FabSwingers.com forum: A question for men

By *oyeur69123 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Uxbridge

You like a woman's picture and profile. You write and introduce yourself using respectful language, yet letting her know you're up for fun. Your message comes to 80 words.

You receive a reply. You're in an excited state as you click on it - only to find a short one-word answer: Hi

Do you:

A) Ignore it and her?

B) Write her a scathing or sarky response calling her a lazy b?

C) See it as an invitation to try even harder?

D) None of the above.

Me? I went for A. Life's too short to waste time chasing shadows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least she answered

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I would assume it as an indication that she is interested in starting chatting to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go for C and take it that the lady is not dismissing you but would like to know more, however a similar reply to teh second message would probably mean me moving on as it is hard to strike up a one way conversation

I would though never send a sarky or scathing reply to anybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least she answered "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If you want or needed a fuller reply you probably made the right decision.

What kind of reply would you have liked to receive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

E - respond politely, thanking them for their response and say hi back. Obviously there was a reason for me to make initial contact so I wouldnt take a reply of just hi as being rude, it may be the person I messaged is a little bit shy/coy and is not sure how to reply to my message.

If, after several messages I am still getting 1 word answers, I would choose to thank them for their time and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you get a reply of any kind it's a reply and if its in any way positive then its something to build on. HI from a lady that's getting 100 messages a day is a great sign that she likes what she's read but doesn't have time to write a massive reply. Once you send a follow up message she knows you meant what you wrote and should then start interacting more with you - that's my theory anyway

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

She might be interested in chatting but it sounds as though she wants you to do all the work so I would move on. I certainly wouldn't be trying harder.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Your lucky to get a reply

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Just cut and paste it changing names ..Times locations etc and send it to the next one....or leave it multiple choice....ie ..I really like your long/short blonde/dark/red hair ..

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Initiate a chat. What’s the big deal

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By *iPythonMan
over a year ago

In my pants

I’d reply and keep chatting! I wanted a response and got one don’t see what the issue is

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Just dont let it phase you and carry on as normal. That's what I'd do anyway.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"You like a woman's picture and profile. You write and introduce yourself using respectful language, yet letting her know you're up for fun. Your message comes to 80 words.

You receive a reply. You're in an excited state as you click on it - only to find a short one-word answer: Hi

Do you:

A) Ignore it and her?

B) Write her a scathing or sarky response calling her a lazy b?

C) See it as an invitation to try even harder?

D) None of the above.

Me? I went for A. Life's too short to waste time chasing shadows. "

We think you have your head on right.

1: she gave yo-yo nothing to bounce off, so what does she expect would come from such a bland response?

2: she sounds entirely devoid of personality and as a direct result, unflinchingly inept in the art of conversation

3: you literally don’t even know she was a she or that she was the she in the pics.

Good call.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Any guy saying anything other than A is doing himself a disservice

You put all the effort in and get a 2 letter response and your still going for it? Are you that desperate?

Sorry to sound harsh but have some self respect.

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By *ubandsubCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Maybe after replying to probably a hundred hopeful guys, hi is all she could manage and I would of taken that as a opportunity to take the conversation further. Maybe ask if she had, had chance to look at your profile and did she like it.

Some people expect it handing on a plate to them because its a swingers site.....rant over

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"If you get a reply of any kind it's a reply and if its in any way positive then its something to build on. HI from a lady that's getting 100 messages a day is a great sign that she likes what she's read but doesn't have time to write a massive reply. Once you send a follow up message she knows you meant what you wrote and should then start interacting more with you - that's my theory anyway

This

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Couldn't really say unless I had seen the message, but I take it whatever you had written she wasn't interested in so A.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"You like a woman's picture and profile. You write and introduce yourself using respectful language, yet letting her know you're up for fun. Your message comes to 80 words.

You receive a reply. You're in an excited state as you click on it - only to find a short one-word answer: Hi

Do you:

A) Ignore it and her?

B) Write her a scathing or sarky response calling her a lazy b?

C) See it as an invitation to try even harder?

D) None of the above.

Me? I went for A. Life's too short to waste time chasing shadows. "

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Any guy saying anything other than A is doing himself a disservice

You put all the effort in and get a 2 letter response and your still going for it? Are you that desperate?

Sorry to sound harsh but have some self respect. "

Absolutely

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It is very difficult to respond to "hi" with anything meaningful though.

"How are you?" Often results in

"Fine!"

