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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just a quick poll after chatting to a few friends about whether as a whole people are more a fuck and go or like to spend extra time together like drinks, dinner or even just cuddling with a film on?

Personally I prefer a little extra social time with my meets but interesting to know the overall perspective?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely social time, love the odd dinner/lunch date and cinema trip with my fwb.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Never have and never will do fuck and goes x

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

Love cuddle time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like the social time. It would all feel a bit cold and transactional without it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done it, besides, I'm like a good Chinese meal, more portions that just keep coming

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Social time before and after.

Cuddles in-between.

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By *ust ms lovinWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

I think it depends on what you looking for .. we would prefer a quick drink see if attraction is there then a fuck and go …. Surprising it’s particularly hard to find that if you looking for a couple .. it’s almost like you have to date before you fuck them ..

We once posted a meet for a fuck and go and got told sorry we only looking for a normal meet tonight ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single I did fuck and go for a while. I literally just wanted the sex and nothing more. This was with one person I saw repeatedly. I was fresh out of a relationship and didn't want any form of attachment or a relationship. Over time I softened a bit and enjoyed others company more and the social side. Now I'm in a relationship.

So maybe the answers you'll get in a poll won't reflect people's current state of mind after breakups or hurts and so on and the fuck and go scenarios may seem cold but there may be to it and there's reasons behind it.

PW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I've had good experiences of both. Some people I click better with and enjoy a full night out/in, and others I still really like as people but maybe we don't laugh as much or share as many interests and it's more just about the sex.

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

Not interested in fuck and go at all. Want to be able to chat before and after, hopefully with some cuddles thrown in too!!

MJ x

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Socials are really important for me. Would never fuck and go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d like the social time. It would all feel a bit cold and transactional without it."

No dieu, dieu, auf weidersehen a dieu to you

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I've done fuck and go but it doesn't suit me. It scratched an itch, nothing more.

I'm looking for FWBs, and for me the friendship is as important as the benefits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spend time socially as it's nice if you've got a friendship there. Fuck n go can just fucking go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d like the social time. It would all feel a bit cold and transactional without it."
I would totally have to introduce you to some music and some food ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d like the social time. It would all feel a bit cold and transactional without it.

No dieu, dieu, auf weidersehen a dieu to you

"

Bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social is a must for me I have met couple on previous profile where I had to wait outside and join once they were playing it wasn’t for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd have to have some social time, otherwise it's too cold and impersonal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d like the social time. It would all feel a bit cold and transactional without it.

No dieu, dieu, auf weidersehen a dieu to you

Bastard

"

Only after I've had a glass of wine usually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not feeling a fuck and go scenario. Go at some point, but not immediately afterwards. Hugs n stuff first

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By *utdooorsyguyMan
over a year ago

town

Deffinatley not a fuck and go kind of guy, I love the social aspect as much as I love the sex.

I love the build up, the chatting, the flirting and getting to actually know the person.

Going on walks, going out for food, or even just meeting up for a cuddle and a chat..... for me it's about the whole experience

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We enjoy the social side of things so we like having a laugh a drink maybe some food no cuddling tho as we have each other for that ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site seems to have a few kinds of different cultures .

The forum culture are , intelligent and funny and actually like to communicate , witty ,

Then there's the other folk who use this site , we all know them lol

Send messages with caveman / cavewoman mentality , and are literally on here for ....fuck fuck n go , . These are the people often found complaining about being ignored , deleted , and sending abuse .

Each to their own I guess ..

But the forum clan are more my kinda people ...big love to everyone :0)

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Fuck and go for me can b a few times! But no hanging about after ty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck and go for me can b a few times! But no hanging about after ty x"

Fuck and go! Few times at that!

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By *aughty masonMan
over a year ago

nowhere

"Absolutely social time, love the odd dinner/lunch date and cinema trip with my fwb.

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Most definitely

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By *aughty masonMan
over a year ago

nowhere

"Spend time socially as it's nice if you've got a friendship there. Fuck n go can just fucking go!

