FabSwingers.com forum: Red flag, green flag

By *ehindHerEyes OP Couple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

We hear a lot about red flags to when it comes to meeting people. Not to mention getting into a relationship and dating.

But let’s keep it positive and talk about green flags.

What behaviours do you look for? Or that you have seen and gone, fuck yes!!!

*They could be something that someone else would see as a red flag*

As always play nicely

*Beard*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A beautiful mind and sense of fire about someone is a huge turn on, as is someone who you look at and go….holy crap she’s sexy

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By *hellebelleWoman
over a year ago

ashford

I tend to go on gut instinct… as well as the good old primal one that just makes my Fanny flutter at the thought! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Green flag ....a pulse

Honestly if has that certain smile then that's it am wanting more

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Nothing negative to say about anyone from here , big green flag

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By *ehindHerEyes OP Couple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"Nothing negative to say about anyone from here , big green flag "

This is a good one. If they talk about other people negatively then they will be talking about you like that too

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

My instinct is my biggest green flag x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Nothing negative to say about anyone from here , big green flag "

Yes this as well x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Wittiness and a way with words that I find amusing/sexy.

Kindness/respectful behaviour to everyone, not just those they want to fuck.

Dorkiness/passionate about something, even if it's not something I particularly enjoy/know about. I like seeing someone's eyes come alive and listening to/reading them waxing lyrically.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Confidence and kindness that is assessed by my opinion not anyone elses

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By *ehindHerEyes OP Couple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"Wittiness and a way with words that I find amusing/sexy.

Kindness/respectful behaviour to everyone, not just those they want to fuck.

Dorkiness/passionate about something, even if it's not something I particularly enjoy/know about. I like seeing someone's eyes come alive and listening to/reading them waxing lyrically.

Being passionate about something is so attractive. When they just light up and ramble on. I could listen all day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good at fixing cars

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

How they interact with others. Example, courteous to hospitality staff, boils my blood more than people being rude, takes nothing to look at the person when ordering or a please & thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good at fixing cars "
i go thru a lot of tyres

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A faint intermittent pulse signals green foe me!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Huge green flag for me: maintains a decent relationship with at least one ex (especially if they have kids).

Everyone can have a psycho or two in their past (lord knows I do myself), but if every single person they've been with is a psycho I start looking for the common denominator.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Huge green flag for me: maintains a decent relationship with at least one ex (especially if they have kids).

Everyone can have a psycho or two in their past (lord knows I do myself), but if every single person they've been with is a psycho I start looking for the common denominator."

Hello my name is Norman Bates can I buy you a drink?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Huge green flag for me: maintains a decent relationship with at least one ex (especially if they have kids).

Everyone can have a psycho or two in their past (lord knows I do myself), but if every single person they've been with is a psycho I start looking for the common denominator.

Hello my name is Norman Bates can I buy you a drink?"

Bless, I'm sure I know your mum!

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By *ingdangTV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

green flags for me are:

long messages sent to me.

confirmation of meet a few hours in advance.

quick response to the message I sent to them.

Red flags

Short message such as "ok", "definitely", "great". This is a strong indication that they are not interested. Don't message any further regardless what they say.

They do not read your message, but they log in and out. They don't want to be rude to ignore you, but they want to ignore you.

Asking for more pictures close to a meet, why do you need more pictures if you are going to see the real person in a few hours?

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By *ehindHerEyes OP Couple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"green flags for me are:

long messages sent to me.

confirmation of meet a few hours in advance.

quick response to the message I sent to them.

Red flags

Short message such as "ok", "definitely", "great". This is a strong indication that they are not interested. Don't message any further regardless what they say.

They do not read your message, but they log in and out. They don't want to be rude to ignore you, but they want to ignore you.

Asking for more pictures close to a meet, why do you need more pictures if you are going to see the real person in a few hours?"

These are great green flags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Red: “my psycho bitch ex ….”

Green: “nothing bad to say about my ex…”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Green flags for me are

Continuity when messaging

able to talk to the person, not just about sex and "the body"

Fully present when they are with you.

Red flag

Being flaky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Green flag - she wants my penis inside her.