Maybe I'd try "would you like to chat more,?" and see where it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any guy saying anything other than A is doing himself a disservice

You put all the effort in and get a 2 letter response and your still going for it? Are you that desperate?

Sorry to sound harsh but have some self respect. "

I agree with this. "She replied" - you're worth more. We are all worth more.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Just out of interest, do women respond to messages that just say 'Hi'?

I've had a few over the years and don't, but then I don't respond to winks either. I need to see a little effort on the part of the person trying to communicate with me. If all you can muster is 'Hi', it doesn't really bode will for future communications / interactions.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Maybe after replying to probably a hundred hopeful guys, hi is all she could manage and I would of taken that as a opportunity to take the conversation further. Maybe ask if she had, had chance to look at your profile and did she like it.

Some people expect it handing on a plate to them because its a swingers site.....rant over "

They do but I wouldn't say that in the example quoted that is the op.

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By *oyeur69123 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Uxbridge

Thanks. My feelings too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just out of interest, do women respond to messages that just say 'Hi'?

We sometimes say hi back. It very rarely elicits a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just out of interest, do women respond to messages that just say 'Hi'?

I delete the short, no effort messages. No reply.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Any reply is a reply = any hole is a goal

Seriously guys, have some damn self respect. You might find that by having some, you get better responses from women actually worth replying to

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I was on the opposite side of this last week. I was at work when a message came in.

I started typing, Hi was my first word, and then I was asked about something and I thought I had closed my phone. Eh naw, I had pressed send instead, eeeeek. I got a pretty sharp reply! I did explain what happened but I was met with an impression of Casper, except he was friendly.

OP I would take the Hi as a reason to send a message as it wasn't rude or abusive.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

If its a reply of any kind I reply with hi and politely ask them.ro tell me more about them.

If I get .otjing back as is often.ghe case I move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I throw a street party if I get just a Hi

Tbf women get 100s of msgs so I don't blame them for deleting most with no reply

If they reply, I'd engage in conversation but you will soon see if they are interested, if it's always 1 word answers I'd just stop messaging and move on...they probably won't notice anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd go C

Send another message with some more effort and information

Then wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any reply is a reply = any hole is a goal

Seriously guys, have some damn self respect. You might find that by having some, you get better responses from women actually worth replying to "

Thats not exactly true - any reply being a reply to a message to a woman you want and have taken the time to message, so your any holes a goal analogy doesn't work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a chaser and that reply shows weak energy anyway

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

As I've said many times I don't send messages so this scenario won't apply but on the flip side I've had my share of one word introductory messages.

Then there are the fabtag messages blowing smoke up my arse and expecting a similar response or for me to chase after them while they respond with one word answers. If it's like getting blood from a stone it's not what I'm looking for so they will be disappointed.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would assume it as an indication that she is interested in starting chatting to you"

Agreed , she is waiting to hear the next msg from you , hi is just she dont know what to quite say maybe

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Any reply is a reply = any hole is a goal

Seriously guys, have some damn self respect. You might find that by having some, you get better responses from women actually worth replying to

Thats not exactly true - any reply being a reply to a message to a woman you want and have taken the time to message, so your any holes a goal analogy doesn't work!"

It works because your saying “any reply, no matter how low effort it may be, is a hood enough reply to lower my self to engage with”

Same as “any vagina is worth a fuck because I’m desperate”

Like I said, I don’t wanna sound harsh, but have some fucking dignity

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If I wanted to engage with someone who had sent a message then my reply would be more than a "Hi"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on, if they aren't putting any effort in then they are probably relying on looks alone to get what they want or want pandered to.

Either way you're worth more than that.

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By *llovereveryMan
over a year ago

Halifax

"You like a woman's picture and profile. You write and introduce yourself using respectful language, yet letting her know you're up for fun. Your message comes to 80 words.

You receive a reply. You're in an excited state as you click on it - only to find a short one-word answer: Hi

Do you:

A) Ignore it and her?

B) Write her a scathing or sarky response calling her a lazy b?

C) See it as an invitation to try even harder?

D) None of the above.

Me? I went for A. Life's too short to waste time chasing shadows. "

A - Given you were expecting her reply to be similar to your initial message (80 words). Obviously receiving a 1 word must be disappointing or discouraging.

I agree with chasing shadows. Focus on people that are willing to communicate with you on your level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you put in the message. But if you spent a lot of time messaging then a simple hi. Ladies may get lots of messages but if you have opened it you have time to read it.

