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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

So I've always been at least a mildly socially anxious person but it's definitely been a lot worse since we've come out of the pandemic. My already clunky at best social skills have withered away. I hoped that socialising more would mean it would come easier as I got back into the swing of things at that muscle memory started to come back but I've just found my anxiety increasing despite wanting to be around people. Anybody else finding the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've always been at least a mildly socially anxious person but it's definitely been a lot worse since we've come out of the pandemic. My already clunky at best social skills have withered away. I hoped that socialising more would mean it would come easier as I got back into the swing of things at that muscle memory started to come back but I've just found my anxiety increasing despite wanting to be around people. Anybody else finding the same? "

Can't say it's the same for me. But then I've been out and about the entire time as I'm a key worker. My partner is also a nurse and runs the local covid unit. So I'm well informed about it and what's going on with it.

You'll get there soon enough. But try not to be anxious about it. You have to remember a lot of the fear mongering on the news is just that, fear mongering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep! Definitely feel the same, my last social made me realise how awfully awkward and nervous I've become!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have become a near recluse I even try to avoid going to the office, let alone social events. Hate mixing with people in crowds or small spaces now.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

If I'm honest, I've found my confidence has grown over the covid period. I'm still socially awkward in a way but my anxiety has shifted slightly for the better. I'm still not a fan of crowds and I much prefer one on one but social interactions are much more relaxed and natural to me than now than they have ever been.

As to why I can't really say why. Nothing has changed much for me as a reason for the shift in mentality with regards to this.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So I've always been at least a mildly socially anxious person but it's definitely been a lot worse since we've come out of the pandemic. My already clunky at best social skills have withered away. I hoped that socialising more would mean it would come easier as I got back into the swing of things at that muscle memory started to come back but I've just found my anxiety increasing despite wanting to be around people. Anybody else finding the same?

Can't say it's the same for me. But then I've been out and about the entire time as I'm a key worker. My partner is also a nurse and runs the local covid unit. So I'm well informed about it and what's going on with it.

You'll get there soon enough. But try not to be anxious about it. You have to remember a lot of the fear mongering on the news is just that, fear mongering."

Unless I'm wrong, it's not covid that has her anxious (though may still could) but actual social interactions regardless of covid. After having almost 2 years of limited socialising, lots of people have become less naturally social and the anxiety comes from that.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yes definitely, was ok managing it pre pandemic and always made sure I'd socialized with people on a regular basis. With Covid that stopped and I just can't seem to push myself into a routine again.

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By *ake-Me-FeelWoman
over a year ago

Sussex


"If I'm honest, I've found my confidence has grown over the covid period. I'm still socially awkward in a way but my anxiety has shifted slightly for the better. I'm still not a fan of crowds and I much prefer one on one but social interactions are much more relaxed and natural to me than now than they have ever been.

As to why I can't really say why. Nothing has changed much for me as a reason for the shift in mentality with regards to this. "

Weirdly I have found this to be the case for me too.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So I've always been at least a mildly socially anxious person but it's definitely been a lot worse since we've come out of the pandemic. My already clunky at best social skills have withered away. I hoped that socialising more would mean it would come easier as I got back into the swing of things at that muscle memory started to come back but I've just found my anxiety increasing despite wanting to be around people. Anybody else finding the same?

Can't say it's the same for me. But then I've been out and about the entire time as I'm a key worker. My partner is also a nurse and runs the local covid unit. So I'm well informed about it and what's going on with it.

You'll get there soon enough. But try not to be anxious about it. You have to remember a lot of the fear mongering on the news is just that, fear mongering."

I've worked in clinics and hospitals the whole time myself and my mum worked in ITU. It's not that I'm anxious about covid, it's interactions with people. Weirdly, professionally I don't have that issue but I think that's more having a "work persona" in a way and I'm comfortable in my job and what I'm saying to people. The topic of conversation is familiar, often predictable and comfortable. I guess the dynamic is also different. Even in work though a lot of interaction has been reduced. A lot more is via teams and over the phone and face to face interaction is minimal and mainly with colleagues. I get a bit of anxiety about interactions with colleagues but that's always been the case.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've become a recluse, more or less.

But I find that when I need to, I can put on the persona I use in my volunteering.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"If I'm honest, I've found my confidence has grown over the covid period. I'm still socially awkward in a way but my anxiety has shifted slightly for the better. I'm still not a fan of crowds and I much prefer one on one but social interactions are much more relaxed and natural to me than now than they have ever been.

As to why I can't really say why. Nothing has changed much for me as a reason for the shift in mentality with regards to this.

Weirdly I have found this to be the case for me too. "

It's definitely interesting how it's gone the opposite way for some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've become much more anxious about interactions with people too. And I am a very sociable kind of person. It's just so much harder now and I find it quite exhausting.

At a conference in November, with a couple of hundred people, a lot of people I know said they felt the same. We avoided the extra social events as it was just draining. I think we are all out of practice. Natural to feel more anxious as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did get anxiety during covid ended up on pills i think im much better now tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've always been at least a mildly socially anxious person but it's definitely been a lot worse since we've come out of the pandemic. My already clunky at best social skills have withered away. I hoped that socialising more would mean it would come easier as I got back into the swing of things at that muscle memory started to come back but I've just found my anxiety increasing despite wanting to be around people. Anybody else finding the same?

Can't say it's the same for me. But then I've been out and about the entire time as I'm a key worker. My partner is also a nurse and runs the local covid unit. So I'm well informed about it and what's going on with it.

You'll get there soon enough. But try not to be anxious about it. You have to remember a lot of the fear mongering on the news is just that, fear mongering.

Unless I'm wrong, it's not covid that has her anxious (though may still could) but actual social interactions regardless of covid. After having almost 2 years of limited socialising, lots of people have become less naturally social and the anxiety comes from that. "

Fair enough. In that case may I suggest talking to someone. My youngest sister used to have horrendous anxiety. Her therapist used to give her tasks. Simple things like. Spark up a conversation with someone in the supermarket or at the bus stop. Little steps. Anxiety thankfully for the most part is really to overcome. But you'll need some professional help to organise a suitable structure to help you.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Work related interaction not an issue, social interactions are another matter. I've never been particularly good at small talk but that becomes exponentially worse as the group become larger, I withdraw into myself. I also hate pissing contests that groups of blokes (and some women though it's a lot less)seem to fall into in these groups.

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By *assy69Man
over a year ago

sussex and Wales


"So I've always been at least a mildly socially anxious person but it's definitely been a lot worse since we've come out of the pandemic. My already clunky at best social skills have withered away. I hoped that socialising more would mean it would come easier as I got back into the swing of things at that muscle memory started to come back but I've just found my anxiety increasing despite wanting to be around people. Anybody else finding the same? "

Yep. Have always been a bit socially awkward. Working from home for past two years has just made me feel more self conscious about it. Started back at office for two days a week, and this is the second week I have been getting out of the house and mixing with people. Like you, am hoping it will get better but will just have to wait and see.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Work related interaction not an issue, social interactions are another matter. I've never been particularly good at small talk but that becomes exponentially worse as the group become larger, I withdraw into myself. I also hate pissing contests that groups of blokes (and some women though it's a lot less)seem to fall into in these groups."

I feel exactly the same. I'm fine with work or people I know very well but when it's people I know less well it either can feel a bit awkward and jarring or other times like I'm on the outside trying to keep up or pick up on subtleties that feel like another language other people just know.

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