FabSwingers.com forum: Strange behavior...

By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

I'm really not sure what's trying to be achieved here... So, I've sent out 3 separate messages to 3 separate ladies, all polite, face pic included, if you're interested get in touch, blah blah blah.

All 3 kindly replied with a little flirty message, included face pics and 1 even sent over a friend request... Great stuff! (I thought)

However, all 3 instantly hide their profiles after they've sent the message!?

I don't get it, is this a new trend!? Surly if you're not interested you just wouldn't bother to replying lol... Very strange.

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

If you've received a message from them then you can message back even if they've hidden their profiles. Perhaps they've just given up looking now that they've all found Mr right in the form of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you've received a message from them then you can message back even if they've hidden their profiles. Perhaps they've just given up looking now that they've all found Mr right in the form of you

Oh that was smooth lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've noticed this with 2 men who are currently messaging me. I dont get the point but am thinking maybe they have verifications they dont want me to see?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You can still message them even if the profile is hidden if they’ve replied.

See it as a good thing…they aren’t letting any other guys get in touch other than who they are currently chatting to.

They shut up the shop window

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it school holidays?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A chance to quickly amend their profile to match what yours says you’re looking for…

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"If you've received a message from them then you can message back even if they've hidden their profiles. Perhaps they've just given up looking now that they've all found Mr right in the form of you

Lol... Chance would be a fine thing, I always take a hidden profile as a no contact, just in case they're taking a break from the site.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

You got nice replies. Maybe they're being shy.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"I've noticed this with 2 men who are currently messaging me. I dont get the point but am thinking maybe they have verifications they dont want me to see?"

I'm naturally suspicious on here & would agree with you. X

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I hide mine often with no ulterior motive.

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"I hide mine often with no ulterior motive."

But do you hide immediately after making first contact with someone you're interested in?

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I often hide my profile for no other reasons that I’m not looking to engage with anyone new at that particular moment and don’t want to deal with unsolicited mail …I always send a no thank you, it’s time consuming and rather tedious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a hiden profile message me then I just bin the message or in less it’s a other formite but as far as randoms go binned

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"I hide mine often with no ulterior motive.

But do you hide immediately after making first contact with someone you're interested in?"

Nothing queer as folks … Some people make first contact with their profile hidden

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I hide mine often with no ulterior motive.

But do you hide immediately after making first contact with someone you're interested in?"

Yes, especially if they have saw a face pic, that way they still can message but it stops others x

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

I don't know I really don't. Men expend thousands of words on here complaining how they don't get messages or replies from women. Man receives reply and he's not happy

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"I don't know I really don't. Men expend thousands of words on here complaining how they don't get messages or replies from women. Man receives reply and he's not happy

Just doesn't feel right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People hide their profiles all the time for a host of different reasons , there isn’t anything strange about it . Think you are reading more into it than you should , I wouldn’t take it personally either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain, Ive replied to three really nice messages and they read and didn't reply again

It's the 3's!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be inclined to think they are flaky and unpredictable

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"I've noticed this with 2 men who are currently messaging me. I dont get the point but am thinking maybe they have verifications they dont want me to see?

I'm naturally suspicious on here & would agree with you. X"

Same here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm really not sure what's trying to be achieved here... So, I've sent out 3 separate messages to 3 separate ladies, all polite, face pic included, if you're interested get in touch, blah blah blah.

All 3 kindly replied with a little flirty message, included face pics and 1 even sent over a friend request... Great stuff! (I thought)

However, all 3 instantly hide their profiles after they've sent the message!?

I don't get it, is this a new trend!? Surly if you're not interested you just wouldn't bother to replying lol... Very strange."

Is it hidden or did they block you?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

OK. If 3 of you send me a message I promise to send a nice reply.

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"I'm really not sure what's trying to be achieved here... So, I've sent out 3 separate messages to 3 separate ladies, all polite, face pic included, if you're interested get in touch, blah blah blah.

All 3 kindly replied with a little flirty message, included face pics and 1 even sent over a friend request... Great stuff! (I thought)

However, all 3 instantly hide their profiles after they've sent the message!?

I don't get it, is this a new trend!? Surly if you're not interested you just wouldn't bother to replying lol... Very strange.

Is it hidden or did they block you?"

Definitely hidden lol

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"I feel your pain, Ive replied to three really nice messages and they read and didn't reply again

It's the 3's!

