FabSwingers.com forum: Introvert

By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Seems a bit strange on her but any introverts here?

Used to be a lot more social for a few years but now I'm very anti social once again and really enjoy it now, before I used to think it was a problem and not having many friends growing up but now I'm best when I'm on my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm very much an introvert. You'll find plenty of us on here, not strange at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am. I love not having to meet up with friends, not being invited to hen do's or parties etc. I've saved loads of money to do things that I want to do, whilst also protecting my MH at the same time. Apart from 2 meets off here. I don't think I've met up with anyone outside of the immediate family in a few years. It's amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am. I'm only extrovert with my close friends and in the Forum.

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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"Yes I'm very much an introvert. You'll find plenty of us on here, not strange at all.

AHH great, I'm not alone.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes very much so! That's the thing about society, it's so extroverted that people try to convince you your abnormal if you aren't the loudest or chattiest person in the room. I have days where I'm completely content not seeing anyone and with my own company. We are all different and that's okay

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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"I am. I love not having to meet up with friends, not being invited to hen do's or parties etc. I've saved loads of money to do things that I want to do, whilst also protecting my MH at the same time. Apart from 2 meets off here. I don't think I've met up with anyone outside of the immediate family in a few years. It's amazing

Yeah I don't think I can deal with a social event now with too many people, sooner have a camp out in the woods on my own.

I have autism too so it all works together and only thing I get nervous about is going to a supermarket

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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"Yes very much so! That's the thing about society, it's so extroverted that people try to convince you your abnormal if you aren't the loudest or chattiest person in the room. I have days where I'm completely content not seeing anyone and with my own company. We are all different and that's okay

This exactly, I used to hate being dragged along somewhere when I was a kid and all I wanted to do was stay home and read or play on my computer

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I can relate to being introvert as I feel very 50/50, I swing from being introvert to yearning for lively company.Saying that the type of company is a key factor are there are so many negative folk it makes you want to avoid them at times, however, and this might sound cliche, I'm finding people on her I chat to and meet ring me out of introverted self, it's real life that's the problem LOL.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best place to be an introvert is on the forums. Not a single person to look at you and you can shout as loud as you like and do handstands in your pants. Not a single look your way. Woohoo!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I could gladly go live in a cabin in the woods and grow a big beard.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Introverts unite. Separately. In our own homes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Introverts unite. Separately. In our own homes "

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"Introverts unite. Separately. In our own homes "

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

"Introverts unite. Separately. In our own homes "

Haha, perfect

Miss pc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very much an introvert. I like my own company most of the time. I do occasionally like being sociable but I need time to recover afterwards with some quiet time and lots of sleep!

People can be exhausting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Introverts unite. Separately. In our own homes "

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I'm too shy to respond.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Keep in mind introvert is not exclusively related to those who don't like to socialise.

It is also (and more so) about those who recharge while being solo and drain while around others vs those who gain energy from being around people.

You can be social as any "extrovert" but lose energy faster while in the company of people, while being a shy extrovert but your energy is not drained by them.

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By *art123Man
over a year ago

Stoke

"Seems a bit strange on her but any introverts here?

This is a great post..

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Complete introvert. Takes me a while to warm up to people. Massive social anxiety. Don't really like socialising with more than 2 others at a time. I find it exhausting.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Introverts unite. Separately. In our own homes "

This. 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Keep in mind introvert is not exclusively related to those who don't like to socialise.

It is also (and more so) about those who recharge while being solo and drain while around others vs those who gain energy from being around people.

You can be social as any "extrovert" but lose energy faster while in the company of people, while being a shy extrovert but your energy is not drained by them. "

This describes me perfectly. I feel like I only have a certain amount of social hours in me per day, once it's exceeded I just don't have the energy for people.

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By *JsoulsearcherMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I knew there were other introverts on Fab somewhere. I've been looking for you all for years.

I suppose Fab is like anywhere, the extroverts shout the loudest so they're noticed.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

"Seems a bit strange on her but any introverts here?

Yes, hate large groups - hence why I tend to avoid clubs, which I'll admit tends to make things harder

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Introvert here. I’d happily wander as lonely as a cloud!

One of the reasons I no longer meet is because I just can’t be doing with putting myself through the first meet anymore.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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I reckon I'm a bit of a mix, when I'm in social situations I do my best to chat to everybody with my heart in it, but I really enjoy time by myself so much as well.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I am absolutely a Introvert. And it is great. Not strange at all. It’s nothing like enjoying your own company

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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"Introvert here. I’d happily wander as lonely as a cloud!

One of the reasons I no longer meet is because I just can’t be doing with putting myself through the first meet anymore."

I agree I don't think I can go through with a meet anymore, just no energy for people anymore. They're some nice people out there but I'm just not find of people in general now

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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"Keep in mind introvert is not exclusively related to those who don't like to socialise.

