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Winking Etiquette

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By *rince_B97 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Afternoon all,

What are your feelings on winking etiquette on here?

My belief is, if someone sends me a wink and I am interested, I will wink back and then it’s up to the person who initiated the winking to message.

Am I wrong to think that? Do the winking initiators think that once they wink, they should be messaged?

One for debate I’m sure.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Sometimes people show an interest by sending a wink, but find it awkward to send the first message.

I generally send a thank yiu message to initiate a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Afternoon all,

What are your feelings on winking etiquette on here?

My belief is, if someone sends me a wink and I am interested, I will wink back and then it’s up to the person who initiated the winking to message.

Am I wrong to think that? Do the winking initiators think that once they wink, they should be messaged?

One for debate I’m sure."

Thats my stance on it. If I wink and get winked back i'll message. Sometimes i'll message without winking but if theres no response then thats fine.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Do what you feel is right for you without worrying about it. I don't think there is an etiquette as such. I always assume that a wink is an expression of interest and we wink back if we're interested too. 99% of those winks seem to disappear into the abyss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only send winks in reply to winks or on Forum winkathons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winking is the last resort when they messaged every profile within 500 miles and got no replies.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Yeah if interested I would wink back but then usually it goes nowhere ..so kinda don't get the whole wink thing to be honest if you like the person just send a decent first message you should get a reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink when I am actually interested, but my first message game sucks. So I'd hope that they would message reply to my wink

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I wink when I am actually interested, but my first message game sucks. So I'd hope that they would message reply to my wink "

Exactly.

BTW- fancy a cuddle?

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

I’m winking right now

If I wink it means I’m interested.

Some do get offended by a winkers!

I think it’s the easier option for us blokes rather then writing a first message to get blanked

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

I’ve had this happen today.

Got a wink this morning. Checked profile and liked what was there so winked back leaving it up to them to decide what to do next.

Nothing as of yet but time will tell.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Afternoon all,

What are your feelings on winking etiquette on here?

My belief is, if someone sends me a wink and I am interested, I will wink back and then it’s up to the person who initiated the winking to message.

Am I wrong to think that? Do the winking initiators think that once they wink, they should be messaged?

One for debate I’m sure."

No one should expect a reply. A wink is just showing interest.

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By *lark_KentMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Some of us are not great with words (dyslexia) , and writing first messages can be difficult at times and that's when I fall back on the trusty wink

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Usually South, Currently North

I find the whole wink thing baffling, especially on the couples profile I have with the other half.

The number of times someone has winked so we’ve messaged and they just ignore is odd.

Plus three times now someone has winked, we’ve winked back, they’ve later winked again so we messaged, they ignore and then several months later wink again

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of us are not great with words (dyslexia) , and writing first messages can be difficult at times and that's when I fall back on the trusty wink"

Create a first message that you can send to everyone. Copy and paste it and just add some info about why you like their profile.

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By *rince_B97 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wirral


"I’ve had this happen today.

Got a wink this morning. Checked profile and liked what was there so winked back leaving it up to them to decide what to do next.

Nothing as of yet but time will tell."

Good luck mate

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By *lark_KentMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Some of us are not great with words (dyslexia) , and writing first messages can be difficult at times and that's when I fall back on the trusty wink

Create a first message that you can send to everyone. Copy and paste it and just add some info about why you like their profile. "

I guess that's a possibility, knowing me I'd paste the wrong message , and you see people moaning about cooy and paste messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink and then within the hour have probably forgotten that I did.

Anyway, I thought everyone already knew the rules. If wink at someone and they wink back, this seals the contract

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Winks are like a bit of old fashioned flirting in a pub.

Some people like them, some don't & they are easy to ignore if needed.

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By *ornyone30Man
over a year ago

ABERDEEN

If a guy winks at me I wink back. If a woman winks (still waiting) i wouldn't wink I'd message her.

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By *rince_B97 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wirral


"I wink and then within the hour have probably forgotten that I did.

Anyway, I thought everyone already knew the rules. If wink at someone and they wink back, this seals the contract "

Interesting! I wonder what the terms of this contract are.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"Sometimes people show an interest by sending a wink, but find it awkward to send the first message.

I generally send a thank yiu message to initiate a conversation. "
This. Being shy here isn't helpful to either of you.

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By *itty_gizmoCouple
over a year ago

Mordor

We wink at those we're interested in as a way of showing we're interested without bothering them but if they wink back we'll message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get winked i assume they have something in their eye.

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By *iss_FickleWoman
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

I've never sent one, if I'm honest I don't really see the point... That's probably why I don't check mine also.

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By *owbadisbadMan
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham

I see it as a polite way of introducing yourself, but maybe by me being polite, hopefully articulate and a gentleman I get to no interest! Do people appreciate the direct approach?! Doubt it!

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

I enjoy the rare occasion that I get a wink. If I like their profile then I immediately message, thanking for the wink, then going on to say a little more about me and comments on their profile. I have met some lovely people from Fab all from a little wink.

Please wink away.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I never look at the winks. Much prefer someone be direct and message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink at those who I'm am interested in, if I receive one in response I will message thanking them for the wink, if I get no response then I Continue as though they are not interested and say no more, if I receive a wink first I will message saying thanks

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By *arah_tv999TV/TS
over a year ago

Oxford

A wink is useful when:

A) the profile has pictures but virtually zero text or at least nothing that could be used to start a conversation. In these cases a wink is an invite to them to initiate a conversation, or

B) when I'm in a hurry and I've seen a profile that interests me and will come back later to write something more thoughtful. Although I do forget at times to do the latter.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

If you like someone, just send them a msg. Don't bother with a wink.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Afternoon all,

What are your feelings on winking etiquette on here?

My belief is, if someone sends me a wink and I am interested, I will wink back and then it’s up to the person who initiated the winking to message.

Am I wrong to think that? Do the winking initiators think that once they wink, they should be messaged?

One for debate I’m sure."

That’s what I think

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