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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Back, legs, joints, trapped nerves etc Anyone else suffer and find it affects your sex life?

Do you dose up on painkillers and carry on or find better positions that make things easier? Has it stopped you swinging from the chandeliers as much as you'd like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a chronic pain condition, it's one if the reasons I'm not really meeting much at the moment. In that past yes, dose up with painkillers and just go for it and deal with the consequences the next day. But my condition was worsened and right now gentle sex in missionary or prone bone is about the best I can do, and quickies only. It's horrible, but I'm being examined for treatment other than medication to hopefully remove some of the root cause. Then I plan to make the most of life (if it works).

Good luck with your issues OP, spending you life in pain is the worst fate. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to suffer with chronic pelvic pain. I had sex maybe once a month and took codeine for 1.5-2years. But when I did have sex I'd plan it where I could have the next few days on r&r. It was a nightmare, I know sex isn't the be all and end all of a relationship although some might say differently but I felt bad Mr had to do it when I wanted and not when he was feeling like it (with consent of course). But it's like he had to wait for a bus that very rarely came! Pun not intended

I sought help and had an operation that helped dramatically, thankfully. I don't have to plan sex around pain anymore thank god.

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough

Yes, I have a chronic condition that can make things tricky sometimes! New meds help, but find it very frustrating sometimes not being able to do exactly what I want in the bedroom - or wherever! X

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I take extra pain killers about half an hour before having a fun, then usually takes me a day or so to recover!

I have chronic pain and fatigue, dodgy disc in my back.

Switching up positions always helps and not being "thrown" round the bedroom lol

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

I've had steroid and cortisone injections in my back yesterday. Fingers crossed they help

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"I've had steroid and cortisone injections in my back yesterday. Fingers crossed they help

I had facet joint injections years ago, great help!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Mine isn't chronic, so when I'm in pain I just nope out of sex. Can't imagine what I'd do if it were and I couldn't find a work around.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"I've had steroid and cortisone injections in my back yesterday. Fingers crossed they help

I had facet joint injections years ago, great help!"

Thank you, fingers crossed! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try one of them tens machines had one for the past4 years best thing I've tried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had steroid and cortisone injections in my back yesterday. Fingers crossed they help

Oh I hope they do! I am on the list to receive some after a year of painkillers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had steroid and cortisone injections in my back yesterday. Fingers crossed they help

Ouch! I hope they help x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a chronic pain condition, it's one if the reasons I'm not really meeting much at the moment. In that past yes, dose up with painkillers and just go for it and deal with the consequences the next day. But my condition was worsened and right now gentle sex in missionary or prone bone is about the best I can do, and quickies only. It's horrible, but I'm being examined for treatment other than medication to hopefully remove some of the root cause. Then I plan to make the most of life (if it works).

Good luck with your issues OP, spending you life in pain is the worst fate. Xx"

Thank you. I hope it works out for you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mine isn't chronic, so when I'm in pain I just nope out of sex. Can't imagine what I'd do if it were and I couldn't find a work around."

Most of the time I can work round it but every now and then it puts me out of action completely or interrupts during which I think is worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't been having sex but previously I just up the painkillers when I'm meeting someone. Heat pads help a lot too. Don't underestimate the impact pain has on your mood or energy levels either - when I have an ok day I shocked at how positive and energetic I feel.

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By *sandyou69Couple
over a year ago

bath

I didn't realize how many women suffer with that kind of pain I work outside on buildings so I know I'm going be in pain as the years go by I get more at the moment pains in knee elbows and hands but still manage sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

really bad sciatica. was off work and was prescribed anti depressants as they eased the nerves apparently. very addictive!

its usually set off by sharp twisting moments and is agony. cant walk, sleep anything. then weirdly just goes away...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"really bad sciatica. was off work and was prescribed anti depressants as they eased the nerves apparently. very addictive!

its usually set off by sharp twisting moments and is agony. cant walk, sleep anything. then weirdly just goes away...

Sciatica is awful. It will settle again as the nerve gradually untraps itself. I had mine released by the osteopath yesterday so it's not as bad but still got twinges if I move the wrong way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"really bad sciatica. was off work and was prescribed anti depressants as they eased the nerves apparently. very addictive!

its usually set off by sharp twisting moments and is agony. cant walk, sleep anything. then weirdly just goes away...

