FabSwingers.com forum: Is this stalking

By *exysuzi and Mr.S OP Couple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

I am getting extremely worried and concerned now. A guy is consistently messaging on here. His messages are quite intimidating. Everytime I block him he opens a new account, messages a couple of times before I then realise its the guy I've blocked.

He always denies, but his pics are identical. This last time he has attached a few different pics to his profile which appear to be someone else's, maybe a porn site, I'm not sure but definitely not his.

Anyway he has been intimidating again tonight so again I've blocked him.

Would you class this behaviour as verging on stalking, he's upsetting and unerving me now.

Just had to say cuz he's scaring me and I'm not sure where to turn apart from keep blocking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report to admin

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

This happened to me. Block newbies on filters and also report.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am getting extremely worried and concerned now. A guy is consistently messaging on here. His messages are quite intimidating. Everytime I block him he opens a new account, messages a couple of times before I then realise its the guy I've blocked.

Anyway he has been intimidating again tonight so again I've blocked him.

Would you class this behaviour as verging on stalking, he's upsetting and unerving me now.

Just had to say cuz he's scaring me and I'm not sure where to turn apart from keep blocking"

Definitely threatening behaviour.

I assume you've reported to Admin etc....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's definitely problematic behaviour. I'd report to admin, turn off newbies and unverified people, and just keep blocking.

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By *asualJ95Man
over a year ago

Poole

Definitely concerning, have you reported him as well as blocking?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes, concerning

Block newbies op and possibly non site supporters, it might deter him if he has to pay £5 everytime he wants to rejoin and message you.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Just had to say cuz he's scaring me and I'm not sure where to turn apart from keep blocking"

Report this to admin. You might not be the only victim.

Sorry to hear about this.

Gbat

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

https://www.gov.uk/report-stalker

Worth book marking.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.S OP Couple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

I blocked again earlier. He's scaring me as his location changes on his profiles, I have no idea where or how close this guy could now be to me.

I reported and blocked him last time he did it. He isn't a newbie and knows exactly what he's doing, that's what is unnerving me

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Report it and block new accounts from messaging.

His behaviour is repeated and unwanted but does not meet stalking ‘criteria’.

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By *asualJ95Man
over a year ago

Poole

Could you also change your username to make it harder for him to find you again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hide your profile and block men from messaging as well

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Hide your profile and block men from messaging as well "

The blocking men is a good idea Wonko

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hide your profile and block men from messaging as well

The blocking men is a good idea Wonko "

Block me for good measure too

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Hide your profile and block men from messaging as well

The blocking men is a good idea Wonko

Block me for good measure too

No!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hide your profile and block men from messaging as well

The blocking men is a good idea Wonko

Block me for good measure too

No!! "

Yes

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, blocking men is a good shout.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway he has been intimidating again tonight so again I've blocked him.

Would you class this behaviour as verging on stalking, he's upsetting and unerving me now.

Just had to say cuz he's scaring me and I'm not sure where to turn apart from keep blocking"

Arrange to meet him in a quiet location.

Take a shovel.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.S OP Couple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

I cant report on my mobile, it won't accept the reporting number.

Anyway, thank you, I just needed to vent as I am quite upset over it atm. And just needed an ear to listen to me.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Contact the Admin directly get your message accross that way.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.S OP Couple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

"Contact the Admin directly get your message accross that way."

Thank you, yeah I will, xxxx I give it another month or so and I bet he will be back, if his past behaviour has anything to go by

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

Lanson

Sorry to hear this - as many have advised - report to admin & be quite liberal with the block function with regards to who can message you

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By *ayboii2018_12Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

So sorry to hear this. Keep reporting and block his type of profile contacting you. Hope you sort it and he leaves you alone. X

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Report to admin "

I keep sending them faf messages, nearly 15 years down the line and I'm still no closer to a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So creepy

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Report it and block new accounts from messaging.

His behaviour is repeated and unwanted but does not meet stalking ‘criteria’. "

Did you check out the Suzy lamplugh questionaire?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Might have been said before but go to settings and block newbies or those unverified by meeting from being able to message you.

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By *cottieboy123Man
over a year ago

Perth

Anyway he has been intimidating again tonight so again I've blocked him.

Would you class this behaviour as verging on stalking, he's upsetting and unerving me now.

Just had to say cuz he's scaring me and I'm not sure where to turn apart from keep blocking"

Dreadful behaviour, we are on here for gorgeous fun and frolics, not to be complete arseholes.

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Maybe not a good idea to have face pics and your location on Friday as a status if you think someone is stalking you

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Maybe not a good idea to have face pics and your location on Friday as a status if you think someone is stalking you

Ooh, good thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't it diabolical that people can't just have something amazing with sexual Freedom without a small contingent preying on them?

Policing is almost impossible which drives the genuine underground. Is it any wonder that cliques form and getting in becomes difficult nay impossible?

