FabSwingers.com forum: First message

By *ack Flash400 OP Man
over a year ago

The Bat Cave

Seen a lot of profiles on here which say 'I'm fine' 'I've having a good day', etc. and for not to send such messages

Two observations: -

If the profile has no real detail, what are you supposed to send as a first message

And secondly. If this was the real world, i.e. chatting up in pub/club, I defy any to say they wouldn't start a conversation any differently

(unless it's just me and hence the lack of replies on here - politeness gets you nowhere!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean what is there to say

Do you want the I am fine/good

Or would you like they real

I had a shit day I cried 3 times I feel ugly

Works been a nightmare Jenny at work is a lazy so and so and mark the boss dosent care because he wantes on her knickers

So it’s left to me to do everything I just want to tell them to stick they job up they ass

Yip that definitely put someone out off the mood for any sort off chat

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"Seen a lot of profiles on here which say 'I'm fine' 'I've having a good day', etc. and for not to send such messages

Two observations: -

If the profile has no real detail, what are you supposed to send as a first message

And secondly. If this was the real world, i.e. chatting up in pub/club, I defy any to say they wouldn't start a conversation any differently

(unless it's just me and hence the lack of replies on here - politeness gets you nowhere!)

But it’s not the “real world”. I don’t get my tits out down the pub

It is possible to be polite and interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be creative. If you can’t find something in their profile that sparks enough interest for you to say something different then why do you want to message them in the first place?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Use the imagination and be creative it's what I'd use even in a bar or club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seen a lot of profiles on here which say 'I'm fine' 'I've having a good day', etc. and for not to send such messages

Two observations: -

If the profile has no real detail, what are you supposed to send as a first message

And secondly. If this was the real world, i.e. chatting up in pub/club, I defy any to say they wouldn't start a conversation any differently

(unless it's just me and hence the lack of replies on here - politeness gets you nowhere!)

But it’s not the “real world”. I don’t get my tits out down the pub

It is possible to be polite and interesting.

Bloody hell why not

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

In the real world you wouldn't be one of potentially hundreds of others all trying to talk to the same woman at the same time... Unless you frequent very different establishments to me.

On Fab men far outweigh women. Unless you and your message stand out from the crowd, your chances of a response are probably small.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seen a lot of profiles on here which say 'I'm fine' 'I've having a good day', etc. and for not to send such messages

Two observations: -

If the profile has no real detail, what are you supposed to send as a first message

And secondly. If this was the real world, i.e. chatting up in pub/club, I defy any to say they wouldn't start a conversation any differently

(unless it's just me and hence the lack of replies on here - politeness gets you nowhere!)

And don’t stick to some generic copy and paste message.

Actually write something and put thought and effort into it.

If there not much in the bio, ask questions, say a little about yourself.

It may not the the real world as such but it’s good to stand out if you can still

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Just be creative. If you can’t find something in their profile that sparks enough interest for you to say something different then why do you want to message them in the first place?"

When I sent messages out there was always something in the profile I was drawn to.

My message would refer to it and why I was drawn to it, I wasn't short of something to say.

I wasn't messaging every single penis in a 50 mile radius, only the people whose profile really appealed, so it was very easy to send an interesting and tailored message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just be creative. If you can’t find something in their profile that sparks enough interest for you to say something different then why do you want to message them in the first place?

When I sent messages out there was always something in the profile I was drawn to.

My message would refer to it and why I was drawn to it, I wasn't short of something to say.

I wasn't messaging every single penis in a 50 mile radius, only the people whose profile really appealed, so it was very easy to send an interesting and tailored message."

We’ve even gave a hint to an opening message on our profile and we still get terrible messages. If anyone asks that particular question though we base any further replies on how they reply to our answer.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"I mean what is there to say

Do you want the I am fine/good

Or would you like they real

I had a shit day I cried 3 times I feel ugly

Works been a nightmare Jenny at work is a lazy so and so and mark the boss dosent care because he wantes on her knickers

So it’s left to me to do everything I just want to tell them to stick they job up they ass

Yip that definitely put someone out off the mood for any sort off chat "

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