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By *risxbrisx OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

What does ones personal sex life/interests have to do with ones work though?

Why would it be an issue or of any relevance to an employer?

Surely it's none of their business? And if a colleague saw a colleague here, well they're here too..

The only thing I can thing of is if you're working in the criminal justice system or something maybe due to conflicts.

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also working in health and education you can lose your job if your found to have explicit content on social media

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some works have it in they contacts

Some can see it damageing to they brands

Some maybe in the public spotlight and it could be fround appon

But I will say

With modern technology there is no excuse for not have any at all

Photo editiers and blurs are very easy to access stright on your phone

And it’s not a compliment prosses anyone like back in the mid 2000s

So I don’t see it as a valued reason to not have any

I can understand not wanting face pics

Ok crop it draw over it blur it put a emoji over it

Tattoo blur or draw over them or keep them hidden

Like me

But looking at my pics you wouldn’t even realise I have any at all

But I do

I keep them hidden with extra things in pics

When I can’t Patch over them with skin next to them and turn the pic black and white so it can’t be noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also working in health and education you can lose your job if your found to have explicit content on social media"

In my job in health they say patients can use it against you aswell as their family members

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carlos needs to be careful, Carlos works in education.

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Perhaps you are lucky and not working in an industry that regards sex and lifestyle choices as being a reputational risk.

It will change long term, many under 25s have shared intimate pictures with a partner so once everyone has/is doing it the uniqueness and the risk diminishes. A bit like being gay 40 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it."

That is different though, The 1st 2 examples given are people making money by selling photos of themselves this is simply recreational site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also working in health and education you can lose your job if your found to have explicit content on social media"

I get that but it's normally used as an excuse not to give a face photo. You can have photos on here that are not explicit, I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also working in health and education you can lose your job if your found to have explicit content on social media

I get that but it's normally used as an excuse not to give a face photo. You can have photos on here that are not explicit, I do. "

I do aswell but if I add my face to the public pictures then they can be saved. That is when they can be used against u

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By *risxbrisx OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it."

I respect anyones reasons, the question is more aimed at employers/workplaces.

How does what fully legal activities adults do in their own time as consenting adults affect the 'professional standards' of a company or police force etc? Imo it dosent.

It is just further distorting work/life balance, they can contoroll you in work but oh yeah they also want to controll ones sexlife outside of work? Becuse they're so professional..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also working in health and education you can lose your job if your found to have explicit content on social media

I get that but it's normally used as an excuse not to give a face photo. You can have photos on here that are not explicit, I do.

I do aswell but if I add my face to the public pictures then they can be saved. That is when they can be used against u"

In what way do you mean used against you?

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By *ananabrumMan
over a year ago

castle bromwich

When I was in school in the late 00's my teacher lost his job over pictures of him being found on a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also working in health and education you can lose your job if your found to have explicit content on social media

I get that but it's normally used as an excuse not to give a face photo. You can have photos on here that are not explicit, I do.

I do aswell but if I add my face to the public pictures then they can be saved. That is when they can be used against u

In what way do you mean used against you? "

Its the work contract not to put urself out on social media even on fb or insta u have 2 be really careful with what u say and do. On here they claim patients and relatives can use it against u. I don't think it's right but I have 2 sign it 4 the job

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

I respect anyones reasons, the question is more aimed at employers/workplaces.

How does what fully legal activities adults do in their own time as consenting adults affect the 'professional standards' of a company or police force etc? Imo it dosent.

It is just further distorting work/life balance, they can contoroll you in work but oh yeah they also want to controll ones sexlife outside of work? Becuse they're so professional..? "
because they want to distance themselves from any group or individual that is not part of a squeeky clean image that they agree with. It's really not a difficult concept to grasp.

It is all about an image that is presented to those outside the company/workplace. Potential investors/inspections/public opinion etc.

It is still why in some places facial hair is discouraged or visible tattoos are a no go.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

If we lost customers due to my online activities I would lose my job but by keeping my face on private and not public than will never happen

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

I respect anyones reasons, the question is more aimed at employers/workplaces.

How does what fully legal activities adults do in their own time as consenting adults affect the 'professional standards' of a company or police force etc? Imo it dosent.

