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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do people manage to find time for regular fun or dating? I’ve 2 young kids and a busy job. I’ve tried conventional dating and it’s near impossible without the guilt of having to cancel due to my kids.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"How do people manage to find time for regular fun or dating? I’ve 2 young kids and a busy job. I’ve tried conventional dating and it’s near impossible without the guilt of having to cancel due to my kids. "

Hearing you here fella. You have to get creative with your time. Luckily, I'm a boss, so I can dip in and out if work to make time for other things, but it's difficult.

Can I suggest clubs with mid week meets? Normally easier to get baby sitters and the like. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can sell anything on eBay these days.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

You just have to make the most of any free time you do get. Even if it is once a month. Just be upfront with anyone you are chatting. Going to a club once a month for me is worth the little free time. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a nightmare to make plans with as I always have childcare issues. I try not plan ahead too much anymore as I was always having to cancel. I don't know why anyone puts up with me to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I end up with about 2 nights a week free, one I spend on stuff to help me progress at work and the other is general house stuff haha. I’ve been open with women about my situation it always starts with them being so impressed in such a dedicated dad to them being pissed off if I have to cancel. I’ve never been to a club so probably not looking towards that for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s tough, but you sometimes just have to put yourself first. I get every other weekend to myself and try and make the most of those precious two nights. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t - but when it doesn’t I am just left frustrated and disappointed (much like this weekend )

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s tough, but you sometimes just have to put yourself first. I get every other weekend to myself and try and make the most of those precious two nights. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t - but when it doesn’t I am just left frustrated and disappointed (much like this weekend )"

Yeah I know the frustration. Think I’m going to avoid conventional dating now until my life is a bit more settled. It’s just trying to find a woman who’s open to an unplanned arrangement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my friends that are single parents just hookup for sex during the weekdays while the kids are at school. They don't have time to actually date that much in the vanilla sense xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of my friends that are single parents just hookup for sex during the weekdays while the kids are at school. They don't have time to actually date that much in the vanilla sense xx"

Let me know if any of them come up north? I work 6 days a week usually so don’t have spare time during the day.

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By *etshavesumMan
over a year ago

camberley

Any single parents fancy daytime fun Surrey/hants/berks

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I am a nightmare to make plans with as I always have childcare issues. I try not plan ahead too much anymore as I was always having to cancel. I don't know why anyone puts up with me to be honest "

It's because of the chance of playing with your delicious body lady. Q.E.D.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my friends that are single parents just hookup for sex during the weekdays while the kids are at school. They don't have time to actually date that much in the vanilla sense xx

Let me know if any of them come up north? I work 6 days a week usually so don’t have spare time during the day."

That's a tough one. Most of them don't work full time so can see people more easily. It might not be romantic but are they any women at work you can have sex with quietly during lunchtimes? You have my sympathy, time must be so limited and working that much with kids so demanding xx

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

This is why I was celibate for 17 years. Thank God for wands.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"How do people manage to find time for regular fun or dating? I’ve 2 young kids and a busy job. I’ve tried conventional dating and it’s near impossible without the guilt of having to cancel due to my kids. "

"Guilt having to canel due yo kids? Kids and family comes first." No guilt needed. Says a person who's been a single mum to 4.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of my friends that are single parents just hookup for sex during the weekdays while the kids are at school. They don't have time to actually date that much in the vanilla sense xx

Let me know if any of them come up north? I work 6 days a week usually so don’t have spare time during the day.

That's a tough one. Most of them don't work full time so can see people more easily. It might not be romantic but are they any women at work you can have sex with quietly during lunchtimes? You have my sympathy, time must be so limited and working that much with kids so demanding xx"

I’m in an extremely male dominated environment so unfortunately not haha hoping to drop on someone looking for something similar. I’ve found Txnder easier for meeting with people than here but it’s pretty vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do people manage to find time for regular fun or dating? I’ve 2 young kids and a busy job. I’ve tried conventional dating and it’s near impossible without the guilt of having to cancel due to my kids.

