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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

..I feel this is something I don't know enough about and approaching 40 is becoming more likely I'll be experiencing symptoms within a few years, if not already.

Perimenopause is the first thing.

How did you begin to start to accept it? I mean, it's always been such a big part of what makes me feel like a woman...

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

There is so much more help theses days ( if you get a good doctor) lots of info on the internet about symptoms and natural remedies.

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath


"..I feel this is something I don't know enough about and approaching 40 is becoming more likely I'll be experiencing symptoms within a few years, if not already.

Perimenopause is the first thing.

How did you begin to start to accept it? I mean, it's always been such a big part of what makes me feel like a woman..."

Genuine question as I’m not sure…

Is early 40- early 40s young for going through the menopausal? I thought it was more of a early 50s thing but haven’t looked much into it

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

I think you’d be incredibly unlucky to experience symptoms just yet. I’m almost 47 & I’ll be first in the queue for HRT as and when it’s necessary. It’s inevitable, can’t do anything about it so I don’t worry about it x

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Look up Dr Louise Newson and her app Balance. Loads of really useful information. I'm not menopausal yet, but I've started tracking my cycle so that I can see when I do, or at least have data to show my GP.

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath


"..I feel this is something I don't know enough about and approaching 40 is becoming more likely I'll be experiencing symptoms within a few years, if not already.

Perimenopause is the first thing.

How did you begin to start to accept it? I mean, it's always been such a big part of what makes me feel like a woman...

Genuine question as I’m not sure…

Is early 40- early 40s young for going through the menopausal? I thought it was more of a early 50s thing but haven’t looked much into it

"

Is 40-early 40s*

Wish you could edit posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am menopausal and am on HRT, I feel absolutely fine now.

"The menopause doctor", Dr Louise Newson has an app and I follow her on social media. I have picked up get tips over the years. Take a look and hopefully there will be things to help you prepare yourself.

Hope this helps

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for highlighting this OP, it's a much talked about subject these days.

As a lady in her late 40's I have been reading up in preparation for the inevitable to come.

Firstly, I have been ensuring I look after myself, eating habits, exercise, sleep, all important to aid in the process.

Secondly, I have been keeping a diary of any changes I notice, and tracking the occurrence of them, so I can discuss with my nurse at my health check up's.

Lately, I have experienced the occasional night sweat, usually around 2am in the morning! How bloody inconvenient lol

Aside of that, nothing else just now, but I am praying I will sail thru when the time finally comes.

Although, I doubt anything will impact on my sex drive

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

GPs expect anything for women and perimenipause from early forty’s but as someone said earlier it should naturally be later. The app balance is great and also health & her too. Lots of natural remedies around to help alleviate issues

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

I'm 48 and perimenopausal ,luckily lots of my friends are going through it too at different stages so we talk and laugh about it too which helps massively.

There is lots of help online too x

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"..I feel this is something I don't know enough about and approaching 40 is becoming more likely I'll be experiencing symptoms within a few years, if not already.

Perimenopause is the first thing.

How did you begin to start to accept it? I mean, it's always been such a big part of what makes me feel like a woman...

Genuine question as I’m not sure…

Is early 40- early 40s young for going through the menopausal? I thought it was more of a early 50s thing but haven’t looked much into it

"

My mother went through the menopause mid 40's and I have a few friends in their early 40's who are perimenopausal. So it's definitely possible although maybe not as common.

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By *WDomMan
over a year ago

Taunton


"..I feel this is something I don't know enough about and approaching 40 is becoming more likely I'll be experiencing symptoms within a few years, if not already.

Perimenopause is the first thing.

How did you begin to start to accept it? I mean, it's always been such a big part of what makes me feel like a woman...

Genuine question as I’m not sure…

Is early 40- early 40s young for going through the menopausal? I thought it was more of a early 50s thing but haven’t looked much into it

Is 40-early 40s*

Wish you could edit posts. "

See nhs site. Typical is starting anywhere between 45 and 55. Premature menopause is pre 40 and impacts about 1%

So early 40’s would not be most common, but still be a very significant number of women and entirely possible.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

I have 2 books by Dr Louise Newson they are excellent. I tried HRT but not for me .. for a long time I suffered .but have now got I think the right balance of supplements (touch wood !) Magnesium with zinc calcium vit D, B vitamins, turmeric, and starflower/primrose capsules . Even if you are young it's better to read up .some sail through while other donts.. I thought I was dying some days! And the joint pain was awful. It's good to chat to others also all symptoms are different and hubbys/ partners.

