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Message to your 23 year old self

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've just turned 23, finishing up final year of school(msc) and plan to enter the world of work later this year, anyone got life/work advice for their 23 year old self?

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By *lcoupleneCouple
over a year ago

morpeth

Don’t settle in the job you’re in because it’s safe. Don’t not take a leap because it’s out of your comfort zone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best time of your life!

*weeps into Horlicks*

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don’t settle in the job you’re in because it’s safe. Don’t not take a leap because it’s out of your comfort zone."

Agreed, will keep this in mind thanks

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Best time of your life!

*weeps into Horlicks*"

Yup!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best time of your life!

*weeps into Horlicks*

Yup!"

You’re only 34! Albeit the youngest looking one in history

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry too much about being successful. Focus on the things that make you happy.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Best time of your life!

*weeps into Horlicks*

Yup!

You’re only 34! Albeit the youngest looking one in history "

Yes well, I had my 20's stolen by an abusive relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best time of your life!

*weeps into Horlicks*

Yup!

You’re only 34! Albeit the youngest looking one in history

Yes well, I had my 20's stolen by an abusive relationship "

Eek, apologies, I meant it as a compliment and not a trigger! Really sorry to hear that anyway, and hope your 30s are better x

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By *otwifeHusbandCouple
over a year ago

Dorset

Enjoy your life, you only get one shot , do a job you love not just for the money and surround yourself with good friends .

Hotwife

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't worry too much about being successful. Focus on the things that make you happy. "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No id probly do it the same until im about 36 then iv got messages

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It won't work out the way you plan, but it'll be ok. Trust yourself

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Best time of your life!

*weeps into Horlicks*

Yup!

You’re only 34! Albeit the youngest looking one in history

Yes well, I had my 20's stolen by an abusive relationship

Eek, apologies, I meant it as a compliment and not a trigger! Really sorry to hear that anyway, and hope your 30s are better x"

I know you were only trying to be nice

I'm not triggered either, it's just a fact that I have to accept.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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Find them sooner so you can love them longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what makes you happy. Don't worry about people judging you, it's your life to live how you wish.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Get a divorce right now.

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

Have that threesome don’t bottle it

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Spend more time naked.

Chase pleasure.

Travel, travel, travel. (and ski)

Gbat

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Don't take all them cars to the scrapyard, rent a barn and park them up for 30+ year and they will help you retire early. Talking to my 23 year old self in 1986.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are going to pressure you into feeling you need to do certain things and act a certain way, be that relationships, how to parent, the home you should buy, the job you should have. Often your nearest and dearest. Bollocks to them only you know what makes you happy, and that’s essentially the key to it. Find your happy, not someone else’s.

Ok that’s my sensible old man quota for the evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just turned 23, finishing up final year of school(msc) and plan to enter the world of work later this year, anyone got life/work advice for their 23 year old self?"

Do exactly what you did.

I made my 2 best decisions aged 23

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By *uperjackMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Find them sooner so you can love them longer

"

Love this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Find them sooner so you can love them longer

"

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Two best things to come out of Barking. The A13 and District Line…. Will you be the third..?? Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just turned 23, finishing up final year of school(msc) and plan to enter the world of work later this year, anyone got life/work advice for their 23 year old self?"

It won't matter if you find a female ,she will decide for you , this is only saying it the way it is.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Note to my 23 year old self .the two women you said no fucking then don't fuck them .lol

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP - I an going to imagine that you have no real ties or obligations at the moment which means that you have freedom. Use it. Now is the time to take some risks and try new things.

Travel, sex, business - what ever you want to do give it a go. If it doesn’t work out - who cares? If it does work out - awesome you have learned something.

In a few years then obligations will start to mount up - relationships, kids, work, mortgage - and you will find that you are less open or able to take risks.

Don’t lose the opportunity you have now.

I will also observe that every year of your life is the best - as long as you are healthy then life is good no matter what age you are.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield


"I've just turned 23, finishing up final year of school(msc) and plan to enter the world of work later this year, anyone got life/work advice for their 23 year old self?"

Say yes more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You went after the wrong Amy, idiot!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

My 23yo life was not representative of the norm. I'm not sure the OP is expecting to read something about dealing with 7yo children who are going into the juniors

Something about Power Rangers, perhaps?!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Don't let people talk you into taking the bf travelling with you.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

You should’ve said fuck it okay I’ll do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gonna be a pandemic in a few months so buy all the hand sanitizer and loo roll you need now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel old as fuck now qnd proberbly should get my coat,

Message to 23 year old me.... take more ammo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop being such a people pleaser.... I'm a lot better at not doing this now

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

Buy a house.

Don’t get married.

Don’t have kids.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"Stop being such a people pleaser.... I'm a lot better at not doing this now "

This.

