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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What kind of messages do women like? do you speak about yourself, comment on their profile

Or go straight in with the sex side of meeting

Help out a struggling bloke please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the profile before messaging is a great tip.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Always do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It probably changes from day to day or possibly even hourly

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Read the profile before messaging is a great tip. "

This ^^^^

And the content should include your personality

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"It probably changes from day to day or possibly even hourly "

And woman to woman curiously enough

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

If you consider there are as many good messages to be written as there are good women to receive them, you won’t go far wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading their profile is the best tip. If they've posted pictures you can ask about the etc.

Don't blindly go straight into messaging, before you hit send take a second to think about how you would react if you received the message you were sending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It probably changes from day to day or possibly even hourly

And woman to woman curiously enough "

I wouldn't know

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

Start the message as if you are approaching the person in a club so to speak. You wouldn’t walk up to a female that caught your eye tell her the sight of her tits gave you a hard on, while grabbing her wrist and saying let’s be having you.

Engage with the person as normal even Chuck a complement and something about yourself

I find these a good starter to perk my interest

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

The only one message that’s universally accepted and successful is a FAF message!

Other than that,just be yourself,read profiles,and see if there’s something there you can relate to.not that I’m a pro OP,just giving my tuppence worth. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just approach/message people naturally. Be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What kind of messages do women like? do you speak about yourself, comment on their profile

Or go straight in with the sex side of meeting

Help out a struggling bloke please "

If you're contacting a female from Glasgow offer them some chips, or even a kebab.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

A lot of guys seem to send "hey".

As it's often used, I assume it must work??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg a talking cock!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of guys seem to send "hey".

As it's often used, I assume it must work?? "

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Omg a talking cock!

"

Tik, cock, tik, cock.... at the first stroke it will be...... over.

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON


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Start the message as if you are approaching the person in a club so to speak. You wouldn’t walk up to a female that caught your eye tell her the sight of her tits gave you a hard on, while grabbing her wrist and saying let’s be having you.

Engage with the person as normal even Chuck a complement and something about yourself

I find these a good starter to perk my interest "

Shit that's where I go wrong in clubs..

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Sorry I’m not giving away my secrets.

Now if you’ll excuse me I must reply to the three replies I have to the 856 messages I sent asking if I could smash the recipient’s back doors in.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Face pic attached.

A compliment.

Maybe state why you think you'd be compatible.

Be polite.

Refer to something in their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry I’m not giving away my secrets.

Now if you’ll excuse me I must reply to the three replies I have to the 856 messages I sent asking if I could smash the recipient’s back doors in. "

I replied YES

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By *elinefineWoman
over a year ago

kempston

A bit of humour goes a long way. Last night I responded to someone who compared me to a KFC box meal just because it made me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry I’m not giving away my secrets.

Now if you’ll excuse me I must reply to the three replies I have to the 856 messages I sent asking if I could smash the recipient’s back doors in. "

I didn't get one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I've seen you've said you always read the profile but I think a lot of peoples down fall is if people say they look for certain qualities that the reader may not have, the ignore it and think they'll be able to talk them round

I think people would do much better if they only messaged people where they genuinely meet what they persons looking for, the interests are similar etc

& you can reference something about the profile in the opening message

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I heard if you send pictures of Pigeons to the ladies, they coo all over it .

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Just b yourself! A comment about her profile ! Life in general would say not sexual straight away but some will like that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone asked me what kitchen utensil would I choose to be. I like random it seems

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Sorry I’m not giving away my secrets.

Now if you’ll excuse me I must reply to the three replies I have to the 856 messages I sent asking if I could smash the recipient’s back doors in.

I didn't get one "

857 messages

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Sorry I’m not giving away my secrets.

Now if you’ll excuse me I must reply to the three replies I have to the 856 messages I sent asking if I could smash the recipient’s back doors in.

I replied YES "

You always do, I’ll bring a spreader bar. And my tractor.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"It probably changes from day to day or possibly even hourly "

... not to mention from woman to woman ...tricky creatures us lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry I’m not giving away my secrets.

Now if you’ll excuse me I must reply to the three replies I have to the 856 messages I sent asking if I could smash the recipient’s back doors in.

I didn't get one

857 messages "

4 replies

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Sorry I’m not giving away my secrets.

Now if you’ll excuse me I must reply to the three replies I have to the 856 messages I sent asking if I could smash the recipient’s back doors in.

I didn't get one "

Me either ...talk about not being part on the 'in' crowd

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Sorry I’m not giving away my secrets.

Now if you’ll excuse me I must reply to the three replies I have to the 856 messages I sent asking if I could smash the recipient’s back doors in.

I didn't get one

Me either ...talk about not being part on the 'in' crowd "

Even a smash your back doors in message can’t get through filters althouh I’ve only gone and given the secret up.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Sorry I’m not giving away my secrets.

Now if you’ll excuse me I must reply to the three replies I have to the 856 messages I sent asking if I could smash the recipient’s back doors in.

I didn't get one

857 messages

4 replies "

I’m going to change my name from Fiddlesticks to The Locksmith.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All women are different, si it can be really tough in knowing what to say...

