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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all. I'm a little stuck in the head lights with which way to turn with this site. I've sent numerous messages to people, with a piccy of myself but had no luck as yet. I might be being a little hasty but who knows. Im looking to be discreet untill the people want some piccys of me but at times i've sent the piccys straight away. There also seems to be a click on this site. Males are ten a penny and when theres a chance of a meet up theres always a catch. Plus some peoples replies to messages can be sarcastic and dont help one bit.So what i'm asking is how do i approach my messages. How should my profile look. I did have a profile piccy but removed it because i thought people had more about them as to see a piccy of my cock.would like to hear from across the board about this. bye for now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm i think the latter end may put peeps off...it may be a sex site but doesnt mean standards and respect goes out of the window

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would change your profile for a start....have a nip, its a sex site!!!!

If someone sent me a picture of thier cock it would be deleted and I wouldnt even bother with a reply, sarcastic or otherwise. I happen to think the biggest sex organ is the brain.

If you think your messages are being lost in a barrage of emails that all sound the same....maybe you should try and make them a little more original and put some thought into it, then they may stand out.

Just because you are on a sex site, it is not a given that you will get laid or that it is easy to do so.

Just my observations and I am sure others will differ.

fuck me I think that was nearly a rant!...wanders off for a coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with pussy ... respect is paramount for us and I always try to be polite myself. A little humility goes a long way and so does patience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes your right but had to test the water somehow. i looked at other peoples profiles and i know it doesn't make it right but tried it anayway.

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

complaining about sarcasm then having a comment which can look sarcastic probably wont help.

i love sex ( its why i'm here ) and i meet single guys ( who appeal ) but i still dont want to see a cock shot as the first pic or so.

but there will be as many who do, as dont like this.

get a thicker skin, target your messages, be grown up if you dont get a reply and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coming on the forum and havin a banter with peeps is a good way of being recognised aswell

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with pussy ... respect is paramount for us and I always try to be polite myself. A little humility goes a long way and so does patience "

Im always polite and respect people but i've had some sarcy messages back even when i've been minomal and dont show any piccys. even when i've sent face piccys only.

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Well a face pic with your message is always a good start, for me and I'm sure many others a cock pic does nothing. READ the profiles of people you are interested in and take note of what they say, from experience most men don't and therefore are more than likely wasting their time if they are not what the prospective meet is looking for. Also put more about you in your profile, not just about what you want. And take out the comment about peoples sarcastic replys, its makes you sound aggressive. Just be polite and send each person an individual message, again if you have read a profile fully you can comment about things in it.

Hope this helps, good luck, don't give up there are lots of nice people on here, honest!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"complaining about sarcasm then having a comment which can look sarcastic probably wont help.

i love sex ( its why i'm here ) and i meet single guys ( who appeal ) but i still dont want to see a cock shot as the first pic or so.

but there will be as many who do, as dont like this.

get a thicker skin, target your messages, be grown up if you dont get a reply and good luck"

Its nothing to do with having a thicker skin really. thats not the problem. I suppose its a little frustration.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Hi all. I'm a little stuck in the head lights with which way to turn with this site. I've sent numerous messages to people, with a piccy of myself but had no luck as yet. I might be being a little hasty but who knows. Im looking to be discreet untill the people want some piccys of me but at times i've sent the piccys straight away. There also seems to be a click on this site. Males are ten a penny and when theres a chance of a meet up theres always a catch. Plus some peoples replies to messages can be sarcastic and dont help one bit.So what i'm asking is how do i approach my messages. How should my profile look. I did have a profile piccy but removed it because i thought people had more about them as to see a piccy of my cock.would like to hear from across the board about this. bye for now."

Send me a message and I'll honestly tell you what I think in a constructive and objective manner.

btw - you're too short for me so this is a genuine offer of help.

**good god I am in a good mood today**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"complaining about sarcasm then having a comment which can look sarcastic probably wont help.

i love sex ( its why i'm here ) and i meet single guys ( who appeal ) but i still dont want to see a cock shot as the first pic or so.

but there will be as many who do, as dont like this.

get a thicker skin, target your messages, be grown up if you dont get a reply and good luck

Its nothing to do with having a thicker skin really. thats not the problem. I suppose its a little frustration. "

We hear is sooooooooooo many times from single men on here hun ur certainly not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all. I'm a little stuck in the head lights with which way to turn with this site. I've sent numerous messages to people, with a piccy of myself but had no luck as yet. I might be being a little hasty but who knows. Im looking to be discreet untill the people want some piccys of me but at times i've sent the piccys straight away. There also seems to be a click on this site. Males are ten a penny and when theres a chance of a meet up theres always a catch. Plus some peoples replies to messages can be sarcastic and dont help one bit.So what i'm asking is how do i approach my messages. How should my profile look. I did have a profile piccy but removed it because i thought people had more about them as to see a piccy of my cock.would like to hear from across the board about this. bye for now.