Most definitely their loss

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

"You can still message them even if the profile is hidden if they’ve replied.

See it as a good thing…they aren’t letting any other guys get in touch other than who they are currently chatting to.

They shut up the shop window

If you're on a mobile device, you can still send a message to a hidden profile even if they haven't sent you one first.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

There could be an endless list if strange behaviour on here I'm sure.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Be patient o/p they might have lots of messages to go through. Hiding can put some men off from messaging. Seems like you "float their boat" so to speak. Good luck!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Hiding their profile doesn't mean they aren't interested in you. Why do you think it's strange behaviour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the OP is suggesting it’s strange to have a viewable profile that becomes hidden once the owner expresses interest from the OP.

I gave up even trying to understand behaviour on here says after joining, I hate the rather lane and uninspired “it is what it is” phrase, but it is…

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"Hiding their profile doesn't mean they aren't interested in you. Why do you think it's strange behaviour?"

I've just always assumed a hidden profile means the user is taking a break from the site for what ever reason

Find it strange because it's like getting a match on a dating site then deleting the app immediately after lol just seems a bit pointless.

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By *mashingPumpkinMan
over a year ago

Carmarthen

I’ve lost count the number of of times I’ve been exchanging messages and then they vanish. Profile gone, and all message history gone - most strange.

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"I think the OP is suggesting it’s strange to have a viewable profile that becomes hidden once the owner expresses interest from the OP."

Exactly this... Eloquently said.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hiding their profile doesn't mean they aren't interested in you. Why do you think it's strange behaviour?

I've just always assumed a hidden profile means the user is taking a break from the site for what ever reason

Find it strange because it's like getting a match on a dating site then deleting the app immediately after lol just seems a bit pointless."

I see. Have they been in contact since?

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"Hiding their profile doesn't mean they aren't interested in you. Why do you think it's strange behaviour?

I've just always assumed a hidden profile means the user is taking a break from the site for what ever reason

Find it strange because it's like getting a match on a dating site then deleting the app immediately after lol just seems a bit pointless.

I see. Have they been in contact since? "

Nah, still hidden... Removed the one who sent a friend request as wasn't sure what their motive was.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hiding their profile doesn't mean they aren't interested in you. Why do you think it's strange behaviour?

I've just always assumed a hidden profile means the user is taking a break from the site for what ever reason

Find it strange because it's like getting a match on a dating site then deleting the app immediately after lol just seems a bit pointless.

I see. Have they been in contact since?

Nah, still hidden... Removed the one who sent a friend request as wasn't sure what their motive was."

I meant have you exchanged messages since

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Hiding your profile doesn't stop you sending or receiving messages

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"Hiding their profile doesn't mean they aren't interested in you. Why do you think it's strange behaviour?

I've just always assumed a hidden profile means the user is taking a break from the site for what ever reason

Find it strange because it's like getting a match on a dating site then deleting the app immediately after lol just seems a bit pointless.

I see. Have they been in contact since?

Nah, still hidden... Removed the one who sent a friend request as wasn't sure what their motive was.

I meant have you exchanged messages since

Oooh, no

just seemed a bit unusual so didn't follow up on them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hiding their profile doesn't mean they aren't interested in you. Why do you think it's strange behaviour?

I've just always assumed a hidden profile means the user is taking a break from the site for what ever reason

Find it strange because it's like getting a match on a dating site then deleting the app immediately after lol just seems a bit pointless.

I see. Have they been in contact since?

Nah, still hidden... Removed the one who sent a friend request as wasn't sure what their motive was.

I meant have you exchanged messages since

Oooh, no

just seemed a bit unusual so didn't follow up on them."

Ok.

your choice

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

Sometimes I hide my profile precisely because I am on here and don't want the hassle of constant messages from 'fab straight' men asking me to invite them over so I can suck their cocks.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I hide mine often for various reasons. Sometimes if I have a couple of good conversations going I will hide to stop the constant stream of messages coming in and therefore missing a message from someone I’m interested in.

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By *oulou0974Woman
over a year ago

Inverness

Why don’t you just ask them why they’ve hidden their profiles?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I often hide my profile if I've had an influx of awful messages, gives me chance to concentrate on the decent ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don’t you just ask them why they’ve hidden their profiles? "

You have the most perfect boobs ever

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