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Pushing past insecurities..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So there are loads of stunning ladies and stunning guys… and pics of guys with stunning ladies…

So people who think they are somewhat lesser forms of human beings to get the attention of said gorgeous guys and ladies…

What keeps us going?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Cowardice for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look in pretty decent nick. I'd say you should be more confident

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

I’ve come to accept that stunning ladies are something that happen to other fellas, shrug my shoulders, and refuse to take it all seriously. At the end of the day Fab life is just a game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know and understand what you seek

Know and understand what they seek

If there is a chasm between the two, save your fingers

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

No one should think they are lesser good looking than anyone else

OP why bring this question up ?

We should all think we're gorgeous as sexiness is a state of mind and not I repeat NOT how one looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lesser form women *

Natural selection and all that.

Leave the beautiful narcissists to each other, all the more desperate fuglies for us, er, desperate fuglies!

(* I’m joking of course. Everyone is equal and beautiful in their own ways and all that blah de blah..)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one should think they are lesser good looking than anyone else

OP why bring this question up ?

We should all think we're gorgeous as sexiness is a state of mind and not I repeat NOT how one looks "

Why bother with pics on here then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I like to think I am… but when connections don’t just work out here (ignored messages)… makes on wonder…

But I am old enough now - to just carry on regardless and who knows you might just bump into who will rock your life

You look in good Nick too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So there are loads of stunning ladies and stunning guys… and pics of guys with stunning ladies…

So people who think they are somewhat lesser forms of human beings to get the attention of said gorgeous guys and ladies…

What keeps us going?"

Nobody should feel lesser than anyone, we are all unique and individual...No one on the planet is like you and you should celebrate that.

Remember, everyone no matter who they are shits the same and that shit stinks. Even the Queen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it is that I'm not for everyone and there isn't really much I can do about it, this is who I am and I've just got to get on with it.

Would be nice obviously to get more attention but I didn't join the site to have a meet with everyone on here.

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"So there are loads of stunning ladies and stunning guys… and pics of guys with stunning ladies…

So people who think they are somewhat lesser forms of human beings to get the attention of said gorgeous guys and ladies…

What keeps us going?"

You definitely should have more confidence in yourself.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you’re getting at OP as each and everyone of us has doubts about our looks and insecurities but we shouldn’t let it define us or allow us to have a preconceived misconception that someone is better looking and out of your league!!

But what keeps me going is the fact that my insecurities are a part of me but I don’t let them hold me back….I am polite, I’m charming (maybe) and I have a positive mindset and if someone doesn’t like what I bring to the table then I continue to smile and seek the elusive person that does like what I bring to the table….this is what keeps me going.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I just cling to the hope they have poor taste in men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So there are loads of stunning ladies and stunning guys… and pics of guys with stunning ladies…

So people who think they are somewhat lesser forms of human beings to get the attention of said gorgeous guys and ladies…

What keeps us going?

Nobody should feel lesser than anyone, we are all unique and individual...No one on the planet is like you and you should celebrate that.

Remember, everyone no matter who they are shits the same and that shit stinks. Even the Queen. "

I bet she uses ViPoo.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes - you have to carry on regardless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one should think they are lesser good looking than anyone else

OP why bring this question up ?

We should all think we're gorgeous as sexiness is a state of mind and not I repeat NOT how one looks "

Why isn't being gorgeous about how you look? I'm a pragmatic person, I own a mirror. I think we can be honest with ourselves and like ourselves. But most of us (inc me) aren't gorgeous. Doesn't mean we are lesser human beings.

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"No one should think they are lesser good looking than anyone else

OP why bring this question up ?

We should all think we're gorgeous as sexiness is a state of mind and not I repeat NOT how one looks

Why isn't being gorgeous about how you look? I'm a pragmatic person, I own a mirror. I think we can be honest with ourselves and like ourselves. But most of us (inc me) aren't gorgeous. Doesn't mean we are lesser human beings. "

You look gorgeous to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one should think they are lesser good looking than anyone else

OP why bring this question up ?

We should all think we're gorgeous as sexiness is a state of mind and not I repeat NOT how one looks

Why isn't being gorgeous about how you look? I'm a pragmatic person, I own a mirror. I think we can be honest with ourselves and like ourselves. But most of us (inc me) aren't gorgeous. Doesn't mean we are lesser human beings.

