FabSwingers.com forum: Does anyone else...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

..find socialising/meeting new people exhausting sometimes?

I like meeting new people, getting to know them, but sometimes afterwards I just need to be by myself for a while...like get back in my zone..does that make sense? I find all the talking a bit exhausting at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..find socialising/meeting new people exhausting sometimes?

Yes it makes sense. Unplug n have a kitkat

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I hear you, I enjoy it but it's consumes loads of energy. So often if I had to people a lot I need to go hide away for a bit, to build up reserves again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't be arsed with it lately either...

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"..find socialising/meeting new people exhausting sometimes?

Not in person, but online on dating sites. Tedious and just made me want to quit every time x

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

It can be intense, there's often a huge build up and adrenaline rush to these events, so it's only natural to deflate afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..find socialising/meeting new people exhausting sometimes?

Not in person, but online on dating sites. Tedious and just made me want to quit every time x"

Same here. It is mentally tedious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep its more the drive to do it once its on then i get giddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good to take a time out after taking a lot in.

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

"..find socialising/meeting new people exhausting sometimes?

Absolutely x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"..find socialising/meeting new people exhausting sometimes?

Not in person, but online on dating sites. Tedious and just made me want to quit every time x

Same here. It is mentally tedious."

Too right fella. Invest a week chatting fir bugger all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m an introvert so this is me exactly!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Always. I usually have to go home and take a nap after!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It can be intense, there's often a huge build up and adrenaline rush to these events, so it's only natural to deflate afterwards

I think you described it well then.

The build up, adrenaline rush and excitement...then the need to re-centre afterwards.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

"I hear you, I enjoy it but it's consumes loads of energy. So often if I had to people a lot I need to go hide away for a bit, to build up reserves again. "

For another bumming

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By *ori_FiCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Manchester

"I’m an introvert so this is me exactly! "

Us too! Though if we have a lot in common kinkwise with someone and it is an easy and relaxed time where we feel like we can be ourselves then it is easier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m an introvert so this is me exactly! "

I think I've become an introvert over time, if that's possible. Or maybe I have always been, just didn't realise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone I meet in dating apps are all materialistic,I look at the person i don't care what they got or what theyhaven't got etc,unfortunately it seems that way these days,waste of time

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"I’m an introvert so this is me exactly! "

Snap. I don't want or need others

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

It depends on how much effort it is. Some conversations can be hard work, finding that common ground. Others just flow.

I think it can also depend on what you are expecting, is the social just a social event or a prelude to something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I'm a huge introvert so i definitely need quiet time to recharge

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I hear you, I enjoy it but it's consumes loads of energy. So often if I had to people a lot I need to go hide away for a bit, to build up reserves again.

For another bumming

Bloody hell you, you're an idiot sometimes

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I do. But I do babble alot.

Jo.Xx

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

"I hear you, I enjoy it but it's consumes loads of energy. So often if I had to people a lot I need to go hide away for a bit, to build up reserves again.

For another bumming

Bloody hell you, you're an idiot sometimes

Yes but loveable idiot right!!??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do. But I do babble alot.

Jo.Xx "

I do too. I laugh when it's inappropriate also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to just tell funny mental storys if im not tearing clothes off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m an introvert so this is me exactly!

Snap. I don't want or need others"

I do want others though, does being an introvert mean you don't want to be around other people? Because if so then I'm definitely not one as I love being with people...just not all the time

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"I’m an introvert so this is me exactly!

Snap. I don't want or need others

I do want others though, does being an introvert mean you don't want to be around other people? Because if so then I'm definitely not one as I love being with people...just not all the time "

No, not at all. I'm just very solitary

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I’m an introvert so this is me exactly!

Snap. I don't want or need others

I do want others though, does being an introvert mean you don't want to be around other people? Because if so then I'm definitely not one as I love being with people...just not all the time "

No, that's not an introvert. You can be sociable, but prefer your own company x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be intense, there's often a huge build up and adrenaline rush to these events, so it's only natural to deflate afterwards

I think you described it well then.

The build up, adrenaline rush and excitement...then the need to re-centre afterwards. "

I find this too and often have a good amount of my own time after

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tend to just tell funny mental storys if im not tearing clothes off "

Is it either one or the other? If you stop telling stories then someone is about to lose their clothes?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Not at the time but the day after, I get the best nights sleep of the week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to just tell funny mental storys if im not tearing clothes off

Is it either one or the other? If you stop telling stories then someone is about to lose their clothes? "
its generally the way it works seems humour makes clothes unnecessary

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

This is me all over. Being sociable takes a lot out of me!

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By *ndyman76Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have a meet arranged for next week. This after a month of online chat, I will say im nervous. it wasnt like this before.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I hear you, I enjoy it but it's consumes loads of energy. So often if I had to people a lot I need to go hide away for a bit, to build up reserves again.

For another bumming

Bloody hell you, you're an idiot sometimes

Yes but loveable idiot right!!??

Maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely is exhausting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m okay

I’m to old so people

Just ignore me

Ahhh used to it

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I do. But I do babble alot.

Jo.Xx

I do too. I laugh when it's inappropriate also

Yes, that too.

It's good to read we're not the only one's.

Jo.Xx

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Extroverts charge themselves form other peoples' noise and energy.

Introverts need to offload that energy and then recharge in peace and quiet.

It just like operating systems: some can update without switching off and others can do it on the fly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy it can be quite tiresome to introduce and start talking from scratch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely I find it drains me for a couple of days

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Find something, someone or even somewhere that recharges your own batteries.

Not everyone can be a tree hugger, but it is a typical stereotype.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I enjoy meeting/talking to new people. After 17 messages I’m boring but I still enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like to chat

Have a laugh

Make Merry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fine 1 to 1 or even in small groups of 3 or 4, but social events heighten my anxiety to incredible levels

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

Im at the point now where it does not matter how long break i take from these sites i still sometime think not this again when i come bk, when i get messages i feel like i cant be bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..find socialising/meeting new people exhausting sometimes?

I personally think it's an age thing , as in , you reach the stage where you don't really care wether you hit it off or not with that person , there's way too much more in life to be concerned about other than if you made an impression with your meet or not.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

How much of it is, the late nights, booking baby sitters, having the cash available, very long soaks in the club hot tub, dancing all night long or even the stress of not having anything to wear, despite 4 full wardrobes?

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