FabSwingers.com forum: The stage is set......

By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

You have been chatting for a while and there is an undeniable chemistry and intense desire to meet.

The meet is imminent and you can barely contain your excitement!

What, if any concerns or worries do you tend to have.

Concerned they won't turn up?

They may not look like their pics?

Or, is it something about yourself that you worry about?

Guys, well... getting an erection under what could feel like a need to perform...is that ever a concern?

For me...I suppose I'd hate to feel like I was in some way a disappointment!

But then I remind myself it's about the 'whole' experience. As long as the vibe has been good and we have shared a few laughs, then it's all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mind all that you are beautiful x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only two worry’s

One they will not turn up

And two I will not live up to they expectations off me

But other than that I don’t really worry to much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.

Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.

I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.

That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.

Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.

I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.

That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.

Still

you. You’re bloody amazing!

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Never mind all that you are beautiful x"

Well thank you...but is that really enough!

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Only two worry’s

One they will not turn up

And two I will not live up to they expectations off me

But other than that I don’t really worry to much x"

Exactly this

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Always carry a paper bag

You either pop it on your head, or theirs

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"You have been chatting for a while and there is an undeniable chemistry and intense desire to meet.

The meet is imminent and you can barely contain your excitement!

What, if any concerns or worries do you tend to have.

Concerned they won't turn up?

They may not look like their pics?

Or, is it something about yourself that you worry about?

Guys, well... getting an erection under what could feel like a need to perform...is that ever a concern?

For me...I suppose I'd hate to feel like I was in some way a disappointment!

But then I remind myself it's about the 'whole' experience. As long as the vibe has been good and we have shared a few laughs, then it's all good."

Definitely the disappointment and performance issues for me

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.

Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.

I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.

That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.

Oh my word...that is so out of order of anybody!

I can imagine how that may play on your mind but that person was obviously just horrid x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always worry that I will get there, car troubles/traffic/meteorites etc. If all that's ok I hope Im not a dissapointment too and can chat as well as we had done over messages. Im not the best speaker when flustered just Get me into bed quick

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By *nnCeeWoman
over a year ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.

Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.

I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.

That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.

Well that was just really horrible. I'm sorry you had that experience. Some people are just jeans x

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By *nnCeeWoman
over a year ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

*jerks

Not jeans. SMH....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always carry a paper bag

You either pop it on your head, or theirs

I leave my glasses in my handbag and hope for the best

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Only two worry’s

One they will not turn up

And two I will not live up to they expectations off me

But other than that I don’t really worry to much x"

After all the effort it takes to get ready, a no show would bang out of order.

I can worry sometimes about expectations, no matter how much prep I've done xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only two worry’s

One they will not turn up

And two I will not live up to they expectations off me

But other than that I don’t really worry to much x

Exactly this

Yes always my biggest worry is I am not anuff for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never actually worried someone wouldn't turn up, or wouldn't be as expected. I'm generally too focused on convincing myself they'll hate me/won't fancy me/any number of other things will be wrong with me and getting myself up to high doe.

I'll shake like a leaf and have a nervous lip and eye twitch for about the first 30mins of meeting before I get a grip of myself and just have fun. Sexy, huh

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"You have been chatting for a while and there is an undeniable chemistry and intense desire to meet.

The meet is imminent and you can barely contain your excitement!

What, if any concerns or worries do you tend to have.

Concerned they won't turn up?

They may not look like their pics?

Or, is it something about yourself that you worry about?

Guys, well... getting an erection under what could feel like a need to perform...is that ever a concern?

For me...I suppose I'd hate to feel like I was in some way a disappointment!

But then I remind myself it's about the 'whole' experience. As long as the vibe has been good and we have shared a few laughs, then it's all good.

Definitely the disappointment and performance issues for me"

Yes...I get you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only two worry’s

One they will not turn up

And two I will not live up to they expectations off me

But other than that I don’t really worry to much x

After all the effort it takes to get ready, a no show would bang out of order.

I can worry sometimes about expectations, no matter how much prep I've done xx

Yes definitely would be

And me as well I think we’re or own biggest crittics when it comes to things like that

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

"Always carry a paper bag

You either pop it on your head, or theirs

I leave my glasses in my handbag and hope for the best"

Who said that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never mind all that you are beautiful x

Well thank you...but is that really enough! "

I just wanted to put that out there that’s all

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Never mind all that you are beautiful x

Well thank you...but is that really enough!

I just wanted to put that out there that’s all

In that case...thank you x

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I wonder if 1 they will cancel and 2 if they actually realise that I am 6ft tall in flats, I've had a few looks of surprise when I get up close and I am actually taller than them

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I've never actually worried someone wouldn't turn up, or wouldn't be as expected. I'm generally too focused on convincing myself they'll hate me/won't fancy me/any number of other things will be wrong with me and getting myself up to high doe.

