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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey, so I’m a single male and I would like to go to a club, I know some only let single males in on specific nights. The thing is I find it overwhelming I’m not to sure what to expect. Especially as I wouldn’t really know anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you feel overwhelmed going to a pub or nightclub on your own?

If not then stop worrying.

You aren’t going to be ra*ed by sex mad swingers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you feel overwhelmed going to a pub or nightclub on your own?

If not then stop worrying.

You aren’t going to be ra*ed by sex mad swingers. "

Well I wouldn’t go night club on my own but pub yea. That kind of puts a better spin on things. Shame about the last part though ha

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Most of us don't know anyone the first time we go or know what to expect

But the clubs always have hosts who'll show you around, introduce you to a few people

Go, be respectful, chat to people & im sure you'll have a great time

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By *amie366Man
over a year ago

coventry


"Most of us don't know anyone the first time we go or know what to expect

But the clubs always have hosts who'll show you around, introduce you to a few people

Go, be respectful, chat to people & im sure you'll have a great time "

How do you know who will help and introduce you to people etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of us don't know anyone the first time we go or know what to expect

But the clubs always have hosts who'll show you around, introduce you to a few people

Go, be respectful, chat to people & im sure you'll have a great time

How do you know who will help and introduce you to people etc? "

Ask at the bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tread it as a pub with extra rooms

And go with no explanations

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of us don't know anyone the first time we go or know what to expect

But the clubs always have hosts who'll show you around, introduce you to a few people

Go, be respectful, chat to people & im sure you'll have a great time "

Thanks for the advice, it’s good to know.

Handy that there maybe someone to show you around

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tread it as a pub with extra rooms

And go with no explanations"

Will do, going to work up the courage ha

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock


"Most of us don't know anyone the first time we go or know what to expect

But the clubs always have hosts who'll show you around, introduce you to a few people

Go, be respectful, chat to people & im sure you'll have a great time

How do you know who will help and introduce you to people etc? "

The hosts know who their regulars are & who are their newbies, they'll also be someone on the door pointing you out to them, failing that ask a member of staff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a brave person that goes to a club alone so well done. Propping up a bar alone in clothes is nerve wracking enough but to be bollock naked aswell is something else. Good luck and have fun though

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Go without expectations.

Don't follow people around.

Be friendly, and engage in that way when people speak to you.

Enjoy the new experience and get comfortable in your own skin in that environment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of us don't know anyone the first time we go or know what to expect

But the clubs always have hosts who'll show you around, introduce you to a few people

Go, be respectful, chat to people & im sure you'll have a great time

How do you know who will help and introduce you to people etc?

The hosts know who their regulars are & who are their newbies, they'll also be someone on the door pointing you out to them, failing that ask a member of staff "

Great advice, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tread it as a pub with extra rooms

And go with no explanations

Will do, going to work up the courage ha "

Best way to do it

As some think just because they in a swingers club they gartee sex

Also don’t become a member off the walking dead lol if your lost on that terminology

It’s people who hang around the playrooms looking for a chance to jump in to the action or catch someone on the back end off it

Hopeing that you know all ready in the moment yes just join in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think its a brave person that goes to a club alone so well done. Propping up a bar alone in clothes is nerve wracking enough but to be bollock naked aswell is something else. Good luck and have fun though "

The naked part worrys me abit I’m sure after a drink I’ll be okay and more comfortable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go without expectations.

Don't follow people around.

Be friendly, and engage in that way when people speak to you.

Enjoy the new experience and get comfortable in your own skin in that environment."

I think it’s just a case of going maybe once or twice and getting my face seen a little bit first. Of course manner and respect are paramount

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its a brave person that goes to a club alone so well done. Propping up a bar alone in clothes is nerve wracking enough but to be bollock naked aswell is something else. Good luck and have fun though

The naked part worrys me abit I’m sure after a drink I’ll be okay and more comfortable "

I think you do get to wear a towel to be fair, so just like swimming baths changing rooms or similair.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tread it as a pub with extra rooms

And go with no explanations

Will do, going to work up the courage ha

Best way to do it

As some think just because they in a swingers club they gartee sex

Also don’t become a member off the walking dead lol if your lost on that terminology

It’s people who hang around the playrooms looking for a chance to jump in to the action or catch someone on the back end off it

Hopeing that you know all ready in the moment yes just join in "

Yea of course, just because your there doesn’t Guarantee anything

Aha thank yous the explanation, I took it aw waking around gormless ha.

Yea that doesn’t sound my style anyway, I’d rather meet and chat to someone and know there’s a genuine invite to play

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think its a brave person that goes to a club alone so well done. Propping up a bar alone in clothes is nerve wracking enough but to be bollock naked aswell is something else. Good luck and have fun though

The naked part worrys me abit I’m sure after a drink I’ll be okay and more comfortable

I think you do get to wear a towel to be fair, so just like swimming baths changing rooms or similair. "

Ah okay, so not completely out and about.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Go without expectations.

Don't follow people around.

Be friendly, and engage in that way when people speak to you.

Enjoy the new experience and get comfortable in your own skin in that environment.

I think it’s just a case of going maybe once or twice and getting my face seen a little bit first. Of course manner and respect are paramount "

I promise you, there are women and couples seeking single men in clubs. Just as here, we all have our preferences, and sometimes we just want to admire others from afar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tread it as a pub with extra rooms

And go with no explanations

Will do, going to work up the courage ha

Best way to do it

As some think just because they in a swingers club they gartee sex

Also don’t become a member off the walking dead lol if your lost on that terminology

It’s people who hang around the playrooms looking for a chance to jump in to the action or catch someone on the back end off it

Hopeing that you know all ready in the moment yes just join in

Yea of course, just because your there doesn’t Guarantee anything

Aha thank yous the explanation, I took it aw waking around gormless ha.