A second pay as you go simcard with a spare phone we all have from old contracts and a swinging WhatsApp will go a very long way to ing out those that have less than honourable intent

Try and stay safe and swing safe peeps

XXX v

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer the term “following with intent”.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

as mentioned, please report to Admin for them to re_iew and maximise the use of your filters

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Anyway he has been intimidating again tonight so again I've blocked him.

Would you class this behaviour as verging on stalking, he's upsetting and unerving me now.

Just had to say cuz he's scaring me and I'm not sure where to turn apart from keep blocking

Arrange to meet him in a quiet location.

Take a shovel. "

And a bag of lime

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Anyway he has been intimidating again tonight so again I've blocked him.

Would you class this behaviour as verging on stalking, he's upsetting and unerving me now.

Just had to say cuz he's scaring me and I'm not sure where to turn apart from keep blocking"

Id have the your mr answer every message so he knows he cant talk to you. He will soon fuck off the saddo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds horrible

With regards to not being able to report him, you can do it on your phone, but if you get the code wrong, you have to refresh your page to get a new one, it doesn’t do it automatically.

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By *oungalpha20Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria

Block newbies and report to admin. Hope you're okay op?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I blocked again earlier. He's scaring me as his location changes on his profiles, I have no idea where or how close this guy could now be to me.

I reported and blocked him last time he did it. He isn't a newbie and knows exactly what he's doing, that's what is unnerving me"

By blocking newbies people mean block new and unverified profiles from messaging you. It's a site filter you can use.

Or simply stop engaging in his his 'game'. Don't reply to any messages you think might be him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be concerned if I had my face on show. That's another reason that I dont. All you can do is block him and keep reporting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That def needs reporting, i think most will agree it takes lot of messages to actually Get a reply, but if you dont Get one or aint what the person is looking for, move on have some self respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway he has been intimidating again tonight so again I've blocked him.

Would you class this behaviour as verging on stalking, he's upsetting and unerving me now.

Just had to say cuz he's scaring me and I'm not sure where to turn apart from keep blocking"

Intimidating in what way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would be concerned if I had my face on show. That's another reason that I dont. All you can do is block him and keep reporting."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly the same thing happened to me, had it go on for a couple of years. report it. If you feel brace you can report the police because it comes under cyber crime, online harassment.

Mine stopped when I started seeing a new FB who is in the Police, he took my messages and profile details and dealt with it, not sure what he did but it stopped soon after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you also change your username to make it harder for him to find you again?"

And this, and hide your photos for a while. Make yourself unrecognisable and change your location to the opposite end of the country. He will struggle to find you then.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Report. Block. Set filters to almost the maximum, or the maximum.

Be prepared to report to the police, who will be supportive.

Consider paying for site supporter, to change your username. He may find you by distance from him, so he may work out who you are, even when changed. A profile revamp, new text and pics, could confuse him though, if you change the username and he tries to find you by location.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.S OP Couple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Thank you for all the suggestions. I had already done everything most mentioned. This is the 4th time now that I've reported his new profile. He is very devious when he first contacts, which throws me for a couple of messages, hiding his profile, introducing himself, and responding to whatever status update we have put on.

I only posted to ask if others thought it could be classed as any sort of cyber crime and now someone has said yes it can.

I have the messages saved many unanswered, and those answered just read "" leave me alone"". So that's 3 different profile messages saved now. Hopefully I won't have to save anymore. But thank you for listening, xxxxx Suzi

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Just block new member and unverified account.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Just block newbies etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it gets too much you can always escalate it to the appropriate services.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

More than 3 incidents is classed as harassment, so yes. Do all you can to deter him. Block, set your filters differently, change your username x

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

In a word, yes.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Thank you for all the suggestions. I had already done everything most mentioned. This is the 4th time now that I've reported his new profile. He is very devious when he first contacts, which throws me for a couple of messages, hiding his profile, introducing himself, and responding to whatever status update we have put on.

I only posted to ask if others thought it could be classed as any sort of cyber crime and now someone has said yes it can.

I don’t get this ….if he sets up a new account you can block anyone who’s new (newbie). Then he won’t be able to message you at all, unless he has an established account with verifications. If he does have an established account then that can be blocked

If you’ve done everything then this problem will have gone away by now.

This isn’t a criticism but endless comments telling you to filter out newbie accounts, have you ?

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

Change your username and the style of your picture that’s displayed.

Block all newbies and non verified.

Iv had something similar except I gave them my number the first time and I now get contacted every few months by a random ‘new’ person with some crap via what’s app. They also make profiles on here. I just ignore them and block the new number on my phone. I have no idea who they are and it’s been happening for a year. It’s odd but I never give my actual address or the area/real name out so I’m not afraid they will go any further.

They are probably just bored and lonely.

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