FabSwingers.com forum: Ouch, that hurts...

By *J Statham OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Have you ever had someone pleasuring you and it starts to become painful fairly quickly.

Like handjobs, fingering, hear?

I have had a few occassions when receiving head their teeth would scrape along the shaft and the head of my dcik.

That being said i never usually say anything and just endure it a little, partly because i dont want to tell them that the way they are doing it doesnt feel nice. On the few occassions i have mentiones it then it stops for 30 seconds and goes back to what it was.

Of course it should be communicated but i feel i make the assumption that i could upset them a tiny bit.

Have you endured pain uncomfortably?

Am i alone on this?

How do we best communicate it?

Would you be a little upset if you were trying your best and was told to change what you was doing as its painful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its painful when they think a penis is a cocktail shaker or a stress ball

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they head for the back door with no lube.. rude.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Duuuuuude, I'm made of flesh not concrete"

"Duuuuuude, that's my insides not a nail file"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I let them have a bite and then think, "now I'm a part of them for the next 12 hours or so!"

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

It's a funny one, isn't it? I've defo put up with rough fingering or too hard clit sucking cos I don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. But aren't we doing both parties a disservice, then? We are unsatisfied/injured

and they head off thinking we loved it whereas perhaps a little guidance would have helped everyone, now and in the future.

I'm getting better at speaking up. Not being a dick about it. But guiding and suggesting.

And here's another thing... Nobody has ever made a suggestion to me. Now I'm wondering if I'm the blissfully ignorant cock scraper!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I let them have a bite and then think, "now I'm a part of them for the next 12 hours or so!"

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just have to not trim the pubes for that

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Also, yes. I would want to know what someone prefers, for sure.

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By *rying2niteMan
over a year ago

Egremont

I was seeing a woman a few years ago, and the sex was fantastic and freaky....she was game for ANYTHING .....the problem was, when she was blowing me....it felt like my cock was in a blender !

I didn't say anything as other than that she was brilliant

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I couldn’t not say anything. I’m not going to endure something painful just so I don’t hurt their feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many men think ramming their fingers inside a woman will make her squirt in orgasmic heaven.

I've asked them to stop and they continue. So I've literally left the room at a club. Everyone looked at him wondering what he'd done. Doubt he had a learning experience.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Too many men think ramming their fingers inside a woman will make her squirt in orgasmic heaven.

I've asked them to stop and they continue. So I've literally left the room at a club. Everyone looked at him wondering what he'd done. Doubt he had a learning experience. "

Frigid ain't ya. Wasn't his fault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many men think ramming their fingers inside a woman will make her squirt in orgasmic heaven.

I've asked them to stop and they continue. So I've literally left the room at a club. Everyone looked at him wondering what he'd done. Doubt he had a learning experience.

Frigid ain't ya. Wasn't his fault

I'm a disappointment to men everywhere.

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By *J Statham OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"It's a funny one, isn't it? I've defo put up with rough fingering or too hard clit sucking cos I don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. But aren't we doing both parties a disservice, then? We are unsatisfied/injured

and they head off thinking we loved it whereas perhaps a little guidance would have helped everyone, now and in the future.

I'm getting better at speaking up. Not being a dick about it. But guiding and suggesting.

And here's another thing... Nobody has ever made a suggestion to me. Now I'm wondering if I'm the blissfully ignorant cock scraper!

Mrs TMN x"

Haha, love that term

"Ignorant cock scraper"

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

I met a lady last year and she would not stop biting my lips/tongue when we kissed, no matter how many times I protested.

I got dressed and told her to get in the car and just drove her home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When someone thought that a light nibble meant biting my cock in half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet a guy when he sucked me felt like saw

A few guys have also thought that can just shove all there cock straight in no preparing my arse

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Not so much hurting but, i cringe when my balls are tickled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And DONT scratch my back grrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few folks rubbing the clip like it's a scratch card, or finger banging like their pumping up a bike. I will always gently suggest a different way or guide them with subtle verbal cues. I would always enjoy a little direction from my partners qs well though, if it doesn't feel nice tell me! I want it to feel good fir everyone and everyone's pleasure is different

F xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes. Fingering can quite easily be mistaken for mining for gold, and oral can also go south.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Feeling sudden sharp pain from teeth on my most treasured possesion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one girlfriend from years ago who when I was fucking her thought she'd stick her finger up my bum without warning and she had sharp finger nails

Talk about a mood killer

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