Yea that doesn’t sound my style anyway, I’d rather meet and chat to someone and know there’s a genuine invite to play "

That also falls in to that category but mostly they can be found hang around the play rooms and such

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I think its a brave person that goes to a club alone so well done. Propping up a bar alone in clothes is nerve wracking enough but to be bollock naked aswell is something else. Good luck and have fun though

The naked part worrys me abit I’m sure after a drink I’ll be okay and more comfortable

I think you do get to wear a towel to be fair, so just like swimming baths changing rooms or similair.

Ah okay, so not completely out and about.

"

Check whether it's a wet club or dry. You may be fully dressed.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

o o OO o o

Do you go into a club and are confronted by people having sex? Like will Bev be sat at the bar getting fingered or will Geoff be getting his cock massaged on the sofas? Folk bent over the pool table? Tits, cocks and vag everywhere?

Or is that all “out the back?”

That’s what I’d want to know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice,

I’m building up the courage and I think I’m going to go to one of my local ones. But will deffo contact them before and get the low down

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you go into a club and are confronted by people having sex? Like will Bev be sat at the bar getting fingered or will Geoff be getting his cock massaged on the sofas? Folk bent over the pool table? Tits, cocks and vag everywhere?

Or is that all “out the back?”

That’s what I’d want to know

"

Actually made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you go into a club and are confronted by people having sex? Like will Bev be sat at the bar getting fingered or will Geoff be getting his cock massaged on the sofas? Folk bent over the pool table? Tits, cocks and vag everywhere?

Or is that all “out the back?”

That’s what I’d want to know

"

For most clubs commen area is off limits to play

Yes they be naked or dressed down body parts but as for play mostly off limits

Depends on club and depending on what they facilitates they have

Seen some clubs whare rooms have a one way mirror so people can sit in anorther room and watch

Obviously the rooms market so people playing in it know that’s what it is

Other clubs have a open play room

Whare in that room it’s just a free for all so to speak like you have described

Also private rooms with doors that can be left open or closed

Will say though open private room door is normally a signal off

I don’t mind others watching or joining in

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By *asual80sMan
over a year ago

Poulton-le-Fylde

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By *asual80sMan
over a year ago

Poulton-le-Fylde

I now Exactly how you feel fella My 1st night I went to a club called club play in Blackpool hosted by peaches 123 she was a magnificent host She made me feel At ease And introduced me to some of the locals I didn't get to play that night but met some great people The next time I went it all fell into place because I wasn't nervous and has some great fun playing But it would have been so much easier if I had a female partner with me It's all about respect and just waiting to be asked to join in and having thd the confidence just to talk and introduce yourself I'm now looking for a female just for going to clubs and having fun with to please each other fantasy inow where you coming from fellow believe me all the best live life love life have no regrets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I now Exactly how you feel fella My 1st night I went to a club called club play in Blackpool hosted by peaches 123 she was a magnificent host She made me feel At ease And introduced me to some of the locals I didn't get to play that night but met some great people The next time I went it all fell into place because I wasn't nervous and has some great fun playing But it would have been so much easier if I had a female partner with me It's all about respect and just waiting to be asked to join in and having thd the confidence just to talk and introduce yourself I'm now looking for a female just for going to clubs and having fun with to please each other fantasy inow where you coming from fellow believe me all the best live life love life have no regrets"

That’s sound, thanks for that. Yea the hope is one day maybe I’ll meet woman to go clubs with but until then

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

o o OO o o


"Do you go into a club and are confronted by people having sex? Like will Bev be sat at the bar getting fingered or will Geoff be getting his cock massaged on the sofas? Folk bent over the pool table? Tits, cocks and vag everywhere?

Or is that all “out the back?”

That’s what I’d want to know

For most clubs commen area is off limits to play

Yes they be naked or dressed down body parts but as for play mostly off limits

Depends on club and depending on what they facilitates they have

Seen some clubs whare rooms have a one way mirror so people can sit in anorther room and watch

Obviously the rooms market so people playing in it know that’s what it is

Other clubs have a open play room

Whare in that room it’s just a free for all so to speak like you have described

Also private rooms with doors that can be left open or closed

Will say though open private room door is normally a signal off

I don’t mind others watching or joining in

"

Thank you! This all good to know x

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I went on my own, wouldn't do it again without knowing I was meeting someone there or at least had company to go in with. Glad I did it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you go into a club and are confronted by people having sex? Like will Bev be sat at the bar getting fingered or will Geoff be getting his cock massaged on the sofas? Folk bent over the pool table? Tits, cocks and vag everywhere?

Or is that all “out the back?”

That’s what I’d want to know

For most clubs commen area is off limits to play

Yes they be naked or dressed down body parts but as for play mostly off limits

Depends on club and depending on what they facilitates they have

Seen some clubs whare rooms have a one way mirror so people can sit in anorther room and watch

Obviously the rooms market so people playing in it know that’s what it is

Other clubs have a open play room

Whare in that room it’s just a free for all so to speak like you have described

Also private rooms with doors that can be left open or closed

Will say though open private room door is normally a signal off

I don’t mind others watching or joining in

Thank you! This all good to know x"

Your welcome anytime x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I think its a brave person that goes to a club alone so well done. Propping up a bar alone in clothes is nerve wracking enough but to be bollock naked aswell is something else. Good luck and have fun though "

I’m going to leave my clothes on in future, as stripping down to my boxers in clubs seems to scare the ladies away

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By *ony tunnelMan
over a year ago

birkenhead

Ive often thought of going to a club but my ageing wrinkled body and a lot of teeth missing stops me from taking the plunge.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Get in, get your clothes off, get chatting. Nobody cares what you look like. Confidence is king.

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