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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone else struggle with social interaction.?

It feels lately I have met and dealt with more rude ,unpleasant idiots than not, is it me ,am I becoming a grumpy git or are folk getting more irritating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being social involves people.

I don’t like people.

It’s not me, it’s them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This ,is exactly what I mean, I find most people unbearable, not all ,but definetly the majority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im totally with you 100% I only have time for friendly and polite people and even then I struggle pretending to be confident.

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By *elboy64Man
over a year ago

weston

Most people are the same as you and struggle to connect, so come across as someone you can't connect with

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I gen try and be nice, I remind myself daily civvy life involves not calling everyone I meet a twat,

Do you ever feel folk are untrustworthy I am finding that more and more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how you feel,I come across rude people daily.

Makes me want to stay away from people Incase come across another pest,and feel grumpy.

Not everyone's bad you do come across chummy people, don't let the rude grumpy ones put you off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, in my job, I work with hundreds of people, some really nice others, so rude and lately I have been snapping back never used to but now I definitely do to their faces and I can't help myself it just comes out surprise I still have my job but being rude and disrespectful to workers is not cool at all especially to those who have been there for you throughout all of covid x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of social anxiety comes from the fear of being judged. You can go over what you say for hours afterwards making you sure you did and said the right things. The most important thing to realise is, most of the time people don't care as much as we do. It's easily said than done but once you start to see the world without fear of being judged, these kinds of interactions can become easier.

The world is an extroverted place but just because you can't be the loudest, chattiest or most social person in the room.. doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. We are all different and that's okay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having social anxiety and not wanting to socialise with certain people because they're rude, or you just don't like them, are two different things I feel....

There are a lot more people that I don't want to socialise with, than people I do. That makes me selectively social, not socially anxious.

I thrive when I'm with my people and some I find exhausting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having social anxiety and not wanting to socialise with certain people because they're rude, or you just don't like them, are two different things I feel....

There are a lot more people that I don't want to socialise with, than people I do. That makes me selectively social, not socially anxious.

I thrive when I'm with my people and some I find exhausting. "

I agree with this, they are two different things altogether. Social anxiety comes from within you whereas not liking rude people comes from others, I think.

I have a bit of the former... And it doesn't matter who might be at a situation I'll be anxious regardless.

Having said that I don't enjoy rude people either! But it doesn't make me anxious.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

It comes down to respect.

There seems to be an increasing proportion of people that have no concept of respect. Respect for other people, respect for other people’s possessions, respect for other people’s space.

People (not all) need to learn to be more considerate of others and show some respect for their right to be who they are.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I like minimum interaction if I’m honest as I find it draining. Which has gotten worse since the Pandemic.

But if someone is rude to you etc you are not obligated to reply to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have quite high anxiety in grouped social situations, so I avoid them at all costs. It doesn’t matter if it were a family get together, a party, or a room full of strangers. The thought terrifies me every time. I have no problem interacting with strangers on an individual level, but put me in a room full of them, I would not be in a happy place, and I’ll flee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Folks this can often be a sign of conditions such as autism or maybe undiagnosed mental conditions.

I am not trying to cause worry or alarm, but just keep open to this possibility and explore it further. Especially if this is a common feeling for you with people/ social spaces rather than just not being in the mood once in a blue moon

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