I'll shake like a leaf and have a nervous lip and eye twitch for about the first 30mins of meeting before I get a grip of myself and just have fun. Sexy, huh

? "

Yes, I'm exactly the same! It's not about them, all my worries are focused on me being a disappointing heffalump, sounding weird, being dull... But I'm also excited. It's a peculiar contradiction of feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never mind all that you are beautiful x

Well thank you...but is that really enough!

I just wanted to put that out there that’s all

In that case...thank you x"

You know me darling and you bowled me over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll shake like a leaf and have a nervous lip and eye twitch for about the first 30mins of meeting before I get a grip of myself and just have fun. Sexy, huh

And slightly addictive, despite the state I get myself in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always worry that I wouldn’t blow my own trumpet enough and possibly end up underselling myself.

Then they’ll end up being even more nervous because I’m this massive big deal and so much better in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always worry that I wouldn’t blow my own trumpet enough and possibly end up underselling myself.

Then they’ll end up being even more nervous because I’m this massive big deal and so much better in person.

Undersell and overdeliver. Smart

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I always worry about unforseen traffic and being late so usually end up way too early.

Even if a social I worry about lack of chemistry and if there may be any awkward silences.

I always feel awkward as to how to end a social, peck on the cheek, hand shake, kiss on the lips, hand on the waist, hand on the neck, just too many options.

Finally I worry about being matched for dress sense, I would hate to turn up and be my normal smart casual and someone is impeccably dressed for the red carpet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never really been worried about anything in a meet - if they don't turn up, so what? I haven't lost anything I already had and more often than not I've actually experienced the butterflies and heightened anticipation feelings so in effect got more than I had.

Performance wise I always give as good as I can so if it's not good enough - I wouldn't have been able to do it any better.

I also understand that it's absolutely all about a full click for 4 people so beating yourself up if all 4 don't click is just daft - statistically the odds are against ya

Bad Bitch was proper nervous before we had our first foray so I get that it's a thing - I guess I'm just lucky that it's just not a thing I suffer with

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Never mind all that you are beautiful x

Well thank you...but is that really enough!

I just wanted to put that out there that’s all

In that case...thank you x

You know me darling and you bowled me over "

I do that...hope you know the feeling is mutual

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

General nerves but over the years it's less about me and more about them.

I'm not over confident or cocky but I am perfectly happy with who I am. If they do or don't like me is something out of my control. I'm less sure about what they will be like, whether they've fibbed a little etc.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"You have been chatting for a while and there is an undeniable chemistry and intense desire to meet.

The meet is imminent and you can barely contain your excitement!

What, if any concerns or worries do you tend to have.

Concerned they won't turn up?

They may not look like their pics?

Or, is it something about yourself that you worry about?

Guys, well... getting an erection under what could feel like a need to perform...is that ever a concern?

For me...I suppose I'd hate to feel like I was in some way a disappointment!

But then I remind myself it's about the 'whole' experience. As long as the vibe has been good and we have shared a few laughs, then it's all good."

Before a first meet I’m always an absolute bag of nerves…

I’m worried they won’t like me

I’m worried they won’t turn up

I’m worried I won’t be good enough for them

I’m worried they won’t be as advertised..

Somehow I still manage to go through with meets though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never mind all that you are beautiful x

Well thank you...but is that really enough!

I just wanted to put that out there that’s all

In that case...thank you x

You know me darling and you bowled me over

I do that...hope you know the feeling is mutual

We will chat

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

I never really worry about If the person will turn up etc

I normally worry they won’t like me.

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By *annyishereMan
over a year ago

preston

I sometimes worry I might be a disapointment (especially if the other party is experienced) but its never been an issue, usually having a few drinks and a laugh loosens everyone up and the fun can occur organically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they'll look at me with disappointment in their eyes.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"That they'll look at me with disappointment in their eyes."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.

Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.

I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.

That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.

That’s an awful thing to have happened to you x I hope it was just nervous/awkward laughter on her part, but a total bitch move if not.

I remember doing the deed with a guy I’d been seeing for a while and fancied like mad. His was a micro penis, like absolutely tiny. I never would have laughed. I can only imagine how I’d feel if someone did that to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going back to the original question, I never worry that they won’t turn up. Only because I only ever meet those with whom I’ve struck up a rapport beforehand, and I know they wouldn’t do that.

It hasn’t happened yet anyway.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I worry about what they will do with me if I cark it during sex. That’s not a joke, I genuinely do think about that, believe it or not.

You can never control someone else’s perception of you but I suppose if I ever had the feeling someone was disappointed in me in some way - body, personality, height - whatever, then that wouldn’t be a pleasant feeling.

Thighs. I always worry about what they will make of my thighs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I worry about what they will do with me if I cark it during sex. That’s not a joke, I genuinely do think about that, believe it or not.

Thighs. I always worry about what they will make of my thighs. "

Thick thighs save lives

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I worry about what they will do with me if I cark it during sex. That’s not a joke, I genuinely do think about that, believe it or not.

