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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you meet someone and the connection is instant. Things move to the bedroom. Kissing is amazing, foreplay is amazing. Sex is amazing but he only wants to do you from behind. Should I be insulted ?

I've tired to climb on top of him but he flips me over. I've suggested missionary but he just laughs. I've suggested anything but doggystyle. He just tells me that it's fun. I don't know what else to do and it's really putting me off. Any suggestions? Everything I bring it up he makes a joke out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn’t sound like an amazing connection to me if he’s not interested in listening to you or making sure the sex is how you both want it …

But hey, it’s not my relationship …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd try asking him why he doesn't want you on top or doing missionary. There must be a reason x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd try asking him why he doesn't want you on top or doing missionary. There must be a reason x"

100% this

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

He's having sex exactly the way he wants to....

Personally I'd have shut that door long ago

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Maybe he's embarrassed at the screwed up face he pulls when he shoots his load, and doesn't want you to see xxxxx Suzi

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Doesn’t sound that amazing.

I had a meet like that once, he not only wanted doggy, he didn’t want me to move at all! Erm, no thanks! So I got up and left.

Just ask him why and tell him you’re not happy. Don’t let him make a joke out of it.

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By *asterandGenieCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"When you meet someone and the connection is instant. Things move to the bedroom. Kissing is amazing, foreplay is amazing. Sex is amazing but he only wants to do you from behind. Should I be insulted ?

I've tired to climb on top of him but he flips me over. I've suggested missionary but he just laughs. I've suggested anything but doggystyle. He just tells me that it's fun. I don't know what else to do and it's really putting me off. Any suggestions? Everything I bring it up he makes a joke out of it. "

Who wouldn’t want to look at the front of you while fucking he must be mad x

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By *ynda1978Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Liverpool

That doesn't sound great and I personally wouldn't stand for it! I'm sure you'll meet someone who is just as amazing or should I say better.

Leave alone as they say it was good whilst it lasted and walk away!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn’t sound like an amazing connection to me if he’s not interested in listening to you or making sure the sex is how you both want it …

But hey, it’s not my relationship …"

Oh, and he’s probably been watching too much porn ..

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford


"When you meet someone and the connection is instant. Things move to the bedroom. Kissing is amazing, foreplay is amazing. Sex is amazing but he only wants to do you from behind. Should I be insulted ?

I've tired to climb on top of him but he flips me over. I've suggested missionary but he just laughs. I've suggested anything but doggystyle. He just tells me that it's fun. I don't know what else to do and it's really putting me off. Any suggestions? Everything I bring it up he makes a joke out of it. "

Reads to me as he dosnt want any attachement issues.

So dosnt want to face you when your having sex with him and thats why he prefers from behind only.

or a guilty conscience.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

He probably likes looking at your arse....but he needs to listen to what you want to. If he doesn't back off a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually, maybe he just thinks you have really awful bad breath?

No? Breath as fresh as a Springtime Meadow?

Ah well I’m at a loss then!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"I've suggested missionary but he just laughs....

Everything I bring it up he makes a joke out of it."

•

Sex should be filled with fun, tactility and laughter.

But if you're being mocked then that's bordering on contempt and irreverence.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Basically you are his living sex toy. He uses you to achieve his sexual gratification. Your needs are irrelevant.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Just tell him you don't enjoy that position, end of

He doesn't get to dictate which positions you have sex in, it's a two way conversation, if he doesn't change positions, he doesn't get to have sex, simple

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

You sure he's not a werewolf?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I wouldn't be insulted, but I would be asking him why he was laughing at my suggestions. That's a little odd. The spark may be there but there has to be give and take between the two of you, surely?

Mrs TMN x

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I find the sexiest sex is when you’re facing each other.

From behind is good too, but much more impersonal.

On a separate note, my ex took me to visit the doctor because I only wanted to have sex doggy-style. The doctor asked ‘Why don’t you try it the normal way around?’ I said ‘I tried that, but the dog kept licking my face’.

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By *heSuitedManMan
over a year ago

Harlow

Could be many reasons, might get off seeing your ass, as others have said, possible uncomfortable sex face, but he must be mad for not wanting to see you, stunning.

Best way is to just ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop fucking him.

Find someone who respects you enough to listen to you, and your desires/wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, tell him to do one.

Seriously, to me, he sounds incredibly selfish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the sexiest sex is when you’re facing each other.

From behind is good too, but much more impersonal.

On a separate note, my ex took me to visit the doctor because I only wanted to have sex doggy-style. The doctor asked ‘Why don’t you try it the normal way around?’ I said ‘I tried that, but the dog kept licking my face’."

FFS! that's my kind of joke.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Fuck him off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll come to this conclusion yourself as you're already put off and asking the question.

You've tried talking to him and he laughs at you. That's horrible.

If I were you, I wouldn't give him anymore of my time, he's certainly not amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its safe to say the women have all the right answers on here tonight....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Yeah, tell him to do one.

Seriously, to me, he sounds incredibly selfish. "

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Tell him you find it really boring in that position all the time and that if that is all he has to offer then you’d rather fuck someone else.

