FabSwingers.com forum: Good Mental health

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thought it be nice to send a nice message out to folks that feel isolated, low self-esteem or generally low at the moment, well here goes, "This message is for you! When dark times are crushing, your mind fills with negative thoughts, remember they are just thoughts. Take a moment to do something you enjoy and remember better times are ahead as we are never alone!" Please do take the time to leave positive messages for others

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

https://youtu.be/5rOiW_xY-kc

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By *oson-BlueCouple
over a year ago

North Kent

Lovely thread OP.

I always say if you feel down in the dumps just do what you need to do, if you want to lay in bed all day then do that, if the only thing you achieve in the day is a shower and something to eat even when you don’t feel like it then give yourself a Pat on the back. Start all over again the next day but try and reach out, pick up the phone have a chat to someone about nothing if you have too but take little steps each day

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By *ussexualMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Having been through some very low moments recently, I'm now trying to express gratitude to improve my mental health. Every day, I express my gratitude for one thing that happened during the day.

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

I’m really struggling at the minute

I’m out of the country working away and feel very isolated and alone

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By *oson-BlueCouple
over a year ago

North Kent

"I’m really struggling at the minute

I’m out of the country working away and feel very isolated and alone

Really sorry to hear that do you have any friends you can call??

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Leave me alone dogooder..

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By *oson-BlueCouple
over a year ago

North Kent

"Leave me alone dogooder.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to hear what people do to improve their mental health when feeling low.

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

"I'd like to hear what people do to improve their mental health when feeling low."

I stay off fab that’s for sure

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By *angerousLiaisonsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

"I'd like to hear what people do to improve their mental health when feeling low."

I take it back to basics. Right back.

I plan my meals and cook very simple and nutritious meals. I brush my teeth twice a day. I get to sleep and wake up every day at the same time and ensure I get 7-9 hours sleep. I eat a lot of fresh fruit and vegetables - a portion with each meal. I shower in the morning but end with a blast of cold water. I try to avoid spending time on social media. I limit alcoholic intake. Spend more time walking outside.

I’m (Harry) prone to debilitating low moods so anyone who wants to talk please don’t hesitate to reach out.

Be well

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By *oson-BlueCouple
over a year ago

North Kent

I tell myself this is only temporary and it’s ok to feel low.

Like the poster above I try to take small steps each day and also not get upset with myself if I plan to do something and I don’t end up doing it.

Watch a funny movie or I look at pics and videos of my grandson that always puts a smile on my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m really struggling at the minute

I’m out of the country working away and feel very isolated and alone

Then buddy up with a few people here to speak to on message. I’m sure there are some that would be interested to keep in touch with you. Will make each day pass better with a focus.

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By *angerousLiaisonsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

"I tell myself this is only temporary and it’s ok to feel low.

Like the poster above I try to take small steps each day and also not get upset with myself if I plan to do something and I don’t end up doing it.

Watch a funny movie or I look at pics and videos of my grandson that always puts a smile on my face

You’ve reminded me: comedy.

Besides the brilliant point you raised about realising that both the good and bad times are temporary I also try to bring my mood up by watching comedy shows, stand up and listening to podcasts.

Plus I work out. It starts with a walk and pretty soon I’m hardcore gyming it again. But it doesn’t have to be training for a marathon!

A regular exercise regimen is critical to my mental health. Find a sport or activity that gets your blood flowing - gives you an endorphin boost and you’ll socialise which is good for the soul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an issue a short while ago. Self inflicted and only got myself to blame. Split from the wife but stayed living at home for 6 months. Met someone who I fell in love with just after the wife break up but lied to them about not moving out when instead I stayed there for that original 6 months as I had no where to go. I should have been honest but I was so in love I was afraid they would go. I really miss them but now they hate me. I tried to stay in contact after they told me not to and at the time I didn’t realise but I was harassing them. Another thing I fucked up and can only hope one day they contact me. That with my job getting to me, my dad dying a while back, not seeing my son as much as I would like to all built up until a had a breakdown one morning. I had kept everything to myself upto this point but it all exploded out in one go. I called a mate up in a mess and it was the best thing I did. I shouldn’t have bottled it all up, I shouldn’t have lied, and I shouldn’t have thought I could do all this on my own. If anyone is feeling lonely or down TALK! It will be the best thing you do and will help massively. I still grieve my dad and love my ex who hates me, but the days get easier. If anyone wants to talk they are free to contact me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having been through some very low moments recently, I'm now trying to express gratitude to improve my mental health. Every day, I express my gratitude for one thing that happened during the day. "