"Guilt having to canel due yo kids? Kids and family comes first." No guilt needed. Says a person who's been a single mum to 4. "

No I mean guilt towards cancelling last minute with someone. I’ve had to do it recently and she took it completely the wrong way like I was doing it personally to her. I think people without kids don’t realise the difficulty of it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my friends that are single parents just hookup for sex during the weekdays while the kids are at school. They don't have time to actually date that much in the vanilla sense xx

Let me know if any of them come up north? I work 6 days a week usually so don’t have spare time during the day.

That's a tough one. Most of them don't work full time so can see people more easily. It might not be romantic but are they any women at work you can have sex with quietly during lunchtimes? You have my sympathy, time must be so limited and working that much with kids so demanding xx

I’m in an extremely male dominated environment so unfortunately not haha hoping to drop on someone looking for something similar. I’ve found Txnder easier for meeting with people than here but it’s pretty vanilla. "

I'm not sure what else to suggest darling, hopefully you can find a girl on tinder that is happy for a quick shag a couple of times as week that can fit with your schedule. How old are you kids? Can you meet late at night? Xx

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"Most of my friends that are single parents just hookup for sex during the weekdays while the kids are at school. They don't have time to actually date that much in the vanilla sense xx"

Suffolk you say?

Interesting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I end up with about 2 nights a week free, one I spend on stuff to help me progress at work and the other is general house stuff haha. I’ve been open with women about my situation it always starts with them being so impressed in such a dedicated dad to them being pissed off if I have to cancel. I’ve never been to a club so probably not looking towards that for now "

I get 2 free nights about every 3 months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I end up with about 2 nights a week free, one I spend on stuff to help me progress at work and the other is general house stuff haha. I’ve been open with women about my situation it always starts with them being so impressed in such a dedicated dad to them being pissed off if I have to cancel. I’ve never been to a club so probably not looking towards that for now

I get 2 free nights about every 3 months. "

You can do a lot in 2 nights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although we’re not single parents we feel your pain. Due to needing childcare all through the week while we work it’s very rare we can get a babysitter when we’re both free. We occasionally have a 2-3 hour window when we can meet on weekend afternoons which doesn’t seem to fit the schedule of anyone local

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of my friends that are single parents just hookup for sex during the weekdays while the kids are at school. They don't have time to actually date that much in the vanilla sense xx

Let me know if any of them come up north? I work 6 days a week usually so don’t have spare time during the day.

That's a tough one. Most of them don't work full time so can see people more easily. It might not be romantic but are they any women at work you can have sex with quietly during lunchtimes? You have my sympathy, time must be so limited and working that much with kids so demanding xx

I’m in an extremely male dominated environment so unfortunately not haha hoping to drop on someone looking for something similar. I’ve found Txnder easier for meeting with people than here but it’s pretty vanilla.

I'm not sure what else to suggest darling, hopefully you can find a girl on tinder that is happy for a quick shag a couple of times as week that can fit with your schedule. How old are you kids? Can you meet late at night? Xx"

No they’re only young so out of the question. Just have to keep swiping for now and see what comes up haha

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"Most of my friends that are single parents just hookup for sex during the weekdays while the kids are at school. They don't have time to actually date that much in the vanilla sense xx"

Wish I lived in Yr town lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Although we’re not single parents we feel your pain. Due to needing childcare all through the week while we work it’s very rare we can get a babysitter when we’re both free. We occasionally have a 2-3 hour window when we can meet on weekend afternoons which doesn’t seem to fit the schedule of anyone local "

The struggle is real haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am on my own with four teens. When they get older it gets easier to go out in the evenings. But I have no nights off so to speak - they're always here. Whatever your situation you try to work around it and find people who are flexible and who understand that kids come first.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"How do people manage to find time for regular fun or dating? I’ve 2 young kids and a busy job. I’ve tried conventional dating and it’s near impossible without the guilt of having to cancel due to my kids.

"Guilt having to canel due yo kids? Kids and family comes first." No guilt needed. Says a person who's been a single mum to 4.

