FabSwingers.com forum: Nice guy..but a knob

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

No need to apologise, OP. Sorry you had a shit night.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run for the hills.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the bright side, at least you found out at the very beginning.

Less time wasted.

Sorry to learn you had a terrible night.

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Dodged a bullet it seems

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By *wales_hotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

He sounds like a right charmer

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

I be thinking you dodged a bullet OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like Keeper!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to piss off, if he can treat you like that on a first date can you imagine what he would be like if you were in a relationship….run and don’t look back,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs op definitely put him in the bin

Also you know that happened there

Is friend who you had sex with

As probably talk to him

You know the old

She’s a shour thing and all that bla bla bla

and got a bit ratty when you wouldn’t give it

Up easy like his mate sed

Hugs op x

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

red flags, better off without that!!!

sorry to hear that

glad you got home safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like Keeper!

Oops, sorry, I mean a twat! Easy mistake to make!

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

What an absolute Cockwomble!

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By *ich_ChesterMan
over a year ago

Chester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be the night for having a shit night! I'm sorry to hear that OP but glad you got home safely. His loss! x

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By *ich_ChesterMan
over a year ago

Chester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a gentleman if he left you to get home alone !

Looks like you had a lucky escape. Keep smiling OP

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By *ich_ChesterMan
over a year ago

Chester

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By *amie366Man
over a year ago

doncaster

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

What an ass he is

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By *ich_ChesterMan
over a year ago

Chester

Sounds like a self obsessed prick, better to find out now rather than later. Can't believe he let you walk to town on your own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

Carlos would have treated you much better, Carlos is a gentleman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

At least you dodged a bullet right at the start rather than further entangled down the line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well what a prize plonker he sounds, and a tight git not wanting to pay a tenner for a taxi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame you cant delete him..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a hard pass for you, theres no need for guys to behave like that, if he got arsey cos you slept with someone he knows then hes insecure and while thats an issue for him to sort out, it could likely lead to shit further down the line. And yeah being pushy about going back to yours so soon into things is a red flag. Silver lining is it couldve been worse but luckily it wasnt

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. "
even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No to the first part but I'm definitely the second

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How on earth does who you've shagged come up on a first date?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

You deserve better. Fancy leaving you to walk off on your own. Not the actions of a gentleman x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Nah. He let you walk home on your own. He’d be gone if it was me. even in my much younger hormone influenced days, I would never let a lass walk home alone, I'd always make sure she got home safely,..didn't matter if there was 'nothing 'in it for me..have standards changed that much? "

I think there’s a hell of a lot of women who don’t like all that anymore. I don’t need a man I’m quite capable of looking after myself so don’t insult me types. Some of us still appreciate a gentleman though

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Basic manners that I was brought up with, I'm afraid x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I the only one to think that mayne he didn't walk you home because you said you didn't want him to come back to yours and didn't want you to feel pressured to change your mind?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How on earth does who you've shagged come up on a first date? "

He knows him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

where is the nice guy bit?

what did you do on the date - any of it good? laugh? good banter? or was he just a nob .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone

Home in bed with a brew & my kitty

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

I'd say you had a lucky escape. On the bus at 10:30!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^ this, it can literally be a minefield at times. I’ve genuinely been scorned for simply holding a door open for a woman. I didn’t do it to be chivalrous or misogynistic, I did it as it’s a polite thing to do, and do it for men too.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Thank you everyone

Home in bed with a brew & my kitty

Good to hear x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"where is the nice guy bit?

what did you do on the date - any of it good? laugh? good banter? or was he just a nob ."

Met him Wednesday at pub..

We actually got on well, thought the coming back here was banter

He had been out since lunchtime, he wasn't dr*nk though..

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Oh don’t get me started

. I’d hate to be a man these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I consider myself a feminist, but that’s just a bloody nonsense! Some women really don’t help themselves. And you’re right, it’s basic manners regardless of sex! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"where is the nice guy bit?

what did you do on the date - any of it good? laugh? good banter? or was he just a nob .

Met him Wednesday at pub..

We actually got on well, thought the coming back here was banter

He had been out since lunchtime, he wasn't dr*nk though.."

ah hence the doubt. is he married?

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Op forget him, as others have said you've dodged a bullet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"where is the nice guy bit?

what did you do on the date - any of it good? laugh? good banter? or was he just a nob .

Met him Wednesday at pub..