It is just further distorting work/life balance, they can contoroll you in work but oh yeah they also want to controll ones sexlife outside of work? Becuse they're so professional..? "

It is BS. No question. Many areas of business are like it and not just the ones that have a formal evaluation process. The worst are the informal ones where there is no reason other than an individual boss has an agenda. Its part of the reason we absolutely don't mix Fab with any area IRL. UK is still quite a sexually repressed culture...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also working in health and education you can lose your job if your found to have explicit content on social media

I get that but it's normally used as an excuse not to give a face photo. You can have photos on here that are not explicit, I do.

I do aswell but if I add my face to the public pictures then they can be saved. That is when they can be used against u

In what way do you mean used against you?

Its the work contract not to put urself out on social media even on fb or insta u have 2 be really careful with what u say and do. On here they claim patients and relatives can use it against u. I don't think it's right but I have 2 sign it 4 the job "

Who claim patients and relatives can use it against you? And what is it exactly they are meant to use against you the fact that you have sex regularly and possibly with multiple partners. Yes most businesses have a responsible use of social media clauses however my sex life has nothing to do with my employer or if I choose to be on a completely legitimate platform.

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By *risxbrisx OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"Also working in health and education you can lose your job if your found to have explicit content on social media

I get that but it's normally used as an excuse not to give a face photo. You can have photos on here that are not explicit, I do.

I do aswell but if I add my face to the public pictures then they can be saved. That is when they can be used against u

In what way do you mean used against you?

Its the work contract not to put urself out on social media even on fb or insta u have 2 be really careful with what u say and do. On here they claim patients and relatives can use it against u. I don't think it's right but I have 2 sign it 4 the job

Who claim patients and relatives can use it against you? And what is it exactly they are meant to use against you the fact that you have sex regularly and possibly with multiple partners. Yes most businesses have a responsible use of social media clauses however my sex life has nothing to do with my employer or if I choose to be on a completely legitimate platform. "

This.

Oh sorry I like to have sex..how unprofessional of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also working in health and education you can lose your job if your found to have explicit content on social media

I get that but it's normally used as an excuse not to give a face photo. You can have photos on here that are not explicit, I do.

I do aswell but if I add my face to the public pictures then they can be saved. That is when they can be used against u

In what way do you mean used against you?

Its the work contract not to put urself out on social media even on fb or insta u have 2 be really careful with what u say and do. On here they claim patients and relatives can use it against u. I don't think it's right but I have 2 sign it 4 the job

Who claim patients and relatives can use it against you? And what is it exactly they are meant to use against you the fact that you have sex regularly and possibly with multiple partners. Yes most businesses have a responsible use of social media clauses however my sex life has nothing to do with my employer or if I choose to be on a completely legitimate platform.

This.

Oh sorry I like to have sex..how unprofessional of me.

"

I can understand it if I was posting extreme views or member of a banned or illegal organisation but Having a picture of my cleavage and enjoying sex does not affect my professional life in any way 0r bring any company into disrepute.

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By *risxbrisx OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

I respect anyones reasons, the question is more aimed at employers/workplaces.

How does what fully legal activities adults do in their own time as consenting adults affect the 'professional standards' of a company or police force etc? Imo it dosent.

It is just further distorting work/life balance, they can contoroll you in work but oh yeah they also want to controll ones sexlife outside of work? Becuse they're so professional..?

It is BS. No question. Many areas of business are like it and not just the ones that have a formal evaluation process. The worst are the informal ones where there is no reason other than an individual boss has an agenda. Its part of the reason we absolutely don't mix Fab with any area IRL. UK is still quite a sexually repressed culture..."

How's that even legal though?especially if not in any contract as people above touched on. You cant just fire someone who is great at their job just becuse they're part of a online community in their free time and occassionally getting laid?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Parents can be very hypocritical in their attitudes towards the people who have the care of their little darlings on a daily basis. They can be shagging all and sundry, posting all sorts and being generally promiscuous but let their child's teacher show a stocking top on Facebook and they take up arms.

It's not so long ago that gay male teachers needed to conceal the fact.

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

That is different though, The 1st 2 examples given are people making money by selling photos of themselves this is simply recreational site. "

It wasn't the 'selling' that got them sacked, it was undressed or explicit images.

Google is your friend..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

I respect anyones reasons, the question is more aimed at employers/workplaces.

How does what fully legal activities adults do in their own time as consenting adults affect the 'professional standards' of a company or police force etc? Imo it dosent.