Don't mind chatting to anyone who is suffering menapauses..

Fox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you’d be incredibly unlucky to experience symptoms just yet. I’m almost 47 & I’ll be first in the queue for HRT as and when it’s necessary. It’s inevitable, can’t do anything about it so I don’t worry about it x"

If you’re going for HRT please do your research on it. There is a HRT called PREMARIN… this is made from Pregnant Mares Urine even the name comes from these 3 words. The horses are not kept in good surroundings and it’s incredibly cruel. Mares are kept pregnant, and male foals are either kept to be fattened up and sold for meat or slaughtered straight away. Fillies are usually kept to be used as their mums are or to replace their mum. If you still want HRT please get one that is synthetically made.

I went through the menopause at 46, had no HRT (just didn’t need it) had a few years of hot flushes lol but just changed the tog of my duvet.

OP it’s not an overnight process it’s very slow you may or may not feel any different. I had for the first time regular periods for a few months then missed a month then had a double period, it was like I was haemorrhaging lol. But from then on - nothing…. Once you haven’t had a period for a year you are considered post perimenopausal, and after 4 years post menopausal

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

47 and perimenopausal here, started about 2 years ago I’d say.

Symptoms so far are mood swings, unreliable periods (and much heavier), changes in skin/hair condition and libido etc, also body aches and anxiety.

I’ve not gone down the medical route yet, probably should.

Do I feel less womanly or that I’m losing anything?? Hell no! It is what it is. We all grow old(er). And in a way it will be liberating to be free of the chuffing periods when they finally do one!

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I'm 49 and not noticed much upto now. Some skin dryness and itchy ears which I didn't know was a thing until recently but mine drive me insane.

I do have a mirena coil in though and was told the hormones from that can help with a lot of the symptoms and I've not had a period due to the coil for years so I have no idea where I am in the process.

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By *lice MaliceWoman
over a year ago

The Facility

My periods stopped with my last pregnancy. My mum died two months before my son way born 16.5 years ago and it's a well known fact that grief can bring on sudden onset menopause so I never had another period (after giving birth obviously). So, I was 35/36 which is very early to go through that.

To be honest, I wasn't that bothered, it was so much less hassle than periods were. I never missed the bleeding, bloating, the pain, the perceived smell, mood swings or any other negative associated with periods. That was my third child though. It it were my first I might have felt differently.

I had more difficulty trying to get the doctors at my surgery to take me seriously and it was a male doctor who sent me for blood tests in the end. The women doctor's were like, 'You're going through menopause, get over it'

I never felt less of a woman for not being fertile though. You don't have to have a fully functioning womb to be a woman

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I'm 65 this year I don't know what age I went through it! As didn't notice a thing! I had marina coil after youngest child at 42 had no more periods ! No drying out down there whatsoever quite the opposite x

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

It has passed me by unnoticed with no real changes apart from a few night sweats. I guess I am one of the lucky ones.

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By *elinefineWoman
over a year ago

kempston

Doctors should listen to your concerns and symptoms rather than relying on blood tests. Genetics also have a lot to answer for so if you are in a position to ask your mother about her history then do. At 45 you are now entitled to HRT if you ask for it but it is an uphill battle. There are also lots of things within employment law in relation to reasonable adaptations and not allowed to discriminate.

I’m 43 and despite blood tests saying I am not perimenopausal my symptoms are ticking more boxes than they aren’tz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've started having night sweats at 36. From about 40 I have added joy of episodes of low mood that usually last 3-4 days at the most. I've not spoken with GP or did any tests yet as I don't feel the symptoms interfering with my life enough to seek medical help. So I don't have official confirmation of the perimenopause but my gut is telling me I'm there.

It doesn't make me feel any less of a woman though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've started having night sweats at 36. From about 40 I have added joy of episodes of low mood that usually last 3-4 days at the most. I've not spoken with GP or did any tests yet as I don't feel the symptoms interfering with my life enough to seek medical help. So I don't have official confirmation of the perimenopause but my gut is telling me I'm there.

It doesn't make me feel any less of a woman though."