Sciatica is awful. It will settle again as the nerve gradually untraps itself. I had mine released by the osteopath yesterday so it's not as bad but still got twinges if I move the wrong way. "

you have my complete sympathy..i find driving a trigger, foot on accelarator, twisting to shoulder check, seat belt etc.. walking helps. once you get going, to begin with anythibg is torture!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I have endometriosis. Now that it's well managed, the pain flair ups are mostly in my legs and hips from nerve damage. Being active helps and I do avoid some sex positions.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

I suffered with arthritis for a long time then had a new hip last April !!! Now that was limiting!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought i had sciatica, but the pain got worse and worse to the point i was on all fours and then was having trouble cotrolling my bladder, gp sent me to A and E where they did an MRI scan and determined i was suffering from cordia equina syndrome brought on by herniated disc, they operated on me same day..still in recovery.

Nerve pain is the worst pain ever..

Left leg and sole of my foot now has loss of sensation and since the oppo it can take me a while to get hard sometimes..

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I thought i had sciatica, but the pain got worse and worse to the point i was on all fours and then was having trouble cotrolling my bladder, gp sent me to A and E where they did an MRI scan and determined i was suffering from cordia equina syndrome brought on by herniated disc, they operated on me same day..still in recovery.

Nerve pain is the worst pain ever..

Left leg and sole of my foot now has loss of sensation and since the oppo it can take me a while to get hard sometimes.."

Fingers crossed those symptoms gradually clear. Cauda Equina compression requires immediate surgery to avoiding lasting permanent damage. It can sometimes be tricky to identify in time unfortunately.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Yeah I have chronic pain due to nerve injury, sciatica, SI joint and pubis symphisis joint pain. If it's really bad then I don't have sex. Painkillers don't make any difference really so I don't take any, I just put up with it. On an average day, I can have sex in certain positions but need an understanding and sympathetic partner. We're pretty much just keeping things between ourselves for now (and Mr KC is both understanding and sympathetic

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Yeah I have chronic pain due to nerve injury, sciatica, SI joint and pubis symphisis joint pain. If it's really bad then I don't have sex. Painkillers don't make any difference really so I don't take any, I just put up with it. On an average day, I can have sex in certain positions but need an understanding and sympathetic partner. We're pretty much just keeping things between ourselves for now (and Mr KC is both understanding and sympathetic

I get pain in the SI joint and it travels along the iliac crest on one side. Genuinely makes me feel like hammering nails into the back of my pelvis or something which I know sounds crazy. So sympathy hugs!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You moan a lot less than I do

Mr KC is a good egg xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"really bad sciatica. was off work and was prescribed anti depressants as they eased the nerves apparently. very addictive!

its usually set off by sharp twisting moments and is agony. cant walk, sleep anything. then weirdly just goes away...

Sciatica is awful. It will settle again as the nerve gradually untraps itself. I had mine released by the osteopath yesterday so it's not as bad but still got twinges if I move the wrong way.

you have my complete sympathy..i find driving a trigger, foot on accelarator, twisting to shoulder check, seat belt etc.. walking helps. once you get going, to begin with anythibg is torture!"

You too. It really is evil.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

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It regularly feels like my pelvis is falling to pieces and the crunching/grinding in the various joints is pretty

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

I suffer from acute arthritis in both knees, I find that paracetamol is of no benefit in reducing the pain but Ibuprofin works wonders, However, I am not supposed to take Ibuprofin as it is not compatable with the medication I am taking for my heart condition (Atrial Fibrillation). I also suffer from erectile dysfunction but cannot take Viagra again because it clashes with the heart meds.

Sadly I can see no light at the end of the tunnel so have put any sex aspirations on hold for the forseeable future.

No fun in getting old

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

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It regularly feels like my pelvis is falling to pieces and the crunching/grinding in the various joints is pretty

Oh bless you. For me it's more kinda like a tootheache kinda pain or like my bones are on fire sometimes.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

I've had back surgery and it flares up repeatedly.

Like, can't get out of bed or move from the chest down kinda pain

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"I've had steroid and cortisone injections in my back yesterday. Fingers crossed they help

I had facet joint injections years ago, great help!