It is just further distorting work/life balance, they can contoroll you in work but oh yeah they also want to controll ones sexlife outside of work? Becuse they're so professional..?

It is BS. No question. Many areas of business are like it and not just the ones that have a formal evaluation process. The worst are the informal ones where there is no reason other than an individual boss has an agenda. Its part of the reason we absolutely don't mix Fab with any area IRL. UK is still quite a sexually repressed culture...

How's that even legal though?especially if not in any contract as people above touched on. You cant just fire someone who is great at their job just becuse they're part of a online community in their free time and occassionally getting laid?

"

Your position can be made untenable.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

OP Have you ever worked with the public in a business that you didn't own

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

just keep face pics in private problem solved

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

The police officer I referred to was using OnlyFans to host pictures that Social media had blocked in order to obtain modelling jobs.

She wasn't actually 'charging' to view content.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

That is different though, The 1st 2 examples given are people making money by selling photos of themselves this is simply recreational site.

It wasn't the 'selling' that got them sacked, it was undressed or explicit images.

Google is your friend.."

Google is my friend indeed. A woman claims to have been offered a pay out to leave to leave the force because she had an only fans account she was not actually sacked. I could only find one example of somebody who was sacked for working in a school as she was not a teacher but a teaching assistant and that was in 2016 and subsequently sued successfully for unfair dismissal. So actually not quite accurate what you put. You hear lots of anecdotally stories of people being sacked for having photos online or swinging but there is very little evidence to back that up.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

That is different though, The 1st 2 examples given are people making money by selling photos of themselves this is simply recreational site.

It wasn't the 'selling' that got them sacked, it was undressed or explicit images.

Google is your friend..

Google is my friend indeed. A woman claims to have been offered a pay out to leave to leave the force because she had an only fans account she was not actually sacked. I could only find one example of somebody who was sacked for working in a school as she was not a teacher but a teaching assistant and that was in 2016 and subsequently sued successfully for unfair dismissal. So actually not quite accurate what you put. You hear lots of anecdotally stories of people being sacked for having photos online or swinging but there is very little evidence to back that up. "

Your life can be made extremely difficult. Imagine teaching at secondary level and pupils somehow find photos of you on line or particularly straight laced governors or head teachers. It might not make the news or google but your authority over the pupils is compromised in the first instance and in the second your life could be made very difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

That is different though, The 1st 2 examples given are people making money by selling photos of themselves this is simply recreational site.

It wasn't the 'selling' that got them sacked, it was undressed or explicit images.

Google is your friend..

Google is my friend indeed. A woman claims to have been offered a pay out to leave to leave the force because she had an only fans account she was not actually sacked. I could only find one example of somebody who was sacked for working in a school as she was not a teacher but a teaching assistant and that was in 2016 and subsequently sued successfully for unfair dismissal. So actually not quite accurate what you put. You hear lots of anecdotally stories of people being sacked for having photos online or swinging but there is very little evidence to back that up.

Your life can be made extremely difficult. Imagine teaching at secondary level and pupils somehow find photos of you on line or particularly straight laced governors or head teachers. It might not make the news or google but your authority over the pupils is compromised in the first instance and in the second your life could be made very difficult."

Yes of course but that is unwarranted, I have worked in school and your authority can be compromised for many reasons if a parent decides to make your life difficult or child for that matter for any reason. Also I would be more concerned why a child in a school knew I was on a site like this.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

That is different though, The 1st 2 examples given are people making money by selling photos of themselves this is simply recreational site.

It wasn't the 'selling' that got them sacked, it was undressed or explicit images.

Google is your friend..

Google is my friend indeed. A woman claims to have been offered a pay out to leave to leave the force because she had an only fans account she was not actually sacked. I could only find one example of somebody who was sacked for working in a school as she was not a teacher but a teaching assistant and that was in 2016 and subsequently sued successfully for unfair dismissal. So actually not quite accurate what you put. You hear lots of anecdotally stories of people being sacked for having photos online or swinging but there is very little evidence to back that up.

Your life can be made extremely difficult. Imagine teaching at secondary level and pupils somehow find photos of you on line or particularly straight laced governors or head teachers. It might not make the news or google but your authority over the pupils is compromised in the first instance and in the second your life could be made very difficult.