Do these symptoms happen around the time of your period or randomly throughout the month?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all your responses ladies.

I think it's time for me to, at least, have a discussion with my GP. My periods are changing and getting other symptoms like dizziness, but this is only around the time of my period.

I've always been a bit moody around my period and I don't think that's getting worse particularly.

I've read the GP can do a menopause test. So I'm going to ask for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've started having night sweats at 36. From about 40 I have added joy of episodes of low mood that usually last 3-4 days at the most. I've not spoken with GP or did any tests yet as I don't feel the symptoms interfering with my life enough to seek medical help. So I don't have official confirmation of the perimenopause but my gut is telling me I'm there.

It doesn't make me feel any less of a woman though.

Do these symptoms happen around the time of your period or randomly throughout the month?"

The night sweats usually start about a week before and can last up to 2 weeks. Occasionally would be at random time. The low mood (and I mean really low) about 2-3 days before the period.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I started perimenopause in my early 30s and have been post menopause for just over 3 years. I'm only 48.

Symptoms vary and tend to increase over time. Common symptoms are erratic periods, brain fog, fatigue and hot flushes.

I went on HRT over a year ago and my symptoms have virtually disappeared.

My surgery has a specialist nurse who is brilliant.

Nita

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By *elinefineWoman
over a year ago

kempston


"Thanks for all your responses ladies.

I think it's time for me to, at least, have a discussion with my GP. My periods are changing and getting other symptoms like dizziness, but this is only around the time of my period.

I've always been a bit moody around my period and I don't think that's getting worse particularly.

I've read the GP can do a menopause test. So I'm going to ask for that. "

If the test is bloods that shouldn’t be relied on. Download the Balance app and start tracking on there. It does everything - mood, physical symptoms, common menopausal symptoms. It also has lots of useful resources, questions to ask and treatment explanations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just downloaded Balance app and seems very clear and concise better than some flipping doctors! Hot sweats and irratic heavy periods (47) my be start of the end of the monthly s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had my blood test done waiting doctor appointment to talk about it I’m 50 and not had periods for a year, was my sleep pattern been disturb daily with skin itching all over, daytime clothes irritating too made me think is it menopause and friend advice too so let’s see

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Brain fog, confusion, anxiety, weight gain, hair loss, itchy skin, mood swings, hot flushes, cold flushes, loss of confidence … and the list goes on.

Menopause has only recently started to have its profile raised. GP’s training on menopausal symptoms boils down to a few hours - woeful. Research, research, research - that’s my advice. Dr Nighat Arif is fabulous and explains things in a very understandable and relatable way. One way won’t fit all but don’t give up.

I am post menopausal but don’t be fooled into thinking symptoms stop, because they don’t, well not for everyone.

A lot of women give up their jobs at this point because of a lack of support and understanding and obviously because of the uncomfortable symptoms in the work place. So much more support is needed.

Hang in there, it’s just another phase in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just had my blood test done waiting doctor appointment to talk about it I’m 50 and not had periods for a year, was my sleep pattern been disturb daily with skin itching all over, daytime clothes irritating too made me think is it menopause and friend advice too so let’s see "

I didn't realise itchy skin was a symptom, but thanks for pointing this out, as I have had that also.

Was starting to question my body wash or detergents

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Look up Dr Louise Newson and her app Balance. Loads of really useful information. I'm not menopausal yet, but I've started tracking my cycle so that I can see when I do, or at least have data to show my GP. "

I second this ^

This Dr also has podcasts to listen to.

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Just had my blood test done waiting doctor appointment to talk about it I’m 50 and not had periods for a year, was my sleep pattern been disturb daily with skin itching all over, daytime clothes irritating too made me think is it menopause and friend advice too so let’s see "

Blood tests aren’t always conclusive to being menopausal/peri. If you have enough of the symptoms and you fall into the age bracket, there is your answer.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s good to know about these things and be prepared OP.

Personally, not a sign of it yet at 51, if my mother is anything to go by I’ve got at least another 10 years

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Dr Louise Newson is great!!