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Personally I’d go for A, zero point time wasting for a very short response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You like a woman's picture and profile. You write and introduce yourself using respectful language, yet letting her know you're up for fun. Your message comes to 80 words.

You receive a reply. You're in an excited state as you click on it - only to find a short one-word answer: Hi

Do you:

A) Ignore it and her?

B) Write her a scathing or sarky response calling her a lazy b?

C) See it as an invitation to try even harder?

D) None of the above.

Me? I went for A. Life's too short to waste time chasing shadows. "

When I was a singleton on here my response would have been.

" Hi - Thank you for reading my message and replying"

And if anything came back just take it from there

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Any reply is a reply = any hole is a goal

Seriously guys, have some damn self respect. You might find that by having some, you get better responses from women actually worth replying to

Thats not exactly true - any reply being a reply to a message to a woman you want and have taken the time to message, so your any holes a goal analogy doesn't work!

It works because your saying “any reply, no matter how low effort it may be, is a hood enough reply to lower my self to engage with”

Same as “any vagina is worth a fuck because I’m desperate”

Like I said, I don’t wanna sound harsh, but have some fucking dignity "

I think the point you are making (one of them at least) is that men shouldn't simply be required to suck up any old message, simply because they are men on a swinging site. The overwhelming majority of women here (rightly, in my opinion) would not reply to a one word message, so why should we.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any reply is a reply = any hole is a goal

Seriously guys, have some damn self respect. You might find that by having some, you get better responses from women actually worth replying to

Thats not exactly true - any reply being a reply to a message to a woman you want and have taken the time to message, so your any holes a goal analogy doesn't work!

It works because your saying “any reply, no matter how low effort it may be, is a hood enough reply to lower my self to engage with”

Same as “any vagina is worth a fuck because I’m desperate”

Like I said, I don’t wanna sound harsh, but have some fucking dignity

I get that but i will re-message as I wouldn't know the back story of just a Hi reply, could be lots of reasons ie.. she could be shy and not confident at chatting,so for me I will try and get a conversation started. The lady replyed so I will reply back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women hold the keys to all the doors on here and get probably 3000 messages a day so to even get a reply that says hi is better than most will get so go for it , she said hi for a reason

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Initiate a chat. What’s the big deal "

In fairness I think he did. It's tough chatting to a one word responder.

I think my second message would be along the lines of "would you like to chat about .."

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a copy and paste "hi". Says a lot in my books aspecially since you put the effort in to say hello. Imagine the conversation at a meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women hold the keys to all the doors on here and get probably 3000 messages a day so to even get a reply that says hi is better than most will get so go for it , she said hi for a reason "

And if, out of all those other messages, she replies to you - you think "Hi" is a sign that she's really engaged? If I reply to a message in that way it's because I'm being polite. But I have to wait to find a way to get out of the conversation in order to carry on being polite to someone who seems nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like a copy and paste "hi". Says a lot in my books aspecially since you put the effort in to say hello. Imagine the conversation at a meeting.

It would take longer to copy and paste Hi than just type it surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D - none of the above

She’s acknowledged and replied to you at least. Just take it from there it’s an indication, start a conversation and see where it goes.

I assume you’ve already introduced yourself in the 80 word count message. So now make conversation

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Women hold the keys to all the doors on here and get probably 3000 messages a day so to even get a reply that says hi is better than most will get so go for it , she said hi for a reason "

A “hi” to me says she’s sent that to 100 other lads to see which one will make the bigger fool out of himself by desperately replying to anything he thinks might get him even a hint of fanny

Like I says before, women worth meeting will probably like you more if you had some self respect

Desperation stinks and women can smell it a mile off

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Send a dick pic!

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By *ysyphusMan
over a year ago

Starbase K-7

E- FAF?

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By *rince_B97Man
over a year ago

Wirral

The fact she replies is a blessing. If she didn’t reply or replied saying she wasn’t interested then you would stop. If she says hi, there is part of her that must want to chat. How’s your chance to win her over.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"You like a woman's picture and profile. You write and introduce yourself using respectful language, yet letting her know you're up for fun. Your message comes to 80 words.

You receive a reply. You're in an excited state as you click on it - only to find a short one-word answer: Hi

Do you:

A) Ignore it and her?

B) Write her a scathing or sarky response calling her a lazy b?

C) See it as an invitation to try even harder?

D) None of the above.