Yes of course but that is unwarranted, I have worked in school and your authority can be compromised for many reasons if a parent decides to make your life difficult or child for that matter for any reason. Also I would be more concerned why a child in a school knew I was on a site like this. "

I agree that there are many reasons your authority can be compromised. There are 18 year olds in secondary schools and in FE.

I think it's wise to be aware that regardless of whether it's right or wrong there are certain activities that have the potential to jeopardise your career. It's rare that it happens but it does. Also local education authorities tend to keep a lot of stuff in house of they can

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

Either way.. it's the profile holders choice, if you object then why should they be concerned..

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

It shouldn’t be an issue. If my colleagues and employers knew I was on here then it shouldn’t make any difference to the way they treat me, to my career progression and to the respect colleagues and patients have for me…

However, we all know it would.

It’s not just about being actually sacked, but it’s about positions being made untenable as well.

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By *risxbrisx OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"OP Have you ever worked with the public in a business that you didn't own "

Yes multiple, but dealing with corporate stakeholders rather than the public. Music isn't my work I do it for the love.

I obviously wont say what companies/areas I have in the past worked for / do currently work for but you would be surprised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP Have you ever worked with the public in a business that you didn't own

Yes multiple, but dealing with corporate stakeholders rather than the public. Music isn't my work I do it for the love.

I obviously wont say what companies/areas I have in the past worked for / do currently work for but you would be surprised."
I have in past had to have zero footprint online due to work. I once got sacked for being at a nightclub and going straight to work after after boss saw pic on facebook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your wife or partner was working in a teaching or care environent this causes problems regardless of if you think it shpuld or not.

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By *risxbrisx OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"If your wife or partner was working in a teaching or care environent this causes problems regardless of if you think it shpuld or not."

I get the education career path concerns.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I think in the national defence/security domain it's frowned up on if there is a chance that you could be black-mail by criminal organisations or hostile States over your pictures/activities/membership. Granted not so much an issue if it's common knowledge your a massive deviant but very problematic if for example your cheating on your wife or expressing sexuality/kinks you want to keep a secret from others. Also I think the Military frown up on it in terms of bringing them into disrepute. After all the Red Tops do love a ranchy Military scandal when short of news.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

That is different though, The 1st 2 examples given are people making money by selling photos of themselves this is simply recreational site. "
. A teacher got sacked for having sexy photos on Facebook! Not making money. No nudity. Sacked. Imagine if they found her on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

During an eclipse you’re told not to look directly at it or the sun for fear of damaging your eyes.

My face is like that.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's never as simple as saying anyone seeing your pics is also on the site.

A number of fabbers have been outed on social media by chatgroups for no reason other than they could.

A difference of opinion on the forums or refusing to meet someone often puts a target on someones back and their private details shared with family and friends which obviously then also has a knock-on effect on employment issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many organisations now with public facing working will have a online nudity clause in their contract, so it is a stackable offence especially in the caring/teaching profession & also a well known gym company have now introduced it since the influx of pt's appearing on only fans.

I couldnt give a diddly if my clients find me on here but for personal safety reasons i choose to keep them private (past experience)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's never as simple as saying anyone seeing your pics is also on the site.

A number of fabbers have been outed on social media by chatgroups for no reason other than they could.

A difference of opinion on the forums or refusing to meet someone often puts a target on someones back and their private details shared with family and friends which obviously then also has a knock-on effect on employment issues. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people are incredibly naïve. They think swinging is a secret society and all fluffy glitter.

Read the comments sections on newspaper articles on swingers/ clubs.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Often, if not always an employment contract will have a section about bringing the company into disrepute. Whether we like it or not this lifestyle could fall into that category.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Often, if not always an employment contract will have a section about bringing the company into disrepute. Whether we like it or not this lifestyle could fall into that category. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work in a Social Work setting with vulnerable (although still dangerous) people who unfortunately search everything about you if they get access to any information. I can’t be having my face on sites involving sexual acts because…… well consequences could be severe.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It should be an explicit freedom that adults generally have away from work, to be able to do what they wish with their bodies. Maybe a couple of exceptions.

In the meantime, we've not moved on enough from the Victorian era and people being owned.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"It should be an explicit freedom that adults generally have away from work, to be able to do what they wish with their bodies. Maybe a couple of exceptions.

In the meantime, we've not moved on enough from the Victorian era and people being owned. "

People using jobs as an excuse for having no pics at all, is silly.

