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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is the best way to get over someone?

Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully received

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Il let you know if it ever happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggest cliché of them all, but time is a healer.

Hope you’re ok and not hurting x

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By *ingdangTV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

Best way is delete all info about them, pics, phone numbers, social media account, and let time heal you.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Time is the biggest healer. I know that doesn’t help now but I’ve been through many types of it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would block on social media . Be kind to yourself. Do lots of nice things that you enjoy. I hope you are ok xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time and distract yourself with hobbies and seeing friends and family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give yourself time. Try and occupy yourself by doing things you like, being with people you like and be kind to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it sounds cliché but time really is a great healer.

But while you wait I suggest indulging yourself, whether it pampering yourself, or doing stiff you love, be selfish, look after yourself but also cry if you need too, don't suppress the sadness, you need to break in order to build yourself again.

Spend time with Girlfriends, just do what you feel and be kind to yourself.

I promise in time you will feel better

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Sorry for your hurt. Time, good friends and a bit of chocolate ( not a flippant remark) all help.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

"What is the best way to get over someone?

Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully received"
well basically the love of my life cheated on me 18 years ago so ill tell you how to get over it whenever I do

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

A weekend away with the girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally dont get the time healer rubbish im sure the rest is right

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

"What is the best way to get over someone?

Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully received"

I'm going through this too OP.. I was blindsided when he ended it..

No contact, concentrate on yourself.. I have had my hair, nails and eyebrows done just to make myself feel better. Feel free to DM me if you need someone to understand xx

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"What is the best way to get over someone?

Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully received"

Grab your friends and enjoy as much time together enjoying yourselves bouncing off each other it's a great distraction.as they say time is a healer

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

When our hearts break it is often easiest to live in denial and to give in to hope, to delay one’s life, thinking, without reason, that they will come to their senses and that they will return to us.

This denial and hope delays the healing process, we imagine the scenarios that they may return to us, we play them out, we catch breath and dwell within ourselves. No amount of time will heal you if you do this.

Accept that your heart is broken, and that there is no return to that path. Grieve and then draw a line, truly accept that it is gone and you will begin to heal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no easy way - time will slowly heal you.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

thrive to spite them? worked for me. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is the best way to get over someone?

Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully receivedwell basically the love of my life cheated on me 18 years ago so ill tell you how to get over it whenever I do "

Aww, my lovely CC xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time is a thief not a healer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best way is delete all info about them, pics, phone numbers, social media account, and let time heal you. "

This

Plus get under someone else lol

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

"What is the best way to get over someone?

Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully receivedwell basically the love of my life cheated on me 18 years ago so ill tell you how to get over it whenever I do

Aww, my lovely CC xxx"
thanks Dieu xxxx

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

And the secret is never bring up the subject re ex with friends the less you think about it the easier it gets but thinking about the negative stuff helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Il let you know if it ever happens "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

youl know better than others but time and distractions. i would say embrace it this was part of your life, acept it and move on. easier said than done though and this takes time.

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

Block. No contact.

Have a good cry.

Then distract yourself over and over again with anything you enjoy, go out, see friends, gym, hobbies etc.

Find a new box set to focus on.

He will pop into your head less and less and then one day he won’t be the first thing you think about when you wake up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t buy into the time healing thing, all it seems to do is rob you of chances to pursue other avenues.

Cleanse them from your life.

Lean on your friends for pep talks.

Distract yourself with something new, be it a trip, a hobby, exercise.

Have something else to do when you feel you might just sit around thinking about him.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Heartbreak is grief.

There's no cure for grief and everyone copes differently.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Heartbreak is grief.

There's no cure for grief and everyone copes differently.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Give yourself time. I know it's hard but cut all contact x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Biggest cliché of them all, but time is a healer.

Hope you’re ok and not hurting x"

This plus give it time there will be someone else in future always look to future forget about the past x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Distraction is key. Spend time doing things you really enjoy, try and find pleasure in simple things and go easy on yourself.

Don't think that you can't feel sad and sit and cry because you totally are allowed to, but once you finish crying, straighten your crown and put some happy music on and sing. It doesn't matter how many times you cry or feel sad, as long as you keep remembering to do something that makes you feel a bit happier.

I hope you can move on and find happiness.

