FabSwingers.com forum: I gave it all up for love!

By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

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I am curious if anyone has ever given up on a dream, or something important to you, for love.

You meet what is the perfect person, you are madly in love and can see a real future together. But, then it becomes apparent that there is a crucial difference and it's something you don't want to give up on!

It could be kids, maybe they didn't want kids but you do and can't past it.

Or, they saw there future in another country and you just can not leave your family behind.

Have you ever given up on anything for love?

Did you regret it? Or, was absolutely worth it?

Would you give it 'all' up for love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up my career for my children. Does that count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am curious if anyone has ever given up on a dream, or something important to you, for love.

It could be kids, maybe they didn't want kids but you do and can't past it.

Or, they saw there future in another country and you just can not leave your family behind.

Have you ever given up on anything for love?

Did you regret it? Or, was absolutely worth it?

Would you give it 'all' up for love?

I have up so much for my ex and I worked insane hours at work and also took on her 3 kids.

Just for her to cheat twice and nurse me as a cash cow

Lesson learnt though and I’ll always put my dreams first now

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

Yes. It certainty does count Rachel x

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I moved to be with her even got engaged to be with her even though she couldn't have anymore children... Only to have it thrown back in my face as she cheated.

The end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. It certainty does count Rachel x"

I was a senior rate in the Royal Navy. I quit when I became a single parent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I moved to be with her even got engaged to be with her even though she couldn't have anymore children... Only to have it thrown back in my face as she cheated.

The end "

Feel your pain buddy

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I was fortune enough to spend a lot of my early working years abroad. I was planning to move to the US or Canada but then met Alexis. 30 years later still in the UK. Does that count.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I gave up my single male account for love

Actually I’ve still got it but it’s used for arranging surprises for C now

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"Yes. It certainty does count Rachel x

I was a senior rate in the Royal Navy. I quit when I became a single parent. "

Sacrifices always count were children are concerned xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i did the opposit.

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover

When we first got together I was working, peripherally, in the world of TV and film, earning a small fortune in return for zero job security and hardly ever being home. I walked away from that in order to build the relationship. Eighteen years later I still take home only slightly more in a month than I used to be able to earn in a week…

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Yes. It certainty does count Rachel x

I was a senior rate in the Royal Navy. I quit when I became a single parent. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr gave up his career and desire to move to NZ for me. I gave up my desire to move to Norway for him.

We've stayed in his home town, 15 minutes away from mine since.

All worth it

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By *sk me anythingMan
over a year ago

leeds

I found a woman who I would run through walls for. I loved her bones

We would talk and hours felt like minutes and every time we met it just got better and better

We both however were in relationships, we weren’t looking for anyone else or having an affair.

I ended mine, and gave away any financial security I had to make a new, clean start

She is still with her partner, 4 years later we still text every single day

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By *ocky82Man
over a year ago

Watford

Gave up a holiday of a life time 18 yrs ago all paid for, I was packing my case and decided I wasn’t going as I’d met my now wife and didn’t want to leave her.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I moved to be with her even got engaged to be with her even though she couldn't have anymore children... Only to have it thrown back in my face as she cheated.

The end

Feel your pain buddy"

It's terrible at times you do the things to be close that each other wants.ive learned and know how much that person now and Even over the years must be kicking themselves regretting their actions but it's shows in life people never understand that sometimes things that cross their paths in life could be a once in a lifetime and screw it up. My ex's excuse was she assumed I would've cheated so she jumped in first.i despise folk whom do as it's not in my ability.

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By *utdooorsyguyMan
over a year ago

town

My sense of identity.

Got involved with a lovely married couple two years ago, gave up hobbies as they wanted to spend more time together, ignored my own need for time alone to make sure they were happy, argued with family about the relationship, became the person that they wanted me to be rather than being my self. I think I was too blinded by the fact I was with two women to see that I was loosing friends, who I was and what I wanted out of life

Haha, sorry that's some very deep stuff right there!!

(We still friends now, but relationship wise we were just too different)

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

I gave up having kids for my ex as he didn’t want them.

He cheated and got her pregnant.

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By *XSnoopy72XXMan
over a year ago

lots of places

"I am curious if anyone has ever given up on a dream, or something important to you, for love.

It could be kids, maybe they didn't want kids but you do and can't past it.

Or, they saw there future in another country and you just can not leave your family behind.

Have you ever given up on anything for love?

Did you regret it? Or, was absolutely worth it?

Would you give it 'all' up for love?

I gave up a very very well paid job to take care of my children after my wife passed away, do i regret it not one bit I loved every minute

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By *XSnoopy72XXMan
over a year ago

lots of places

"I am curious if anyone has ever given up on a dream, or something important to you, for love.

It could be kids, maybe they didn't want kids but you do and can't past it.

Or, they saw there future in another country and you just can not leave your family behind.

Have you ever given up on anything for love?

Did you regret it? Or, was absolutely worth it?

Would you give it 'all' up for love?

I gave up a very very well paid job to take care of my children after my wife passed away, do i regret it not one bit I loved every minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up my dream job to follow my ex. I was young and stupid but I csnt regret it because it brought me to here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave up having kids for my ex as he didn’t want them.