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By *teve_it_aloneMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Ultimately you have no legal protection from being sacked/disciplined on the basis of your membership or association with “swinging” or similar. Even if you have no explicit photos, and nothing in your profile goes into lurid details about your needs, wants and desires, the very fact that you’re “a swinger” is enough for an employer to decide to get rid of your services.

All they have to do is argue any of the reasons already given - reputational harm, commercial harm, risk of adverse pressure (the word I would have used here is not allowed!), or even simply that it doesn’t match the image they want to portray.

The same used to be the case for being gay/bi. Thankfully there is now legal protection in the form of the Equality Act which makes sexual orientation a “protected characteristic”.

It’s unlawful to discriminate against me because I have sex with / am attracted to men. If an employer got rid of me for that reason, I’m pretty much guaranteed a win at an ET (if I can prove that this was the reason).

Swinging doesn’t have the same protection, hence people are quite sensible to be careful.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m not sure how people can’t see how it could affect someone in their job! What about seeing your child’s headteacher for something important and you’ve seen them on fab naked with a cock in their mouth? Is that appropriate?

Top policeman/MPs etc. Do you not think someone would put them all over social media if they found these kind of pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that question other people about not showing their faces on a swingers site clearly aren’t in a job where it would be a problem.

That’s wonderful for you.

Congratulations.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"People that question other people about not showing their faces on a swingers site clearly aren’t in a job where it would be a problem.

That’s wonderful for you.

Congratulations.

"

I don’t think people realise how strict it is in some professions! I was child protection officer in a school one of my children went to at the time. I couldn’t even have any of her friends over without advising the school first! Imagine if one of the parents had found a vid or pic of me! There were meetings every week about social media etc and what we could and couldn’t do. And this was 10 years ago!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People that question other people about not showing their faces on a swingers site clearly aren’t in a job where it would be a problem.

That’s wonderful for you.

Congratulations.

I don’t think people realise how strict it is in some professions! I was child protection officer in a school one of my children went to at the time. I couldn’t even have any of her friends over without advising the school first! Imagine if one of the parents had found a vid or pic of me! There were meetings every week about social media etc and what we could and couldn’t do. And this was 10 years ago!"

People definitely don’t understand.

It’s alright saying you’re protected against unfair dismissals and it should be acceptable etc etc.

It should be acceptable to punch arseholes in the face… but it’s not.

It doesn’t matter what you think “should” be acceptable.

Certain lines of work are very different.

Some even search for you online, to see if you have an online footprint.

so the argument of “if they see you it means they’re on here too” doesn’t work.

What people should do, if they don’t understand it, is just be fucking quiet really.

Also my pictures are friends only so I can keep track of who exactly is masturbating over me.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"People that question other people about not showing their faces on a swingers site clearly aren’t in a job where it would be a problem.

That’s wonderful for you.

Congratulations.

I don’t think people realise how strict it is in some professions! I was child protection officer in a school one of my children went to at the time. I couldn’t even have any of her friends over without advising the school first! Imagine if one of the parents had found a vid or pic of me! There were meetings every week about social media etc and what we could and couldn’t do. And this was 10 years ago!

People definitely don’t understand.

It’s alright saying you’re protected against unfair dismissals and it should be acceptable etc etc.

It should be acceptable to punch arseholes in the face… but it’s not.

It doesn’t matter what you think “should” be acceptable.

Certain lines of work are very different.

Some even search for you online, to see if you have an online footprint.

so the argument of “if they see you it means they’re on here too” doesn’t work.

What people should do, if they don’t understand it, is just be fucking quiet really.

Also my pictures are friends only so I can keep track of who exactly is masturbating over me.

"

. It’s fine, that sunbathing one is enough to get me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People that question other people about not showing their faces on a swingers site clearly aren’t in a job where it would be a problem.

That’s wonderful for you.

Congratulations.

I don’t think people realise how strict it is in some professions! I was child protection officer in a school one of my children went to at the time. I couldn’t even have any of her friends over without advising the school first! Imagine if one of the parents had found a vid or pic of me! There were meetings every week about social media etc and what we could and couldn’t do. And this was 10 years ago!

People definitely don’t understand.

It’s alright saying you’re protected against unfair dismissals and it should be acceptable etc etc.

It should be acceptable to punch arseholes in the face… but it’s not.