Take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others have said, time is a healer. Took me a whole year to get over my ex! I practiced a lot of self care during that time and worked on myself, boosting my own confidence and getting to a good place mentally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heartbreak is grief.

There's no cure for grief and everyone copes differently.

This..but I would block them close all contact

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Get busy. Work on yourself, be the best you can be. Look after yourself. It won't be easy but it'll help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is the best way to get over someone?

Any advice other than, to get under someone else, will be gratefully received"

Weigh up the pro and cons of the person

What’s the best attributes

What’s the worse attributes

Does the worst outweigh the best ?

What does your head say ?

What does your heart know ?

Do you trust this person ?

What does your instincts say ?

Why do you have to get over them ?

What kind of person do you want for your future xxx

What’s lessons have you learnt from the experience with this person xxx

Xxxx

Wish you all the love women to women xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heartbreak is grief.

There's no cure for grief and everyone copes differently.

This..but I would block them close all contact "

I’d agree with this, my ex kept contacting me and it made it much worse, I blocked him in the end.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Heartbreak is grief.

There's no cure for grief and everyone copes differently.

This..but I would block them close all contact

I’d agree with this, my ex kept contacting me and it made it much worse, I blocked him in the end. "

Absolutely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take away all reminders. Numbers off phones/whattsapp. Unfriend on social media so you dont keep getting glimpses of them. Soon you will realise the days get longer in between thinking about them and it doesnt hurt so much anymore. Keep remembering all the shitty things about them, and there must have been some. And love yourself the most. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the person who said heartbreak is grief.

Stop contact if possible. Occupy your mind with something else. A new hobby, go out with friends, go watch some entertainment (live music, shows, anything). Include some physical activity (running, gym, anything where you can physically unload your emotions, pain, grief) and give it time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's true it takes time

Find something else not someone else

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Keep yourself busy, be sociable, see friends, write down things that make you happy, have a pamper, make yourself feel good, new underwear. Also focus on the positive things only. Each day gets easier is all I can say. X

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Occupy your mind with other thoughts and give yourself time

Time is the greatest healer

Although it was the right thing to do I was truly heartbroken after my divorce but now I'm ok with it.

I didnt have any magic cure I just felt a little bit better month after month after the event .

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Block, delete, ignore.

Wallow but don't wallow.

Reminisce but don't reminisce.

Think of the good and of the bad.

Convince yourself it's for the best.

Don't rush

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By *aulupforitMan
over a year ago

Corbridge

Have things you like to do to look forward to as a goal and just keep being positive.Good Luck

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By *nourdreamsCouple
over a year ago

Warwickshire

"Distraction is key. Spend time doing things you really enjoy, try and find pleasure in simple things and go easy on yourself.

I hope you can move on and find happiness.

Take care."

Totally this and just take it day by day, take care xx

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Keep yourself busy but allow yourself time to process - don’t beat yourself up for being upset or questioning why, but remember you may never have the answers. One day you will wake up and the hollow feeling inside will Begin to feel whole again, you will see something or hear something that reminds you of that person and you will no longer cry or feel anger you will smile at the happier times and be thankful you had them, it may take a while to get to that realisation but you get there - surround yourself with the people and things that make you happy - take a girls trip, do something totally selfish for you until the cracks begin to heal and time passes without you realising because you somehow managed to have fun again

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Time.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Time only becomes a healer when you've been able to conquer what it is that can distract you the coping strategies help and it gets easier any other time your more like to move before they do music is a wonderful therapy none of the sloppy stuff go up a gear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding a hobby and getting out and about is definitely the way to help the healing process. I know its easy to say and a bit of a cliché but its true. The process of being down is the first step to finding your feet again OP. Hopefully you'll find your mojo again soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't read the replies , I just saw your opening post.

For me, getting under another is a no.

Be gentle with yourself, your feelings matter. Give yourself time, and don't be bitter, it won't help you in the long run. Don't focus on what the other person is doing/has been doing ,make yourself the focus.

More than anything, time helps.

Hope you're ok op x

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I still wake sometimes wondering why my first fiance is not next to me, when it is heading towards 40 years since she broke it off between us. I don't think that these sort of relationships are ever truly over, it's just that the ruins of them eventually become a part of your identity. The experiences lie mostly dormant but occasionally will surface and leave you devastated for a short while.

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