FabSwingers.com forum: Old flame

By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

An old flame has contacted me and thinks she wants me back. She doesn't know I'm on here can I sacrifice fab for her

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If it doesn't work out with your ex you can come back here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it a go, just put your profile on hold for now

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"An old flame has contacted me and thinks she wants me back. She doesn't know I'm on here can I sacrifice fab for her "

It's an ex for a reason. Tell them about here so then if she reacts positively you can move forward but if not, fuck it off.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Lanzarote

She thinks she wants you back?. If she wanted you back then she would know and not think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck that.

Stay on fab and tell her no thanks.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"An old flame has contacted me and thinks she wants me back. She doesn't know I'm on here can I sacrifice fab for her "
. Did you part on good terms.Was there obstacles the first time that have now been removed.You also used the words she thinks she wants you back does she not know yet.I think you need to meet up for meal and a serious chat before doing anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's an ex for a reason but clearly you are tempted. You could sit down and talk to her. You can always hide your profile for a while until you know for sure. Just don't make any hasty decisions that you may regret. Good luck OP x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If you really want to give it another try, hide your profile and see how it goes.

If it doesn't work out, you can come back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck that.

Stay on fab and tell her no thanks."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t delete profile, just hide it and then log off. Think many make mistake of deleting too hastily, I did in past and lost all my good veris I had

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"An old flame has contacted me and thinks she wants me back. She doesn't know I'm on here can I sacrifice fab for her "

She "thinks" don't do anything unless she's sure.

Why sacrifice fab, ask her to join you

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

"An old flame has contacted me and thinks she wants me back. She doesn't know I'm on here can I sacrifice fab for her

She "thinks" don't do anything unless she's sure.

Why sacrifice fab, ask her to join you"

I'd love to but don't think she will. I'd love to find a lady I could be with and fab with

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

Leopards do not change their spots.

Run.

Fucking.

Mile.

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

Sorry everyone I didn't listen and met her Saturday. She's still crap in bed but I really like her ffs

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

What you mean is an old flame thought she could do better and now realised she can’t and is willing to accept you as 2nd best

Don’t be anyones 2nd choice

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

"What you mean is an old flame thought she could do better and now realised she can’t and is willing to accept you as 2nd best

Don’t be anyones 2nd choice "

You are right but not sure I can get any better

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"An old flame has contacted me and thinks she wants me back. She doesn't know I'm on here can I sacrifice fab for her "

Well you are more likely to get score with her than as a single bloke on here.

Seriously though I never go back. They are exes for a reason and I know by bitter experience that taking them back is no guarantee that the same problems that split you up won't change.

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

"An old flame has contacted me and thinks she wants me back. She doesn't know I'm on here can I sacrifice fab for her

Well you are more likely to get score with her than as a single bloke on here.

Seriously though I never go back. They are exes for a reason and I know by bitter experience that taking them back is no guarantee that the same problems that split you up won't change."

You are probably right. What to so now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry everyone I didn't listen and met her Saturday. She's still crap in bed but I really like her ffs "

Sounds like a great basis for a relationship there OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry everyone I didn't listen and met her Saturday. She's still crap in bed but I really like her ffs "

Crap sex is better than a lonely wank. Marry her.

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

"Sorry everyone I didn't listen and met her Saturday. She's still crap in bed but I really like her ffs

Crap sex is better than a lonely wank. Marry her. "

Lol you are right

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"What you mean is an old flame thought she could do better and now realised she can’t and is willing to accept you as 2nd best

Don’t be anyones 2nd choice

You are right but not sure I can get any better "

Your gonna be gutted when the love of your life passes you by because your too busy being with someone you don’t actually want

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

"What you mean is an old flame thought she could do better and now realised she can’t and is willing to accept you as 2nd best

Don’t be anyones 2nd choice

You are right but not sure I can get any better

Your gonna be gutted when the love of your life passes you by because your too busy being with someone you don’t actually want "

So what are you saying she has to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An old flame has contacted me and thinks she wants me back. She doesn't know I'm on here can I sacrifice fab for her "

She only thinks ?