I’ve had 2 medically induced menopause 1 aged 19 using Norethisterone & then aged 40 using Prostap injections & had HRT. I then had a total hysterectomy aged 42 & am still on HRT. I don’t appear to be suffering too much but I am permanently warm & not sleeping as well as I used to. I am also more aware of scent

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just had my blood test done waiting doctor appointment to talk about it I’m 50 and not had periods for a year, was my sleep pattern been disturb daily with skin itching all over, daytime clothes irritating too made me think is it menopause and friend advice too so let’s see

I didn't realise itchy skin was a symptom, but thanks for pointing this out, as I have had that also.

Was starting to question my body wash or detergents "

Oh god, I forgot the itchy skin part. Especially the shins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was diagnosed as peri menopausal when I was 45 but I don't have many symptoms as I'm still on the pill. Only thing I have is a bit of dry skin on my forehead and over recent months my back has become very itchy every day. It could also explain why sometimes my libido is going up and down like a yo-yo x

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton

For what it's worth I found reading Q&A's on both hyster sisters & mumsnet helped me understand some of what my lady is/was going through. You can put trigger words in search bars without actually joining.

The feeling of loss after a hysterectomy was tangible so I can see how the loss of periods is the same oddly, I guess you can hate having them but miss them when no more.

Like all life a passage of time but not to be disregarded as another thing us men don't have to suffer and lucky we don't.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Talk to your mother if she is still around. Your menopause pattern will pretty much follow the same as hers.

You can’t change it so it’s best to embrace it and work around the symptoms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Estradot 100 patches and 3 monthly blood panel tests with the right E2 levels you’re be fine for at least another 19-15 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Estradot 100 patches and 3 monthly blood panel tests with the right E2 levels you’re be fine for at least another 19-15 years "

10-15

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"I was diagnosed as peri menopausal when I was 45 but I don't have many symptoms as I'm still on the pill. Only thing I have is a bit of dry skin on my forehead and over recent months my back has become very itchy every day. It could also explain why sometimes my libido is going up and down like a yo-yo x"

Ohh it wasn’t good back in ‘93 when I went off the rails I gave up smoking after 20 plus years my hormones went awry . I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid became very depressed but didn’t know it was depression as it wasn’t discussed . Two growing kids busy life no money back then you couldn’t take antidepressants without stigma life insurance would penalise you so I was not medicated for 10 years . I was put on prempack c hormone which left me scratching till I bled but didn’t realise it was the meds . That was the start of mine at 43 No help no diagnosis 10 years of absolute suicidal misery shutdown .

In 2003 I found a doc who medicated me properly hormone replacement and antidepressants I got my libido back but sadly that side was over for us .

My advice is get to a doctor that will help , take HRT it is brilliant for hair skin and moisture . Gave me a better oomph than I ever had before .

So many relationships die a death at that time when wives inexplicably shut down and withdraw not really understanding why . Thankfully help is out there take it . Sadly they took me off HRT when I was diagnosed with DCIS 2012 . I would go back on it in a heartbeat if only for the skin and memory benefits it gave me . Moisturiser is key Nivea was always fantastic for those dry patches.

HRT all the way for me no flushes either sailed through it and didn’t even know . Good luck .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as peri menopausal when I was 45 but I don't have many symptoms as I'm still on the pill. Only thing I have is a bit of dry skin on my forehead and over recent months my back has become very itchy every day. It could also explain why sometimes my libido is going up and down like a yo-yo x

Ohh it wasn’t good back in ‘93 when I went off the rails I gave up smoking after 20 plus years my hormones went awry . I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid became very depressed but didn’t know it was depression as it wasn’t discussed . Two growing kids busy life no money back then you couldn’t take antidepressants without stigma life insurance would penalise you so I was not medicated for 10 years . I was put on prempack c hormone which left me scratching till I bled but didn’t realise it was the meds . That was the start of mine at 43 No help no diagnosis 10 years of absolute suicidal misery shutdown .

In 2003 I found a doc who medicated me properly hormone replacement and antidepressants I got my libido back but sadly that side was over for us .

My advice is get to a doctor that will help , take HRT it is brilliant for hair skin and moisture . Gave me a better oomph than I ever had before .

So many relationships die a death at that time when wives inexplicably shut down and withdraw not really understanding why . Thankfully help is out there take it . Sadly they took me off HRT when I was diagnosed with DCIS 2012 . I would go back on it in a heartbeat if only for the skin and memory benefits it gave me . Moisturiser is key Nivea was always fantastic for those dry patches.