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

Social time every time

I don't meet unless I have that kind of dynamic, they're both as important to me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What i truly want is kind of irrelevant for now its just about having a good time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck then go for a cuddling with a film then fuck again, then go for another cuddling with a film then fall asleep, then breakfast then fuck again

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

I like both. Sometimes that animalistic urge to just fuck him because the attraction is immense is all that you need

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By *aughty masonMan
over a year ago

nowhere

"I like both. Sometimes that animalistic urge to just fuck him because the attraction is immense is all that you need

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you aren’t lying there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh I've had good experiences of both. Some people I click better with and enjoy a full night out/in, and others I still really like as people but maybe we don't laugh as much or share as many interests and it's more just about the sex. "

I agree with you!! X totally x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coffee.

Cake.

Rum/whiskey.

Fuck.

Coffee.

Fuck.

Rum.

Fuck.

Food.

Rum.

Fuck.

I’m not in a rush to go.

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By *rkkidMan
over a year ago

Cork

If travelling to an area not visited before you would be silly not to visit new interesting places with that person.. Having your own sexy personal tour guide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person I am with, Some meets its just fuck n go as thats what they want, some meets are a social before and a social after.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

My meets tend to be social before, social after, and social in between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely quality social, builds for better connection and everything else.

I'm quite a tactile person so cuddling and caressing is must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If travelling to an area not visited before you would be silly not to visit new interesting places with that person.. Having your own sexy personal tour guide.

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Like old Roman walls and museums.

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By *eemersonlyWoman
over a year ago

woodbridge

Most definitely social side too. The more you know about a person the better other things can get. The fuck and go is cheap and nasty .. We've all done it and sometimes needs must but how can trust be won so more can be explored without that extra time and connection?

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

Not a fan of Fuck and Go but if that is what the other party wants then I will go with it.

Otherwise a slow sensual unwind ticks all my boxes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me. I like the connection and the warm interaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the connection more than sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like both. Sometimes that animalistic urge to just fuck him because the attraction is immense is all that you need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given the choice I much prefer the latter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coffee and go

Fuck and go

Bj and go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck and go's aren't for me I prefer to spend time on my meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends if my taxi stays on the meter while

I’m there.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I just do as I’m told

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just do as I’m told

"

Best answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not feeling a fuck and go scenario. Go at some point, but not immediately afterwards. Hugs n stuff first "

Who doesn't like a post fun cuddle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have done fuck'n'go over the years. It's the kind of situation to meet a certain need of ours.

For us as a couple and myself when I play as a hotwife I enjoy the whole time spent with someone, like a date. I enjoy a meal, drinks, chat before/during/after sex.

NBVN x

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Absolutely social time, love the odd dinner/lunch date and cinema trip with my fwb.

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By *ightNWet69Woman
over a year ago

dark side of the moon

Fuck & go or one offs are preferred

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I prefer the social approach.. dont think I have it in me to just up and go

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By *unninglinguist69Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Rarely a fuck and go. Prefer the craic and banter also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if just to scratch an itch then fuck n go is fine, if like the person then want much more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not fuck & go here, like social time before & after..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could never do a fuck and go, I don't meet unless there's a connection and banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer to go for a coffee after

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By *exy Ruby 100 300Couple
over a year ago

unknown

Always has to be a connection first ,would never do fu k n go ,unless it was my hubby lol R x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried a fuck and go once. It was so awkward I asked him to leave as he was giving me oral

I definitely need a bit of social interaction too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either but I prefer to spend some time xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer to take time getting to know someone, see if we're on the same wavelength, and build up some trust. I find the sex is usually better too when you're more comfortable with each other.

I'd only do fuck and go with someone I already know well, and when it's a case of only time for a quickie or part of a fantasy scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Prefer to go for a coffee after "

After?!

