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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m not very good at saying what i want from sex. I know what i like and don’t like but when asked ‘what do you like?’ or ‘how can i pleasure you?’, rabbit in headlights mode is activated, all forms of coherent articulation disappear

Eventually i do explain but i fight the shy.

What about your good selves? Are you brave and bold with saying how you like it or do you meander the looooong way.

Please share….might help someone out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some days i get carried away and say loads but then i get days where my brain stops functioning and my mind goes blank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very forward in saying what I like, I've even gone as far as giving a list and receiving one in return as clinical as it may sound it didn't take the fun out of it it was so much better the moans of appreciation was all we needed instead of that awkward silence or direction, my advice would be just be blunt about what you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs NE is exactly the same. She has never once told me what she likes I just have to lead the way and judge her reactions. We used mojo upgrade years ago to find things we wanted to try together and that helped a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strictly speaking if the guy is any good he shouldn't need to ask but find out what she likes.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not great at it in spoken word I prefer to do it in writing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Strictly speaking if the guy is any good he shouldn't need to ask but find out what she likes. "

By means of trial and error?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I’m not very good at saying what i want from sex. I know what i like and don’t like but when asked ‘what do you like?’ or ‘how can i pleasure you?’, rabbit in headlights mode is activated, all forms of coherent articulation disappear

Eventually i do explain but i fight the shy.

What about your good selves? Are you brave and bold with saying how you like it or do you meander the looooong way.

Please share….might help someone out "

I’m very vocal about how I like to be pleasured, and think nothing lf giving them a lecture if they do it wrong.

We also like to discuss peoples likes and dislikes ahead of time to avoid those embarrassing moments when you are politely told to remove a finger from someones bum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it something you struggle with in day to day life, or is it just sexually?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carlos recommends filling out a multiple choice questionnaire 24hrs prior to swapping any fluids

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it something you struggle with in day to day life, or is it just sexually?"

Just sexually

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is it something you struggle with in day to day life, or is it just sexually?

Just sexually"

I think a lot of women do.

I see a lot of posts saying that men have been doing stuff a woman doesn't like but she's said nothing. I will always say if I don't like what's happening but if a person asks me straight out "what would you like me to do to you?" I clam up. A much better scenario for me is if a rapport is established we communicate likes and dislikes in writing. I have done this with a guy. It was interesting that I wrote mine in the form of a fantasy and he just wrote a list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it something you struggle with in day to day life, or is it just sexually?

Just sexually

I think a lot of women do.

I see a lot of posts saying that men have been doing stuff a woman doesn't like but she's said nothing. I will always say if I don't like what's happening but if a person asks me straight out "what would you like me to do to you?" I clam up. A much better scenario for me is if a rapport is established we communicate likes and dislikes in writing. I have done this with a guy. It was interesting that I wrote mine in the form of a fantasy and he just wrote a list.

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I also find it much easier written in the form of messages. I just find it too much pressure face to face unless I'm very comfortable and familiar with that person.

In any other part of my life I'm pretty open.

I do wish sometimes I was more forward and able to confidently talk about everything I want, especially during sex. Even then, I can be reserved

PNG x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is it something you struggle with in day to day life, or is it just sexually?

Just sexually

I think a lot of women do.

I see a lot of posts saying that men have been doing stuff a woman doesn't like but she's said nothing. I will always say if I don't like what's happening but if a person asks me straight out "what would you like me to do to you?" I clam up. A much better scenario for me is if a rapport is established we communicate likes and dislikes in writing. I have done this with a guy. It was interesting that I wrote mine in the form of a fantasy and he just wrote a list.

I also find it much easier written in the form of messages. I just find it too much pressure face to face unless I'm very comfortable and familiar with that person.

In any other part of my life I'm pretty open.

I do wish sometimes I was more forward and able to confidently talk about everything I want, especially during sex. Even then, I can be reserved

PNG x "

I also used to wish that but now I've decided to work with what I have. I do state quite clearly on our profile what I don't like but for a lot of people not liking those things is wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude, don't put pressure on yourself to be someone your not, if it's right then it's right

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm not one for keeping quiet on what I like or don't and will say x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not one for keeping quiet on what I like or don't and will say x"

I'm all ears

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I really dislike that question , I like most things if I like the person doing it !

