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The shame / guilt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I was aimlessly scrolling through FB and I came across a article on my feed about a popular swingers club essentially going bust, I believe I was looking at the mirrors post. I made the silly mistake of reading the comments didn't I there were some really horrid comments on there aimed towards swingers and anyone that frequents these clubs, infact I had to stop reading because I was quite taken aback from it. There were some rather nasty and horrid things said about the lifestyle, the people and ,now I feel so low and deflated, asif everyone sees us as dirty horrid people which we would be. Has anyone felt guilt from the lifestyle? Or taken any abuse from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are anonymous strangers on Internet. They don't matter!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I think I read the same thing. I rolled my eyes and put the phone down. I personally think that the people shout loudest on such things are the ones who are probably hiding something far worse than a bit of fun in a dungeon. I thought it was all very (but sadly) predictable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter what you do in life people will judge.

As long as you are comfortable with what you do others opinions don't matter. Haters will always hate

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I don’t feel guilty about it, but I don’t broadcast it either.

The slightest hint I’ve given away is when friends are trying to set me up or tell me I need a man, I just simply respond “I get all I need, when I need it, you lot just don’t know about it” and some understand now when I say “I’m away with friends this weekend” what that means.

I do me, they do them but been lucky with no judgment so far.

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

I have long since given up worrying about what others think of me.

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Whenever worried by FB etc - and although written over 250 years ago - this quote by Edmund Burke always seems appropriate...

Because half a dozen grasshoppers under a fern make the field ring with their importunate chink, whilst thousands of great cattle, reposed beneath the shadow of the British oak, chew the cud and are silent, pray, to not imagine that those who make the noise are the only inhabitants of the field; that, of course, they are many in number; or that, after all, they are other than the little, shriveled, meagre, hopping, though loud and troublesome insects of the hour.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Never felt shame or guilt. I haven't read the comments you refer to but honestly the reaction to naturist on social media ranges from giggly playground type comments to accusations of being perverts so swingers will really come in for it. If Disgusted of Tunbridge Wells finds consensual sex between adults horrifying they need to get out more...probably to swingers clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope and hugs hopefully you feel better soon

At this stage I am past careing what others think

I am happy and I am a ( bad word) and proud off it

But here something to remember the

Katy that was in the comments

Went out at the weekend there went clubbing

Got took home by a bunch off pals and spit roast or gangbanged by them

Some off the story’s I here comeing form vinillas wouldn’t be out off place in the swinger world

Just because it was a night club and not a swingers club

Dosent make it any different

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Swinging has been going on for decades more like a romp but not as much in the public eye.im sure most of those people as you speak of have indulged in some form in their lives

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By *lumPuddingCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster

I’d rather the people making the nasty comments stay away from the clubs to be honest. 99% of the people we meet in a club are some of the most friendly and welcoming people I have ever met.

Until consensual sex is made illegal, we’re not doing anything wrong.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

No guilt here, no regrets,

not bothered how others judge us,

none of their business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d rather the people making the nasty comments stay away from the clubs to be honest. 99% of the people we meet in a club are some of the most friendly and welcoming people I have ever met.

Until consensual sex is made illegal, we’re not doing anything wrong."

I love the pic from 13th November - def no guilt there !!

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

never really bothered about what others think of me, swinginging or otherwise, the only person i have to look at in the mirror is me, aslong as i can look myself in the eye then im happy, if i cant for something then i resolve to fix it

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

People shout loudest and longest about things they don't understand, we see it often enough on here.

My private life is just that private, I don't mind sharing and chatting about kink on here and at socials as I know I have a likeminded audience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy takes many forms, most people will always be jealous that your sex life is exciting and theirs is nonexistent. I find it funny most of the time how pathetic people really are.

The mr

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

No not at all guilty! There are some very narrow minded people with boring lifes probably jeoulous x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

It was the mirror, what did you expect lol

I only ever read the comments section on things like that for a laugh. Sad little no bodies passing judgment on other people like they're something special.

I don't feel guilt or shame. Quote a lot of people know what I do and don't give 2 shits about it as long as I'm safe.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Fuck em. Some people just like to mouth off. Anonymous no notes. Ignore and carry on.

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By *akbearMan
over a year ago

Newbury

Unfortunately it's called freedom of speech, and the moment anyone tries to put an opinion that upsets the outraged person it just tends to inflame them even more.

Having been bullied when I was younger I've just learnt to ignore the critics and just bbeme, enjoy the company of the people you're with and be you.

Can you imagine of swinging was popular how many more people would be on here sending you messages or dick pics?

KYCU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d rather the people making the nasty comments stay away from the clubs to be honest. 99% of the people we meet in a club are some of the most friendly and welcoming people I have ever met.

Until consensual sex is made illegal, we’re not doing anything wrong."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately it's called freedom of speech, and the moment anyone tries to put an opinion that upsets the outraged person it just tends to inflame them even more.

Having been bullied when I was younger I've just learnt to ignore the critics and just bbeme, enjoy the company of the people you're with and be you.

***Can you imagine of swinging was popular how many more people would be on here sending you messages or dick pics?***

KYCU "

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never been to a club and this isn't a lifestyle choice for me but I don't feel any shame or guilt.

I don't follow swinging related groups anywhere on social media but the people making those comments are probably the same ones telling others it's perfectly safe to go walking in the mountains in jeans and trainers and to ignore conflicting advice.

They have a lifetime of experience sitting on the sofa and are therefore perfectly qualified to advise and pass judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guilt?? What on earth do we have to be guilty about? I feel regret for having arrived at the party so late in life, but guilt???? I've done nothing that isn't consensual or encouraged by all concerned. Nah, they can funk off, I'm not so much proud, but totally cool with it. No guilt here

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m not a swinger but no shame or guilt here for being on here. Although nobody knows anyway as I keep my sex life private. There are people in life who are my kind of people and people who aren’t. There will always be bashing of some sort going on whether it’s swinging bashing, bible bashing, vegan bashing etc etc etc. Just do you, the opinions of strangers matter not x

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Casual, NSA sex is more popular and available than ever with all the dating apps and sites these days.

Swinging just has a dated legacy associated with it, akin to a Carry On or St Trinians film.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I am single, nothing to hide and don't care what anyone thinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s nothing to feel guilty about, because you/we aren’t doing anything wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With life full of far more important worries, the opinions of strangers on an internet are/should be at the bottoms of the pile. Filed in folder B1N

Keep smiling, and more importantly, do what you enjoy.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Some people actually like Philip Schofield and Holly Willoughby, proving other people's opinions are weird. Who cares what Karen thinks.

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