HRT all the way for me no flushes either sailed through it and didn’t even know . Good luck . "

I was diagnosed with underactive thyroid too and I'm on thyroxin for that. I wish I could get to talk to the doctor who diagnosed me but she's disappeared and when I've phoned about something it's a different doctor I speak to every time. It's so frustrating. The other problem I have is that I have fibroids in my womb and the female doctor told me to stay on the mini pill as it was stopping them from bleeding. I don't know what to do for the best, stay on the pill or get the fibroids out. If I get them out it means my womb has to come out too as there's no other way. I suffer with depression and this has really messed up my head even more x

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

KittyKatt call your Doctor and explain you want to see a doc that deals with your specific issues . Often you can fill an online thing but I chose to call and explain issues to a receptionist. They will initially suggest a phone call and from there a visit . You need to be persistent. Tell them you liked the person that left ask where she has gone perhaps.

When my dermatologist retired I did not like her replacement I went online found an LS specialist in Windsor . I wrote to my Doc and got a referral to her there 20 miles from home . Hope you get something sorted now restrictions are lifting a bit

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"KittyKatt call your Doctor and explain you want to see a doc that deals with your specific issues . Often you can fill an online thing but I chose to call and explain issues to a receptionist. They will initially suggest a phone call and from there a visit . You need to be persistent. Tell them you liked the person that left ask where she has gone perhaps.

When my dermatologist retired I did not like her replacement I went online found an LS specialist in Windsor . I wrote to my Doc and got a referral to her there 20 miles from home . Hope you get something sorted now restrictions are lifting a bit

Good luck "

Thanks, I appreciate your advice x

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"KittyKatt call your Doctor and explain you want to see a doc that deals with your specific issues . Often you can fill an online thing but I chose to call and explain issues to a receptionist. They will initially suggest a phone call and from there a visit . You need to be persistent. Tell them you liked the person that left ask where she has gone perhaps.

When my dermatologist retired I did not like her replacement I went online found an LS specialist in Windsor . I wrote to my Doc and got a referral to her there 20 miles from home . Hope you get something sorted now restrictions are lifting a bit

Good luck

Thanks, I appreciate your advice x"

Can’t message you but if you need to chat I think mine are open??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as peri menopausal when I was 45 but I don't have many symptoms as I'm still on the pill. Only thing I have is a bit of dry skin on my forehead and over recent months my back has become very itchy every day. It could also explain why sometimes my libido is going up and down like a yo-yo x

Ohh it wasn’t good back in ‘93 when I went off the rails I gave up smoking after 20 plus years my hormones went awry . I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid became very depressed but didn’t know it was depression as it wasn’t discussed . Two growing kids busy life no money back then you couldn’t take antidepressants without stigma life insurance would penalise you so I was not medicated for 10 years . I was put on prempack c hormone which left me scratching till I bled but didn’t realise it was the meds . That was the start of mine at 43 No help no diagnosis 10 years of absolute suicidal misery shutdown .

In 2003 I found a doc who medicated me properly hormone replacement and antidepressants I got my libido back but sadly that side was over for us .

My advice is get to a doctor that will help , take HRT it is brilliant for hair skin and moisture . Gave me a better oomph than I ever had before .

So many relationships die a death at that time when wives inexplicably shut down and withdraw not really understanding why . Thankfully help is out there take it . Sadly they took me off HRT when I was diagnosed with DCIS 2012 . I would go back on it in a heartbeat if only for the skin and memory benefits it gave me . Moisturiser is key Nivea was always fantastic for those dry patches.

HRT all the way for me no flushes either sailed through it and didn’t even know . Good luck .

I was diagnosed with underactive thyroid too and I'm on thyroxin for that. I wish I could get to talk to the doctor who diagnosed me but she's disappeared and when I've phoned about something it's a different doctor I speak to every time. It's so frustrating. The other problem I have is that I have fibroids in my womb and the female doctor told me to stay on the mini pill as it was stopping them from bleeding. I don't know what to do for the best, stay on the pill or get the fibroids out. If I get them out it means my womb has to come out too as there's no other way. I suffer with depression and this has really messed up my head even more x"

I had a myomectomy for fibroids, which messed up my uterus, so I’ve since had a hysterectomy, keeping one ovary. I’m on hrt anyway (all women over 45 should be offered it).

