FabSwingers.com forum: Different Class of Guy?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

near Chesterfield

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

I hope you mean that in a positive way.

I've got to the stage where I rarely message anyone away from the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really?

I think it's just some know they would be torn a new arsehole if they posted some of the shit they send in a pm.

Conversely, there are some sound guys I talk to who never post on the forum.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'll know it when I find it.

Wait.

I might have misunderstood.

Male forum users are a class above men on the site who don't use the forum?

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if so)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

I hope you mean that in a positive way.

I've got to the stage where I rarely message anyone away from the forums. "

Absolutely. The emojis were supposed to say that but admittedly maybe confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different how?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I think generally the private messages aren’t as horrendous. There are plenty of nice respectful men who don’t use the forums though. Any I meet aren’t forum folk x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen some plums in The Lounge.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Try again..

The posts from guys on here seem so much nicer and different from than the message I receive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really?

I think it's just some know they would be torn a new arsehole if they posted some of the shit they send in a pm.

Conversely, there are some sound guys I talk to who never post on the forum."

Some are nice on the forum and creepy in messages.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Thats coz we is more eloquent innit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really?

I think it's just some know they would be torn a new arsehole if they posted some of the shit they send in a pm.

Conversely, there are some sound guys I talk to who never post on the forum.

Some are nice on the forum and creepy in messages. "

Is it cos I showed you my big cock photo?

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By *rTongueMan
over a year ago

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"Really?

I think it's just some know they would be torn a new arsehole if they posted some of the shit they send in a pm.

Conversely, there are some sound guys I talk to who never post on the forum.

Some are nice on the forum and creepy in messages. "

Guessing that’s the ‘public’ v ‘private’ thing. But kind of sad to hear it still.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Really?

I think it's just some know they would be torn a new arsehole if they posted some of the shit they send in a pm.

Conversely, there are some sound guys I talk to who never post on the forum."

But you give me dairy products. I wouldn't send you a nasty message....you'd kill me

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Welcome. Nice guys on here. We talk a lot of nonsense, but it's mainly spelt correctly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Willys

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By *eatrice BadinageWoman
over a year ago

In a Sparkly Dress

"Try again..

The posts from guys on here seem so much nicer and different from than the message I receive

The forums are moderated thats why. There are some really nice guys in fab that are not in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 28/02/22 10:30:54]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you booing her? she’s right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a mixture of nice and nasty messages whether it's in the forum or private messages. Really if a guy is going to be a dick about something, it doesn't matter where he posts it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys on the forums know how to play it and what to say.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Guys on the forums know how to play it and what to say.

And well aware I'll skin em alive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's alot of smooth talkers for sure on here who are very good at telling you what they think you want to hear. Luckily I've met a few nice ones who can deliver but majority talk the talk

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

But we all retain the capacity to be dicks, it is our privilege

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try again..

The posts from guys on here seem so much nicer and different from than the message I receive

The forums are moderated thats why. There are some really nice guys in fab that are not in the forums

I can vouch for that. I've known someone on here for 4 years now and he's never done the forum x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this too. Chatting with a lovely forumite and it’s so different to my usual conversations on here! Refreshingly lovely!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool/Wallasey

"Wait.

I might have misunderstood.

Male forum users are a class above men on the site who don't use the forum?

(

if so)"

Oi! Cheeky

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'll know it when I find it.

"Really?

I think it's just some know they would be torn a new arsehole if they posted some of the shit they send in a pm.

Conversely, there are some sound guys I talk to who never post on the forum.

Some are nice on the forum and creepy in messages. "

Yes this. Generally people aren't likely to be dickish on the fora.

Also, I've never really had bad messages away from the forum. The only bad one has been a direct result of the forum.

However, I hope you enjoy yourself here OP. The men on the forums aren't actually that bad for the most part. Just like the women. And transgender folx.

(Before anyone gets upset about me man hating)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Posterizer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really?