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

Yes I would be insulted. I’d presume he didn’t actually want to look at me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn’t sound like an amazing connection to me if he’s not interested in listening to you or making sure the sex is how you both want it …

But hey, it’s not my relationship …"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could he be Married or with someone so feels guilty? Either way its not a mutual thing if it's only his way...plenty of guys would be interested...move on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cable tie him to the bed and say "now doggie me bitch"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guy must be nuts!!

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire


"When you meet someone and the connection is instant. Things move to the bedroom. Kissing is amazing, foreplay is amazing. Sex is amazing but he only wants to do you from behind. Should I be insulted ?

I've tired to climb on top of him but he flips me over. I've suggested missionary but he just laughs. I've suggested anything but doggystyle. He just tells me that it's fun. I don't know what else to do and it's really putting me off. Any suggestions? Everything I bring it up he makes a joke out of it. "

Is this guy a fb? or you both in a relationship? Ask your self...are the other positions important?...why doesn't he like them? and if he's really putting you off all ready then maybe you've answered your own question OP?..get rid of him? Only you can decide.

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Hmmm Let's guess

Lazy?

Power, and enjoys you getting less out of it?

Frightened that he might have to do something with your pleasure in mind (and will fail)

Doesn't know how to do any other positions (and doesn't care)

Not interested in what you think, say or want.

... and all reasons to to not waste further time trying to educate him.

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By *aturefun63Man
over a year ago

Belper

You have an amazing ass so can see why he loves doggy with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say move on, but good sex and connection your choice, for me I love to stare in to her eyes mmm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally from behind is more exciting and gives a better orgasm, not sure why, maybe its because you can see what's going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stop fucking him.

Find someone who respects you enough to listen to you, and your desires/wants. "

^ I agree with what this lady said.

Sounds all one sided and on his terms - for him to laugh every time you question it? He has no real consideration or respect for you.

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By *igg25Man
over a year ago

andover

Sounds like you could do better

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"Yes I would be insulted. I’d presume he didn’t actually want to look at me at all."

agreed

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I believe he is not interested in you. He wants his pleasure and go without any connection. It is hard, if you lie face to face with a sexual partner, not to develop some form of link.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I had an ex boyfriend like this. I managed to occasionally branch out into other positions but mostly we never really got past it. We split up for other reasons but it was really starting to get to me in the end. I enjoyed the position but anything gets boring if it's the only thing you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get that a lot."

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody in this forum knows. The best answers people can do is guesses. It seems to me that you really like this guy for his other qualities. However you have to get to the bottom of it and find out from him. When he turns it into a joke, tell him it's not funny anymore. That it's starting to become an issue for you. That you want a real connection, that includes honesty from his side. If despite all your attempts he doesn't care to share his genuine reason with you and/or try to fulfill your legitimate wants, then he is not worth keeping.

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By *tagandvixen200Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

If he doesn’t fuck you how you want, tell him to fuck off.

This is two-way, not one

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
over a year ago

M20

Put him on his knees and peg him.

If he complains, laugh.

No don’t do that..

Oh go on.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Doggy is my least favourite position, and it hurts me, so if I am not getting pleasure out of it, despite the connection and great other elements, it’d be a bye bye from me…

I only cum on missionary… and on top, but I take aaaaaahes and I don’t have the patience.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"When you meet someone and the connection is instant. Things move to the bedroom. Kissing is amazing, foreplay is amazing. Sex is amazing but he only wants to do you from behind. Should I be insulted ?

I've tired to climb on top of him but he flips me over. I've suggested missionary but he just laughs. I've suggested anything but doggystyle. He just tells me that it's fun. I don't know what else to do and it's really putting me off. Any suggestions? Everything I bring it up he makes a joke out of it. "

He sounds like a prick.

You have an amazing arse though, so that might be part of the reason.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Should be a two way thing. Maybe do one position you like and then what he likes. Alternate. You both might get to enjoy all positions in the end!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flip on your back and say nope!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you meet someone and the connection is instant. Things move to the bedroom. Kissing is amazing, foreplay is amazing. Sex is amazing but he only wants to do you from behind. Should I be insulted ?

I've tired to climb on top of him but he flips me over. I've suggested missionary but he just laughs. I've suggested anything but doggystyle. He just tells me that it's fun. I don't know what else to do and it's really putting me off. Any suggestions? Everything I bring it up he makes a joke out of it.

He sounds like a prick.

You have an amazing arse though, so that might be part of the reason. "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Put him on his knees and peg him.

If he complains, laugh.

No don’t do that..

Oh go on."

Not a bad idea

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"He's having sex exactly the way he wants to....

Personally I'd have shut that door long ago

"

This. He's not meeting your needs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He's having sex exactly the way he wants to....

Personally I'd have shut that door long ago

This. He's not meeting your needs."

Thank. I guess he is not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Should be a two way thing. Maybe do one position you like and then what he likes. Alternate. You both might get to enjoy all positions in the end!"

This is 100 percent true

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