Such a great attitude to have xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have very low days where I feel nothing but despair and feeling that "pull" inside me trying to drag me into the black hole I've been trying to fight for years. The tears threaten to pour out and I'm on meds but they only help up to a point. I get up every day and try to get on with it but I've got myself into bad habits, like not doing housework, putting a washing on etc. It's a struggle and I'm supposed to be starting a new job home working soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have very low days where I feel nothing but despair and feeling that "pull" inside me trying to drag me into the black hole I've been trying to fight for years. The tears threaten to pour out and I'm on meds but they only help up to a point. I get up every day and try to get on with it but I've got myself into bad habits, like not doing housework, putting a washing on etc. It's a struggle and I'm supposed to be starting a new job home working soon x"
you know where I am kat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a complete stranger to anyone on here but having witnessed what poor mental health can do to a person on more than one occasion I'd like to offer a friendly ear to anybody who would like to talk.

I won't always have the answer but as the saying goes a problem shared us a problem halved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a complete stranger to anyone on here but having witnessed what poor mental health can do to a person on more than one occasion I'd like to offer a friendly ear to anybody who would like to talk.

I won't always have the answer but as the saying goes a problem shared us a problem halved

You’re lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't always have the answer but as the saying goes a problem shared us a problem halved

You’re lovely x"

Thank you x

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

Struggling life just feels like shit right now, not lonely I'm busy with job and hobbies. But I look at future and see nothing any better. I seem to just be existing not out having a laugh . I know im 52 but got to be more to life I have .friends in previous job never seem to want to fancy meeting up n job I'm in now is basically working alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks honey x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Struggling life just feels like shit right now, not lonely I'm busy with job and hobbies. But I look at future and see nothing any better. I seem to just be existing not out having a laugh . I know im 52 but got to be more to life I have .friends in previous job never seem to want to fancy meeting up n job I'm in now is basically working alone "

Pm me if you want to talk

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

Pm me if you want to talk "

Thank you.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

"I had an issue a short while ago. Self inflicted and only got myself to blame. Split from the wife but stayed living at home for 6 months. Met someone who I fell in love with just after the wife break up but lied to them about not moving out when instead I stayed there for that original 6 months as I had no where to go. I should have been honest but I was so in love I was afraid they would go. I really miss them but now they hate me. I tried to stay in contact after they told me not to and at the time I didn’t realise but I was harassing them. Another thing I fucked up and can only hope one day they contact me. That with my job getting to me, my dad dying a while back, not seeing my son as much as I would like to all built up until a had a breakdown one morning. I had kept everything to myself upto this point but it all exploded out in one go. I called a mate up in a mess and it was the best thing I did. I shouldn’t have bottled it all up, I shouldn’t have lied, and I shouldn’t have thought I could do all this on my own. If anyone is feeling lonely or down TALK! It will be the best thing you do and will help massively. I still grieve my dad and love my ex who hates me, but the days get easier. If anyone wants to talk they are free to contact me. "

That situation sounds familiar.. you get yourself into them don't you

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Lovely thread x

My mh has been pretty rough of late,

Just remember don't beat yourself up about it, one day at a time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't always have the answer but as the saying goes a problem shared us a problem halved

This offer still stands for anybody who just wants to talk and will never be closed

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

Ido different things to maintain my mental health that’s personal to me. First my hair colour is blue and purple this makes me smile when I look in the mirror every day. People will comment on my daily life about it which leads to conversation and chats to new people.