I tend to just send random sense of humour stuff..or sometimes i will go by their profile and pick something out that catches my imagination and talk about it. I have found thougb that messages as a first shoukd not be to long, just enough to get them wanting to reply. Some women will want to talk sex straight away and they tend to be the one's that will get bored with your messages if you rabbit on to much. Some women want you to chat more,

I have had a female message me

Free?

Meet now?

Postcode

So, yeah..all women are dirrerent..

Just be you, dont be crude and just keep at it OP

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Depends entirely on a multitude of factors that vary from woman to woman, day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute.

Also the phase of the moon, what the weather is like, who we have spoken to that day and whether or not they've changed our mood.

And those are just the variables that change the factors that vary.

So..... that wasn't much help, sorry. But there isn't a way of answering the question that is going to be true for all women, or even all the women you're interested in.

The best piece of advice.... don't try and be someone you aren't.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Sorry I’m not giving away my secrets.

Now if you’ll excuse me I must reply to the three replies I have to the 856 messages I sent asking if I could smash the recipient’s back doors in.

I replied YES "

So did I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What kind of messages do women like? do you speak about yourself, comment on their profile

Or go straight in with the sex side of meeting

Help out a struggling bloke please "

Read the profile, yes. Then some may want the 'straight in' approach. Their profile will usually give you an idea of what they are here for and what they would appreciate.

Refer to something in their profile to show why you're emailing them not just anyone and everyone.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Sorry I’m not giving away my secrets.

Now if you’ll excuse me I must reply to the three replies I have to the 856 messages I sent asking if I could smash the recipient’s back doors in.

I replied YES

So did I!"

Someone had beat me to it

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

I keep reading this as “massages”.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

A simple one just got my attention straight away! He said he has chocolate! x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Any messages that get straight into sex talk are deleted right away.

I Prefer a message that shows my profile has been read and maybe a bit of humour in it.

Saying that, with the best will in the world, if the profile doesn't appeal, I tend to not reply,unless it's a really good message.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Any that reference being punished, pounded, used - automatic delete!

Ones that wish to breed you - automatic delete

Offering money - automatic delete

Wishing to buy used knickers - automatic delete

Offering free massages/photoshoots - automatic delete

Anything other I’d consider responding to if the message displayed that they had read my profile and have a modicum of being able to converse in a normal non entitled manner xx

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"A simple one just got my attention straight away! He said he has chocolate! x"

Ooo that's a low blow ...!

There is no resistance to that, don't let them all know

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"A simple one just got my attention straight away! He said he has chocolate! x

Ooo that's a low blow ...!

There is no resistance to that, don't let them all know "

I know such a tease! As I'm scrapping bottom of the xmas quality street tub x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any that reference being punished, pounded, used - automatic delete!

Ones that wish to breed you - automatic delete

Offering money - automatic delete

Wishing to buy used knickers - automatic delete

Offering free massages/photoshoots - automatic delete

Anything other I’d consider responding to if the message displayed that they had read my profile and have a modicum of being able to converse in a normal non entitled manner xx"

This along with location - if they are the other side of the country they are unlikely to materialise into a real encounter, likely all talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"A simple one just got my attention straight away! He said he has chocolate! x

Ooo that's a low blow ...!

There is no resistance to that, don't let them all know

I know such a tease! As I'm scrapping bottom of the xmas quality street tub x x"

The tub lasted into February ...wow, thats self control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A simple one just got my attention straight away! He said he has chocolate! x

Ooo that's a low blow ...!

There is no resistance to that, don't let them all know

I know such a tease! As I'm scrapping bottom of the xmas quality street tub x x"

Hahah oh nooo don't let them know about the chocolate

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"I keep reading this as “massages”. "

Do you need a massage?

...wait, that's probably not the best question to EVER ask on Fab!? doh!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for the replies looks like I’m do the right thing but probably in the wrong order

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It’s not just the message.

We will look at the profile and pics too and if there’s anything with red flags there then it really doesn’t matter what the message says.

So your message might be great, but if your profile/pics aren’t then you aren’t likely to be getting anywhere.

2/3 then we’ll maybe chat.

0 or 1 then probably not.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It probably changes from day to day or possibly even hourly

... not to mention from woman to woman ...tricky creatures us lot! "

Tricky

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Definitely go the wheel of fortune style. Spin, see where it lands, and go that route.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"A simple one just got my attention straight away! He said he has chocolate! x

Ooo that's a low blow ...!

There is no resistance to that, don't let them all know

I know such a tease! As I'm scrapping bottom of the xmas quality street tub x x

The tub lasted into February ...wow, thats self control "

Not really! All the crud ones left am of work this week usually bring Cadbury mini eggs or bars of choc home from work! Not been near a shop lol x

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By *irtycumboCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

For me...going straight in with the sex talk makes me feel cheap and like a play thing... yes it's a sex site, however I love chatting and getting to know someone first, they could be the most beautiful person here, but have a really dull and boring personality and that would instantly put me off. I like to chat first and see if we 'click'

As someone else has said... defo read the profile...our profile is very clear with what we are looking for.. yet get single straight men messaging wanting me it becomes frustrating. At the end of the day... you wouldn't walk up to someone in a pub and say "I want to cum all over your tits" ... well maybe some would... lol

Wife

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