My practice always assign a female gp if it’s menopause related, but I can’t guarantee I’ll speak to the same one each time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Mum went through it in her early 30s, so with every passing birthday I've always thought "this is it." I was convinced I'd have trouble conceiving too.

Educate yourself is all I can suggest. There is so much info and more help out there for us now. The Balance App mentioned above is good too, so you'll be well informed when/if you chose to approach your GP to discuss HRT.

It's another chapter of my life. That's how I'm looking at it. Still get my period but it's fluctuating between one period of full on flooding and then the next month only a day or two bleeding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as peri menopausal when I was 45 but I don't have many symptoms as I'm still on the pill. Only thing I have is a bit of dry skin on my forehead and over recent months my back has become very itchy every day. It could also explain why sometimes my libido is going up and down like a yo-yo x

Ohh it wasn’t good back in ‘93 when I went off the rails I gave up smoking after 20 plus years my hormones went awry . I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid became very depressed but didn’t know it was depression as it wasn’t discussed . Two growing kids busy life no money back then you couldn’t take antidepressants without stigma life insurance would penalise you so I was not medicated for 10 years . I was put on prempack c hormone which left me scratching till I bled but didn’t realise it was the meds . That was the start of mine at 43 No help no diagnosis 10 years of absolute suicidal misery shutdown .

In 2003 I found a doc who medicated me properly hormone replacement and antidepressants I got my libido back but sadly that side was over for us .

My advice is get to a doctor that will help , take HRT it is brilliant for hair skin and moisture . Gave me a better oomph than I ever had before .

So many relationships die a death at that time when wives inexplicably shut down and withdraw not really understanding why . Thankfully help is out there take it . Sadly they took me off HRT when I was diagnosed with DCIS 2012 . I would go back on it in a heartbeat if only for the skin and memory benefits it gave me . Moisturiser is key Nivea was always fantastic for those dry patches.

HRT all the way for me no flushes either sailed through it and didn’t even know . Good luck .

I was diagnosed with underactive thyroid too and I'm on thyroxin for that. I wish I could get to talk to the doctor who diagnosed me but she's disappeared and when I've phoned about something it's a different doctor I speak to every time. It's so frustrating. The other problem I have is that I have fibroids in my womb and the female doctor told me to stay on the mini pill as it was stopping them from bleeding. I don't know what to do for the best, stay on the pill or get the fibroids out. If I get them out it means my womb has to come out too as there's no other way. I suffer with depression and this has really messed up my head even more x

I had a myomectomy for fibroids, which messed up my uterus, so I’ve since had a hysterectomy, keeping one ovary. I’m on hrt anyway (all women over 45 should be offered it).

My practice always assign a female gp if it’s menopause related, but I can’t guarantee I’ll speak to the same one each time.

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over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as peri menopausal when I was 45 but I don't have many symptoms as I'm still on the pill. Only thing I have is a bit of dry skin on my forehead and over recent months my back has become very itchy every day. It could also explain why sometimes my libido is going up and down like a yo-yo x

Ohh it wasn’t good back in ‘93 when I went off the rails I gave up smoking after 20 plus years my hormones went awry . I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid became very depressed but didn’t know it was depression as it wasn’t discussed . Two growing kids busy life no money back then you couldn’t take antidepressants without stigma life insurance would penalise you so I was not medicated for 10 years . I was put on prempack c hormone which left me scratching till I bled but didn’t realise it was the meds . That was the start of mine at 43 No help no diagnosis 10 years of absolute suicidal misery shutdown .

In 2003 I found a doc who medicated me properly hormone replacement and antidepressants I got my libido back but sadly that side was over for us .

My advice is get to a doctor that will help , take HRT it is brilliant for hair skin and moisture . Gave me a better oomph than I ever had before .

So many relationships die a death at that time when wives inexplicably shut down and withdraw not really understanding why . Thankfully help is out there take it . Sadly they took me off HRT when I was diagnosed with DCIS 2012 . I would go back on it in a heartbeat if only for the skin and memory benefits it gave me . Moisturiser is key Nivea was always fantastic for those dry patches.

HRT all the way for me no flushes either sailed through it and didn’t even know . Good luck .