Me? I went for A. Life's too short to waste time chasing shadows. "

The most common reply I’ve received is “Lol x” at which point I choose A

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why would someone message "hi" if they didn't want to chat ?

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma

I'm always surprised by the amount of imaginary scenarios conjured up to support another go at responding again.

She could have just answered a 100000 messages, she could be having a bad day and she might be, could be, maybe.

She simply said Hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never ignore it. Even if its a thank you and all the best message as some do reply to say you're not for them. Plus you have to imagine how many messages women get on here compared to men. Having to write lengthy messages to 100s of people can get monotonous for women so it's a good sign if they have replied back and said hi. Something in your message clearly attracted them to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would someone message "hi" if they didn't want to chat ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's fascinating how differently men and women answer this. Women seem to mostly interpret a one word message as "no effort" or lazy. Men seem to mostly interpret a one word message as "a start". It kinda explains some of the chats I end up having.

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma

"Why would someone message "hi" if they didn't want to chat ?

Nicely done sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like a copy and paste "hi". Says a lot in my books aspecially since you put the effort in to say hello. Imagine the conversation at a meeting.

It would take longer to copy and paste Hi than just type it surely

Quicker to do 3 Hi's with a copy and paste.

I could copy and paste on computer faster for 1 Hi though.

Maybe OP should ask if on phone or computer.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Just out of interest, do women respond to messages that just say 'Hi'?

We sometimes say hi back. It very rarely elicits a response. "

I do that too, if I like the sound of the profile. If it's a "fill in later" and the message is "hi" then I know it's going to be very hard work so I tend not to respond.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"If I reply to a message in that way it's because I'm being polite. But I have to wait to find a way to get out of the conversation in order to carry on being polite to someone who seems nice. "

Obviously your call, but do you think there's an argument to say that no response is actually more polite than a "Hi" as a delay tactic, trying not to hurt someone's feelings? As you can see from some of the responses here, that "hi" means so much more to some people and their eventual 'fall is going to be even greater.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women hold the keys to all the doors on here and get probably 3000 messages a day so to even get a reply that says hi is better than most will get so go for it , she said hi for a reason

A simple hi could mean she is shy or maybe wants to hear the next msg before deciding or she could be waiting to be bombarded with multiple messages , many factors in play here , the investigation continues

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I'd reply back with "Hi"

You never know, it could lead to a meet.

The only time that I'd go for option A, is if they had requested that people messaging them didn't just send 'one liners'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You like a woman's picture and profile. You write and introduce yourself using respectful language, yet letting her know you're up for fun. Your message comes to 80 words.

You receive a reply. You're in an excited state as you click on it - only to find a short one-word answer: Hi

Do you:

A) Ignore it and her?

B) Write her a scathing or sarky response calling her a lazy b?

C) See it as an invitation to try even harder?

D) None of the above.

Me? I went for A. Life's too short to waste time chasing shadows. "

or E. reply with a totally out of context tirade of abuse because she didnt immediately fall in love with the 138 dicks pics on my profile.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

This is why I don't even open alot of my messages! But if I do I allways reply politely all b it a short or one word reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A-then block. no use having wasted profiles blocking up the feed

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Women hold the keys to all the doors on here "

You don't honestly believe that do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women hold the keys to all the doors on here

You don't honestly believe that do you?

No I dont everything is mutual on here though attraction and other things , but women get soo many messages and a huge percentage is rude and vile hence why they are cautious and rightly so I've seen what some men msg the women on here , they must be scared to look in their inbox some days it's a joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'd wrote a well thought out message (not likely) and I got a reply saying "hi", or something very short, I'd probably take it as them being passive so would leave it at that.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Ahh OP

Whatever happened to,,

You had me at Hello?

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Women hold the keys to all the doors on here

You don't honestly believe that do you?

Yes, I agree that women have a harder time sifting through the wheat from the chaff. I just wish some men here would have a little more respect for themselves (as well, of course, for the women they contact).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go for option A

If she was interested a well constructed message would deserve a better response than just "Hi"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women hold the keys to all the doors on here

You don't honestly believe that do you?

Here here mr speaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men/women with self respect = turn on

men/women with no self respect and dessperation = massive turn off...

pretty simple

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By *anuel ducatiMan
over a year ago

leyburn

Some people expect it handing on a plate to them because its a swingers site.....rant over "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"E - respond politely, thanking them for their response and say hi back. Obviously there was a reason for me to make initial contact so I wouldnt take a reply of just hi as being rude, it may be the person I messaged is a little bit shy/coy and is not sure how to reply to my message.