He cheated and got her pregnant.

Sorry to hear that, hugs xo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have given up the home I had, the lifestyle I had and a lot of my time for love. My husbands work is extremely demanding and I have sacrificed a lot so he can pursue his career choice. It's not a career I would ever choose but it's all he has ever wanted to do so I fully support.

He supports me in so many other ways so it's swings and roundabouts. We both have given up on things/do things we wouldn't choose to do for each other. It's called a partnership/marriage filled with true love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am curious if anyone has ever given up on a dream, or something important to you, for love.

It could be kids, maybe they didn't want kids but you do and can't past it.

Or, they saw there future in another country and you just can not leave your family behind.

Have you ever given up on anything for love?

Did you regret it? Or, was absolutely worth it?

Would you give it 'all' up for love?

I gave up a very very well paid job to take care of my children after my wife passed away, do i regret it not one bit I loved every minute "

Sorry for your loss xo

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

"I gave up having kids for my ex as he didn’t want them.

He cheated and got her pregnant.

Sorry to hear that, hugs xo"

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am curious if anyone has ever given up on a dream, or something important to you, for love.

It could be kids, maybe they didn't want kids but you do and can't past it.

Or, they saw there future in another country and you just can not leave your family behind.

Have you ever given up on anything for love?

Did you regret it? Or, was absolutely worth it?

Would you give it 'all' up for love?

I have up so much for my ex and I worked insane hours at work and also took on her 3 kids.

Just for her to cheat twice and nurse me as a cash cow

Lesson learnt though and I’ll always put my dreams first now

Hugs xo

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington

"Yes. It certainty does count Rachel x

I was a senior rate in the Royal Navy. I quit when I became a single parent. "
hello ex-sailor,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been in love, but I gave up my life for the love of my unborn child - I was coming home to tell her we should split up and she told me she was pregnant before I got to say my bit, so that was that, 3 months later we moved in to the house I bought and I stayed loveless and pretty much sexless for another 11 years. I wouldn't change it though! Yes I would love for it to have been different, but obviously the bairns are worth it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I did was stupid young first love bs

She was sweet and careing in the start

Once we movied in together things changed

Was told to pick bween her or my friends so gave them up

On my 21st birthday was ment to be give a gift from my dad substantial amount off money life changing

We he found out it was to be going in to a joint bank account I was told he wouldn’t put it in

She left the party I stayed

The next day I was told to choose her or my family

I picked her

Now she had me all to her self

That’s when the real nastiest started

I was told I wasn’t good nuff for her

I was told if she leave me I will die old and alown because no one wants me

I was told she could go off and “shag” who she liked and I would still take her back

Then I was told she didn’t want me anymore

She left with a key

I went to work

She stole all the money out the bank

And cleaned everything out the house

Left me broken beyond repair

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No, I was brought up to be independent of a man (for good reasons due to issues I won’t go into here) and that their dreams should go side by side of yours and not placed more importance of.

I am also extremely selfish.

So I guess in a way, I was always destined to never give it all up for romantic love. But I’ve never been placed in a position to have to question that either.

However, I have given up my own home and moved to a different town to help look after my mum and I have left behind a good, well paid job to have children (although I was made redundant during first pregnancy anyway).

To me, family is forever. Romantic love not so much. I place far more importance on my family. Rightly or wrongly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave up my career for my children. Does that count?

Such an important thing to do - I am sure that extra time with the kids is rimless and worth more than any career

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"Yes I did was stupid young first love bs

She was sweet and careing in the start

Once we movied in together things changed

Was told to pick bween her or my friends so gave them up

On my 21st birthday was ment to be give a gift from my dad substantial amount off money life changing

We he found out it was to be going in to a joint bank account I was told he wouldn’t put it in

She left the party I stayed

The next day I was told to choose her or my family

I picked her

Now she had me all to her self

That’s when the real nastiest started

I was told I wasn’t good nuff for her

I was told if she leave me I will die old and alown because no one wants me

I was told she could go off and “shag” who she liked and I would still take her back

Then I was told she didn’t want me anymore

She left with a key

I went to work

She stole all the money out the bank

And cleaned everything out the house

Left me broken beyond repair "

That's awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I did was stupid young first love bs

She was sweet and careing in the start

Once we movied in together things changed

Was told to pick bween her or my friends so gave them up

On my 21st birthday was ment to be give a gift from my dad substantial amount off money life changing

We he found out it was to be going in to a joint bank account I was told he wouldn’t put it in

She left the party I stayed

The next day I was told to choose her or my family

I picked her

Now she had me all to her self

That’s when the real nastiest started

I was told I wasn’t good nuff for her

I was told if she leave me I will die old and alown because no one wants me

I was told she could go off and “shag” who she liked and I would still take her back

Then I was told she didn’t want me anymore

She left with a key

I went to work

She stole all the money out the bank

And cleaned everything out the house

Left me broken beyond repair

That's awful"

Yes it was

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Yes I did was stupid young first love bs

She was sweet and careing in the start

Once we movied in together things changed

Was told to pick bween her or my friends so gave them up

On my 21st birthday was ment to be give a gift from my dad substantial amount off money life changing

We he found out it was to be going in to a joint bank account I was told he wouldn’t put it in

She left the party I stayed

The next day I was told to choose her or my family

I picked her

Now she had me all to her self

That’s when the real nastiest started

I was told I wasn’t good nuff for her

I was told if she leave me I will die old and alown because no one wants me

I was told she could go off and “shag” who she liked and I would still take her back

Then I was told she didn’t want me anymore

She left with a key

I went to work

She stole all the money out the bank

And cleaned everything out the house

Left me broken beyond repair

That's awful"

That really is awful.