The horn goggles are off after they cum. I've gone from looking like Kim Kardashian to Les Dawson at that point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation. Prefer to spend time getting to know people etc but more on here want asap fuck n go meets. Ive done one offs but its always been awkward vibes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a MFM surley it's a fuck and go? The geeza isn't surley gonna lay there and cuddle your Mrs that would just be weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Prefer to go for a coffee after

After?!

The horn goggles are off after they cum. I've gone from looking like Kim Kardashian to Les Dawson at that point.

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Lol I doubt you do. . but if its someone I know I like to spend time afterwards and sometimes I like a quickie and sometimes I just want a Bj and nothing more

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Think my answer came across wrong! I don't meet just anyone for fuck and go ! Infact don't meet many at all! Have to have a connection first allways meet for a social if not attracted then nothing will happen! But once that connection has been made will meet them on numerous occasions but will only ever b fuck an go as that's the reason of the meet! Life is busy if I wanted lovey dovey stuff would get a partner x

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I have a bit of a social while meeting at the bar, but after the naughty stuff I want to get home to hubby

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Absolutely social time makes things that big more intense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not a fuck and go girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn’t think of anything worse than a filial and go

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Totally depends on the mood. I never fuck and go solo though. If it’s just me then it’s social, chat, and hopefully repeated meets.

Mostly with the other half it’s the same. Occasionally we have fuck and go fun, but it’s different as we have each other to cuddle and chat after.

It’s just a different mood.

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

Hate quickies, I need to understand and feel chemistry with a woman. Whether that minds drinks, dinner etc or just a few hours alone talking, getting to know her likes, her needs, then reading body language as we go. That’s how the sparks fly and the chemistry builds. Makes for an intense naughty friendship

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

*means not minds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to make my meets more date meets. I love someone to fuss over for a bit before normality hits again X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the art of the tease .. the anticipation you get when you go for dinner or drinks, when you can feel there’s mutual attraction …. I like teasing him across the table before we go back and fuck

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

"I like the art of the tease .. the anticipation you get when you go for dinner or drinks, when you can feel there’s mutual attraction …. I like teasing him across the table before we go back and fuck

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Fore fore-play….the build up can be amazing

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Wouldn’t do fuck and go

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By *aturefun63Man
over a year ago

Belper

Had a couple of fuck and go with men as not looking for cuddles with a man, but prefer more social interaction with a woman love kissing and cuddling

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Fuck and go these days. I have little interest in cosying up on the sofa and having a “boyfriend” experience with someone who is not nor is likely to be my boyfriend.

And I just don’t have the time anymore.

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

Social time and getting to know someone x got to love chemistry xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never just fuck and go. If that happened then it would have been instigated by the other person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not into fuck and go quickie meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to hang around for as long as I can. You may have to sweep me out the door.

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

cumallover

I like both, depending on the mood and the connection.

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By *cottieboy123Man
over a year ago

Perth

"I like to hang around for as long as I can. You may have to sweep me out the door.

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Oh, wouldn't do that, you would be welcome for as long as you like.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

"Prefer to go for a coffee after

After?!

The horn goggles are off after they cum. I've gone from looking like Kim Kardashian to Les Dawson at that point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it happen to me and it didn't feel nice at all. I'd much rather a bit of chat afterwards... At least.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

The trouble is I'm a bit of a chatter box and adore great conversation. I'm afraid with me you'll have to spend a bit of time indulging my brain before my body.

Mr

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I like to hang around for as long as I can. You may have to sweep me out the door.

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Kinky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had it happen to me and it didn't feel nice at all. I'd much rather a bit of chat afterwards... At least. "

Have feeling the chat would last all day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last meet in November last year ended up been one

had met before & was a couple of hours, then met again,we had a brew,chat, had sex then straight after said he was going back to work..no cuddle or kiss goodbye..

Made me feel a bit rubbish...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck and go for us although we do chat for a short while before to make sure we’re comfortable going ahead. We have each other for connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck and go for us although we do chat for a short while before to make sure we’re comfortable going ahead. We have each other for connection."

Just avoid the salad dressing

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