Thighs. I always worry about what they will make of my thighs.

Thick thighs save lives"

And they can crack walnuts

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I worry they won't like the look of me. I worry they'll be put off by my pubic hair. I always worry that we'll get a call from the school or nursery that a child is sick and we'll have to cancel. The further away they're traveling from the more that bothers me. I'd hate someone to have a wasted journey because of us.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Ah the joys of suffering from anhedonia

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Usual worry is will the physical chemistry be as good as we’ve built it up to be.

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

My biggest worry is they will not like the look of me

I'm no Adonis I'm slim but with a middle age spread ,quite tall geeky looking with glasses

I know I'm not selling myself to well but I am what I am

I try to get by with my personality alone

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I must be the odd one here as I don’t worry about anything you’ve mentioned.

I think the only think that might give me concern is if they didn’t talk, struggled for conversation in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The stage is set the sun is sinking low down

They came to town to face another showdown

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Will she turn up? The biggest concern...

Will she be a good enough kisser?

Will I?

Will she turn up then make an excuse & sod off like you see in dating programs without telling me cos she's had a change of mind/cold feet?

Will talking between us be awkward or easy?

I don't drink alcohol anymore - so can't steady myself with a bit of Dutch courage... arghhhhhhh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.

I’d have kicked his arse for you. Fool.

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

"I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.

Awwww. That's his loss!

I'd have been rubbing my hands like old man Steptoe & grinning. Whilst being heard to say "Phwaaaaa!"

Nothing wrong with your pics! As you were private ...

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

I worry that they have no personality away from a keyboard

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

If they are disappointed during or following a meet then thats likely on them for not communicating what they were after.

Its unlikely we would be getting naked with someone we hadn’t struck up a rapport with, so while it can always be intimidating the first time, its not something we have run into.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.

I hope you directed a few choice Aussie words towards him.

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By *cottieboy123Man
over a year ago

Perth

"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.

Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.

I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.

That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.

That’s an awful thing to have happened to you x I hope it was just nervous/awkward laughter on her part, but a total bitch move if not.

xx"

Awww, Dieu, you promised never to mention that!

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"My biggest worry is they will not like the look of me

I'm no Adonis I'm slim but with a middle age spread ,quite tall geeky looking with glasses

I know I'm not selling myself to well but I am what I am

I try to get by with my personality alone

Most of us have negative thoughts about ourselves on some way or other. Maybe whoever you are going to meet will have the same thoughts and feelings and be just as nervous as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had a social in years and I'm hopefully going on one next week with a view to having sex (obviously!) One moment I'm fine and getting all turned on and then I think "but what if he doesn't fancy me" "what if he doesn't show and I've made an effort for nothing!" The pressure is real.

I'm sure it will be fine lol.

It's fine, it's fine!

Danish x

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I don’t really worry about anything now but there is always bit of nerves/frisson of excitement.

If I had a niggling thought in the back of my mind before the meet it would be about cumming too quickly - but that is soon forgotten when we meet.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.

Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.

I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.

That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.

That’s an awful thing to have happened to you x I hope it was just nervous/awkward laughter on her part, but a total bitch move if not.

xx"

By doing the deed I take it you mean the buying and selling of a house of flat!

But why would you need to see his boaby for that?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I don’t get concerns or worried as the chemistry is there and I see the meet as a continuation of what you have built up.

Whatever happens during the meet is down to how you get on but there’s never any pressure.

We enjoy meeting new people regardless but when the connection is there, there’s a lot of fun to be had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That they will see my man wang and be disappointed with it's size.

Stupid I know but it stems from a meet over 5 years ago where she laughed at my size. That will never leave me.

I know it's not huge, but certainly isn't small, above what is considered average.

That one incident has been ingrained in my mind and it rears its head every time I get naked with someone for the first time.

That’s an awful thing to have happened to you x I hope it was just nervous/awkward laughter on her part, but a total bitch move if not.

By doing the deed I take it you mean the buying and selling of a house of flat!

But why would you need to see his boaby for that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.

I’d have kicked his arse for you. Fool.

TY Dieu - I stupidly stayed and kept a smile plastered on my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just worry about my body. I feel better now about it because anyone I met has seen my photos here. I met a guy looked at me like I was a heifer and dirt on his shoe. That felt pretty shit.

Awwww. That's his loss!

I'd have been rubbing my hands like old man Steptoe & grinning. Whilst being heard to say "Phwaaaaa!"

Nothing wrong with your pics! As you were private ...

I will always think of Steptoe when I see you on here now

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just worry I won't recognise them and I'll be saying hello to the wrong person.

I don't care if they don't turn up, I always have a back up plan. My first meet is always a social so there's zero sexual tension.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll shake like a leaf and have a nervous lip and eye twitch for about the first 30mins of meeting before I get a grip of myself and just have fun. Sexy, huh

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I go through the exact same thing

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