My eye brow is pierced because I like it even though I was 49 when I did it

My tattoos are full of colour because that makes me happy in my daily life

Lastly who I am .. I’m true to myself and do what pleases me. I’m 51 and have experienced and been through stuff and am no longer at a point I monitor what comes out of my mouth or if I’m even adulting today

it doesn’t mean I’m not aware of any comebacks to what I say.. you can’t speak your truth then have the nerve to have your arse In your hand when challenged on what you say

I don’t get offended I’m happy to to change my opinions if views make sense … I’m happy to be me

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By *umbiyaMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Thank you for this thread. Mental health is still very much taboo and you’ve somehow got to hide it completely when dealing with dating, sex, and all that.

There’s a prevailing attitude that if someone is suffering from mental health problems then they shouldn’t be trying to look for sex. I’ve been told a few times that I have to sort myself out first. So, if I am unable to cure my depression then I’m not allowed to engage in a primal human requirement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who works with mental health one thing I cannot stress enough is that "there is ALWAYS someone to talk to"

Whether it's your best mate or some random never feel like you have to suffer alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Held stuff in for to long, something snapped on New Years. Finally started to get back to normality but things keep threatening to drag me back down to a horrible horrible place. I don’t know, thought coming back to fab would take my mind off it but I don’t know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to hear what people do to improve their mental health when feeling low."

I walk and listen to music or audio books. I eat food i enjoy and I'm kind and forgiving to myself. I try to get 'good' sleep

I look for pleasure in small, simple things, such as sitting in a pool of sunshine on the sofa

When I'm ready i 'choose' to be happy and eventually take myself to the gym to build my resilience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As someone who works with mental health one thing I cannot stress enough is that "there is ALWAYS someone to talk to"

Whether it's your best mate or some random never feel like you have to suffer alone."

Agrees but sometimes you can feel like you are being a burden to friends or with professional services, others need the limited help more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for this thread. Mental health is still very much taboo and you’ve somehow got to hide it completely when dealing with dating, sex, and all that.

You make a good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for this thread. Mental health is still very much taboo and you’ve somehow got to hide it completely when dealing with dating, sex, and all that.

You make a good point."

I've seen that message too and feel a bit the same. I have quite bad panic attacks at times and sex would help! But I will sort out the decade long issue first...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re a lovely Soul Kris22ss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As someone who works with mental health one thing I cannot stress enough is that "there is ALWAYS someone to talk to"

Whether it's your best mate or some random never feel like you have to suffer alone.

Agrees but sometimes you can feel like you are being a burden to friends or with professional services, others need the limited help more "

You are just as important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As someone who works with mental health one thing I cannot stress enough is that "there is ALWAYS someone to talk to"

Whether it's your best mate or some random never feel like you have to suffer alone.

Agrees but sometimes you can feel like you are being a burden to friends or with professional services, others need the limited help more

You are just as important "

I've felt exactly the same way, and sometimes think that the way local GP surgeries handle people with depression is done quite poorly. However, I've also spoken to GPs in a professional capacity as part of my work with mental health and many of them express concern that they want to do more to help people suffering but, men in particular, don't always come in and speak to them.

Be upfront and let them know about your concerns, if they're not sympathetic then get a new doctor!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As someone who works with mental health one thing I cannot stress enough is that "there is ALWAYS someone to talk to"

Whether it's your best mate or some random never feel like you have to suffer alone.

Agrees but sometimes you can feel like you are being a burden to friends or with professional services, others need the limited help more "

I am seeing a counsellor atm and it's really helping me. It's making a difference to me. My mum is a counsellor and I know that making a difference to people is why she does it. They just want to help anyone who needs help. And often when we are feeling low I think we play down how bad things feel. Feeling this low is not something we should accept. It's ok to want to feel a bit or a lot happier.

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