I was diagnosed with underactive thyroid too and I'm on thyroxin for that. I wish I could get to talk to the doctor who diagnosed me but she's disappeared and when I've phoned about something it's a different doctor I speak to every time. It's so frustrating. The other problem I have is that I have fibroids in my womb and the female doctor told me to stay on the mini pill as it was stopping them from bleeding. I don't know what to do for the best, stay on the pill or get the fibroids out. If I get them out it means my womb has to come out too as there's no other way. I suffer with depression and this has really messed up my head even more x

I had a myomectomy for fibroids, which messed up my uterus, so I’ve since had a hysterectomy, keeping one ovary. I’m on hrt anyway (all women over 45 should be offered it).

My practice always assign a female gp if it’s menopause related, but I can’t guarantee I’ll speak to the same one each time.

"

Don’t be frightened of a hysterectomy though, it’s not as bad as it sounds.

I should have said, your practice should at least make an appointment for you with a female gp, even if it is over the phone.

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over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as peri menopausal when I was 45 but I don't have many symptoms as I'm still on the pill. Only thing I have is a bit of dry skin on my forehead and over recent months my back has become very itchy every day. It could also explain why sometimes my libido is going up and down like a yo-yo x

Ohh it wasn’t good back in ‘93 when I went off the rails I gave up smoking after 20 plus years my hormones went awry . I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid became very depressed but didn’t know it was depression as it wasn’t discussed . Two growing kids busy life no money back then you couldn’t take antidepressants without stigma life insurance would penalise you so I was not medicated for 10 years . I was put on prempack c hormone which left me scratching till I bled but didn’t realise it was the meds . That was the start of mine at 43 No help no diagnosis 10 years of absolute suicidal misery shutdown .

In 2003 I found a doc who medicated me properly hormone replacement and antidepressants I got my libido back but sadly that side was over for us .

My advice is get to a doctor that will help , take HRT it is brilliant for hair skin and moisture . Gave me a better oomph than I ever had before .

So many relationships die a death at that time when wives inexplicably shut down and withdraw not really understanding why . Thankfully help is out there take it . Sadly they took me off HRT when I was diagnosed with DCIS 2012 . I would go back on it in a heartbeat if only for the skin and memory benefits it gave me . Moisturiser is key Nivea was always fantastic for those dry patches.

HRT all the way for me no flushes either sailed through it and didn’t even know . Good luck .

I was diagnosed with underactive thyroid too and I'm on thyroxin for that. I wish I could get to talk to the doctor who diagnosed me but she's disappeared and when I've phoned about something it's a different doctor I speak to every time. It's so frustrating. The other problem I have is that I have fibroids in my womb and the female doctor told me to stay on the mini pill as it was stopping them from bleeding. I don't know what to do for the best, stay on the pill or get the fibroids out. If I get them out it means my womb has to come out too as there's no other way. I suffer with depression and this has really messed up my head even more x

I had a myomectomy for fibroids, which messed up my uterus, so I’ve since had a hysterectomy, keeping one ovary. I’m on hrt anyway (all women over 45 should be offered it).

My practice always assign a female gp if it’s menopause related, but I can’t guarantee I’ll speak to the same one each time.

Don’t be frightened of a hysterectomy though, it’s not as bad as it sounds.

I should have said, your practice should at least make an appointment for you with a female gp, even if it is over the phone. "

That's what I'm scared of, getting my womb taken out x

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By *ilverflowerCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Me (Flower) started going though menopause when I was in my early 40s. There is no set age for it. If you are old or young it happens to us women. Like symptoms, some have some don't

Advice I will give you, is do your research, stand your ground on what you believe ie if you want HRT or not

Me personally HRT was a godsend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as peri menopausal when I was 45 but I don't have many symptoms as I'm still on the pill. Only thing I have is a bit of dry skin on my forehead and over recent months my back has become very itchy every day. It could also explain why sometimes my libido is going up and down like a yo-yo x

Ohh it wasn’t good back in ‘93 when I went off the rails I gave up smoking after 20 plus years my hormones went awry . I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid became very depressed but didn’t know it was depression as it wasn’t discussed . Two growing kids busy life no money back then you couldn’t take antidepressants without stigma life insurance would penalise you so I was not medicated for 10 years . I was put on prempack c hormone which left me scratching till I bled but didn’t realise it was the meds . That was the start of mine at 43 No help no diagnosis 10 years of absolute suicidal misery shutdown .