Send me a message and I'll honestly tell you what I think in a constructive and objective manner.

btw - you're too short for me so this is a genuine offer of help.

**good god I am in a good mood today** "

you can send that same message to me if you so wish, I do share another profile with my partner so do get messages from single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun."

Blooming heck u off for a lie down now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun.

Blooming heck u off for a lie down now lol "

Hey, I know what I'm talking about, have you seen my verifications?.

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oh yeah, I don't have any.

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun.

Blooming heck u off for a lie down now lol

Hey, I know what I'm talking about, have you seen my verifications?.

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oh yeah, I don't have any. "

Awwwwwwwww ill give u one and a verifithingy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun.

Blooming heck u off for a lie down now lol

Hey, I know what I'm talking about, have you seen my verifications?.

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oh yeah, I don't have any.

Awwwwwwwww ill give u one and a verifithingy "

in that case, stuff the verithingy, who needs one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun.

Blooming heck u off for a lie down now lol

Hey, I know what I'm talking about, have you seen my verifications?.

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.

.

.

.

.

oh yeah, I don't have any.

Awwwwwwwww ill give u one and a verifithingy

in that case, stuff the verithingy, who needs one. "

Yeah bollocks to it lets fuck lol

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

PS, This is not just a site for sex, its about much more. As its been said if you are under the impression that everyone on here is just out to shag anyone then think again. Not everyone is attracted to everyone as I'm sure you'll agree and even when two parties are then it doesn't always follow that you'll get on when you meet. Go with the flow and realise we all get knock backs, let down and get ignored, just better to forget it and move on. Oh and be happy its also about fun, you're profile comes across as a bit miserable and negative, sorry but just being honest. Have a re-think, read other profies and change it. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun.

Blooming heck u off for a lie down now lol

Hey, I know what I'm talking about, have you seen my verifications?.

.

.

.

.

.

.

oh yeah, I don't have any.

Awwwwwwwww ill give u one and a verifithingy

in that case, stuff the verithingy, who needs one.

Yeah bollocks to it lets fuck lol"

I'm done now, but maybe later.

....

erm sorry for the thread hijack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun.

Blooming heck u off for a lie down now lol

Hey, I know what I'm talking about, have you seen my verifications?.

.

.

.

.

.

.

oh yeah, I don't have any.

Awwwwwwwww ill give u one and a verifithingy

in that case, stuff the verithingy, who needs one.

Yeah bollocks to it lets fuck lol

I'm done now, but maybe later.

....

erm sorry for the thread hijack."

I can quickly go off some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun.

Blooming heck u off for a lie down now lol

Hey, I know what I'm talking about, have you seen my verifications?.

.

.

.

.

.

.

oh yeah, I don't have any.

Awwwwwwwww ill give u one and a verifithingy

in that case, stuff the verithingy, who needs one.

Yeah bollocks to it lets fuck lol

I'm done now, but maybe later.

....

erm sorry for the thread hijack.

I can quickly go off some people "

My problem is quite the opposite, hence why I am done right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun.

Blooming heck u off for a lie down now lol

Hey, I know what I'm talking about, have you seen my verifications?.

.

.

.

.

.

.

oh yeah, I don't have any.

Awwwwwwwww ill give u one and a verifithingy

in that case, stuff the verithingy, who needs one.

Yeah bollocks to it lets fuck lol

I'm done now, but maybe later.

....

erm sorry for the thread hijack.

I can quickly go off some people

My problem is quite the opposite, hence why I am done right now. "

Lol ill let u off then ave a rest ill give u a few mins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun.

Blooming heck u off for a lie down now lol

Hey, I know what I'm talking about, have you seen my verifications?.

.

.

.

.

.

.

oh yeah, I don't have any.

Awwwwwwwww ill give u one and a verifithingy

in that case, stuff the verithingy, who needs one.

Yeah bollocks to it lets fuck lol

I'm done now, but maybe later.

....

erm sorry for the thread hijack.