Thank you, fingers crossed! Xx"

Try not to do anything for 48hrs after x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you all need some TLC and gentle massage care xxxx and I know a certain guy to give it xxxxxxxxxxx

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Sounds like you all need some TLC and gentle massage care xxxx and I know a certain guy to give it xxxxxxxxxxx"

Most of us just need medical professionals to take us seriously...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have endometriosis. Now that it's well managed, the pain flair ups are mostly in my legs and hips from nerve damage. Being active helps and I do avoid some sex positions. "

Endo is such a misinterpreted disease. Everyone thinks it's just a bad period. Even Dr's. I've had to educate them (Yes I know they don't know everything but still, you'd thought when I mentioned it they might have gone away and had a little read of it)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Sounds like you all need some TLC and gentle massage care xxxx and I know a certain guy to give it xxxxxxxxxxx

Most of us just need medical professionals to take us seriously..."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like you all need some TLC and gentle massage care xxxx and I know a certain guy to give it xxxxxxxxxxx"

Nice idea but unfortunately won't fix the problem. A Dr that isn't so dismissive, two knee replacements and a new pelvis would be a great start but I'll keep dreaming.

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

I struggle with pain in my hips and inside leg/pelvis but that’s down to having my legs open for long periods of time! When it gets really bad we have to switch positions so I can have my legs together for a while.

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerve pain is the worst pain ever..

Left leg and sole of my foot now has loss of sensation and since the oppo it can take me a while to get hard sometimes.."

Yikes! Hope you recover well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone found more alternative therapies useful? I'm being pushed to consider acupuncture by the pain management team. And I am really unsure about it.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Has anyone found more alternative therapies useful? I'm being pushed to consider acupuncture by the pain management team. And I am really unsure about it. "

I've never tried acupuncture, but I find mindfulness helpful in coping with pain, if that makes sense (I get acute episodes rather than anything chronic). I don't think it actually reduces it, but I'm able to redirect my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a nerve issue that extends up the left hand side of my head and behind my ear which results in awful headaches a lot of the time

Think I need a proper deep tissue shoulder and neck massage as that may help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone found more alternative therapies useful? I'm being pushed to consider acupuncture by the pain management team. And I am really unsure about it.

I think they say the same about a tens machine - it's more of a distraction than reducing the pain. I have chronic rather than acute but mindfulness has been useful for anxiety to be fair. I would probably benefit. I use heat pads every day (microwave ones and stick on) - very soothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone found more alternative therapies useful? I'm being pushed to consider acupuncture by the pain management team. And I am really unsure about it. "

nerve pain can be stress related, staying

can help

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Has anyone found more alternative therapies useful? I'm being pushed to consider acupuncture by the pain management team. And I am really unsure about it.

I have a migraine at the moment and I'm directing my attention elsewhere. Only way I can cope (fortunately no pukey symptoms at the moment, just pain)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a nerve issue that extends up the left hand side of my head and behind my ear which results in awful headaches a lot of the time

Think I need a proper deep tissue shoulder and neck massage as that may help "

I walked past the Thai massage place near me and they're offering deep tissue. I've never tried it - I'd need for my legs and hips. Is it effective?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Has anyone found more alternative therapies useful? I'm being pushed to consider acupuncture by the pain management team. And I am really unsure about it.

I have a migraine at the moment and I'm directing my attention elsewhere. Only way I can cope (fortunately no pukey symptoms at the moment, just pain)"

I hope it buggers off soon. I get tension headaches that can last days, I have to learn to ignore the pain especially inbetween painkillers just so I can carry on with my day. I can just about cope as long as I don't bend down.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Has anyone found more alternative therapies useful? I'm being pushed to consider acupuncture by the pain management team. And I am really unsure about it.

nerve pain can be stress related, staying

can help"

Nerve pain can also be because nerves have been or are being squished by various anatomical structures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a nerve issue that extends up the left hand side of my head and behind my ear which results in awful headaches a lot of the time

Think I need a proper deep tissue shoulder and neck massage as that may help

I walked past the Thai massage place near me and they're offering deep tissue. I've never tried it - I'd need for my legs and hips. Is it effective?"