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"What you mean is an old flame thought she could do better and now realised she can’t and is willing to accept you as 2nd best

Don’t be anyones 2nd choice

You are right but not sure I can get any better

Your gonna be gutted when the love of your life passes you by because your too busy being with someone you don’t actually want

So what are you saying she has to go "

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's your ex for a reason some things are best left that way, in my experience it's never the same going back. Look and see what you want out of the reconciliation and see if she can offer you that or work with it. Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn’t think of anything worse TBH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you really want someone who "thinks"?

also why settle for something, that ultimately won't be fulfilling for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you can decide this to be honest OP.

I guess you need to weigh up the pros and cons on the matter and do what’s right for you really.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"She thinks she wants you back?. If she wanted you back then she would know and not think."

Bluebell - The voice of reason.

OP, Your ex should be clearer as to her intentions before you jump for her.

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By *ricoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

Looks like you joined Fab and started the lifestyle journey after your relationship ended.

From your bio you are looking a partner in crime? It’s time for honesty with your ex and explain your life has moved on and are in the lifestyle, if she wants you back then you explore the scene together. If she isn’t happy with it then it’s not worth going any further, remember why you split in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What you mean is an old flame thought she could do better and now realised she can’t and is willing to accept you as 2nd best

Don’t be anyones 2nd choice

You are right but not sure I can get any better "

Everyone can do better than someone's second best!

There are so many on here that are actually looking for a relationship where swinging is a big part.

You've already eliminated many other guys on here as that's not what they are looking for, so your odds are even better.

I met my OH on here, lots of others have too.

Please don't sell yourself short (I hate that phrase but I can't think of any better way of saying it)

PNG x

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

"What you mean is an old flame thought she could do better and now realised she can’t and is willing to accept you as 2nd best

Don’t be anyones 2nd choice

You are right but not sure I can get any better

Everyone can do better than someone's second best!

There are so many on here that are actually looking for a relationship where swinging is a big part.

You've already eliminated many other guys on here as that's not what they are looking for, so your odds are even better.

I met my OH on here, lots of others have too.

Please don't sell yourself short (I hate that phrase but I can't think of any better way of saying it)

PNG x "

Thank you so much guys it means alot. She has to go then.

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By *llovereveryMan
over a year ago

Halifax

"Sorry everyone I didn't listen and met her Saturday. She's still crap in bed but I really like her ffs "

Does she think your any good in bed?

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

"Sorry everyone I didn't listen and met her Saturday. She's still crap in bed but I really like her ffs

Does she think your any good in bed?"

She does yes

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By *llovereveryMan
over a year ago

Halifax

"Sorry everyone I didn't listen and met her Saturday. She's still crap in bed but I really like her ffs

Does she think your any good in bed?

She does yes"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What you mean is an old flame thought she could do better and now realised she can’t and is willing to accept you as 2nd best

Don’t be anyones 2nd choice

You are right but not sure I can get any better

Everyone can do better than someone's second best!

There are so many on here that are actually looking for a relationship where swinging is a big part.

You've already eliminated many other guys on here as that's not what they are looking for, so your odds are even better.

I met my OH on here, lots of others have too.

Please don't sell yourself short (I hate that phrase but I can't think of any better way of saying it)

PNG x

Thank you so much guys it means alot. She has to go then. "

YOU need to make that decision alone.

Go with what your gut tells you.

We can give great advice and our own experience which is why you posted about it, but at the end of the day, go with what you feel is the right choice for you.

Good luck OP

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

"What you mean is an old flame thought she could do better and now realised she can’t and is willing to accept you as 2nd best

Don’t be anyones 2nd choice

You are right but not sure I can get any better

Everyone can do better than someone's second best!

There are so many on here that are actually looking for a relationship where swinging is a big part.

You've already eliminated many other guys on here as that's not what they are looking for, so your odds are even better.

I met my OH on here, lots of others have too.

Please don't sell yourself short (I hate that phrase but I can't think of any better way of saying it)

PNG x

Thank you so much guys it means alot. She has to go then.

YOU need to make that decision alone.

Go with what your gut tells you.

We can give great advice and our own experience which is why you posted about it, but at the end of the day, go with what you feel is the right choice for you.