We actually got on well, thought the coming back here was banter

He had been out since lunchtime, he wasn't dr*nk though..

ah hence the doubt. is he married?"

Nope he isn't married..just had a dog sitter tonight...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Anyone not wanting to pay 10£ for a Taxi on a night out is walk away now material,, the rest of that description OP just proves that,, sorry you experienced that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recognise times are for for many but not wanting to pay £10 for a shot at chatting up (and potentially getting naked with) someone you've fancied for ages doesn't seem realistic.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

Haven’t read other opinions OP. But you don’t let a woman walk home alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He sounds like a right charmer

Absolutely you’ve definitely dodged a bullet I wouldn’t waste anymore time with him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haven’t read other opinions OP. But you don’t let a woman walk home alone. "

Saudi Arabia have just eased their laws on this.

We'll catch up one day!

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By *iggyStarjumpsMan
over a year ago

Stockport

"Thank you everyone

Home in bed with a brew & my kitty

Dodged a bullet. Glad to hear you're feeling okay, sorry you had a rubbish night x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"where is the nice guy bit?

what did you do on the date - any of it good? laugh? good banter? or was he just a nob .

Met him Wednesday at pub..

We actually got on well, thought the coming back here was banter

He had been out since lunchtime, he wasn't dr*nk though..

ah hence the doubt. is he married?

Nope he isn't married..just had a dog sitter tonight..."

well seems he got put out cause you weren't going to give him shag.. in which case thats all he wanted so id say not BF material..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haven’t read other opinions OP. But you don’t let a woman walk home alone.

Saudi Arabia have just eased their laws on this.

We'll catch up one day!"

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

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I'm not insulting your type, but it's my upbringing to make sure that the lass you're out with,gets home safely..if that's wrong, then too bad, I'm damned if I will drop my standards to suit today's modern society.

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By *nlyJessTV/TS
over a year ago

Meir

As others have said, mega red flags.

His loss, not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a bell end!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Sounds like a great guy. Do you have his number??

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I'm not insulting your type, but it's my upbringing to make sure that the lass you're out with,gets home safely..if that's wrong, then too bad, I'm damned if I will drop my standards to suit today's modern society. "

I think you read my comment wrong. I agree with you. I am not one of those types

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By *hisisntpofMan
over a year ago

bristol

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

Lmao moaned over a tenner and never made sure you got home ok first ,think hes up his ass being honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Baring in mind the weather, just the basic decency of ensuring you got home safely wasn't there, sounds like you are better off without him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like a great guy. Do you have his number?? "

Oh yes

but not contacting him..he has no idea I got home safely..

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Baring in mind the weather, just the basic decency of ensuring you got home safely wasn't there, sounds like you are better off without him."

Exactly. Common decency x

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Maybe not such a nice guy ...

Just a knob

Sounds like you had a lucky escape

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

I think you read my comment wrong. I agree with you. I am not one of those types

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sorry if I read you wrong, maybe my brain was addled by the recent stormy weather

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I think you read my comment wrong. I agree with you. I am not one of those types

sorry if I read you wrong, maybe my brain was addled by the recent stormy weather

Haha. No worries xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How on earth does who you've shagged come up on a first date?

He knows him

Yeah, but still...

There's that little thing called discretion

You don't just blurt that out mid meet

As others have said aplenty, more red flags than a Chinese military parade

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Concerned over a £10 taxi as an excuse for a bunk up.

Avoid.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

He didn’t even buy you a kebab…monster.

Glad you got home safe Op, also you discovered he’s a knobhead as well.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

You didn't owe him anything, he sound entitled and showed his true colours

Hope you're ok x

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

He sounds like a bit of a wanker to be honest. I think I would feel more uncomfortable if he had walked me home.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

There's a technical term for guys like that - twat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like he just wanted to get in ya nickers

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By *rReyMan
over a year ago

Fleet

Hmmm he's a cockwomble. Glad you're home safe.

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

"I recognise times are for for many but not wanting to pay £10 for a shot at chatting up (and potentially getting naked with) someone you've fancied for ages doesn't seem realistic."

I have seen a female a few times. Each time at my place. I pay for taxis to mine and for her going home.Plus ask her to phone when back home. No sex involved . I respect that female is safe getting to my place and home again.

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By *o1-NeilMan
over a year ago

northampton

Never go into a date with any expectations of sex and playing around I say. Never feel as disappointed if there’s good chemistry there and it don’t happen that way.