In 2003 I found a doc who medicated me properly hormone replacement and antidepressants I got my libido back but sadly that side was over for us .

My advice is get to a doctor that will help , take HRT it is brilliant for hair skin and moisture . Gave me a better oomph than I ever had before .

So many relationships die a death at that time when wives inexplicably shut down and withdraw not really understanding why . Thankfully help is out there take it . Sadly they took me off HRT when I was diagnosed with DCIS 2012 . I would go back on it in a heartbeat if only for the skin and memory benefits it gave me . Moisturiser is key Nivea was always fantastic for those dry patches.

HRT all the way for me no flushes either sailed through it and didn’t even know . Good luck .

I was diagnosed with underactive thyroid too and I'm on thyroxin for that. I wish I could get to talk to the doctor who diagnosed me but she's disappeared and when I've phoned about something it's a different doctor I speak to every time. It's so frustrating. The other problem I have is that I have fibroids in my womb and the female doctor told me to stay on the mini pill as it was stopping them from bleeding. I don't know what to do for the best, stay on the pill or get the fibroids out. If I get them out it means my womb has to come out too as there's no other way. I suffer with depression and this has really messed up my head even more x

I had a myomectomy for fibroids, which messed up my uterus, so I’ve since had a hysterectomy, keeping one ovary. I’m on hrt anyway (all women over 45 should be offered it).

My practice always assign a female gp if it’s menopause related, but I can’t guarantee I’ll speak to the same one each time.

Don’t be frightened of a hysterectomy though, it’s not as bad as it sounds.

I should have said, your practice should at least make an appointment for you with a female gp, even if it is over the phone.

That's what I'm scared of, getting my womb taken out x"

You’re welcome to message me. I had mine done last year.

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over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as peri menopausal when I was 45 but I don't have many symptoms as I'm still on the pill. Only thing I have is a bit of dry skin on my forehead and over recent months my back has become very itchy every day. It could also explain why sometimes my libido is going up and down like a yo-yo x

Ohh it wasn’t good back in ‘93 when I went off the rails I gave up smoking after 20 plus years my hormones went awry . I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid became very depressed but didn’t know it was depression as it wasn’t discussed . Two growing kids busy life no money back then you couldn’t take antidepressants without stigma life insurance would penalise you so I was not medicated for 10 years . I was put on prempack c hormone which left me scratching till I bled but didn’t realise it was the meds . That was the start of mine at 43 No help no diagnosis 10 years of absolute suicidal misery shutdown .

In 2003 I found a doc who medicated me properly hormone replacement and antidepressants I got my libido back but sadly that side was over for us .

My advice is get to a doctor that will help , take HRT it is brilliant for hair skin and moisture . Gave me a better oomph than I ever had before .

So many relationships die a death at that time when wives inexplicably shut down and withdraw not really understanding why . Thankfully help is out there take it . Sadly they took me off HRT when I was diagnosed with DCIS 2012 . I would go back on it in a heartbeat if only for the skin and memory benefits it gave me . Moisturiser is key Nivea was always fantastic for those dry patches.

HRT all the way for me no flushes either sailed through it and didn’t even know . Good luck .

I was diagnosed with underactive thyroid too and I'm on thyroxin for that. I wish I could get to talk to the doctor who diagnosed me but she's disappeared and when I've phoned about something it's a different doctor I speak to every time. It's so frustrating. The other problem I have is that I have fibroids in my womb and the female doctor told me to stay on the mini pill as it was stopping them from bleeding. I don't know what to do for the best, stay on the pill or get the fibroids out. If I get them out it means my womb has to come out too as there's no other way. I suffer with depression and this has really messed up my head even more x

I had a myomectomy for fibroids, which messed up my uterus, so I’ve since had a hysterectomy, keeping one ovary. I’m on hrt anyway (all women over 45 should be offered it).

My practice always assign a female gp if it’s menopause related, but I can’t guarantee I’ll speak to the same one each time.

Don’t be frightened of a hysterectomy though, it’s not as bad as it sounds.

I should have said, your practice should at least make an appointment for you with a female gp, even if it is over the phone.

That's what I'm scared of, getting my womb taken out x

You’re welcome to message me. I had mine done last year. "

I remember we chatted before and you mentioned this. Thanks. I've also downloaded the Balance app and it's very interesting x

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