Good luck OP "

Thank you

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Give it a go hold profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My bf and I split. I moved on and even met a lovely guy but my ex-bf came back and persuaded me to give us a try again. I regret the decision to go back. Only time can tell if your leopard changed her spots op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't put all your eggs in a basket this site is always a back up plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been exactly where you are now . Split with an exi adored ( her choice) spent months getting over her only for her to show up again after she'd had a bad relationship we started again then out of the blue she was gone again to France as it turned out ! Exes should stay just that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And it's no sacrifice

Just a simple word

It's two hearts living

In two separate worlds

But it's no sacrifice

No sacrificeeeeeeee

It's no sacrifice at all

Decisions yours OP

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"What you mean is an old flame thought she could do better and now realised she can’t and is willing to accept you as 2nd best

Don’t be anyones 2nd choice

You are right but not sure I can get any better

Everyone can do better than someone's second best!

There are so many on here that are actually looking for a relationship where swinging is a big part.

You've already eliminated many other guys on here as that's not what they are looking for, so your odds are even better.

I met my OH on here, lots of others have too.

Please don't sell yourself short (I hate that phrase but I can't think of any better way of saying it)

PNG x

Thank you so much guys it means alot. She has to go then.

YOU need to make that decision alone.

Go with what your gut tells you.

We can give great advice and our own experience which is why you posted about it, but at the end of the day, go with what you feel is the right choice for you.

Good luck OP "

This. Matters of the heart are complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would sacrifice everything

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve contacted by two old old flames recently. Nahhhhh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my greatest desire

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

So met her again last night slept with her but no sex plus I have a stiffness she didn't even offer me a massage she isn't obviously trying to get me back that bad

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

Stiff neck

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By *adshaggersCouple
over a year ago

aldershot

Are you afraid to be alone, that it makes you keep going back to someone who you probably know isn’t the right one?

TrixieMe

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"So met her again last night slept with her but no sex plus I have a stiffness she didn't even offer me a massage she isn't obviously trying to get me back that bad"

Bin her off. Every lass knows the way to soothe his stiff neck is to sit on his face to realign his spine*

*I’m not medically trained so don’t try this without an ambulance on speed dial.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"She thinks she wants you back?. If she wanted you back then she would know and not think."

This^^^

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

"So met her again last night slept with her but no sex plus I have a stiffness she didn't even offer me a massage she isn't obviously trying to get me back that bad

Bin her off. Every lass knows the way to soothe his stiff neck is to sit on his face to realign his spine*

*I’m not medically trained so don’t try this without an ambulance on speed dial."

Are you offering to help cure me

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

"Are you afraid to be alone, that it makes you keep going back to someone who you probably know isn’t the right one?

TrixieMe "

Sort of and I do quite like her

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By *adshaggersCouple
over a year ago

aldershot

"Are you afraid to be alone, that it makes you keep going back to someone who you probably know isn’t the right one?

TrixieMe

Sort of and I do quite like her"

What do you want from this relationship? Is it long term or do you see it as something that will dissipate because you’re both not that into each other.

Work out what it is you want, not what she wants or anyone else and I think you’ll come to the right decision.

Don’t be with someone just because you’re afraid to be on your own, honestly it’s not worth it.

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By *utler4UMan
over a year ago

have a little guess!

Check her out first, maybe she’s learn a few new trick while you were apart. If not politely say no thank you.

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

They are an ex for a reason… that’s how I look at it x

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By *outhwesthorn OP Man
over a year ago

bennicassim

Okay an update. She's gone for good. She aired me for over 8 hours after saying she wanted be back and regretting leaving me. Goodbye. Now time to enjoy my life again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay an update. She's gone for good. She aired me for over 8 hours after saying she wanted be back and regretting leaving me. Goodbye. Now time to enjoy my life again "

That's good news.

Hope you find someone decent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never look back .. Good luck !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay an update. She's gone for good. She aired me for over 8 hours after saying she wanted be back and regretting leaving me. Goodbye. Now time to enjoy my life again "
aired you? Whats that mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So met her again last night slept with her but no sex plus I have a stiffness she didn't even offer me a massage she isn't obviously trying to get me back that bad"

Delete and block. Why keep going back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still its all i want

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