I can quickly go off some people

My problem is quite the opposite, hence why I am done right now.

Lol ill let u off then ave a rest ill give u a few mins "

a few minutes? I'm no longer 18 ya know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to admit your profile would put us off replying, well we tend to always reply, but it would be a polite no thanks, your profile is very short (not always a bad thing), but in that short type very negative.

if you want to make your way through here you need to stand out, appear to be fun, not miserable, if you are going to send a cock pic then at least also send a face or face and body pic.

take a look around at the more successful single guys profiles and see how they appear to come across, as you stand now your profile is dark and cold.

this site is about fun (of adult nature) so show us you are fun.

Blooming heck u off for a lie down now lol

Hey, I know what I'm talking about, have you seen my verifications?.

.

.

.

.

.

.

oh yeah, I don't have any.

Awwwwwwwww ill give u one and a verifithingy

in that case, stuff the verithingy, who needs one.

Yeah bollocks to it lets fuck lol

I'm done now, but maybe later.

....

erm sorry for the thread hijack.

I can quickly go off some people

My problem is quite the opposite, hence why I am done right now.

Lol ill let u off then ave a rest ill give u a few mins

a few minutes? I'm no longer 18 ya know. "

Ok old man ill give u a few hours and ill go and keep coll company in the meantime

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The offer did have a closing date

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Age is a preference that we are all entitled to........

however.......... setting your preference's up to the age of 40 means that you've automatically cut out a massive proporation of the people on here.

I'd say at least 65%!

You also won't meet smokers....... there's another 5/10%

And you can't accommodate........ screams married! Whether or not you are, 'Can't accommodate' will scream married to many many people on here.

So there's another 10/20%

No pictures at all........... (at least put a body shot on - NOT cock) or you've just wiped out another major percentage.

Look at your options would be my honest advice........... or open your mind to widening your preferences, explain why you can't accommodate and put some bloody pictures up.

You may have more luck.......... cus like me, many many others just delete profiles with no piccies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age is a preference that we are all entitled to........

however.......... setting your preference's up to the age of 40 means that you've automatically cut out a massive proporation of the people on here.

I'd say at least 65%!

You also won't meet smokers....... there's another 5/10%

And you can't accommodate........ screams married! Whether or not you are, 'Can't accommodate' will scream married to many many people on here.

So there's another 10/20%

No pictures at all........... (at least put a body shot on - NOT cock) or you've just wiped out another major percentage.

Look at your options would be my honest advice........... or open your mind to widening your preferences, explain why you can't accommodate and put some bloody pictures up.

You may have more luck.......... cus like me, many many others just delete profiles with no piccies. "

Oh you still about i thought youd gone ?? lol

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"Age is a preference that we are all entitled to........

however.......... setting your preference's up to the age of 40 means that you've automatically cut out a massive proporation of the people on here.

I'd say at least 65%!

You also won't meet smokers....... there's another 5/10%

And you can't accommodate........ screams married! Whether or not you are, 'Can't accommodate' will scream married to many many people on here.

So there's another 10/20%

No pictures at all........... (at least put a body shot on - NOT cock) or you've just wiped out another major percentage.

Look at your options would be my honest advice........... or open your mind to widening your preferences, explain why you can't accommodate and put some bloody pictures up.

You may have more luck.......... cus like me, many many others just delete profiles with no piccies.

Oh you still about i thought youd gone ?? lol "

Cheeky arse!

I'm always here, quiet and unassuming

You coming to the Xmas bash..... or ya hiding ya scrawny arse again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age is a preference that we are all entitled to........

however.......... setting your preference's up to the age of 40 means that you've automatically cut out a massive proporation of the people on here.

I'd say at least 65%!

You also won't meet smokers....... there's another 5/10%

And you can't accommodate........ screams married! Whether or not you are, 'Can't accommodate' will scream married to many many people on here.

So there's another 10/20%

No pictures at all........... (at least put a body shot on - NOT cock) or you've just wiped out another major percentage.

Look at your options would be my honest advice........... or open your mind to widening your preferences, explain why you can't accommodate and put some bloody pictures up.

You may have more luck.......... cus like me, many many others just delete profiles with no piccies.

Oh you still about i thought youd gone ?? lol

Cheeky arse!

I'm always here, quiet and unassuming

You coming to the Xmas bash..... or ya hiding ya scrawny arse again? "

Ooooooo get you and really is my arse that scrawny???

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