I think it's just some know they would be torn a new arsehole if they posted some of the shit they send in a pm.

Conversely, there are some sound guys I talk to who never post on the forum.

Some are nice on the forum and creepy in messages.

Is it cos I showed you my big cock photo?

Ha no you're normal.

Whatever that means.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think that the majority people on the forums are nice people regardless of the gender

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Think about it. In private they can be open and say what they really want. In public……..not so much lol

It’s all about perception.

I’ve seen people slag others for wanting bareback and then they’ve sent us a PM asking if we would let him bareback Andrea and impregnate her

There are some guys though who are the same on here as they are privately. Meeeeeee for example haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I would rather chat here in an open forum.

If anyone wants to then take that into a private chat then fine.

As stated before these forums are monitored, private chat isn’t

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Thanks

The forum kind of polices itself, the more abrupt posters get shot down quickly lol

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Bredbury, Stockport

Esteel,

Wuu2, fancy a fuck?

Love,

Simon

Parity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a bit like meeting for a social cup of coffee in a public place before then going to a private meet

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"There's alot of smooth talkers for sure on here who are very good at telling you what they think you want to hear. Luckily I've met a few nice ones who can deliver but majority talk the talk "

Works both ways, and you're one of the good uns xx

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think some are, some aren't

Like others said, people are aware this is all public and moderated.

There are some lovely forumites in general though, so welcome and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

#NotAllMen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If not for the forum, I’d have left here long ago. The majority of private messages are dross. So I do actually agree with you.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Really?

I think it's just some know they would be torn a new arsehole if they posted some of the shit they send in a pm.

Conversely, there are some sound guys I talk to who never post on the forum.

Some are nice on the forum and creepy in messages.

Is it cos I showed you my big cock photo?

Ha no you're normal.

Whatever that means.

And you're another genuine lady. Forums are better for gauging people xx

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Esteel,

Wuu2, fancy a fuck?

Love,

Simon

Parity."

Oh Simey you smoothy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

In what sense do you mean OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's alot of smooth talkers for sure on here who are very good at telling you what they think you want to hear. Luckily I've met a few nice ones who can deliver but majority talk the talk

Works both ways, and you're one of the good uns xx"

Aww thank you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Most of our messages are from men who don't use the forum. The majority are decent and friendly

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Bredbury, Stockport

"Esteel,

Wuu2, fancy a fuck?

Love,

Simon

Parity.

Oh Simey you smoothy "

Peach my love I can but try x

Simes

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Esteel,

Wuu2, fancy a fuck?

Love,

Simon

Parity.

Oh Simey you smoothy

Peach my love I can but try x

Simes

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool/Wallasey

For the most part those that use the forum generally have an idea how to interact with people. Being able to hold conversations and knowing what is or should be acceptable etc.

Even the brash opinionated people that have conflict between them and others still have a basic understanding of conversing.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Yeah it’s the women you have to watch out for OP ….

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool/Wallasey

"Yeah it’s the women you have to watch out for OP ….

I was avoiding saying it for fear of my life. The fab forum female mafia (fffm) will be all over it.

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By *irate102Man
over a year ago

Halifax

I'm old school and believe in respect. Most of today's youth just don't get it and think it's ok to talk to women like there a piece of meet. Well not on my watch lol.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"Yeah it’s the women you have to watch out for OP ….

I was avoiding saying it for fear of my life. The fab forum female mafia (fffm) will be all over it. "

I thought I’d get in there before a man did. Twas a joke clearly though, I wouldn’t want to frighten a newbie off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Yeah, I agree. Occasionally I have decent conversation with someone off the forum. I'd say 80-90% of my messages show no signs that the person knows how to talk to other people (with respect).

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By *ice But Very NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Really?

I think it's just some know they would be torn a new arsehole if they posted some of the shit they send in a pm.

