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By *enuine_J87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Eastleigh

Does anyone else hate those terms. For me looking at womens profiles I sometimes see the phrase “I’m a real woman I’ve got curves I’m not stick thin”

Instead of being proud of being curvy they put down women who are slim instead.

Then I also see such things as “I want a real man” then offer reasons as to what makes a guy a real man such as chest hair, bulging muscles, head hair, tall or other such things that are out of a persons control.

I’m sure guys must write similar things on their profiles but I don’t look at male profiles so don’t feally know.

Stop putting other people down to make yourself seem better, or to cover your own insecurities!

Most of us are here for the same reasons, aren’t we all on the same team?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have our insecurities I guess. Last time I checked I was a real man....despite everything!

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Well said!

Gbat

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By *teve_it_aloneMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Absolutely.

As mentioned (at length) in other threads, there’s no simple definition of either “man” or “woman” (but I really don’t want to pick that scab again).

When used in the way you describe they’re so often attached to toxic versions of masculinity, or regressive, objectifying and infantilising concepts of femininity.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I like real ale if that's any good

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"I like real ale if that's any good "

Good on ya Ace

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

I like drifters

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By *penmarriage UkCouple
over a year ago

Maidenhead

Hear, hear have to agree. I'm average to say the least and bald to boot, but I do have a stunning wife. No botox or fake boobs and yes she's had three kids. But saying that we do find couples and single women not interested because of me.. like someone else on the forum said we all here for the same reason so why are people so damn picky...

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ


"I like drifters "

What have you got against Twix?

Op we are not all on the same team, it is a competitve tit/dick swinging contest out there. Not on the forums of course. We are all well-balanced individuals

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

A real man is a person who defines themselves as a man.

A real woman ditto.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I like drifters

What have you got against Twix?

Op we are not all on the same team, it is a competitve tit/dick swinging contest out there. Not on the forums of course. We are all well-balanced individuals "

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

We all real men/women fat thin wobbly bits an all lol! Love and peace x

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

This really annoys me when I get told I'm a real woman... all women are real women... I used to be stick thin, used to be bigger than I am now. I'm still me.

Putting other people down to pay me a compliment just reflects badly on the other person

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ


"I like drifters

What have you got against Twix?

Op we are not all on the same team, it is a competitve tit/dick swinging contest out there. Not on the forums of course. We are all well-balanced individuals

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Given this Fab, I am not sure we are all even the same species, let alone team

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Hear, hear have to agree. I'm average to say the least and bald to boot, but I do have a stunning wife. No botox or fake boobs and yes she's had three kids. But saying that we do find couples and single women not interested because of me.. like someone else on the forum said we all here for the same reason so why are people so damn picky..."

Because they're allowed to be? Would you have sex with just anyone? I'm pretty sure you and your wife have standards and preferences!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Bit of an outdated term really. Annoys me when people use it without properly thinking though and everyone jumps on them. Like they do with any word/phrase which isn’t really PC anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think most people use it in a malicious way. The world around us is so edited and air brushed, they are talking about the side we don't see, reality.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I don't think most people use it in a malicious way. The world around us is so edited and air brushed, they are talking about the side we don't see, reality."

I don’t think they do either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hear, hear have to agree. I'm average to say the least and bald to boot, but I do have a stunning wife. No botox or fake boobs and yes she's had three kids. But saying that we do find couples and single women not interested because of me.. like someone else on the forum said we all here for the same reason so why are people so damn picky..."

Are you joking?

I am definitely not here for the same reason if people just fuck anyone who asks.

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By *r BobMan
over a year ago

Banffshire

Excellent analysis and so true

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Hear, hear have to agree. I'm average to say the least and bald to boot, but I do have a stunning wife. No botox or fake boobs and yes she's had three kids. But saying that we do find couples and single women not interested because of me.. like someone else on the forum said we all here for the same reason so why are people so damn picky..."

For real?!

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

I draw the line at Pinocchio though. If he wants to self identify as a real boy he’s deluding himself.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Haha I see this all the time instant 'turn off' & usually block. The audacity of it to type I want a 'real man or woman' when the person themselves got 'fake lashes, hair, lips, bum, tits' etc

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"I don't think most people use it in a malicious way. The world around us is so edited and air brushed, they are talking about the side we don't see, reality."

The term is less of the issue and the follow up, as the OP said, of ending it with what is essentially an insult in the form of a statement. More often than not is aimed at those who are different, from themselves as if to make their own pov more valid.

If you need to put down somebody else's physical appearance to boast your own, then you have already lost any respect I may have shown you on that subject.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I've come across those (perplexing) terms. I wouldn't say I hate them because I simply do not understand them.

It's the "looking for genuine meats" (sic) that always throw me. Perhaps I'm in the wrong Deli Counter.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Hear, hear have to agree. I'm average to say the least and bald to boot, but I do have a stunning wife. No botox or fake boobs and yes she's had three kids. But saying that we do find couples and single women not interested because of me.. like someone else on the forum said we all here for the same reason so why are people so damn picky..."

Not sure if sarcasm or serious...

Why not be picky though? If you want sex why not aim for the super model characters out there, instead of average Joe (sorry Joe). Go big or go home.

You may never achieve that, but "settling" is never a good thing either.

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By *enuine_J87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Eastleigh


"Hear, hear have to agree. I'm average to say the least and bald to boot, but I do have a stunning wife. No botox or fake boobs and yes she's had three kids. But saying that we do find couples and single women not interested because of me.. like someone else on the forum said we all here for the same reason so why are people so damn picky...

Not sure if sarcasm or serious...

Why not be picky though? If you want sex why not aim for the super model characters out there, instead of average Joe (sorry Joe). Go big or go home.

You may never achieve that, but "settling" is never a good thing either. "

Yes, my original post was not going into people being picky or not. It was aimed at people insulting others to essentially compliment themselves.

Using derogatory terms unnecessarily against people who look a certain way or have a certain body type. Eg Hating on a slim person, when maybe they actually don’t even like being slim but their metabolism makes it difficult to put on weight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've come across those (perplexing) terms. I wouldn't say I hate them because I simply do not understand them.

It's the "looking for genuine meats" (sic) that always throw me. Perhaps I'm in the wrong Deli Counter. "

Sex meat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite put off men who message me and say "oh a real woman!". Don't put other women down to get in my knickers.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I've come across those (perplexing) terms. I wouldn't say I hate them because I simply do not understand them.

It's the "looking for genuine meats" (sic) that always throw me. Perhaps I'm in the wrong Deli Counter.

Sex meat. "

Pepperami?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I've come across those (perplexing) terms. I wouldn't say I hate them because I simply do not understand them.

It's the "looking for genuine meats" (sic) that always throw me. Perhaps I'm in the wrong Deli Counter.

Sex meat. "

Take your ticket and wait for your number to be called

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

Ive seen it said so many times on the forums, usually on a curvy woman appreciation thread! I usually just laugh and take my non real woman’s ass elsewhere instead ! Clearly nothing bad is meant by those saying it, but it does make me giggle! Miss pc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the heck does that even mean?? What’s a real man? What’s a real woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn’t bother me in the slightest

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"I've come across those (perplexing) terms. I wouldn't say I hate them because I simply do not understand them.

It's the "looking for genuine meats" (sic) that always throw me. Perhaps I'm in the wrong Deli Counter.

Sex meat.

Take your ticket and wait for your number to be called"

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