward from the start. "

I thought I had good boundaries before I joined here. I've had to be a LOT clearer and stricter or I'd get steamrollered!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not the sort you feed the ducks, although that used to be fun when my kid was young enough to enjoy that activity. They grow up quick so enjoy those moments while you can.

I'm talking the sort that starts to have an effect on mental health.

Please share your experiences if it's happened to you.

More importantly how do you make it stop so it doesn't effect mental health.

Why are these types of people so nasty and remain oblivious of their actions and refuse to accept the negative impact they have on people around them?

Is mental abuse more or less damaging than physical abuse?

"

It takes time to them out tbh , it's the worst thing really , but once you do you're ok , you know who to avoid , the worst thing about it as l said you have to go through the process yourself to find these out , l learned the hard way , was promised and promised a meet when it suited the other person better , there was NO urgency on my end , none , whenever it suited them was fine , in the end that person denied even saying such but I had to go through it to find out .

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I've never used the word breadcrumbing, but it's about intention for me. What's their motivation? Some people it's clearly to keep you dangling.

Having very clear boundaries about what's acceptable to you and what you will/won't put up with are the ways to combat those with bad intentions.

Definitely this. And mine are very clear and very straight forward from the start.

I thought I had good boundaries before I joined here. I've had to be a LOT clearer and stricter or I'd get steamrollered! "

Hell yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've learnt to just block them now, it's insulting that they think they can just pop into your life when theirs maybe isn't going so well and they want attention. My younger self used to be flattered, not anymore!"

Yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never used the word breadcrumbing, but it's about intention for me. What's their motivation? Some people it's clearly to keep you dangling.

Having very clear boundaries about what's acceptable to you and what you will/won't put up with are the ways to combat those with bad intentions.

Definitely this. And mine are very clear and very straight forward from the start.

I thought I had good boundaries before I joined here. I've had to be a LOT clearer and stricter or I'd get steamrollered!

Hell yes!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As soon as I see it it's a deletion

Got fed up of hearing nothing for weeks then a random message pop up. No get gone,

With you there x

Yup, just don't put up with anyone's shit now

I still wonder how you know the difference between "someone's shit" and someone who has a busy life and means well. Especially if it's a fab person. I'm asking out of curiosity and wanting to learn. So please don't think I'm being accusatory.

Is it a certain set of behaviours? A certain type of messaging?

I get that people have busy lives but I don't really buy that line either, especially when they are logging in and out, if someone wants to make the effort they will regardless of how busy they are!

Usually indicators for me are when they've logged into Fab and multiple times and no message. Suddenly message when you have a new veri. Or they message saying they're bored.

Now I'd just interpret this as someone having their fingers in lots of metaphorical pies rather than breadcrumbing. You're (the royal you, not you specifically) not their top choice, but they want to keep you on the back burner. It's not that they're not interested or being deliberately manipulative, it's just that there are other people ahead of you in their queue that they're prioritising. They'd still be kicked to the kerb by me...this might be swinging, but I'm not going to be anybodys plan B. "

Oh absolutely Lily, nail on head there. And nope, nobody's plan B, it's made very clear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for the responses.

To the victims that have been on the receiving end of 'breadcrumbing' my heart goes out to you.

Stay strong and move on with your life for a better tommorow is not far away.

Peace and Love

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on."

Oh, leading someone on. What was wrong with that phrase?!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.

Oh, leading someone on. What was wrong with that phrase?! "

Life likes to confuse us these days with all these new phrases and words . Keeps us on our toes.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

Never heard of "breadcrumbing " learn something new every day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.

Oh, leading someone on. What was wrong with that phrase?!

Life likes to confuse us these days with all these new phrases and words . Keeps us on our toes. "

For sure, up until 5 years ago I would have never known what these words referred to.

Narccisism is on the increase, perhaps?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.

Oh, leading someone on. What was wrong with that phrase?!

Life likes to confuse us these days with all these new phrases and words . Keeps us on our toes.

For sure, up until 5 years ago I would have never known what these words referred to.

Narccisism is on the increase, perhaps? "

I think it may have been separated into categories. There was a word the other day I can’t remember what it was now which sounded similar to that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.

Oh, leading someone on. What was wrong with that phrase?!

Life likes to confuse us these days with all these new phrases and words . Keeps us on our toes.

For sure, up until 5 years ago I would have never known what these words referred to.

Narccisism is on the increase, perhaps?

I think it may have been separated into categories. There was a word the other day I can’t remember what it was now which sounded similar to that. "

Ghosting ?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.

Oh, leading someone on. What was wrong with that phrase?!

Life likes to confuse us these days with all these new phrases and words . Keeps us on our toes.

For sure, up until 5 years ago I would have never known what these words referred to.

Narccisism is on the increase, perhaps?

I think it may have been separated into categories. There was a word the other day I can’t remember what it was now which sounded similar to that.

Ghosting ?"

No

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.

Oh, leading someone on. What was wrong with that phrase?!

Life likes to confuse us these days with all these new phrases and words . Keeps us on our toes.

For sure, up until 5 years ago I would have never known what these words referred to.

Narccisism is on the increase, perhaps?

I think it may have been separated into categories. There was a word the other day I can’t remember what it was now which sounded similar to that.

Ghosting ?

No"

Gaslighting I think. Does that sound right? So many words!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.

Oh, leading someone on. What was wrong with that phrase?!

Life likes to confuse us these days with all these new phrases and words . Keeps us on our toes.

For sure, up until 5 years ago I would have never known what these words referred to.

Narccisism is on the increase, perhaps?

I think it may have been separated into categories. There was a word the other day I can’t remember what it was now which sounded similar to that.

Ghosting ?

No

Gaslighting I think. Does that sound right? So many words!"

Gaslighting is also something narcissistic people do. But it can be considerably more abusive - it means making someone question their reality. "Oh you must have forgotten" "You're just imagining it" "You're too sensitive".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.

Oh, leading someone on. What was wrong with that phrase?!

Life likes to confuse us these days with all these new phrases and words . Keeps us on our toes.

For sure, up until 5 years ago I would have never known what these words referred to.

Narccisism is on the increase, perhaps?

I think it may have been separated into categories. There was a word the other day I can’t remember what it was now which sounded similar to that.

Ghosting ?

No

Gaslighting I think. Does that sound right? So many words!"

The head says, It's similar to breadcrumbing.

Need a spare brain to keep up with all these new words

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on.

Oh, leading someone on. What was wrong with that phrase?!

Life likes to confuse us these days with all these new phrases and words . Keeps us on our toes.

For sure, up until 5 years ago I would have never known what these words referred to.

Narccisism is on the increase, perhaps?

I think it may have been separated into categories. There was a word the other day I can’t remember what it was now which sounded similar to that.

Ghosting ?

No

Gaslighting I think. Does that sound right? So many words!

Gaslighting is also something narcissistic people do. But it can be considerably more abusive - it means making someone question their reality. "Oh you must have forgotten" "You're just imagining it" "You're too sensitive"."

Yes that’s the one I meant x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Horrible innit

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

This is why we have a strict no food when in bed

Nothing worse that the feeling of breadcrumbs or biscuit crumbs when you roll over at night

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is why we have a strict no food when in bed

Nothing worse that the feeling of breadcrumbs or biscuit crumbs when you roll over at night "

Haha

Always one

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Definition:

"Breadcrumbing" is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals (i.e. "breadcrumbs") in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort. In other words, it's leading someone on."

So flirting is no longer allowed? Save us all from the PC police

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