No I mean guilt towards cancelling last minute with someone. I’ve had to do it recently and she took it completely the wrong way like I was doing it personally to her. I think people without kids don’t realise the difficulty of it all. "

Oh I see, if they don't understand, then maybe not the right person? My fella now, not father to mine. Understands if I have to cancel our plans (date night ect), or I work couple time round the kids.

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

There are other of reasons sometimes people have to cancel appointments, never mind meets. 'Not tonight, I am wasting my hair' may not be a particularly good one, unless you realised you've got nits perhaps . Family and other important stuff will always happen and most people will recognise and appreciate that.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester


"You can sell anything on eBay these days."

But you can’t sell time

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

I don’t have kids but have met and dated ppl who do and I always start with the family comes first then fun.

So if lady or cpl cancel cos family no issues even once when I was driving to collect I understand issues happen. And that seems make ppl happy but have fem friends who shock at my view as others don’t and want them first family last baffles me

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

I had to cancel one was planned for Saturday as work change and was on emergenc Calls if people think am fake or timewaster cos I put work first so be it.

My view was imagine being in moment and I get a call would ruin everything rather have time when able and concentrate and enjoy

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

I had the same issue myself with the children.

I couldnt rely on the other person for collecting the children or even seeing the children.

I ended up setting up 2 ways just incase.

There grandparents got them overnight and I got a 24hr break.

I was lucky as some of the organised meets was at the point of contact for the other parent.

With doing this it also gave my parents grandparents rights with the children.

That is very important.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

You don't, unless you are lucky enough to have a family unit around you that can sit when needed

I only got away with the whole dating/meeting thing because the job involved travel(Covid may have killed that off for ever as its all work from home now)

But hey wouldn't trade up my 2 Fanta filled rockets to go back to 2019 times either,,

It is what it is,,

Just another 10 years,ish before they can stand alone and I can get back in the game and I hope my cock still works then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its really difficult to balance as a single dad.

the actual feew window is very small, and you never want to give up time with your kids through fear you'll see them less next time and time after that.

plan to far ahead and things will change, too short notice and it will never happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it a real struggle but I’ve been lucky to have some fab friends who understand my situation. I may not be able to physically meet but there are other ways to have some fun

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

I currently have a 50/50 custody split and teenagers, but I also have/ have had babysitting and childcare swaps set up with friends and reliable paid babysitters too. I was an entirely solo mum to my elder two and burnt out through never getting time without them.

For me to get out of the house on an evening requires organising at least four other human beings, plus whoever I’m going out with. Childfree time is really precious to me and I try to make the most of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I currently have a 50/50 custody split and teenagers, but I also have/ have had babysitting and childcare swaps set up with friends and reliable paid babysitters too. I was an entirely solo mum to my elder two and burnt out through never getting time without them.

For me to get out of the house on an evening requires organising at least four other human beings, plus whoever I’m going out with. Childfree time is really precious to me and I try to make the most of it. "

totally agree, but is it a click, a pint with mates, time to fix the whatever! really hard for a social and a meet. really frustrating for no shows or last minute cancels!

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I currently have a 50/50 custody split and teenagers, but I also have/ have had babysitting and childcare swaps set up with friends and reliable paid babysitters too. I was an entirely solo mum to my elder two and burnt out through never getting time without them.

For me to get out of the house on an evening requires organising at least four other human beings, plus whoever I’m going out with. Childfree time is really precious to me and I try to make the most of it. "

Same here. I’m a sole parent, I usually get 1 or 2 nights a month free, so I just make the most of that time. Things get a bit easier as they get older. X

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

Grandparents help out.

Friends have them occasionally for a evening and stay in my house if I go out, they go home when I get back.

Paid Babysitter.

The kids dad have them.

Can you do the work stuff on a night after the kids go to bed instead? Or do it for a few hours then go on a date/social.

Some dates Iv had in the past had a meet time of 8pm because Iv had to wait til the kids have gone/friend arrived etc.

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