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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

If you can’t have banter with someone what is the point

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"If you can’t have banter with someone what is the point "

Please expand and explain...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Good natured banter is great.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

Just have a laugh tease each other

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

It’s subjective. One person’s banter can be another person’s bullying

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Good natured banter is great. "
so true

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"It’s subjective. One person’s banter can be another person’s bullying "
I mean in a good way

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Good natured banter is great. so true "

Yeah. It's a dying art

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Good natured banter is great. so true

Yeah. It's a dying art "
comes naturally to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a good bit of banter

Mrs x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I enjoy good banter with someone I can match and who I know understands my humour. Like today when I had three chocolate biscuits and told Mr N I would turn into a spotty minger and he replied "instead of just a minger"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a bit of banter but unfortunately people are so easily offended these days that banter has to really be tamed down. I know I think before I speak a lot more, especially with some people and in certain places, here being one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love a bit of banter but unfortunately people are so easily offended these days that banter has to really be tamed down. I know I think before I speak a lot more, especially with some people and in certain places, here being one of them."

You can always have banter with me Mrs.. been a loong time since we had banter

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Love a good bit of banter

Mrs x"
it’s always best

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I enjoy good banter with someone I can match and who I know understands my humour. Like today when I had three chocolate biscuits and told Mr N I would turn into a spotty minger and he replied "instead of just a minger" "
good one lol

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I love a bit of banter but unfortunately people are so easily offended these days that banter has to really be tamed down. I know I think before I speak a lot more, especially with some people and in certain places, here being one of them."
well that’s on them they need to get over them selfs

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I think it helps if the person you are having the banter with is someone you know really well. Not everyone understands the other person's sense of humour and that can lead arguements and violence, when alcohol is being consumed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having banter on here and someone not taking out it out of context would be a miracle x

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"I think it helps if the person you are having the banter with is someone you know really well. Not everyone understands the other person's sense of humour and that can lead arguements and violence, when alcohol is being consumed. "

Definitely. True banter needs to be unbridled and creative and you don’t need to be worrying about causing offence. Old friends, siblings and other family members and partners are best for banter I think.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I think it helps if the person you are having the banter with is someone you know really well. Not everyone understands the other person's sense of humour and that can lead arguements and violence, when alcohol is being consumed. "
I am on about on a date or with someone with

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"I love a bit of banter but unfortunately people are so easily offended these days that banter has to really be tamed down. I know I think before I speak a lot more, especially with some people and in certain places, here being one of them."

Agree.

What annoys we most though is a person who is present but not one of the two people having banter going into ‘You can’t say that to people’ mode.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it helps if the person you are having the banter with is someone you know really well. Not everyone understands the other person's sense of humour and that can lead arguements and violence, when alcohol is being consumed.

Definitely. True banter needs to be unbridled and creative and you don’t need to be worrying about causing offence. Old friends, siblings and other family members and partners are best for banter I think. "

I have to agree with you. It definitely doesn't go down well always with folks you don't know well.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I don't do banter, chatting inane drivel is my speciality

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

I love banter... just a shame when others don't get it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You have to know your audience. Deliberately being hurtful or offensive and expecting other people to accept it because you think it's "just banter" isn't funny

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Dictionary definition

"The playful and friendly exchange of teasing remarks.”

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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

When you meet someone that has the same sort of humour and you just bounce off each other.. Then that's great.

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street


"You have to know your audience. Deliberately being hurtful or offensive and expecting other people to accept it because you think it's "just banter" isn't funny "

I'd like to think I do... I will take a hint..but have had an ongoing conversation with a gent who insists on using a term that really annoys me... apart from which he's lovely... its now no longer banter, just irritating

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"You have to know your audience. Deliberately being hurtful or offensive and expecting other people to accept it because you think it's "just banter" isn't funny "

Exactly, I've spent most of ma working life on building sites, and we always had a good laugh, but it's nice when people know where to draw the line

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You have to know your audience. Deliberately being hurtful or offensive and expecting other people to accept it because you think it's "just banter" isn't funny

I'd like to think I do... I will take a hint..but have had an ongoing conversation with a gent who insists on using a term that really annoys me... apart from which he's lovely... its now no longer banter, just irritating "

I've seen it too often among men to say really hurtful things to each other under the guise of "bants" and as a way to accuse people of lacking a sense of humour because they're hurt or offended by someone's "jokes".

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"You have to know your audience. Deliberately being hurtful or offensive and expecting other people to accept it because you think it's "just banter" isn't funny "

Banter is reciprocal, if it’s not reciprocal it’s not banter.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You have to know your audience. Deliberately being hurtful or offensive and expecting other people to accept it because you think it's "just banter" isn't funny

Exactly, I've spent most of ma working life on building sites, and we always had a good laugh, but it's nice when people know where to draw the line "

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s subjective. One person’s banter can be another person’s bullying "

Agreed. It's why I always take my time getting to know people before fully opening up and fully having banter with them. It's so that I know which buttons to press with which person so it can remain light hearted. Being able to take it is also a big part of it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are way too serious, just smile Abit and let go, have a laugh.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Some people are way too serious, just smile Abit and let go, have a laugh. "

Can I borrow your floor?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are way too serious, just smile Abit and let go, have a laugh.

Can I borrow your floor?

"

Huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trick is to banter with the right people...the ones who take as good as they give!

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"The trick is to banter with the right people...the ones who take as good as they give! "

And avoid those who don't

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"When you meet someone that has the same sort of humour and you just bounce off each other.. Then that's great. "
most definitely

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By *ysyphusMan
over a year ago

Starbase K-7

There are a lot of good points made on this thread, but there are quite a few people on this site who don't know, or don't care about the boundaries.

Banter is great, when it's two evenly matched characters, but when one sides' mates weigh in, and some of the language gets on the strong side, it's no longer fun, nor funny.

Don't look so much for this in the lounge, look in the sideshows, where the big fish in small ponds lurk.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Banter works much better with the full 360° experience of an in-person conversation. It doesn't work so well in the stark written word. Tone of voice, body language etc all add to the sentiment behind the words.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

Laughter, good banter ,great evening

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