It doesn’t matter what you think “should” be acceptable.

Certain lines of work are very different.

Some even search for you online, to see if you have an online footprint.

so the argument of “if they see you it means they’re on here too” doesn’t work.

What people should do, if they don’t understand it, is just be fucking quiet really.

Also my pictures are friends only so I can keep track of who exactly is masturbating over me.

. It’s fine, that sunbathing one is enough to get me off "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People could still have photos. Just not with their face. No-one will recognise your arse...

"I can't have photos because of work" is pretty lazy when I see so many imaginative photos of bodies here.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

If that’s the case I would expect a face pic with their first message to prove it was a genuine reason. I would block otherwise

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"People could still have photos. Just not with their face. No-one will recognise your arse...

"I can't have photos because of work" is pretty lazy when I see so many imaginative photos of bodies here. "

This

Totally understand the not having public face pics.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We see this a lot.

We’ve managed to take plenty of pics without our face so see no reason why others can’t.

We suspect it’s more that people have much more to hide, as in, not just work.

If you are having to hide on here, then you wouldn’t be for us.

K

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"People could still have photos. Just not with their face. No-one will recognise your arse...

"I can't have photos because of work" is pretty lazy when I see so many imaginative photos of bodies here. "

Oh yes definitely. I meant face pics. I wouldn’t even send a provocative pic privately with my face on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People could still have photos. Just not with their face. No-one will recognise your arse...

"I can't have photos because of work" is pretty lazy when I see so many imaginative photos of bodies here.

Oh yes definitely. I meant face pics. I wouldn’t even send a provocative pic privately with my face on. "

I'm careful to not send pics with my face and showing my body. Either but not both.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"People could still have photos. Just not with their face. No-one will recognise your arse...

"I can't have photos because of work" is pretty lazy when I see so many imaginative photos of bodies here.

Oh yes definitely. I meant face pics. I wouldn’t even send a provocative pic privately with my face on.

I'm careful to not send pics with my face and showing my body. Either but not both. "

Yes same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We see this a lot.

We’ve managed to take plenty of pics without our face so see no reason why others can’t.

We suspect it’s more that people have much more to hide, as in, not just work.

If you are having to hide on here, then you wouldn’t be for us.

K"

Unfortunately not as black and white as that.

People have distinctive tattoos, features etc.

I get that some maybe hiding other things, I’ve picked up on that much from my time here but not everybody has a husband/wife/litter of kids to hide from.

I think it’s very naive of people to think that everybody is in the same boat when it comes to employment and pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We see this a lot.

We’ve managed to take plenty of pics without our face so see no reason why others can’t.

We suspect it’s more that people have much more to hide, as in, not just work.

If you are having to hide on here, then you wouldn’t be for us.

K

Unfortunately not as black and white as that.

People have distinctive tattoos, features etc.

I get that some maybe hiding other things, I’ve picked up on that much from my time here but not everybody has a husband/wife/litter of kids to hide from.

I think it’s very naive of people to think that everybody is in the same boat when it comes to employment and pictures."

I don't think everyone is in the same boat. Not at all. But tattoos can be blurred out etc. I've had men with just dick pics say they can't show anything else "because of work". I think that's pretty ridiculous and lazy. It's not hard to take photos where nothing is recognisable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We see this a lot.

We’ve managed to take plenty of pics without our face so see no reason why others can’t.

We suspect it’s more that people have much more to hide, as in, not just work.

If you are having to hide on here, then you wouldn’t be for us.

K

Unfortunately not as black and white as that.

People have distinctive tattoos, features etc.

I get that some maybe hiding other things, I’ve picked up on that much from my time here but not everybody has a husband/wife/litter of kids to hide from.

I think it’s very naive of people to think that everybody is in the same boat when it comes to employment and pictures.

I don't think everyone is in the same boat. Not at all. But tattoos can be blurred out etc. I've had men with just dick pics say they can't show anything else "because of work". I think that's pretty ridiculous and lazy. It's not hard to take photos where nothing is recognisable. "

I agree with that.

And there’s friends and private pics, attaching to a message there are very limited reasons for!!

You’re either fucking ugly or married.

Maybe a couple of other reasons.

But not having clear pics on profile I can completely understand.

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By *he_massangerMan
over a year ago

Stornoway


"What does ones personal sex life/interests have to do with ones work though?