It is also (and more so) about those who recharge while being solo and drain while around others vs those who gain energy from being around people.

You can be social as any "extrovert" but lose energy faster while in the company of people, while being a shy extrovert but your energy is not drained by them.

This describes me perfectly. I feel like I only have a certain amount of social hours in me per day, once it's exceeded I just don't have the energy for people."

It takes me days to decompress from people which others really don't get

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

I am not a total recluse, but I could quiet happily exist as a hermit, I find large groups of people hard work.

Do others find that they whilst you can be good freinds with everyone present that as group size increases you get gradually edged out and essentially ignored/exclided or is that just me?

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

I am very much an introvert, hence why I will never go to a club.

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By *JsoulsearcherMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I am not a total recluse, but I could quiet happily exist as a hermit, I find large groups of people hard work.

Do others find that they whilst you can be good freinds with everyone present that as group size increases you get gradually edged out and essentially ignored/exclided or is that just me?

Yes, one to one interactions are okay. Even small groups, but large gatherings where you don't know people. I think it's fear of the unexpected, drying up in conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an introvert. Hate people really.

But I have needs, and I tend to only engage with people who improve my life in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might fit here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think life experience can show you people for whom they are!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'm an introvert. Hate people really.

But I have needs, and I tend to only engage with people who improve my life in some way. "

I don't hate people, just find them exhausting

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Think life experience can show you people for whom they are! "

You people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think life experience can show you people for whom they are!

You people?

Indeed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, I am.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Best place to be an introvert is on the forums. Not a single person to look at you and you can shout as loud as you like and do handstands in your pants. Not a single look your way. Woohoo!

This is false advertising.

I can't do handstands in my pants

I think what's been said previously is right. There are many, many introverts on the forums and we thrive here. Because we get the social interaction that we need without any of that horrific social interaction that is so terrifying and draining.

It takes a lot of psyching up for me to manage to be in a social situation and even more to recharge afterwards.

I don't like the out. That's where they keep the people. I'd rather stay mostly in and babble shite at you lot.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I am. People often don't believe me but I think people think it means you're quiet and shy all the time. Of course there are some who are but we're not all like that. I find too much socialising to be draining and I have a need for a certain amount of time on my own. I enjoy my own company and I prefer to work independently. I enjoy socialising but it is hard work for me and I do tend to enjoy smaller groups of close friends or one on one time over big groups/parties.

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By *offee27 OP Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"I'm an introvert. Hate people really.

But I have needs, and I tend to only engage with people who improve my life in some way. "

Yeah same here, only really engage with people for needs, shopping, sexual activity etc.

Personally I'd be happy stranded on a desert island with a monthly supply drop of food, meds etc and be content

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By *JsoulsearcherMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I am. People often don't believe me but I think people think it means you're quiet and shy all the time. Of course there are some who are but we're not all like that. I find too much socialising to be draining and I have a need for a certain amount of time on my own. I enjoy my own company and I prefer to work independently. I enjoy socialising but it is hard work for me and I do tend to enjoy smaller groups of close friends or one on one time over big groups/parties. "

Yes I'm sure some people think I'm an extrovert. I do value some social contact, but it's great to just be on my own to recharge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go through stretches of being like it, home the gates shut, intercom & mobile off and dont emerge for a week or so, however its not healthy for me it doesnt do my mind anygood so try to socialize, even if its going for a pint on my own and chatting to absolute strangers

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By * kiss like morphineMan
over a year ago

The gravelly bit next to the shed

Yes indeedy, I like a crowd but so long as I have a corner to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd happily go back to the lockdowns.

I'm the most antisocial ever. But to be fair people are generally annoying.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I would say I'm an introvert. I like to recharge on my own and need my own time and space.

I do like a good night out, going to the pub, and being at gigs with thousands of others.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Lockdown was great too.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"I'd happily go back to the lockdowns.

I'm the most antisocial ever. But to be fair people are generally annoying. "

They are. Few good ones though.

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By *JsoulsearcherMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

How are people using FAB? Meeting? Camming? just using the forums? Any tips for other introverts?

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By *utdooorsyguyMan
over a year ago

town

I am definitely an ambivet, I love socialising and being around people but other days I will just disappear down to coast to be on my own, miles away from any one else.

It just being able to have that time to recharge and carry on, research "spoon theory" it's quite interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd happily go back to the lockdowns.

I'm the most antisocial ever. But to be fair people are generally annoying.

They are. Few good ones though. "

A few sounds like an over estimation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems a bit strange on her but any introverts here?

Same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Replaced them all with cute puppies...

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

I'm a total intro flirt...

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By *JsoulsearcherMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

How have other introverts used FAB? What has worked and what hasn't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally. I'm not even here.

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