I’ve never tried a thai massage but I need to shell out for a decent sports massage I think. My body is beaten up a bit from years of abuse lol. I did have low back pain but got a back stretcher and that sorted that out ..dropped arch aswell, dodgy knee. Knackered shoulder

I should be just sent to the scrappy for recyling

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Has anyone found more alternative therapies useful? I'm being pushed to consider acupuncture by the pain management team. And I am really unsure about it. "

I've heard CBD oil is good for pain, I've not tried it for that but have used it to help combat insomnia when it's bad.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Has anyone found more alternative therapies useful? I'm being pushed to consider acupuncture by the pain management team. And I am really unsure about it.

I have a migraine at the moment and I'm directing my attention elsewhere. Only way I can cope (fortunately no pukey symptoms at the moment, just pain)

Thank you. Yeah, I'm advocating similar suggesting mindfulness. It'll be ok. Although I've given up on the evening and am in bed

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have a nerve issue that extends up the left hand side of my head and behind my ear which results in awful headaches a lot of the time

Think I need a proper deep tissue shoulder and neck massage as that may help

I walked past the Thai massage place near me and they're offering deep tissue. I've never tried it - I'd need for my legs and hips. Is it effective?"

I've had deep tissue massage for just plain muscle tension. It's excruciatingly painful but the results are worth it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a nerve issue that extends up the left hand side of my head and behind my ear which results in awful headaches a lot of the time

Think I need a proper deep tissue shoulder and neck massage as that may help "

Have you tried an osteopath?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Has anyone found more alternative therapies useful? I'm being pushed to consider acupuncture by the pain management team. And I am really unsure about it.

I have a migraine at the moment and I'm directing my attention elsewhere. Only way I can cope (fortunately no pukey symptoms at the moment, just pain)

Thank you. Yeah, I'm advocating similar suggesting mindfulness. It'll be ok. Although I've given up on the evening and am in bed

Don't blame you, hopefully sleep helps xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a nerve issue that extends up the left hand side of my head and behind my ear which results in awful headaches a lot of the time

Think I need a proper deep tissue shoulder and neck massage as that may help

Have you tried an osteopath?"

No they had a self referral thing at the doctors for physio but the wait was forever. The main issue is tightness in my traps and neck which is causing the nerve issue. Stress probably doesn’t help either . It causes bad headaches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone found more alternative therapies useful? I'm being pushed to consider acupuncture by the pain management team. And I am really unsure about it.

I have a migraine at the moment and I'm directing my attention elsewhere. Only way I can cope (fortunately no pukey symptoms at the moment, just pain)"

Bloody migraines! They're the devil's work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

years ago I was working abroad and went to, what i was told, the local physio for knee problem. She had a room in the local hotel so i was a bit suspicious of what services were being offered. Inside it was kitted out more like a dentist office. Anyway the therapist proceeded to wheel out a car battery on a surgical trolley and electricuted me with it !

didn't work.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have sciatic nerve damage but day to day I am fine until it “pings” and then I’m in agony until it rights itself again, which can take a few weeks. I usually take codeine based pain killers or, if really bad, I have to see my Chiropractor (who has used acupuncture) and I use a walking stick as I’m unable to fully straighten.

I’ve made the mistake of meeting during an episode only once. The back spasms just aren’t worth it!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a nerve issue that extends up the left hand side of my head and behind my ear which results in awful headaches a lot of the time

Think I need a proper deep tissue shoulder and neck massage as that may help

Have you tried an osteopath?

I've personally never found physio very useful but the osteopath helped massively. It's a long term ongoing thing but it definitely makes a difference. I went private though, not sure it's available on the NHS. I can sympathise with the headaches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a nerve issue that extends up the left hand side of my head and behind my ear which results in awful headaches a lot of the time

Think I need a proper deep tissue shoulder and neck massage as that may help

I walked past the Thai massage place near me and they're offering deep tissue. I've never tried it - I'd need for my legs and hips. Is it effective?

I've had deep tissue massage for just plain muscle tension. It's excruciatingly painful but the results are worth it "

I didn't know it was painful. So far my pain management clinic have promised that (then cancelled), and osteo (cancelled) and now steroid injections. Which presumably are also painful. I think I'd try anything at this point to be fully mobile again.

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