You look gorgeous to me x"

That's nice of you to say but I'm not. I have lots of physical flaws. Not one of the beautiful people, never have been. But I have value. I matter. We all do. I guess that's how I push past it. Or try to.

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"So there are loads of stunning ladies and stunning guys… and pics of guys with stunning ladies…

So people who think they are somewhat lesser forms of human beings to get the attention of said gorgeous guys and ladies…

What keeps us going?"

Not wanting to look back in however many years and regret not trying.

It’s barely enough some days though, I regularly think about sacking this place off.

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich


"No one should think they are lesser good looking than anyone else

OP why bring this question up ?

We should all think we're gorgeous as sexiness is a state of mind and not I repeat NOT how one looks "

Thank heavens for that! I don't half look a mess some days!

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"No one should think they are lesser good looking than anyone else

OP why bring this question up ?

We should all think we're gorgeous as sexiness is a state of mind and not I repeat NOT how one looks

Why isn't being gorgeous about how you look? I'm a pragmatic person, I own a mirror. I think we can be honest with ourselves and like ourselves. But most of us (inc me) aren't gorgeous. Doesn't mean we are lesser human beings.

You look gorgeous to me x

That's nice of you to say but I'm not. I have lots of physical flaws. Not one of the beautiful people, never have been. But I have value. I matter. We all do. I guess that's how I push past it. Or try to."

I think it's our flaws that make us beautiful x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is sexy as fuck to someone out there. You can be the worlds juiciest, sweetest, most perfect peach and yet there’s always going to be someone out there who doesn’t like peaches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have many flaws. Nobody’s perfect. I get loads of messages commenting on my ‘amazing body’ and I’m like ‘who, me?!?’

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito


"I have many flaws. Nobody’s perfect. I get loads of messages commenting on my ‘amazing body’ and I’m like ‘who, me?!?’ "

Yes you, you have a gorgeous personality to go with it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to see yourself as lesser than anyone because you're not.

We are all works in progress and trying to get through this in our own way, sometimes our paths align with others, sometimes we go off on an adventure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beauty is very subjective though. What one person thinks is gorgeous another may not.

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes what many people would consider a gorgeous person do not believe it themselves and would not message people they deem attractive. I say to anyone, go for it you never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have many flaws. Nobody’s perfect. I get loads of messages commenting on my ‘amazing body’ and I’m like ‘who, me?!?’

Yes you, you have a gorgeous personality to go with it too "

What a thoroughly kind thing to say! Thank you so much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is sexy as fuck to someone out there. You can be the worlds juiciest, sweetest, most perfect peach and yet there’s always going to be someone out there who doesn’t like peaches."

This. We aren't always for everyone, and that can sting. It doesn't mean we're not worthy of someone else's attention, desire, etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You have an equally beautiful smile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one should think they are lesser good looking than anyone else

OP why bring this question up ?

We should all think we're gorgeous as sexiness is a state of mind and not I repeat NOT how one looks

Why isn't being gorgeous about how you look? I'm a pragmatic person, I own a mirror. I think we can be honest with ourselves and like ourselves. But most of us (inc me) aren't gorgeous. Doesn't mean we are lesser human beings.

You look gorgeous to me x

That's nice of you to say but I'm not. I have lots of physical flaws. Not one of the beautiful people, never have been. But I have value. I matter. We all do. I guess that's how I push past it. Or try to.

I think it's our flaws that make us beautiful x"

I am not even close to believing that.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"So there are loads of stunning ladies and stunning guys… and pics of guys with stunning ladies…

So people who think they are somewhat lesser forms of human beings to get the attention of said gorgeous guys and ladies…

What keeps us going?"

I think you just have to remember that people see us differently to how we see ourselves & beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder. This place must be very challenging to men's self esteem because a reoccurring theme is guys not being able to make connections on here, despite trying.

You're a lovely looking guy, with a good profile, (apart from your honesty about being married, which would prevent me from agreeing to meet you if theoretically you asked)

I would never consider you, or anyone else a lesser form of human!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I take the Rumi saying.. “what you seek is seeking you” it is so apt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Better to get honest on the married front (the irony) than someone finding out later

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I don’t consider myself good looking. You need the skin of a rhino on here.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"Better to get honest on the married front (the irony) than someone finding out later "

Yes, I realised that as I was writing it!!!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

We are all equal lumps bumps and all! Just belive in yourself the rest will follow! X

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

I’m not particularly attractive nor am I much of a loud personality but I’m happy with who I am even if I’m not anyone’s cup of tea.

