FabSwingers.com forum: Off putting !

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.

Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Is he a swinger ?

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

It wouldn't put me off..safe sex is a must,..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is he a swinger ?"

Yeah x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get why you feel this way but unless you discussed being exclusive he hasn’t done anything wrong.

It’s up to you if you want to see him again but I probably wouldn’t mention it if you want to continue seeing him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is he a swinger ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That doesn't bother me. Fab-wise I think what they or I do outside of meeting each other is none of the other's business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s not a locked off relationship then people are free to meet who they want and as meny as they want

I don’t see a problem with it as long as they not standing you up and stuff in place off someone else now that I would have a problem with

When it comes to fab my golden rule is to expect everyone to have just had sed with someone else

I know that not all but if you expect it then can’t be bumed out thay someone has

Also would it be any different that pulling someone on a Friday night out a club and then they pull on the Saturday night

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By *heswingerMan
over a year ago

the steel city sheffield

If he’s a swinger then don’t worry about it just practice safe sex

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think it is better that he is open with you and told you rather than keeping it a secret and you finding out later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These days i couldn't give a toss i dont have the ability to let anyone close enough to care to answer your question

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I am the king of Crazy Golf at Gt Yarmouth, no fucker finds me off putting where the windmill is concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was it his wife?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Was it his wife? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to be honest no surprises then, we are all swingers so obviously expected just play safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you are being safe, I don't see any problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d ask for details, they love that. As long as it’s safe sex I’d definitely meet again.

I’ve had guys get upset if I meet other guys it’s a red flag for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was it his wife?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.

Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "

What was it about him having sex with someone else so soon after you that puts you off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with using sites 'like' this is that you can feel there is an exclusivity that exists when, in reality, it doesn't

It sometimes comes as a shock when it becomes apparent that that isn't the case

I have seen both men and women get upset when it transpires that their favourite fucks elsewhere

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

OP, if it put you off, it put you off. Yes, you shouldn't expect exclusivity on a site like this but everyone has different things they are comfortable with - it might be the proximity to him meeting you that left you feeling a bit... meh.

And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.

Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "

This is a swinging site and we enjoy swinging so no.

So maybe it's different for us as a couple. We both meet together and separately. Fact is, my wife likes me playing more alone than she does on her own (not that she's averse to it) so if it was going to be an issue, it would have been an issue a long long time ago. We don't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That doesn't bother me. Fab-wise I think what they or I do outside of meeting each other is none of the other's business."

Lana

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, if it put you off, it put you off. Yes, you shouldn't expect exclusivity on a site like this but everyone has different things they are comfortable with - it might be the proximity to him meeting you that left you feeling a bit... meh.

And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is. "

Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night

obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is.

Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night

obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style

In the non swinging world I've had two dates in the same day, does that make me bad as well?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

If you feel that way then that's your answer. I don't and wouldn't have a problem with it. But we are all different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.

Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "

I think someone already answered , if it puts u off, it puts u off.

I’ve spoken to many who are on the same line, and personally, maybe it wouldn’t put me off completely, but it’d annoy me … and id rather not know tbf x but yeah we are all different I guess

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is.

Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night

obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style

In the non swinging world I've had two dates in the same day, does that make me bad as well?"

It doesn't make either you or someone who doesn't do it the way you do bad. It just makes you incompatible.

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By *moothdick68Man
over a year ago

Worcester

It almost sounds like he meant a little more than just sex for you & the fact he slept with someone else the next night gave you a little pang of jealousy? x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is.

Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night

obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style

In the non swinging world I've had two dates in the same day, does that make me bad as well?"

Who said it was bad?

I've arranged a meet for the same evening by text while someone else was fucking me and I don't really care what anyone thinks of that lol o had a great time.

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

He’s done nothing wrong, unless you were looking to be exclusive to him

Fair play if he’s getting the meets

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

If you were in a club, it might have been in the next half hour not next evening.