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

I'm not here to teach him how to read my body, If I made a mistake and picked a incompatible person then that's on me.

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford


"Is it something you struggle with in day to day life, or is it just sexually?

Just sexually

I think a lot of women do.

I see a lot of posts saying that men have been doing stuff a woman doesn't like but she's said nothing. I will always say if I don't like what's happening but if a person asks me straight out "what would you like me to do to you?" I clam up. A much better scenario

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My opinion is speak up on what you like and dont like.

No point going to your friends or forum users saying they was a poor fuck if you dont speak up.

Men say different where the lady lies there legs wide open and laid like a piece of log.

Id rather pleasure a lady that advises on the right and wrongs and take her to better heights.

Than stumberling around in the dark if youve got it right or not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is it something you struggle with in day to day life, or is it just sexually?

Just sexually

I think a lot of women do.

I see a lot of posts saying that men have been doing stuff a woman doesn't like but she's said nothing. I will always say if I don't like what's happening but if a person asks me straight out "what would you like me to do to you?" I clam up. A much better scenario

My opinion is speak up on what you like and dont like.

No point going to your friends or forum users saying they was a poor fuck if you dont speak up.

Men say different where the lady lies there legs wide open and laid like a piece of log.

Id rather pleasure a lady that advises on the right and wrongs and take her to better heights.

Than stumberling around in the dark if youve got it right or not."

I'm more than happy to tell a guy I like what he's doing or I don't like what he's doing.

I see a number of men complaining about the quality of the blow jobs they receive. They're obviously not speaking up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm ridiculously shy in person after a LTR where he pretty much ignored anything I ever said. I actually clam up and stammer at times. But as can be seen from my stories I have no shyness with the written word. I have often written fantasies for a partner.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I will discuss in great detail what I have liked and have disliked in the past, but sometimes what I've liked with one person doesn't work for me with someone else.

If we're going at it and my partner is doing something that I don't like I will ask for something else. If they're being a bit heavy-handed, for example, I might show them how I prefer to be touched. If their hand strays to my throat I will remove it as that's something I know many people like but it makes me uncomfortable.

One of the reasons I love to watch a partner wank is so I can see how he likes to be touched and what he finds pleasing, when he might be too embarrassed to verbalize exactly what he wants and what works for him.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I say "yeah you keep doing that and I'll grab my wand"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I say "yeah you keep doing that and I'll grab my wand""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I've just had a perfect example of this .. I'm so shite at picking up hints!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something I’ve had to contend with so no idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not shy in saying how and what I want in the moment, but if I'm asked in general I'm not sure how to answer as it may be one thing I prefer tonight and completely different tomorrow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it something you struggle with in day to day life, or is it just sexually?

Just sexually"

It’s not a criticism, I totally get it, because I struggle too, but I found it generally, so I practiced on a day to day basis, if that makes sense.

Mine has improved with Mr HH, because I trust he will accept it, listen and not take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm ridiculously shy in person after a LTR where he pretty much ignored anything I ever said. I actually clam up and stammer at times. But as can be seen from my stories I have no shyness with the written word. I have often written fantasies for a partner. "

I really hear this. I had the same experience . It can improve, with the right person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm ridiculously shy in person after a LTR where he pretty much ignored anything I ever said. I actually clam up and stammer at times. But as can be seen from my stories I have no shyness with the written word. I have often written fantasies for a partner.

I really hear this. I had the same experience . It can improve, with the right person. "

It did improve with my ex-boyfriend. But then he opted out.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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Oh I am quite bad at saying what I want/like though I'm a lot better than pre fab! So I guess making progress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm pretty confident in saying what I enjoy or don't enjoy (fairly small list that one!).

It's more the technique of things that is key for me.

I'm happy to demonstrate this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I'm useless but if a person truly knows me then they know what I like and if I'm ready for more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually do it without words just move their head, fingers or penis how I want it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually do it without words just move their head, fingers or penis how I want it."

Brilliant

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