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Better to get honest on the married front (the irony) than someone finding out later "

Agree

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

I'm lesser to no-one... if they think I am.. they won't contact me anyway.

I am someones cuppa and others not.. same for me... some are my cuppa, others not....

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

You just have to be happy with who you are and the rest is easy

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By *hatyoumissing101Man
over a year ago

West london


"So there are loads of stunning ladies and stunning guys… and pics of guys with stunning ladies…

So people who think they are somewhat lesser forms of human beings to get the attention of said gorgeous guys and ladies…

What keeps us going?"

tbh I think it's probably your approach. I can't relate to your feelings as I'm quite confident. I would advise you and others to try and highlight the things about yourself that u love because it makes you the person u are then those who find those things attractive will gravitate to you more... and always remember u can't get catch em all like pokemon, respect the fact that sometimes your not what someone desires not because your unattractive but because your just not

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By *iggyStarjumpsMan
over a year ago

Stockport


"I'm lesser to no-one... if they think I am.. they won't contact me anyway.

I am someones cuppa and others not.. same for me... some are my cuppa, others not...."

This ^^ Thanks, Ive been trying to describe it for a few mins but you've put it simply and elegantly

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Im practical if nothing else

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I am what I am. Some will like me, some won't but that's down to them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am what I am. Some will like me, some won't but that's down to them x"

How I am too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What keeps me going is simply this: if others don't find me attractive that's ok, I have a husband who does and knows exactly what buttons to press, anything else is just a bonus, as long as I make his cock stiff then it's all gravy!

Danish x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am who I am take it or leave it. Everyone has insecurites OP even if they don't show it on the surface. Nobody should feel inferior to anyone or let people make you feel like you aren't good enough.

Embrace who you are and know your worth

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Nothing tastes sweeter than the rejection letters of the beautiful people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am who I am take it or leave it. Everyone has insecurites OP even if they don't show it on the surface. Nobody should feel inferior to anyone or let people make you feel like you aren't good enough.

Embrace who you are and know your worth "

I am what I am

I don't want praise I don't want pity

I bang my own drum

Some think it's noise I think it's pretty

And so what if I love each sparkle and each bangle

Why not try to see things from a different angle

Your life is a shame til you can shout out

I am what I am

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Optimism!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I am who I am take it or leave it. Everyone has insecurites OP even if they don't show it on the surface. Nobody should feel inferior to anyone or let people make you feel like you aren't good enough.

Embrace who you are and know your worth "

One of my favourite poems by Clare.

I am! yet what I am none cares or knows,

My friends forsake me like a memory lost;

I am the self-consumer of my woes,

They rise and vanish in oblivious host,

Like shades in love and death's oblivion lost;

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one should worry about what they look like, or if they don't look a certain way. The only thing that matters is the things we can't physically see (and no, not the dick in your pants). Personality, confidence, humour, affection etc.

Yes, you might look at someone and think they are incredibly beautiful. But if their personality isn't then would you still look at them the same way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol love it....im fat and ugly and I will not let that stop me having fun...yes its harder sometimes...but I've had meets and I could have more if I wanted...your looks and body is yours and yours alone so dont give them too much thought...people who say they feel ugly tend not to be ugly but just need acceptance for maybe they lack something in personality x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing keeps me going. I can't compete with anyone on here so I don't. I just use it as a sex drive killer.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Every woman I’ve ever dated or was in a long term relationship with always said it was my personality that attracted them.

‘You’re not my usual type’ is a sentence I’ve heard most of my dating life

Not sure if I’m ugly and funny or i’m Chandler in a room full of Joeys, but I’m happy enough in my own skin. But I do think that’s more down to my age these days.

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By *utlongjohnMan
over a year ago

close

By being realistic. I know the standard of woman i can pull for my average looks and to save dissapointment i wouldnt chase someone i believed to be out of my league.

This may not always be the case for some but its how i like to get through life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking to meet with anyone, far to unlikely that anyone would meet with me again.

Odds are against me with all the good looking guys on here.

It's always good to know when to call it a day.

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