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough / Kettering

When you are warned that the gorgeous 18 year old you are seeing will turn in to her mother take that fucking advice !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't fckin get married once let alone twice xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't fckin get married once let alone twice xx "
we all live n learn , sadly it's gotten fucking 3xp3nsive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say no when she proposes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't fckin get married once let alone twice xx we all live n learn , sadly it's gotten fucking 3xp3nsive"

My first one wasn't too expensive if honest, n still married to second one lol cheaper than a divorce

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
over a year ago

IPSWICH


"OP - I an going to imagine that you have no real ties or obligations at the moment which means that you have freedom. Use it. Now is the time to take some risks and try new things.

Travel, sex, business - what ever you want to do give it a go. If it doesn’t work out - who cares? If it does work out - awesome you have learned something.

In a few years then obligations will start to mount up - relationships, kids, work, mortgage - and you will find that you are less open or able to take risks.

Don’t lose the opportunity you have now.

I will also observe that every year of your life is the best - as long as you are healthy then life is good no matter what age you are. "

I'd second that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say Yes more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say Yes more."

and say No more also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't fckin get married once let alone twice xx we all live n learn , sadly it's gotten fucking 3xp3nsive

My first one wasn't too expensive if honest, n still married to second one lol cheaper than a divorce "
I am working on second divorce, I do want to marry current missus as she is awesome and I won't marry a 4th time.

Wife took everything and wants me to pay for divorce while she lives on my cash with her fella...

People are shit

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Don't get married, don't have kids unless you know will be able to afford life if you break up with the mum. Don't take out loans no matter how desperate you feel at the time but do make sure you have as much fun as possible and see as much of the world as you can

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By *hisisntpofMan
over a year ago

bristol

Dont pull the handbrake on doing 60

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't get married, don't have kids unless you know will be able to afford life if you break up with the mum. Don't take out loans no matter how desperate you feel at the time but do make sure you have as much fun as possible and see as much of the world as you can"

Do NOT put a Mortgage millstone around your neck , this poster is correct , great advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't fckin get married once let alone twice xx we all live n learn , sadly it's gotten fucking 3xp3nsive

My first one wasn't too expensive if honest, n still married to second one lol cheaper than a divorce I am working on second divorce, I do want to marry current missus as she is awesome and I won't marry a 4th time.

Wife took everything and wants me to pay for divorce while she lives on my cash with her fella...

People are shit"

I really feel for you , l do , but only some people do what you've been through , some people will stop at nothing to really crush others .Am glad you've met an awesome female , l truly am .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry. One way or another, it all works out in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unlucky youth, down hill in 2 years I’m afraid

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

Have more sex

Have more confidence

Be kind to your knees (Baz luhrmann).

And of course......Wear sunscreen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy your hair.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I'll be 60 on Saturday and I can't even remember what I had for breakfast yesterday, let alone what I was doing 37 years ago!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say 'continue following your heart but forgive yourself and talk to people'

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Yes simply don't worry about a things out of your control it will come good in the end

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I've just turned 23, finishing up final year of school(msc) and plan to enter the world of work later this year, anyone got life/work advice for their 23 year old self?"

Choose your company’s and managers well. Especially at the start of your career , the role and salary is much less important than a good manager

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Don't get married, don't have kids unless you know will be able to afford life if you break up with the mum. Don't take out loans no matter how desperate you feel at the time but do make sure you have as much fun as possible and see as much of the world as you can"

OMG I disagree with all that ! Have lots of kids they are much more important than money and always leverage low interest rates to raise capital and do the things other people are scared of doing like start businesses and owning property

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take the opportunity you had to live in another country.

Keep going to the gym mornings/lunchtimes.

End your relationship.

Keep your short/shaved haircut.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

That 25 year mortgage you just took? You’ll be paying it back for far longer through no fault of your own

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Take a pregnancy test in October - weeellllll before the Tequila won’t stay down. You’ll thank me. Also the kid is an absolute legend. You’ll love it. Stop worrying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re going to love being a Dad but try not to worry so much as a parent. And quit that job that you hate so much.

(I’m only 24 )

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Thought for work life and interviews ...

When going for an interview remember it is THE job not A job.

Don't warble on in the interview about how their job is going to improve your training, experience and skills. Ask not what they can do for you, say what you can do for them.

Loyalty is not worth the paper it is written on unless, perhaps, the paper is a wedge of £20 notes.

Be on good terms with your work colleagues but not at the expence of your principals. You will need them sometime and will want them on your side.

When the ancient, 60 plus, idiot in the corner offers advice receive it with good humour and at least consider it. 40 years of work experience counts for a lot and problem situations often come back round time and again.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"I've just turned 23, finishing up final year of school(msc) and plan to enter the world of work later this year, anyone got life/work advice for their 23 year old self?"

Keep off swinging site's they are highly addictive.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Sell the 2.8 sooner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Don’t get that tattoo dickhead”.