Why would it be an issue or of any relevance to an employer?

Surely it's none of their business? And if a colleague saw a colleague here, well they're here too..

The only thing I can thing of is if you're working in the criminal justice system or something maybe due to conflicts.

As a social worker, bumping into clients on Fab, isn't fab.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ultimately you have no legal protection from being sacked/disciplined on the basis of your membership or association with “swinging” or similar. Even if you have no explicit photos, and nothing in your profile goes into lurid details about your needs, wants and desires, the very fact that you’re “a swinger” is enough for an employer to decide to get rid of your services.

All they have to do is argue any of the reasons already given - reputational harm, commercial harm, risk of adverse pressure (the word I would have used here is not allowed!), or even simply that it doesn’t match the image they want to portray.

The same used to be the case for being gay/bi. Thankfully there is now legal protection in the form of the Equality Act which makes sexual orientation a “protected characteristic”.

It’s unlawful to discriminate against me because I have sex with / am attracted to men. If an employer got rid of me for that reason, I’m pretty much guaranteed a win at an ET (if I can prove that this was the reason).

Swinging doesn’t have the same protection, hence people are quite sensible to be careful. "

They may not sack the person for being gay or a swinger but they can make life very difficult and 'let them go' for some other reason.

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By *umbiyaMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I don’t show my face simply because it’s ugly and I’m ashamed of it. A boring torso pic is much better for these forums.

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By *teve_it_aloneMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I don’t show my face simply because it’s ugly and I’m ashamed of it. A boring torso pic is much better for these forums. "

I wish my torso looked that boring…!

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Yes, our participation on here should be nobody else’s business. Indeed it is a part of our life that we keep private from friends, family and work colleagues. Now imagine being in a senior role at work, wanting obviously to keep this hobby a secret but somebody at work has found out that you’re on here. Not only that but maybe for their silence they make an implication that as long as they get a bit of overtime then nothing will be said. It does happen because some people are nasty and opportunistic so why put yourself in that position?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Yes, our participation on here should be nobody else’s business. Indeed it is a part of our life that we keep private from friends, family and work colleagues. Now imagine being in a senior role at work, wanting obviously to keep this hobby a secret but somebody at work has found out that you’re on here. Not only that but maybe for their silence they make an implication that as long as they get a bit of overtime then nothing will be said. It does happen because some people are nasty and opportunistic so why put yourself in that position?"

Similar situation. Had to discipline and dismiss them. I send my face on first message, not on open view.

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By *he sultan of swingMan
over a year ago

mid devon

OP are you newton fulkner? Love your music dude lol

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma


"What does ones personal sex life/interests have to do with ones work though?

Why would it be an issue or of any relevance to an employer?

Surely it's none of their business? And if a colleague saw a colleague here, well they're here too..

The only thing I can thing of is if you're working in the criminal justice system or something maybe due to conflicts.

"

Why compromise your future when it is easier not to?

Not knowing what opportunities may be on the horizon or what curveballs life might throw at you in the future should be a starting point for your decisions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think in the national defence/security domain it's frowned up on if there is a chance that you could be black-mail by criminal organisations or hostile States over your pictures/activities/membership. Granted not so much an issue if it's common knowledge your a massive deviant but very problematic if for example your cheating on your wife or expressing sexuality/kinks you want to keep a secret from others. Also I think the Military frown up on it in terms of bringing them into disrepute. After all the Red Tops do love a ranchy Military scandal when short of news."

Surly you would have to come clean ASAP rather than be black -mail quicker you react and bite the built they lose there there power but prevention is always better than cure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Carlos needs to be careful, Carlos works in education."

Be careful, Carlos.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"We see this a lot.

We’ve managed to take plenty of pics without our face so see no reason why others can’t.

We suspect it’s more that people have much more to hide, as in, not just work.

If you are having to hide on here, then you wouldn’t be for us.

K

Unfortunately not as black and white as that.

People have distinctive tattoos, features etc.

I get that some maybe hiding other things, I’ve picked up on that much from my time here but not everybody has a husband/wife/litter of kids to hide from.

I think it’s very naive of people to think that everybody is in the same boat when it comes to employment and pictures."

Nothing is ever black and white. You can remove/blur anything on a pic now.

People choose to come on this site. If they then don’t want to display any pics for whatever reason is their prerogative.