I really hope you're in a better place now xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I did was stupid young first love bs

She was sweet and careing in the start

Once we movied in together things changed

Was told to pick bween her or my friends so gave them up

On my 21st birthday was ment to be give a gift from my dad substantial amount off money life changing

We he found out it was to be going in to a joint bank account I was told he wouldn’t put it in

She left the party I stayed

The next day I was told to choose her or my family

I picked her

Now she had me all to her self

That’s when the real nastiest started

I was told I wasn’t good nuff for her

I was told if she leave me I will die old and alown because no one wants me

I was told she could go off and “shag” who she liked and I would still take her back

Then I was told she didn’t want me anymore

She left with a key

I went to work

She stole all the money out the bank

And cleaned everything out the house

Left me broken beyond repair

That's awful

That really is awful.

I really hope you're in a better place now xx"

Thanks you Anabelle and trying to be take each days as it comes but 11 years and I still feel the effects off what she did to me Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. It certainty does count Rachel x

I was a senior rate in the Royal Navy. I quit when I became a single parent. hello ex-sailor,,,

Hi.

I was an aircraft engineer. Still managed to end up ship’s company on an aircraft carrier though.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Yes I did was stupid young first love bs

She was sweet and careing in the start

Once we movied in together things changed

Was told to pick bween her or my friends so gave them up

On my 21st birthday was ment to be give a gift from my dad substantial amount off money life changing

We he found out it was to be going in to a joint bank account I was told he wouldn’t put it in

She left the party I stayed

The next day I was told to choose her or my family

I picked her

Now she had me all to her self

That’s when the real nastiest started

I was told I wasn’t good nuff for her

I was told if she leave me I will die old and alown because no one wants me

I was told she could go off and “shag” who she liked and I would still take her back

Then I was told she didn’t want me anymore

She left with a key

I went to work

She stole all the money out the bank

And cleaned everything out the house

Left me broken beyond repair

That's awful

That really is awful.

I really hope you're in a better place now xx

Thanks you Anabelle and trying to be take each days as it comes but 11 years and I still feel the effects off what she did to me Xx"

Oh my lovely...I hope you know not all women are like that and I hope you find someone lovely....if you want to that is x

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yes gave up my career and a move to the US

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I did was stupid young first love bs

She was sweet and careing in the start

Once we movied in together things changed

Was told to pick bween her or my friends so gave them up

On my 21st birthday was ment to be give a gift from my dad substantial amount off money life changing

We he found out it was to be going in to a joint bank account I was told he wouldn’t put it in

She left the party I stayed

The next day I was told to choose her or my family

I picked her

Now she had me all to her self

That’s when the real nastiest started

I was told I wasn’t good nuff for her

I was told if she leave me I will die old and alown because no one wants me

I was told she could go off and “shag” who she liked and I would still take her back

Then I was told she didn’t want me anymore

She left with a key

I went to work

She stole all the money out the bank

And cleaned everything out the house

Left me broken beyond repair

That's awful

That really is awful.

I really hope you're in a better place now xx

Thanks you Anabelle and trying to be take each days as it comes but 11 years and I still feel the effects off what she did to me Xx

Oh my lovely...I hope you know not all women are like that and I hope you find someone lovely....if you want to that is x"

Hugs thanks you so much your awesome Anabelle xxx

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Yes I did was stupid young first love bs

She was sweet and careing in the start

Once we movied in together things changed

Was told to pick bween her or my friends so gave them up

On my 21st birthday was ment to be give a gift from my dad substantial amount off money life changing

We he found out it was to be going in to a joint bank account I was told he wouldn’t put it in

She left the party I stayed

The next day I was told to choose her or my family

I picked her

Now she had me all to her self

That’s when the real nastiest started

I was told I wasn’t good nuff for her

I was told if she leave me I will die old and alown because no one wants me

I was told she could go off and “shag” who she liked and I would still take her back

Then I was told she didn’t want me anymore

She left with a key

I went to work

She stole all the money out the bank

And cleaned everything out the house

Left me broken beyond repair

That's awful

That really is awful.

I really hope you're in a better place now xx

Thanks you Anabelle and trying to be take each days as it comes but 11 years and I still feel the effects off what she did to me Xx

Oh my lovely...I hope you know not all women are like that and I hope you find someone lovely....if you want to that is x

Hugs thanks you so much your awesome Anabelle xxx"

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No, I never have and probably wouldn't.

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