I take it he wants to see you again, which must be a positive sign he enjoyed his time with you. He has also clearly been honest and upfront to tell you he has been with someone else. I would suggest you build on the positives and have open honest conversations with him.

If this is not what you want then it might be time to reappraise using a swinger site to meet people. If it’s only a minor irk, that feeling in many people goes away as they see the advantages of the lifestyle

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.

Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "

No.. this is a swinging site.

In clubs people frequently have sex with sex with several people on the same night, and you would have no way of knowing.

If you're seeking more exclusivity, Fab is probably not the site for you.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.

Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "

I've felt similar in the past, that's my own insecurity rearing it's head.

In a club or whatnot it wouldn't fuss me, however when it's been a 1-1 meet I've kinda felt like "oh, I didn't do it for him coz he's still got sexual energy to expend" if they've had another meet either the same day or a day or 2 later. So yeah, it's put me off because I've felt like I haven't scratched his itch so why bother repeating if it ain't good enough?

Yes, I know that's not necessarily true from his perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t like it, but accept that I’d probably be in the Fab minority regarding this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like you want him all to yourself OP. Unless you want to talk to him about being exclusive with him, I'd let him do what he wants and practice safe sex with him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is.

Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night

obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style

It would put me off him.

How did you know he fucked someone else?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Surely it's better than him having fucked someone the night before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope we are all free to do what we like on here and it's no one's business, not even our playmates.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It wouldn't put me off meeting again no, when I was single I had a couple of people I met regularly, but we were all free to meet others too.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

"It almost sounds like he meant a little more than just sex for you & the fact he slept with someone else the next night gave you a little pang of jealousy? x"

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

"I've met a great guy sex is amazing between us really gets me going in the bedroom; the things is he slept with me, and then someone else the night after kinda put me off, meeting him again.

Would this put you off, or is there anything that really puts you off meeting again x "

If it's a swinging meet then no.

Some people chat shit on here make you feel like their whole world, when in reality it's just a means to an end..an orgasm if they are up to the task

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is. "

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

No I'm not going out with them, they could do what they want.

Would hurt my ego a little if she had to go get herself sorted out later than same day

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It wouldn't put me off, unless it had been agreed that things were exclusive.

Unless expressly agreed, no one one here is tied to so many meets a day/week/etc. or with only certain people

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It wouldn’t bother me.

Some don’t get much free time, so arrangements with those they are talking with may fall on the same weekend, as that is when both free or else wait another month.

If it’s not for you then say do, be clear, although that’s probably already done for you if he sees this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a swinging site so no it definitely wouldn't put me off. I understand that swingers can have sex with many people day after day if that's what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And do you know what? That's fine. More than. Know yourself and what you're comfortable with rather than try to fit into the mould of what a swinger is.

Think that's the only thing that has put me off; it was the next night

obviously I know what this site is all about and he doesn't owe me anything as I don't with him. That's just not style

In the non swinging world I've had two dates in the same day, does that make me bad as well?"

You'll never get into heaven

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It’s always bothered me, even as a swinger but I never really did anything about it until this year. It’s not just the physical side , if I’m seeing someone for sex it’s a quite big deal and like a few days before to focus on them not others

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

If you feel put off by it then you feel put off by it.

You don’t have to have a swinger mentality to be here.

Depending on the build up to your meet, I’d feel a bit miffed too, if I was single and you’d both built it up.

If you’ve had a fantastic time together and you’ve been back and forth reliving it to then be told they are meeting someone else later on, it would make me feel a bit meh.

I don’t class myself as a swinger though and shows we are all on here with different thoughts on what we’d find acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends on my connection to them.

If it's purely sex, then no it wouldn't bother me. But if we had become good friends, enjoyed each others company and wanted to see each other regularly I wouldn't like that I would be one of many. I'd always make this clear before fucking them though, just so we are on the same page.

I know it's a swinging site but if you're not OK with something that's absolutely fine. I totally get why you wouldn't like it.

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