Red flag - she requires convincing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Huge green flag for me: maintains a decent relationship with at least one ex (especially if they have kids).

Everyone can have a psycho or two in their past (lord knows I do myself), but if every single person they've been with is a psycho I start looking for the common denominator.

Hello my name is Norman Bates can I buy you a drink?

Bless, I'm sure I know your mum!"

If you know my mum you will definitely know me!

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By *ood Girl KatWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Nice thought out messages.

Continuous conversation (not like everyday but it's nice to know that if they want to talk to me they will. I'm not going to continuously chase someone when it looks like they can't be bothered. Done enough of that before.)

Making me feel at ease and be able to make me laugh. Love a good sense of humour.

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I always like somebody chatty at the first meeting as its always a social. Can't do awkward silences lol. Somebody who has a nice smile, lovely eyes and and a happy outlook on life.

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All too often we look for these flags, go with a swiss flag at least there is a big plus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice eyes.

Nice bum.

Sarcastic/funny.

Can hold an actual conversation.

All green flags for me.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Green flags...

Consistency

Actions that match their words

Respecting boundaries

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Green flags...

Consistency

Actions that match their words

Respecting boundaries"

This

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Do they try to be the best version of themselves.

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By *ehindHerEyes OP Couple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"Green flags...

Consistency

Actions that match their words

Respecting boundaries"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well being honest...................

Green Flags

Large sumptuous buzzers

A womanly proportionate shape to compliment the above.

Likes a pint or three of Guinness whilst watching the rugby.

Happy to engage in intelligent conversation on many subjects but mainly sport, specifically rugby football and cricket.

Happy to come on holiday to the Caribbean with me to watch the cricket.

Can serve up a full English at anytime of the day.

Good at gardening specifically mowing a large lawn.

Good at keeping bathroom tiles clean especially the grouting.

Lover of red high heels with ankle straps.

Red Flags

Has or wants to watch any Bridget Jones films.

Doesn’t understand the offside and LBW rules as they currently stand.

Does not like ironing.

An aversion to heavy metal and spending 4 days living like a refugee at the download festival.

Packs baby wipes and hand moisturiser for said festival.

Always banging on about foreplay when the champions league is on.

I know what you’re thinking I am just an old romantic fool .........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it’s when talking is effortless from the beginning. No awkward silences, no small talk, just genuinely enjoying each other’s company.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Nothing negative to say about anyone from here , big green flag

This is a good one. If they talk about other people negatively then they will be talking about you like that too

Why is negativity looked down upon so much? More often than not its a vent of frustration and annoyance. It is a release of emotions.

Yeah, sure if that is all they do then it's not appealing. But the same goes for that fake and forced positivity bullshit.

Give me somebody who is willing to share their emotions and not suppress it by stacking up "positivity" on top of it all the time. It is unhealthy and goes against us wanting to share emotions. Too much of either and none of the other is irritating as fuck.

The context and situation revolving around such negativity is huge. Negative is not the same as hate and malice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Banter! It draws me in every time haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour, manners, non-pushy and love their Nans. Always a winner for me

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By *ood Girl KatWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Green flags...

Consistency

Actions that match their words

Respecting boundaries"

This definitely for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Green flags...

Consistency

Actions that match their words

Respecting boundaries"

Yes, boundary respecting is the biggest one for me!

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

If you're talking about relationships then someone who's intelligent, funny and easy to talk to. Kindness and being considerate are also important.

For fab meets then it'd be someone reliable who will turn up and won't try anything unpleasant like cuckolding or trying to not use a condom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggest Green flag for me is when a man doesn't push me. Doesn't push for info, to be friends, for more photos, to meet up. Just happy to enjoy getting to know me.

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

Geekiness/nerdiness/intense passion about a specific area of interest - even if it is something that I know nothing about I love watching them get involved and animated about their subject

An interesting face - not always conventionally handsome/pretty but they have 'something' unique about their face that draws me to them (often I cannot describe what it is)

MJ xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who's respectful and actually takes the time to ask about limits, boundaries and my hubby.

Also big penis!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Green flag for me is the ability to communicate and discuss things in a reasonable manner. I also think there are lots of amber flags which are often not spoken about.

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