If, after several messages I am still getting 1 word answers, I would choose to thank them for their time and move on."

Exactly this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tbh i never message first, most my messages are usually recieve i open to a close up picture of a gaping vigina with 'interested?' Written, i dont reply to those.

When she makes the effort to write a proper message ill reply with more than 'hi' its abit lazy isnt it.

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By *ornyone30Man
over a year ago

ABERDEEN

Give it another go, I assume your initial message was about yourself, so this time ask her a few things about herself. If it's a similar response then move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be buzzing to get a reply haha. Don't overthink and go with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D. collapsed from the shock of getting a reply.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

" tbh i never message first, most my messages are usually recieve i open to a close up picture of a gaping vigina with 'interested?' Written, i dont reply to those.

When she makes the effort to write a proper message ill reply with more than 'hi' its abit lazy isnt it.

No not lazy at all if u get so many would need a pa x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" tbh i never message first, most my messages are usually recieve i open to a close up picture of a gaping vigina with 'interested?' Written, i dont reply to those.

When she makes the effort to write a proper message ill reply with more than 'hi' its abit lazy isnt it.

No not lazy at all if u get so many would need a pa x"

I thought G meant "hi" was a bit lazy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I reply to a message in that way it's because I'm being polite. But I have to wait to find a way to get out of the conversation in order to carry on being polite to someone who seems nice.

Gbat

If someone has sent me a decent message then I reply. Sometimes I do reply with "thanks but not interested" but if they haven't actually asked to meet it's awkward to do that. Partly because men get the hump and give me grief if I do that.

Partly because I often think we are having a friendly chat (via the forum) but the guy thinks it's more. Then it becomes clear he thinks that and I have to say "not interested". I've just had to block someone this morning after he wouldn't take no I don't want to chat as an answer.

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Any guy saying anything other than A is doing himself a disservice

You put all the effort in and get a 2 letter response and your still going for it? Are you that desperate?

Sorry to sound harsh but have some self respect. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any guy saying anything other than A is doing himself a disservice

You put all the effort in and get a 2 letter response and your still going for it? Are you that desperate?

Sorry to sound harsh but have some self respect. "

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

" tbh i never message first, most my messages are usually recieve i open to a close up picture of a gaping vigina with 'interested?' Written, i dont reply to those.

When she makes the effort to write a proper message ill reply with more than 'hi' its abit lazy isnt it.

No not lazy at all if u get so many would need a pa x

I thought G meant "hi" was a bit lazy?"

Yes that's what I took it to mean x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's fascinating how differently men and women answer this. Women seem to mostly interpret a one word message as "no effort" or lazy. Men seem to mostly interpret a one word message as "a start". It kinda explains some of the chats I end up having. "

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" tbh i never message first, most my messages are usually recieve i open to a close up picture of a gaping vigina with 'interested?' Written, i dont reply to those.

When she makes the effort to write a proper message ill reply with more than 'hi' its abit lazy isnt it.

No not lazy at all if u get so many would need a pa x

I thought G meant "hi" was a bit lazy?"

Correct, i think a message warrants a proper reply

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

"Any guy saying anything other than A is doing himself a disservice

You put all the effort in and get a 2 letter response and your still going for it? Are you that desperate?

Sorry to sound harsh but have some self respect. "

Definitely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey a guy complaining they actually got a reply from a female, thats a first!

I know I'm female but speaking as one, maybe she is

A) to polite to say she isn't interested but doesn't know how to tell you and doesn't want to block you

B) she is shy (not everyone is super confident) and doesn't know what else to say

C) maybe your message didn't read like there was any questions and wasn't anything she could say other than "hi"

D) she was actually a dude and he panicked!

Danish x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blimey a guy complaining they actually got a reply from a female, thats a first!

I know I'm female but speaking as one, maybe she is

A) to polite to say she isn't interested but doesn't know how to tell you and doesn't want to block you

B) she is shy (not everyone is super confident) and doesn't know what else to say

C) maybe your message didn't read like there was any questions and wasn't anything she could say other than "hi"

D) she was actually a dude and he panicked!

Danish x"

A for me (thank god someone else feels this way!)

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Yorks/Lincs

block , so she doesn t appear on your search again, short abrupt one word replies ,your on a fools errand , dont waste your time , and use your common sense ....

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