“Or pierce both ears”.

“Or your eyebrow”.

“In fact, just stop being a fucking dick”.

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By *ealthy_and_HungMan
over a year ago

Princes Risborough, Luasanne, Alderney

wear sunscreen .....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQlJ3vOp6nI

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're 23, you've already cracked it. My message to me at 23 would be ditch the blone and get signed up to a swingers site!!!!! I'm just 20 years too late to benefit from that sage advice!!! I'm making up for it now, but you will have all those years to enjoy!! I wish I'd had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go down the pub on your 23rd birthday and Don't chat with the blonde girl in red who would later become your ex-wife.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't fckin get married once let alone twice xx we all live n learn , sadly it's gotten fucking 3xp3nsive

My first one wasn't too expensive if honest, n still married to second one lol cheaper than a divorce I am working on second divorce, I do want to marry current missus as she is awesome and I won't marry a 4th time.

Wife took everything and wants me to pay for divorce while she lives on my cash with her fella...

People are shit

I really feel for you , l do , but only some people do what you've been through , some people will stop at nothing to really crush others .Am glad you've met an awesome female , l truly am ."
I have had two long term relationships before current, both turned out to be utter narcissistic psychos at different ends of spectrum, I learnt and have protection systems now in place qnd been happy for a good while

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Don’t cum in her mouth, she doesn’t like it

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By *ibsonsgCouple
over a year ago

New Milton

Fuck more

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Just go for it, you’re already fucked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be happy. If something doesn't make you happy, don't be afraid to change it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will get through this shit.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford


"Best time of your life!

*weeps into Horlicks*"

Awww, hugs.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Advice to myself would be

Get a vasectomy

Try to maintain your financial independence

Buy your own place

Try to live more within your means and invest when you can

Avoid meeting person x, y and z

Not necessarily useful advice for anyone else though

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford


"Be happy. If something doesn't make you happy, don't be afraid to change it. "

Great advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could tell my 23yr old self anything it would be just stay away from the men!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I could tell my 23yr old self anything it would be just stay away from the men!!!!!"

Men are better at DIY.

Good luck putting shelves up.

Knobhead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I could tell my 23yr old self anything it would be just stay away from the men!!!!!

Men are better at DIY.

Good luck putting shelves up.

Knobhead."

I'll have you know I am better at DIY, been doing it for years.... Dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I could tell my 23yr old self anything it would be just stay away from the men!!!!!

Men are better at DIY.

Good luck putting shelves up.

Knobhead.

I'll have you know I am better at DIY, been doing it for years.... Dick."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be a push over ffs, stick to your guns

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Forget the girl you are dating, she only wants a baby to get a house.

Keep up the cycling, your older self will appreciate it.

Stop being a twat on the motorbike, as it is expensive and hurts when you get it wrong.

Enjoy crosddressing, it isn't something to be ashamed of. You do look good in a dress, you have a pair of legs that suit stockings or hold ups.

In a couple of years time, don't wait 4 months to go to the Drs with a lump on your balls. It is cancer, get it seen to quick!

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Oh there's some very bitter people on here.

My advice just do what you think is best.

Tell your parents you love them.

And don't think your too young to settle down love is love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manage money better and don’t settle for the first woman who pays you attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

prepare yourself boy ... for hell is coming ... !! literally !

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By *utlongjohnMan
over a year ago

close

Youve got some tough years ahead but it all works out in the end so keep your chin up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any pressure you may feel to settle down and start ‘acting more grown up’ is absolute bollocks. There’s plenty of time left for that. You’ll feel as young when you turn 30 but you’ll be more knowledgeable and not give as much of a shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Find them sooner so you can love them longer

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say do all those bad and naughty things you chickened out off because in 22years time I can come back and warn you of the consequences so you can then choose not to do them if it was bad

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By *otwifeHusbandCouple
over a year ago

Dorset

To my 23 year myself.

In a few years your meet the best lady of your life. Enjoy and have fun. Listen to her.

Ps the world of work can be harsh but find the job you enjoy. Money is not important you can be rich in many other ways. Life, love, kids, grandkids. Simple time off with loved ones is better than travelling the world at vast expense.

Most important. Talk to partner. Never lie and you be surprised at the rewards they may give.

Hubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop worrying about your body because its bloody fabulous!!

And try that threesome you were offered, your hubby actually would have done it.

Oh and that car swap you might think about doing.... don't!!

PNG x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start running… eat more, drink more, fornicate more… it’s gonna be ok!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Travel whilst young

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By *anter007Man
over a year ago

peterborough

Next weeks lottery numbers are 7, 2, 25, 47, 30, 17 bonus ball 4

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Give up now, its a lot of hard work for fuck all in return!

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Don't do it, don't do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boy, I'm glad I joined the army, wish I'd joined younger

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