Pretty much what I thought when I read the OP

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Thats coz we is more eloquent innit

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Thanks

The forum kind of polices itself, the more abrupt posters get shot down quickly lol"

Unless they are female they get backed up regardless of how rude they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the party we a friendly bunch in the lounge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"#NotAllMen"

Most men are lovely!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Yeah, I agree. Occasionally I have decent conversation with someone off the forum. I'd say 80-90% of my messages show no signs that the person knows how to talk to other people (with respect)."

Beryl you and Shania tied me up in the loo....minx

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'm in the minority I think as most of the messages I get are polite nice messages I rarely get any abuse on here,on the rare occasion I do I just block and move on.

Like anywhere else on fab the forum's is a mix or all types.The decent nice ones,the ones who post to start arguments,the ones who blow smoke up others arses hoping it will get them the ride,the people who think fab should be done their way and anyone who disagrees is wrong, the popular ones who believe they are fab elite and have the do you not know who I am attitude, the lurkers who are too nervous to post but watch it all and pm off threads,and then you get the ones who do all the shite stirring in the background while acting all nice on the forums. So don't believe all the nice facades on here as quite often they aren't even skin deep. Luckily there are enough actually decent people on here who make it worthwhile being on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in the minority I think as most of the messages I get are polite nice messages I rarely get any abuse on here,on the rare occasion I do I just block and move on.

..sounds luke my office!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"#NotAllMen

Most men are lovely!

But not all men

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Forum folk are more watched, some can be just as bad as the blind messages you receive.

There are some good non forum men too, you find them eventually

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Yeah it’s the women you have to watch out for OP ….

Truth

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool/Wallasey

"Forum folk are more watched, some can be just as bad as the blind messages you receive.

There are some good non forum men too, you find them eventually

Yeah but us good forum guys are just better than the good non forum guys.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Forum folk are more watched, some can be just as bad as the blind messages you receive.

There are some good non forum men too, you find them eventually

Yeah but us good forum guys are just better than the good non forum guys.

Such a sweeping statement…… debatable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also find that to! The guys in the forums seem more genuine & gentlemanly hi btw

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I also find that to! The guys in the forums seem more genuine & gentlemanly hi btw

And then we send you private messages and make arrangements for drinks one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also find that to! The guys in the forums seem more genuine & gentlemanly hi btw

And then we send you private messages and make arrangements for drinks one day

x"
now them kinda messages I like but the FAF ones a big turn off for me x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I also find that to! The guys in the forums seem more genuine & gentlemanly hi btw

And then we send you private messages and make arrangements for drinks one day

x now them kinda messages I like but the FAF ones a big turn off for me x"

I never would dream if sending anything like that. Stay classy, just like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Yeah, I agree. Occasionally I have decent conversation with someone off the forum. I'd say 80-90% of my messages show no signs that the person knows how to talk to other people (with respect).

Beryl you and Shania tied me up in the loo....minx

xx"

I think the majority of people are just bemused by this now!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Yeah, I agree. Occasionally I have decent conversation with someone off the forum. I'd say 80-90% of my messages show no signs that the person knows how to talk to other people (with respect).

Beryl you and Shania tied me up in the loo....minx

I think the majority of people are just bemused by this now!

Yeah, in joke. I'll stop then Beryl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks to be full of people having a monday wank to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really?

I think it's just some know they would be torn a new arsehole if they posted some of the shit they send in a pm.

Conversely, there are some sound guys I talk to who never post on the forum."

this and there are alot of creepy and moany guys on the forum too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Yeah, I agree. Occasionally I have decent conversation with someone off the forum. I'd say 80-90% of my messages show no signs that the person knows how to talk to other people (with respect).

Beryl you and Shania tied me up in the loo....minx

I think the majority of people are just bemused by this now!

Yeah, in joke. I'll stop then Beryl xx"

Calling me Beryl is also mystifying when my name is King George

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Fancy a bum OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s probably because posting cock pics is not allowed on the forums.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Yeah, I agree. Occasionally I have decent conversation with someone off the forum. I'd say 80-90% of my messages show no signs that the person knows how to talk to other people (with respect).