How we view people who don’t display pics is our prerogative.

K

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Photos don't need to be explicit you can easily put unidentifying photos on here, clothed with head cropped, just to give an idea of what you look like

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

Can you imagine a teacher with his or her bits out and the parent reconised them, or even meets up with them there would be serious consequences.....but as for the police, what they got to worry about, they bring the force into disrepute daily with there corruption and lies etc and don't they walk around with there tool, (truncheon),hanging out anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you imagine a teacher with his or her bits out and the parent reconised them, or even meets up with them there would be serious consequences.....but as for the police, what they got to worry about, they bring the force into disrepute daily with there corruption and lies etc and don't they walk around with there tool, (truncheon),hanging out anyway "

Judging by your use of the word “there” one could guess the reason why you consider the police corrupt

But of course that would be jumping to uneducated opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We see this a lot.

We’ve managed to take plenty of pics without our face so see no reason why others can’t.

We suspect it’s more that people have much more to hide, as in, not just work.

If you are having to hide on here, then you wouldn’t be for us.

K

Unfortunately not as black and white as that.

People have distinctive tattoos, features etc.

I get that some maybe hiding other things, I’ve picked up on that much from my time here but not everybody has a husband/wife/litter of kids to hide from.

I think it’s very naive of people to think that everybody is in the same boat when it comes to employment and pictures.

Nothing is ever black and white. You can remove/blur anything on a pic now.

People choose to come on this site. If they then don’t want to display any pics for whatever reason is their prerogative.

How we view people who don’t display pics is our prerogative.

K"

It is your prerogative yes.

Enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does ones personal sex life/interests have to do with ones work though?

Why would it be an issue or of any relevance to an employer?

Surely it's none of their business? And if a colleague saw a colleague here, well they're here too..

The only thing I can thing of is if you're working in the criminal justice system or something maybe due to conflicts.

Why compromise your future when it is easier not to?

Not knowing what opportunities may be on the horizon or what curveballs life might throw at you in the future should be a starting point for your decisions."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume that people with lots of public pics don't care about their privacy so likely don't care about anyone else's privacy either.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

What do you do for a living, Chrisx420x?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"What does ones personal sex life/interests have to do with ones work though?

Why would it be an issue or of any relevance to an employer?

Surely it's none of their business? And if a colleague saw a colleague here, well they're here too..

The only thing I can thing of is if you're working in the criminal justice system or something maybe due to conflicts.

"

It puzzles some. Usually those with a very naive world view.

No one gives a damn ...... until .....

e.g. You see your childs teacher here. Sex pest maybe. Potty mouth. Unusual sexual proclivities, a tad aggressive ?

Still happy ?

Same with say the carer who is looking after your Gran.... you note he has a Granny fetish .... ?

Still okay with that ?

You notice a really sexy young bloke who is a bit over the top with S and M...... he works with your daughter in the local supermarket. He asks her out .... bothered yet ?

Someone in the legal system who has to look upstanding in the community with a pics section of him being whipped while wearing latex man thong with a banana up his arse..... Tell me it wouldn't circulate.

Your local council members out dogging and splurging all in a bukkake ring...

Tell me it would stay 'unknown' ...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You are right O.P. that MY sex life is NONE of anyone elses business. It's just MY business..

And in MY business I choose not to show pics.....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Carlos needs to be careful, Carlos works in education."

Does Carlos give the pencils out ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Police officer sacked for having OnlyFans account - bringing force in disrepute.

Teachers sacked for having pictures on modelling websites and others.

List goes on.. yes, I agree, it's non of their business. But if identified, could be used to gain an advantage over someone and professional standards could ne compromised.. they have their reasons and have to respect it.

I respect anyones reasons, the question is more aimed at employers/workplaces.

How does what fully legal activities adults do in their own time as consenting adults affect the 'professional standards' of a company or police force etc? Imo it dosent.

It is just further distorting work/life balance, they can contoroll you in work but oh yeah they also want to controll ones sexlife outside of work? Becuse they're so professional..? "

Employers are not trying to control your sex life.

Employers are trying to minimise scandal, litigation, pain , suffering ...... yada yada....

They don't want to handle complaints or even enquiries or even dirty malicious gossip from people who have seen a teacher , police officer, doctor, office worker , etc etc etc ...... it also protects the employee.

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