Shouldn’t have let you walk home along. What a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm he's a cockwomble. Glad you're home safe."

I was going to say "the boys a prick", but I think this man's "cockwomble" sums it up far better! Again glad you're safe, though that's through your doing - not his!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think he’s a bad person deep down from what you said it sounds more like he’s stroppy and childish

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Thank your lucky stars he was pushy - otherwise you may have found yourself feeling twice as bad after you had sex and *then* realising what you know now.

You have so many lovely comments in your verifications, think of those. Forget him.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

The bus bit is brilliant

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Update...

He tried ringing at 1:20am...& then sent a message asking if got home OK....

Lol...a little late for that..

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

Sounds like you had a lucky escape as he sounds like a proper cock. Probably only phoned you to see if you changed your mind and was going to invite him round.... Well rid missus, onwards and upwards

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

"Haven’t read other opinions OP. But you don’t let a woman walk home alone.

Saudi Arabia have just eased their laws on this.

We'll catch up one day!"

You’d let a woman walk home on her own at 10.30 in the night??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who is pushy is an instant red flag, I would shut that down. If they are respectful, they will wait as long as it takes until your ready.

The walking home alone thing though? It's our responsibility to get ourselves home safe, can't put that onto a man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anyone who is pushy is an instant red flag, I would shut that down. If they are respectful, they will wait as long as it takes until your ready.

The walking home alone thing though? It's our responsibility to get ourselves home safe, can't put that onto a man."

I got a taxi home as usual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again, if I had been on a date with a guy and felt like he was a dick, the last thing I would have wanted is for him to walk me home.

Better be alone than in poor company and he seems more like a danger I'd like to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only one to think that mayne he didn't walk you home because you said you didn't want him to come back to yours and didn't want you to feel pressured to change your mind? "

Good point.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"How on earth does who you've shagged come up on a first date? "

Oh Bussy, you’re such an innocent! It goes something like this….

“What have you been up to?”

“Me and my mate Dave have been out watching the footie”

“Not Dave Tumble? From Barnsworth?”

“Yeah, that’s him!”

“OMG I’ve shagged him!!!. Nice bloke!”

“Ummmm yeah I guess”

*tumble tumble*

date ends

Or is it just me who does that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Update...

He tried ringing at 1:20am...& then sent a message asking if got home OK....

Lol...a little late for that..

I'd be pissed off at getting woken in the night.

Does he know you're on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to apologise. It’s a shame to hear your night turned out like that, but you’ve probably got lucky by him showing his true colours.

He appears to have lost out on a wonderful time, however…..bet he’s feeling that now!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

If a man doesn’t see me to my car, on a bus, on a train, to an airport etc., then he’s not the man for me. I expect a brief kiss and maybe a boob fondle, maximum.

Manners make the the man (and woman)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know ‘some’ men these days have dropped the chivalry as they say ‘well women want yo be equal so we are giving them equal’. But that does not mean you cannot open doors etc, that is common manners. I especially think you should NOT let a woman walk home at night alone, there is far too much sexual assault and that is the reality. By all means share the cost of a meal on a date etc, but some basic human male decency should remain

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By *ucky123Man
over a year ago

The Hollywood

Sounds like his mummy was tucking him in, you swerved one there lovely x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Tell him to piss off, if he can treat you like that on a first date can you imagine what he would be like if you were in a relationship….run and don’t look back, "

Literally. That's when people are supposed to be on their best behaviour. Madness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Update...

He tried ringing at 1:20am...& then sent a message asking if got home OK....

Lol...a little late for that..

I'd be pissed off at getting woken in the night.

Does he know you're on here?"

I was

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he was any kind of gent , he should have paid for a taxi home for you ..glad your safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

Sounds a classy guy

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

I do care that you didn't enjoy the date or it didn't go as you expected. What were you expecting ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Update...

He tried ringing at 1:20am...& then sent a message asking if got home OK....

Lol...a little late for that..

I'd be pissed off at getting woken in the night.

Does he know you're on here?

I was

Yes.

If it was me I'd forgive him for asking about sex because he knows you're on here and a sexual person.. unless he kept asking then I'd be pissed off at him being pushy and not taking no for an answer. Also that he was arsey about other people you've shagged before as that's none of his business.