Beryl you and Shania tied me up in the loo....minx

I think the majority of people are just bemused by this now!

Yeah, in joke. I'll stop then Beryl xx

Calling me Beryl is also mystifying when my name is King George

What! Geraldine it is then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s probably because posting cock pics is not allowed on the forums. "

Profile pics.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"That’s probably because posting cock pics is not allowed on the forums.

Profile pics.

I've never quite got the posting a cock pic as a profile shot. Keep it for private or in person x

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I find there are nice guys/tossers on the forum, just like the rest of the site.

For me, forum guys are friends while non forum guys are playmates. Not sure why it works out that way, but I'm pretty happy with it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even think the forum people are a different class necessarily I think it's more the case of one-on-one. You can act differently to when you are messaging in part of a group. For myself personally, I am always polite to respectfully my messages because at the end of the day we're all here for the same thing and as a male speaking to a woman. Well I shouldn't look at the female in a derogatory manner because she's here as well. However, I do feel like the standard of some men on here ruins it for the rest of us.

Sometimes I feel like I may be too polite and respectful for some people on here as we start speaking and the conversation goes to nothing for no apparent reason.

So now I post a question. Is it possible to be too polite to respectful while private messaging on fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't even think the forum people are a different class necessarily I think it's more the case of one-on-one. You can act differently to when you are messaging in part of a group. For myself personally, I am always polite to respectfully my messages because at the end of the day we're all here for the same thing and as a male speaking to a woman. Well I shouldn't look at the female in a derogatory manner because she's here as well. However, I do feel like the standard of some men on here ruins it for the rest of us.

Sometimes I feel like I may be too polite and respectful for some people on here as we start speaking and the conversation goes to nothing for no apparent reason.

So now I post a question. Is it possible to be too polite to respectful while private messaging on fab?"

I chat to men on the forum and 1:1 so my opinion is based on that.

For me, a bit of spice adds some pizzazz to a chat. It's really personal though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree to an extent. I think forum men see as more as people on the whole (not always, I’ve had some really creepy messages from forum men too).

They tend to be a bit more respectful.

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By *anBerksMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Meh. I use the forums and I’m an absolute c*nt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really?

I think it's just some know they would be torn a new arsehole if they posted some of the shit they send in a pm.

Conversely, there are some sound guys I talk to who never post on the forum."

Surely there must be some amazing guys who post on the forum and pm you

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Wait.

I might have misunderstood.

Male forum users are a class above men on the site who don't use the forum?

(

if so)"

Damn skippy I am! Bloody non forum using scrubs ruining it for all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Meh. I use the forums and I’m an absolute c*nt. "

Wtf is in your 29th Jan pic??!!

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By *anBerksMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Meh. I use the forums and I’m an absolute c*nt.

Wtf is in your 29th Jan pic??!!

That awesome one in my Friends Only gallery?! It’s just for you my lovely, it is such a wonderous penis, don’t you think!

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By *oystick-MCRMan
over a year ago

Manchester | London

*grabs popcorn *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

Meh. I use the forums and I’m an absolute c*nt.

Wtf is in your 29th Jan pic??!!

I think his cock glows . The tip if it at least.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't think an ability to post on the forums is really a sign of anyone being better or worse than non forum users.

Some people are just much better at creating personas than others.

There are some very productive people on the forums who bear no resemblance to the person I knew from chatgroups prior to their forum engagement.

I could use a long list of adjectives to describe their lack of personality or their nasty misogynistic predatory behaviour back then but yet they are forum darlings now and leopards don't change their spots that easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think an ability to post on the forums is really a sign of anyone being better or worse than non forum users.

Some people are just much better at creating personas than others.

There are some very productive people on the forums who bear no resemblance to the person I knew from chatgroups prior to their forum engagement.

