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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do people always judge others on their looks ?

I get that physical attraction is quite important but some people judge people in different ways by what they look like.

I met someone end of last year who made an opinion about the kind of person someone was purely on how they looked.

Is that a common thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You said it yourself, its quite important. Its a first impression to many.

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By *eviant KnightMan
over a year ago

Norton

This is basic human nature, you make judgements based on looks about fear, comfort, attraction etc in a split second and then decide to run, hide, avoid or jump on them etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean, when you're having sex, they're not looking at your personality

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

I use it on here as I don't have the time to talk to everyone so will judge by the photos on whether I fancy them from the get go. However, I have ended up finding men attractive after getting to them in person.

It's not my favourite thing to judge someone by their looks but when you have to narrow down it's an easier filter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get making a judgement in regards to fancying someone by the look but I don’t get how people can make an opinion on someone as a person by the way they look if that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just life we shouldn't but we do

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Why do people always judge others on their looks ?

I get that physical attraction is quite important but some people judge people in different ways by what they look like.

I met someone end of last year who made an opinion about the kind of person someone was purely on how they looked.

Is that a common thing? "

Absolutely cannot judge a book by its cover but there has to be a Physical Attraction of some form to want to be in any form of physical contact with someone to me as the lady. Looks are not important as they can disappear but person's moral will always be there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to be frank but you can’t fuck a personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have preference

Beauty is eye of the beholder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People make all sorts of assumptions about others from the way they look - it's just human nature. Think of all the stereotypes about blondes or redheads for example.

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester


"I get making a judgement in regards to fancying someone by the look but I don’t get how people can make an opinion on someone as a person by the way they look if that makes sense "

Ah, so you mean when you look at someone and think "probably an EDL supporter" or "probably a bible nerd" etc. I guess some things have a stereotypical look.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get making a judgement in regards to fancying someone by the look but I don’t get how people can make an opinion on someone as a person by the way they look if that makes sense

Ah, so you mean when you look at someone and think "probably an EDL supporter" or "probably a bible nerd" etc. I guess some things have a stereotypical look. "

Yeah that’s exactly what I meant. Thank you for making my stupidness make sense lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think that we have probabiy evolved to have this ability, albeit we potentially don't make good use of it.

Sexually, it will be an important aspect of us finding others attractive and potentially compatible.

Our inner abilities may make this innate but we get influenced by our culture, our society and many seem to make shoddy use of the tools developed over thousands of generations

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By *est Mims LookingCouple
over a year ago

Crofton

With what this site is about yeah looks are important IMO. With that said i did meet my husband from fab 7 yrs ago lol but only talked to him in the first place bc of his look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it’s a basic human instinct based upon tribal / clan recognition?

To our deep ancestors different represented possible danger.

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By *jekimMan
over a year ago

Wigan

Because they have to project their own problems onto others to lessen the pain they feel for themselves

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Well, I suppose in one way the first impression we get from someone is through sight so attraction could form from that before you get to know one another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely need to see a picture to see if I’m likely to find them sexually attractive or not but it is based purely on my preferences not on opinions I form about the individual

for instance I do not find men with long hair attractive -ridiculous I know especially cos they can cut it etc but it does nothing for me sexually. I also don’t often go for men who are dark haired and dark eyed - physical traits I don’t find particularly attractive for no other reason than it being a preference.

after all I am on this site to have sex with people I ultimately find attractive, not looking for my next relationship so it is based mainly on physical appearance.

Just like men may not find me attractive as a curvier woman - I don’t take it personally we don’t all like the same physical traits in people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it’s commonly known as stereotyping.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although attractiveness is relatively important, I do agree with you OP, in saying that you can’t tell the type of person someone is from how they look. I think that was your point, rather than the importance of looks? Think how often we’ve seen a breathtakingly attractive person, and assume they must be up their own arse a bit, only for them to be lovely and really down to earth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its fab, its a sexually based site so looks are the profound factor.

Im not on fab to find a happy ever after, based on that looks are the most important thing to me.

Personality is important but not so as looks, now if i was dating and looking for my happy ever after.. then personality would be the profound factor of which i wouldnt be on fab looking for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m often told I look like a knob.

And I’m a knob.

Sometimes peoples judgments are correct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's in every aspect of life, everyone you meet will instantly judge you whether they admit to it or not. In real life it's shallow but on here, it's an instant way of filtering out who you are attracted too. People are visual creatures and can't have sex with a personality.

We can't be everyone's cup of tea but don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you meet someone with 8 eyes, 10 noses, 4 mouths, & 25 ears and with n arm and leg attached to their head?! If not, then you will go by looks.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I get making a judgement in regards to fancying someone by the look but I don’t get how people can make an opinion on someone as a person by the way they look if that makes sense "

Makes perfect sense to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah misread the thread. It's human nature. People are judgemental, opinionated that is human beings. People that say they don't I beg to differ. Subconsciously at least in some situations you would judge someone based on how they act, speak , etc.

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