I'd assume his 1.20am call was to try and change your mind and ask him round for a shag or to get some wank chat. I'd bin him off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Run for the hills."

I agree! U probably had a lucky escape. What an arse of a man …

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"I know ‘some’ men these days have dropped the chivalry as they say ‘well women want yo be equal so we are giving them equal’. But that does not mean you cannot open doors etc, that is common manners. I especially think you should NOT let a woman walk home at night alone, there is far too much sexual assault and that is the reality. By all means share the cost of a meal on a date etc, but some basic human male decency should remain

These days ?

If someone offered to walk me to my bus stop and it was in the opposite direction to him.... I'd turn him round and walk him to his bus stop.

I always make sure I know how to get home from anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

I do care that you didn't enjoy the date or it didn't go as you expected. What were you expecting ?

I met him Wednesday when I was out & we said we would have a date Friday, we got on well,until he kept on about coming back here despite me saying "No" thought it was just banter, but then he said if he couldn't he was catching the bus at 10:30pm home as wasn't paying £10 for a taxi..

Also said he was disappointed I had sex with someone he knows, despite that been a year ago..

Personally I think he is a bit immature & insecure..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

I do care that you didn't enjoy the date or it didn't go as you expected. What were you expecting ?

Also said he was disappointed I had sex with someone he knows, despite that been a year ago..

Personally I think he is a bit immature & insecure.."

That makes it much more clear. Don't be sad over it. It was a night out and you kept your self respect. His night was about HIM. Nothing more.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Don't give him another thought OP. What he did shows his true character, shows he has little respect for women x

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By *ddy GirthyMan
over a year ago

Girthy Town

"Anyone who is pushy is an instant red flag, I would shut that down. If they are respectful, they will wait as long as it takes until your ready.

The walking home alone thing though? It's our responsibility to get ourselves home safe, can't put that onto a man."

A man perhaps not but a gentleman who has been brought up right “always”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last time someone left me to get home safely on my own (in a city that I didn't know), I knew it was over. I was scared and luckily had the nicest person drive 2hrs to get me.

This sort of behaviour makes me shudder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last time someone left me to get home safely on my own (in a city that I didn't know), I knew it was over. I was scared and luckily had the nicest person drive 2hrs to get me.

This sort of behaviour makes me shudder"

Shocking, glad you got home safe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Least you found out very early on what type of character this guy is.

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By *ddy GirthyMan
over a year ago

Girthy Town

Think alot of you are missing the key point - what did the friend say about her? He came to the date with a preconceived notion that it was a “done deal” but didn’t like the result of having to put in more than a evenings work to have her company at night… he move desperately and realised his mistake once he got home with only his dick in his hand

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

Dodge him, seems like a stone cold loser.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last time someone left me to get home safely on my own (in a city that I didn't know), I knew it was over. I was scared and luckily had the nicest person drive 2hrs to get me.

This sort of behaviour makes me shudder

Shocking, glad you got home safe x"

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating men that travel by bus is always going to have limitations.

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Even though I'm an independent strong woman I think all the chivalry stuff is really lovely. We have court vans come into work which we have to climb up into and check - there are 2 drivers that always take my hand to help me up and then to help me down (they don't do it for my male colleagues) a third queried if it was still socially acceptable to do that so gave me a fist bump instead

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Bloody hell, sounds like he's very insecure and at the same time was hoping for a little something there. Xant believe he let you walk into town by yourself though

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I agree. Oh I’m totally independent and have never relied on a man for anything and never would but I like a gentleman. The fact that he had to query if it was acceptable makes me sad but I understand why he did x

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By *ddy GirthyMan
over a year ago

Girthy Town

"Dating men that travel by bus is always going to have limitations."

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Dating men that travel by bus is always going to have limitations."

We only have a bus once a week on a Thursday in these parts so wouldn’t work for me

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

So sorry you wasted your time on that boy (definitely not a man!)

Most men would walk you to your bus stop/taxi rank/car and make sure you got home safe xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't sound like a "nice guy" at all.

Sounds like an absolute Twat.

Cut your losses and move on. x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here

You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?

In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.

Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here

You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?

In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.

Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation? "

I thought the same, it might look a bit creepy but if he explained that it was simply to ensure she got through town safely, I know I'd appreciate it very much. If I was somewhere familiar and it was safe, I'd happily go on my own.

I guess each situation is different

PNG x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here

You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?

In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.

Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation?

