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Skills v compatibility

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

We're all wired in our own individual ways when it comes to sex. What gets me melting in a squelchy puddle will leave someone colder than a fab lolly. So it therefore follows that finding a compatible partner - someone who ticks in the same as you - will result in a satisfying experience all round, right?

What about skills? I'm not talking about folk who can "breathe through their ears" or "suck a golf ball through a hoover" or whatever other bravado is being spouted. I'm talking about people who understand how bodies work, who can be responsive, good communicators, or practised in particular acts. How does that affect compatibility?

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not talking about folk who can "breathe through their ears" or "suck a golf ball through a hoover" or whatever other bravado is being spouted."

He ain't heavy, he's my cummer.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I've only ever met one person who I'm completely compatible with, and it is incredible.

I think a great deal of it is being willing and able to pay attention to your partner and take on board the subtle, non subtle, verbal and non verbal clues.

Being a massive geek and actively researching how bodies work helps too apparently

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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A TMN thread!

I think a part of compatibility is about timing - we've all experienced the perfect Goldicock to only find a better fit later.

I think good communicating and genuine listening skills (not just hearing) can help foster those feelings of compatibility - if we feel like we can be truly open with someone and discuss more things with them we're more likely to see them as compatible. Those who are practised in certain acts might be good for the majority but talking from experience, unless that's married with responsiveness, awareness and communication skills, it won't necessarily work.

Using a personal example - an ex and I were sexually compatible on paper but when it came down to listening to me, responding to my body and needs it kind of fell flat. There was no denying he understood broad biology but it's more than understanding, it's about applying that and not just thinking of oneself. That's what's increases feelings of compatibility and makes it enjoyable for all parties.

(A TMN thread deserved waffle )

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

Sensuality overrides all other things for me, If he can read me as well as I can read him then everything else will follow

Otherwise it's a fun sexual adventure rather than a soul mating one

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I've only ever met one person who I'm completely compatible with, and it is incredible.

I think a great deal of it is being willing and able to pay attention to your partner and take on board the subtle, non subtle, verbal and non verbal clues.

Being a massive geek and actively researching how bodies work helps too apparently "

Excellent use of research time, I call that!

It's incredible when you have that connection, isn't it? I had it instantly with Mr and it's developed further over time. That doesn't mean I haven't had great sex with other partners in the intervening time, but there's never been anything like the connection we have. I've always thought it's down to us also being in a ltr and therefore we know each other deeply but interested to hear other's experiences and opinions.

Mrs TMN x

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"A TMN thread!

I think a part of compatibility is about timing - we've all experienced the perfect Goldicock to only find a better fit later.

I think good communicating and genuine listening skills (not just hearing) can help foster those feelings of compatibility - if we feel like we can be truly open with someone and discuss more things with them we're more likely to see them as compatible. Those who are practised in certain acts might be good for the majority but talking from experience, unless that's married with responsiveness, awareness and communication skills, it won't necessarily work.

Using a personal example - an ex and I were sexually compatible on paper but when it came down to listening to me, responding to my body and needs it kind of fell flat. There was no denying he understood broad biology but it's more than understanding, it's about applying that and not just thinking of oneself. That's what's increases feelings of compatibility and makes it enjoyable for all parties.

(A TMN thread deserved waffle )"

Waffle away, Meli, my lovely! I'm sure the folks at home can imagine the pair of us fapping over each others waffle

Interesting waffle. So you're saying that by using skills - listening and communication principally - compatibility can be improved?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll find it one day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're all wired in our own individual ways when it comes to sex. What gets me melting in a squelchy puddle will leave someone colder than a fab lolly. So it therefore follows that finding a compatible partner - someone who ticks in the same as you - will result in a satisfying experience all round, right?

What about skills? I'm not talking about folk who can "breathe through their ears" or "suck a golf ball through a hoover" or whatever other bravado is being spouted. I'm talking about people who understand how bodies work, who can be responsive, good communicators, or practised in particular acts. How does that affect compatibility?

Mrs TMN x"

If you're with a long time lover it's ok to talk about what you like or what you're other partner likes , the main thing is you don't waste time .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many have been close only 1 was designed and customised in pretty much every way

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"We're all wired in our own individual ways when it comes to sex. What gets me melting in a squelchy puddle will leave someone colder than a fab lolly. So it therefore follows that finding a compatible partner - someone who ticks in the same as you - will result in a satisfying experience all round, right?

What about skills? I'm not talking about folk who can "breathe through their ears" or "suck a golf ball through a hoover" or whatever other bravado is being spouted. I'm talking about people who understand how bodies work, who can be responsive, good communicators, or practised in particular acts. How does that affect compatibility?

Mrs TMN x

If you're with a long time lover it's ok to talk about what you like or what you're other partner likes , the main thing is you don't waste time ."

What do you mean about wasting time?

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

I’ve found that great sex is down to empathy and communication. Those that can read body language, can understand and care about the effect they are having on others are amazing lovers. It isn’t just sensuous sex either, it applies to that hard, rough, urgent fucking and good BDSM. Those that lack empathy are generally selfish lovers that fail to satisfy their partners, they don’t really care about anyone else’s pleasure but their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compatibility is the most important thing. Having said that, a willingness to try new things at least once is a must so long as it doesn't stretch beyond your acceptable boundries too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The verification system leads to tick box sex. Pounds hard, sucks like a Dyson, willing wet hole, etc etc.

No need for mutual fun when the goal is an amazing verification and to cum.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

If I ever find this amazing compatible partner, who wants what I can offer, and wishes to give what I can receive, then I can start upon building and refining my physical relationship skills.

Until then I guess that I'll remain pretty shit at sex.

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