Forum darlings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the forum gives people the chance to show off their human side without trying to "win" you over in a message. so i guess people who use the forums are probably more easygoing/thoughtful rather than the "meet me now" Dickpics type.

well thats my immediate theory anyway

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By *anBerksMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

"I don't think an ability to post on the forums is really a sign of anyone being better or worse than non forum users.

Some people are just much better at creating personas than others.

There are some very productive people on the forums who bear no resemblance to the person I knew from chatgroups prior to their forum engagement.

Are there misogynistic Fabswingers off-site chat groups then? And if so, where can I sign up!?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'll know it when I find it.

"There are some very productive people on the forums who bear no resemblance to the person I knew from chatgroups prior to their forum engagement.

When you talk about these people (which you do a bit), out of curiosity, are they from the Lounge or the Irish forums?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"There are some very productive people on the forums who bear no resemblance to the person I knew from chatgroups prior to their forum engagement.

When you talk about these people (which you do a bit), out of curiosity, are they from the Lounge or the Irish forums? "

Yes I do a bit because people often talk about not ignoring red flags while at the same time ignoring some of the biggest red flags available.

I'm talking specifically about my own experiences in the Irish forums. I can't comment on the lounge because I'm not invested enough in it and don't really know anyone here but judging by comments from other posters this applies equally across all forums and not just on fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If not for the forum, I’d have left here long ago. The majority of private messages are dross. So I do actually agree with you."

Thanks.

It was just an offhand observation. I did say it was my first time posting. Perhaps I should have been more specific

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"If not for the forum, I’d have left here long ago. The majority of private messages are dross. So I do actually agree with you.

Thanks.

It was just an offhand observation. I did say it was my first time posting. Perhaps I should have been more specific

That red basque is awesome x

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

Just give it time.

Time reveals all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also find that to! The guys in the forums seem more genuine & gentlemanly hi btw

And then we send you private messages and make arrangements for drinks one day

x now them kinda messages I like but the FAF ones a big turn off for me x

I never would dream if sending anything like that. Stay classy, just like you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Esteel,

Wuu2, fancy a fuck?

Love,

Simon

Parity."

Aw thanks But you're not my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't speak for everyone but regardless of where we post or who we message I would please ask not to paint us all with the same brush

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I guess contributing to the forums requires the use of at least a few sentences

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I've not sent the first message in a long time which is the right approach.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have to say, I'm also lucky to not have too many knuckleheads messaging me.

Perhaps the word knuckleheads give a fair impression of me.

It wasn't a criticism to anybody. Just an observation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a social site and not participating in forums and just lurking in the shadows flies in the face of what you should be doing.

I've always enjoyed forum posting so glad this place has them and they're full of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi First time posting.

The guys who post on here are soon different from the guys who message me

I hope you mean that in a positive way.

I've got to the stage where I rarely message anyone away from the forums. "

I don't message anyone at all. I've had enough disappointment haha. I just nosey on here to kill the boredom now.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

near Chesterfield

"I have to say, I'm also lucky to not have too many knuckleheads messaging me.

Perhaps the word knuckleheads give a fair impression of me.

It wasn't a criticism to anybody. Just an observation

I'll get me coat. Lol

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By *oanonmyboneMan
over a year ago

maybe close

"I've not sent the first message in a long time which is the right approach."

Yeah same here. Learned early on just to sit and hopefully receive invites so as not to appear to pester profiles. Still dish out the winks/fabs though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s probably because posting cock pics is not allowed on the forums.

Profile pics.

I've never quite got the posting a cock pic as a profile shot. Keep it for private or in person x"

It’s a very handy tool that helps us identify immediately that this man is not for us!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"That’s probably because posting cock pics is not allowed on the forums.

Profile pics.

I've never quite got the posting a cock pic as a profile shot. Keep it for private or in person x

It’s a very handy tool that helps us identify immediately that this man is not for us! "

Like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree.

The women however are a fucking nuisance.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"I've seen some plums in The Lounge."

The Covid forum is a gold mine.

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