I guess each situation is different

PNG x "

Yeah just feels like a bit of a minefield

“Then he offered to walk me home when I clearly says he’s not coming back to mine! Trying to play his luck, what a loser”

“Then he just let me walk home alone, not a gentlemen at all!”

Genuinely have no idea what to do in this world these days and there’s seems to be very little room for error

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here

You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?

In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.

Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation?

I guess each situation is different

PNG x

Yeah just feels like a bit of a minefield

“Then he offered to walk me home when I clearly says he’s not coming back to mine! Trying to play his luck, what a loser”

“Then he just let me walk home alone, not a gentlemen at all!”

Genuinely have no idea what to do in this world these days and there’s seems to be very little room for error "

I think if he made it clear he'd just get her through town for safety then that's good.

It's the way you put your words across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here

You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?

In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.

Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation? "

Exactly my point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s 2022 you should walk him home

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By *lair101TV/TS
over a year ago

Aberdeen, westhill

Fancied you for years but behaved like a twat...ok then. sheesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s 2022 you should walk him home

jk"

It is going that way as a lot of men have lost their balls these days, all about big hair and fake tan

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By *affquestCouple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Gonna ask as I’m a bit confused on the etiquette here

You say he’s not coming back with you, but you expected him to walk you home?

In my head, I’d be thinking that offering to walk them home feels like a sly attempt at getting back to theirs when they’ve clearer stated not to.

Where do guys stand on this? I’d always feel like I was over stepping the mark by walking them home in that situation?

I guess each situation is different

PNG x

Yeah just feels like a bit of a minefield

“Then he offered to walk me home when I clearly says he’s not coming back to mine! Trying to play his luck, what a loser”

“Then he just let me walk home alone, not a gentlemen at all!”

Genuinely have no idea what to do in this world these days and there’s seems to be very little room for error "

She said let her walk into town alone . He could have walked with her to the taxi rank. ( in the thread she says she got a taxi home). He would have come across as a more genuine guy and as she got in the taxi she could have made up her own mind what she wanted to happen next, just as she says.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Sounds like he was throwing his toys out of the pram about not being invited back & what may potentially happen after, especially after hearing about his friend (not that that should be an issue, we all have history)

If he was invited back he'd be happy to make sure you get home safe & pay £10 for his taxi later, no invite means sex is definitely off the cards so not point wasting any more time or money on this date

Sounds like you had a lucy escape, maybe the mate is still single, he sounds like a decent bloke not blabbing to his mates about who he's slept with x

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By *ovebjsMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

It sounds like it wuld habe been a one off shag to me also he let you walk home by yourself?

He got upset at the fact you have had sex with someone he knows anoher red flag i'm afraid he sounds pushy and potential controller.

Dump and run don't look back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally not a gentleman.

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By *ovebjsMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Also might add, who goes out and does not make sure they have getting home money ?

You can't rely on the last bus

Maybe he thought that you were a shoe in for a stay over?

Not saying you are but some guys think like that!

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

Sounds like red flags from the start

Hope your next day is better OP.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Sounds like you did right to ditch him OP

Incidentally…..

I’m a very self confident female, I don’t need a man to protect me but .. if some one offered to walk you home to ensure you got home safely wouldn’t it make sense?

Would you blame him if you got attacked? Or yourself for declining his offer?

Even if i made it clear there was nothing beyond it I would accept the offer for my own piece of mind

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"It’s 2022 you should walk him home

jk"

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Sounds like you did right to ditch him OP

Incidentally…..

I’m a very self confident female, I don’t need a man to protect me but .. if some one offered to walk you home to ensure you got home safely wouldn’t it make sense?

Would you blame him if you got attacked? Or yourself for declining his offer?

Even if i made it clear there was nothing beyond it I would accept the offer for my own piece of mind "

I would offer, and expect nothing. Just the way I was brought up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

Have you heard from him since?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So went out on a date tonight (not Fab related)...

He saying about coming back to mine, I say want to take it slowly.

He says getting his last bus at 10:30pm..saying he not wanting to pay £10 taxi to his..

I say want to see how things go..

Thing is if he hadn't been pushy would have probably invited him back..

He also got arsey as had sex with someone he knows

He has by his own admission fancied me for several years..

Let's me walk off into town on my own..but I got home safely..

Just feel need to vent..sorry

Have you heard from him since? "

No..

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

Don’t bother with him plenty more fish in the sea

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